My Sister Seems To Think That Text Messages Are All You Need...

[SPKrazy]

About six months ago she pretty much quit answering my calls, but she will answer my text messages :wtf: I asked her about it and she's like "I talked to you" (last month) She's my only sister and to be honest it isn't the same to text her.

Today is our mother's birthday and she would have been 74 years old today. I really thought she might answer the phone.

So far she hasn't. I won't try anymore either. I'm not going to text her about that either.

Sorry for this, I'm really frustrated about this. I have talked to her a few times in the last 6 months, (maybe 4) and she isn't mad at me. I think she has just decided that text messages are all that is necessary. I'm old fashioned. I miss my sister's voice.

[SPKrazy]

1. I guess I'm just feeling sorry for myself

:shrug:

[Finn Polke]

21. Self-pity is what the Lounge is for

Among other things, of course. Vent!

Texting is bad, period. Feel no remorse, no shame becuase you refuse to comply with your sister's rule. She might eventually get the message. :)

[BuelahWitch]

2. .

:hug:

[SPKrazy]

3. thanks cff

:hug: :hug:

:cry:

[AlCzervik]

4. sorry spk, is it possible she's having some trouble or is depressed maybe?

i'm not big on the whole texting thing, whenever i get text messages i have to have my daughter decipher them for me.

[SPKrazy]

5. no, not that Im aware of

[SPKrazy]

6. well

I'm going to go drown my sorrows in chocolate or something

this thread isn't exciting enough I guess?

[LeftyFingerPop]

7. I'm sorry...I didn't see this.

My sister only corresponds with me via email since her husband got pissed at me in my own home a few years ago and almost took a swing at me.

There is no explaining family dynamics.

[SPKrazy]

8. nothing like that at all

72 people have looked at this thread

and only three took the time to post

[AlCzervik]

9. spk, i post stuff from time to time and at least half of the threads get no response at all.

none, nada, zippo. So i figure either people don't like, my stuff is really boring or they have nothing to add. Did i say half, i should have said 75% of my op's get no response, at 50 i was being a little to generous to myself.

[SPKrazy]

24. I realize that

thanks

[LeftyFingerPop]

10. You know how it goes in here sometimes....

I post a lot of threads like that.

They sink like a stone.

SPK...I know how you feel about the communication with your sister.

I wish I had some answers for you here, but if i did, I would not be having the exact same problem.

I miss my sister too.

I might try being direct with her....tell her you miss talking....

[SPKrazy]

25. I have done that

and got the "I just talked to you" which at that moment was about a week before she had talked.

[madinmaryland]

11. That's really bizarre. Considering she has a cell phone (texting), then

she obviously has caller id on her phone.

:wtf: is right.

She can't even reply to a freaking voice mail. :grr:

[SPKrazy]

22. exactly

bizarre

[Tuesday Afternoon]

12. the beatles said,

all you need is love, love is all you need.

[SPKrazy]

23. yes, yes they did

[pokerfan]

13. My nephew is like that

would rather text than talk. Says it's more efficient. Which makes sense I suppose because he needs his spare time to watch sports and play video games.

[SPKrazy]

26. efficient yes

but sometimes hearing a voice is more real

[pokerfan]

29. I agree but you can't tell him that

On Christmas I watched him text 'Merry Christmas' to all his friends and then get annoyed when they started calling him. "I texted them so I wouldn't have to talk!" he told me.

[Kat45]

14. How old (or should I say young) is she?

Seems like that's all a lot of the young'uns do these days. :shrug:

[SPKrazy]

20. 42

or will be 42 next month rather

[KitchenWitch]

15. Sounds exactly like my SIL

She does not answer the phone when I call, she will not return a voice mail, but she will return a text message.

I have been with her when her phone rings and she does answer it then.

:banghead:

One time we called her, and she did not return our call, but she called my MIL and apparently my MIL was supposed to deliver the message that she had gotten our message.

[SPKrazy]

27. I've been with her when she did the same thing

It's been quite a while, the last time I was there (year before last Xmas) Phone rings, looks at caller ID, goes "Oh crap", then texts them back


:hug:

[BensMom]

16. I think it's efficiency

The cell phone crowd here are texting many people at one time.

Multi - tasking and to the point.

Ask her out for Coffee.

[SPKrazy]

19. ok I will

when I go to Colorado to visit her from Arkansas

[CaliforniaPeggy]

17. My dear Southpawkicker...

What a lousy place for you to be in...

I'm so sorry that she's not being there for you the way you need!

It really is frustrating when you can't get through to her about your feelings...

:hug:

[Angel]

18. I text with my kiddos and 1 sister

if I just need a simple yes or no answer or if I am at work to let them know I will call later. You are right tho..it is not the same as talking on the phone and hearing their voices.

[SPKrazy]

28. and I understand that

I text with people like that, including her

but when I text about a complicated issue and I get a text back




that's hard to take (texted becaise O get no answer) or left a messaged

[From The Ashes]

30. Sorry SPK...

...that sucks. :hug:

[Heidi]

31. At least she's bright enough to know how to send a text message.

The same cannot be said for me. I never use my cell phone, but I take it with me (in lieu of wearing a watch) when I travel for business. Yesterday, I noticed that I had an text message from a colleague waiting for me, but when I tried to reply, I screwed something up. A few hours later, when I saw my colleague at a meeting, he goes, "Hey, did you send me an SMS this morning saying nothing but 0-5?" :blush:

[last_texas_dem]

32. I'm sorry about that

I don't care much for text messaging myself, but have a couple of friends who send me them quite a bit. I don't even respond half the time, and am often likely to just call them if I see they've sent me a text message. Honestly, I find text messaging to be a bigger hassle than just calling someone. Oddly, the only person I text with some regularity is my sister; we like to send dumb inside jokes back and forth to each other, but I call her if I actually have something important to say. I do have a cousin who seems to substitute text messaging for calling in the way that your sister does. I had thought maybe it was an age thing because my cousin is only 20 (I'm 24 myself), and it seems like a number of younger people have grown up in the age of text messaging and go a little overboard with it. It's interesting your sister is that way even though she is in her forties.

Anyway, sorry about all of my rambling... that is unfortunate about your sister. Maybe you should bring up to her how you feel about it. I totally understand where you are coming from in terms of preferring to hear the voice of someone that matters to you rather than getting text messages, but some people don't even think about that kind of stuff. She may have not even considered that the way she is doing things could be bothering you.

[Guava Jelly]

33. You shouldn't be having text w/your sister? Thats in-text-ual

:dunce: :rofl:
I've been texting like a freaken teen lately.
But the person I am texting is a good friend.(Gorgeous too)
:)
I think of it as PhoneText :evilgrin: