Why does everyone here seem to think I'm a year and a half younger than I actually am?

[lightningandsnow]

Do I really write like an average 10th-grader? Damn.

[XemaSab]

1. Here's the deal:

He's still way too old for you.

Would you go out with someone who was 12?

The difference between 12 and 16 is like the difference between 16 and 21.

This guy may seem nice, but he's either totally juvenile or a total creep.

Where did you meet him again?

'Cause you shouldn't hang out there any more.

[lightningandsnow]

2. A 16 year old is not the same as a 12 year old.

I think age differences get less significant as you get older.

And no, he is neither juvenile nor a creep. He's never dated anyone younger before, really. I mean, I've been told I'm fairly mature for my age, too.

[quakerboy]

4. " I think age differences get less significant as you get older."

That applies when you are 50, dating a 70 year old. Not when anyone involved is in their teens. Sorry.

Edited to add: there is an 11 year difference between my parents, and they are still going strong. I don't have a problem with people dating and relating with significant age issues, nor is it necessarily a bad thing. But 16-20 is a major evolution in life for many, most, if not all people. And he is on one side of that, you are on another.

[pitohui]

3. because people's mental image never changes

i assume that you were 15 when you first started posting and people don't seem to notice that other people grow and change

you write fine

don't worry about the haters

my mom was over a decade younger than my dad, 50-plus years and they're still traveling the world together, now i'm not trying to scare you into thinking you'll be stuck with your "older" man for the next 50 years, my point is that love/affection/caring is not an age

[RadiationTherapy]

9. Like you don't know 16 + 21 = CREEPY 98.552687% of the time.

You are SOOOOO contrarian....so coooool.

[Ava]

5. most 16 year olds aren't mature enough to handle a relationship with a 21 year old

then again, most 16 year olds aren't mature enough to handle a relationship with another 16 year old. usually teens(particularly young women) in relationships with older people end up getting hurt and used. i think people are just scared that might happen to you. if you think you're mature enough to handle the relationship then i don't see why you should pay attention to what others say.

i'm soon to be 18 and have basically given up on dating since most guys my age are idiots and immature as hell, and most guys older are already off to college and out of town. guess what i'm saying is that when it comes to fellow teens, the pickings aren't exactly always the best. :P ;)

[LostinVA]

6. I'm glad you chimed in

[Ava]

7. how are you and haruka doing?

haven't seen you in awhile!

[LostinVA]

8. Very well -- closing on a house next week!

Very stressful.

You're making me feel old tonight, kiddo: when I read you were almost 18, I was like,"No way! She can't be!" My nephew started college this week -- it made me feel the esame way!

[Ava]

awesome! congrats

lol, my mom keeps saying that she doesn't know what she's going to do when i leave for college next year. :hi:

[LostinVA]

11. Sooner or later, your room will become an office or guest room

Sometimes parents just move a little bit of their stuff in at a time. "Oh, sorry that big armchair is taking over half of your bedroom, sweetie -- I like to knit in here at night. OOPS!Let me just move this magazine rack out of the way! And my slippers."

It happens to all of us.

[Ava]

12. lol! my family is big, so i'm betting it'll become a room for one of the little ones

the twins currently share a room, and the older little sister now has my brother's room(he's 20). i'm betting that one of the twins will occupy my room after i leave. ;)

[RadiationTherapy]

10. I can't think of anything to advise because you aren't seeking advice.

I am glad you are happy, but am judging this "man" from afar.

[CreekDog]

13. unless your boyfriend is Elvis...

:eyes: