Missing Cheesecake

[suninvited]

I have a coworker whose children belong to all kinds of school activities: sports, band, scouts etc, etc....

I always feel obligated to buy something everytime either of her children have a fundraiser and she goes around the office signing people up to buy whatever it is they are selling.

I bought two cheesecakes in December, gave her the cash, and have never seen the cheesecakes.

On one hand, I feel pretty pissed off about this. Whenever I ask her the status of the cheesecakes, she says "Oh, I keep forgetting them, they are in my mothers freezer". She goes home to her mothers house for lunch every day.

On the other hand, I have heard her doing more sales in the next office, but she doesnt approach me anymore. I am only out $30. It might be worth it to just drop it, and consider myself ahead in the long run.

What would you do?

[CaliforniaPeggy]

1. My dear Imagine In Texas!

I would push her!

No....she owes you!

Arrange to meet her at her mom's, or something...

Or...tell her you want your money back!

That's just wrong, for her to treat you like that!

:eyes: <---for her!

:wtf: <---for the whole damn mess!

:hug: <---for you!

[suninvited]

3. I know you are right

my father swears that I am so non-confrontational that I need an agent.

[Mojorabbit]

15. I ordered a cheese cake

from my niece for a school fundraiser. It was awful. Ended up in the trash. Still it is the principle of the thing. Not a good way to teach the youngsters to take the payment but not deliver the goods.

[skygazer]

2. I would ask for my fucking cheesecakes

You paid for them, you should get them. Or your money back. Ask for them pointedly when she is leaving for lunch.

[suninvited]

4. Not only have I asked her as she was leaving

I have called her on her cell phone while she was AT her mothers at lunch.

I think someone has eaten my cheesecakes, to tell you the truth.

[skygazer]

5. Then she needs to give you your money

What a charming lessoon for the kiddies - stiff the co-worker and eat the cheesecake. :eyes:

[suninvited]

8. I dont think she is very concerned about teaching her

children morals. She gets her kids pets all the time, and if they become troublesome, her husband shoots them. And then she tells me about it, even though she has to know how much it upsets me.

If her child fails a test, it is the teachers fault. Anything that happens to her kids, it is someone elses fault. She even had BOTH of her children moved to different classes this year, because her children were doing badly through no fault of their own. :sarcasm:

I really dont like this lady. I have to be professional at work and be polite to her, however.

[Tangerine LaBamba]

16. OK, so you already know

She's a head case, you're out thirty bucks, but the bright side of this is that you don't ever have to buy one damn thing she tries to peddle to you.

I don't like her, either.

[Diana Prince]

6. I used to hate that

The majority of us were all working mothers at my last position and several of them would bring things in monthly, not to mention the Avon. Management finally stepped in and said NO MORE.

I would ask for the cheesecakes and then see if you could get something implemented that would ban soliciting.

[suninvited]

7. I sure wouldn't be very popular if I did that

which doesnt concern me all that much, but what a GREAT idea !!! I am going to draft an email to the head of HR this weekend. I never even thought of that.

[Darth_Kitten]

9. Send you the cheesecake I have in my fridge?

:shrug:

Ask her for the money back.

[suninvited]

12. You have spare cheesecake?

You have more willpower than I do, cheesecake is one of my weaknesses.

I have a recipe for a double chocolate brownie crust cheesecake that will knock your socks off. Hmmmmm...I havent made that in a while.

[Darth_Kitten]

14. Yup

Hope you get your money back, nobody should be out 30 bucks for cheesecake.

[Rabrrrrrr]

10. Three things: 1) Demand your cheesecakes; remind the hell out of her.

Sometimes I get forgetful and have appreciated the people who have reminded the hell out of me. She might not appreciate it, but who cares? You paid for them, you should get them.

2) Never buy fundraising shit again. I'm at the point now that when I'm asked to buy fundraising shit, I just give a donation to whatever the cause is - that way, they get ALL of my money, I actually get a receipt for a tax deduction for the whole amount, and I don't get a shitty piece of pseudo-food or godawful trinket or magazine subscription I don't really need and that just takes up room or wastes energy.

3) Speak with management about ending solicitation at work. It's an unfair thing for coworkers to do to one another.

[suninvited]

11. you know what?

those cheesecakes probably are shitty.

And very good advice about the donations in lieu of making a purchase. The fundraising companies are probably making more than the kids are for their cause.

[Rabrrrrrr]

13. Many of the fundraising places are 50-50 - the kids/whatever get 50% of what they bring in.

Which isn't necessarily all that awful, but it's not as good as if they just raised the money itself.

And I'd much rather that a boy scout or schoolkid came up and said "We're trying to raise $10,000 for whatever" instead of "Would you like to buy some popcorn? I will take the money you give me, then go buy some popcorn with it equal to half what you give me, and then give you the popcorn in a lengthy, tedious process that will takes weeks, maybe months, to complete."

And that Boy Scout popcorn! My God, because it's a fundraiser, it's expensive as hell. So, I just give the kid the $14 a box of popcorn would have cost.

Especially now that so many fundraisers are raising money for stuff that we, the community, through our taxes SHOULD be paying for - like school books, musical instruments, band trips, etc. - I'd rather give them the full donation.