Did I do something stupid?

[Mike03]

In my family, we don't say things like this very often. But I just sent my Dad an email because I'm so proud of him and amazed about how he his dealing with his cancer:


Dear Dad,

I love you so much. I wish I had your courage and grace under pressure--and that goes for mom too.

Love,
mike

He didn't respond. He probably won't. But I just have to tell him what I think, and how much he means to me.

[mikita]

1. whoa..

that's beautiful. You just made your dad cry, and he'll forget ANYTHING you ever did to piss him off when you were a YUTE.

Peace.

Mikita

[TexasBushwhacker]

2. That's what I'm thinking too

He's probably overwhelmed, but in a good way.

[OzarkDem]

3. No, your message was fine

I'm willing to bet he really treasures it.

[Redstone]

4. Why would you think THAT was stupid? Messages from the heart never are, even

if they don't get a response. Your dad may not have known what to say in return, but you can bet your last dollar it made him feel good to read that message.

Redstone

[Gormy Cuss]

6. Ditto.

Mike, saying something from the heart is your privilege. Your father may not know how to respond, but Redstone is right. It made him feel good to read it.

[Callalily]

5. How wonderful that

you shared your thoughts with your dad.

Don't fret about him not responding. He may yet do so.

The important issue is that you told him (and your mom) how you feel.

[Mike03]

7. I can't thank you all enough for bothing to respond to this.

I'm sorry to vent here. But I've never known such pain as to lose a parent. This is just the hardest thing I have ever been through. And I'm a bit isolated right now. Your advice and help here has meant more than you can ever know.

[Redstone]

11. It ain't easy, ever. I lost one parent the quick way, and another the slow way.

Neither is even ONE bit of fun.

Just remember that this wonderful group of DU people is here for you. Maybe not me on a given night, because I'm inconsistent, but SOMEONE will be here.

Redstone

[Beetwasher]

8. Mike, Why Would You Even THINK That's Stupid????

:shrug:

I wish you the best bud. I just went through my dad being treated for lymphoma. Thankfully, he's in remission. But you should NEVER pass on an opportunity to tell those you care about, just how much you care about them.

Your email is thoughtful and very appropriate. And I'm sure your dad appreciated it, even if he doesn't say so. Sometimes it's hard for men of a certain generation to reciprocate, but don't EVER feel 'stupid' about sharing your feelings to them. For the most part, they 'get' it, otherwise chances are they would have never produced a decent human being like yourself.

[cordelia]

9. You did a wonderful thing

The last time I spoke with my dad before he died, we told each other "I love you."

Very glad we had that chat.

[CreekDog]

10. you did good and so did your parents for helping make you who you are

years from now will erase any doubts you have about sharing these feelings with your dad.

:hug:

[redwitch]

12. Every parent wants to hear that from their child.

You never need to regret your kind words to anyone. I'm sorry your dad has cancer. :hug:

[LeftyFingerPop]

13. You done good Mike....

A beautiful message that you will never regret sending.

You should be proud of yourself, and I'm sure your dad was deeply touched.

[Forkboy]

14. I don't see how that could ever be considered stupid.

:thumbsup:

[Longhorn]

15. As a mom in your dad's shoes right now

I certainly see nothing stupid about your email. However, your dad probably doesn't feel courageous -- just doing what you do when you love your wife and children so much that you want to stick around. :)

[Xipe Totec]

16. While we still live, my brother,

While we still live, my brother

If you want to make someone happy,
someone that you love,
tell him now; do good...
while we still live, my brother.

If you want to give flowers,
don't wait until I'm dead;
send them today with love...
while we still live, my brother.

If you want to say "I love you"
to the members of your house,
or to a friend near or far, do it...
while we still live, my brother.

Don't wait for people to die
to love them
let them feel your affection...
while we still live, my brother.

You will be happier
if you learn to make
everyone you know happier...
while we still live, my brother.


Don't obsess with visiting cemeteries,
or filling tombs with flowers;
instead fill hearts with love...
while we still live, my brother.

A. Rabate