I might as well come out and say it to end all the guessing...

[Pierre.Suave]

Today my fiancee told me she no longer wanted to be my fiancee and is in fact going to start dating someone else due to my lack of time available and my always being busy due to school.

Those were the reasons given. Do I agree with them? no. Not. One. Bit.

I spent every free second with her, and would squeeze stuff into any free time I had just to spend time with her.

I am probably going to be taking a break form the lounge for a while, hell, from life for a while.

Thank you for any good wishes you may send my way.

[CaliforniaPeggy]

1. I am so sorry, my dear jasonc...

I wish there were more I could do...

:hug:

[lost-in-nj]

2. Jason

breath

YES IT SUCKS
YES IT HURTS

but


well no buts..
i have been there after 30 years

we will help you
as much as we can


:hug:


lost

[lizziegrace]

3. I'm sorry...

I was married to my ex when he got his masters and doctorate. I can't imagine what medical school must be like. I just know I never saw him and Lelapin didn't see much of him either. I guess what I'm trying to say is that I know how hard it is to maintain a relationship when one party is immersed in school. It's very, very hard.

:hug:

[Generic Brad]

4. You have my sympathy

It sucks to have your heart broken; whatever the reason, whatever the circumstance. I hope you're finding a way to cope.

[TZ]

5. .

http://www.democraticunderground.com/discuss/duboard.php?az=view_all&address=105x8132102

[Pierre.Suave]

15. Thank you

:hug:

[SallyMander]

6. Oh, no...

Jason, i am SO sorry that you're going through this. Sending you the biggest hug ever. :( :hug:

I know it may not help now... but Iza went through something VERY similar. He was engaged and had it broken off in a terrible and painful way - she said he was too busy with school and bike racing, and gave her number to some other guy. It took time for him to heal but now we're together and he's happier than ever, he says. I know it is hard to imagine now but you will get through this and someone will be so happy to find you. (I count my blessings every day that Iza's ex blew it!)

PM me if you need anything, or want to stay in touch off DU. :(

:hug:

[Danger Mouse]

7. I know what you're going through.

Hang in there.
:hug:

[KitchenWitch]

8. I am so sorry.

:hug:

[ikojo]

9. I'm sorry JasonC..continue with your studies

Whatever the reasons for ending the relationship it is not all you, she holds some responsibility as well.

Here's a hug...

:hug:

[SarahB]

10. Wow, sorry.

You just started Med school though! You can't see this now, but if she's that shallow and selfish, she's NOT a good catch for the long haul. Most docs I know end up with other docs. They're often the only ones who understand. I'm sorry for what you're going through. This kind of thing always hurts like Hell. :(

[Orrex]

11. Oh man that sucks

Definitely take some time off for yourself. Your Lounge pals will still be here when you return, and we probably won't have forgotten you by then.

:pals:

[Sanity Claws]

12. I am so sorry

:grouphug:

[Starbucks Anarchist]

13. I'm very sorry to hear that, Jason.

:hug: :hug: :hug:

[Pierre.Suave]

14. I just realized that I really dont have any motivation to go anywhere

or do anything tonight. So here I am, reading your replies.

Thank you all for your thoughts.

[Sequoia]

51. Watch some movies that make you laugh, like Charlie Chaplin's.

I know you don't feel like laughing though.

[Ptah]

16. That is bad news.

Sorry to hear of your loss.



Hang on.

[Ilsa]

17. I am so sorry. Really sorry that she doesn't understand

how you need to parse your time.

Maybe she isn't ready for a really mature relationship yet.

Good luck to you. Find a way to heal. Big ol' momma hug to ya! :hug:

[no name no slogan]

18. Damn dude

Sorry to hear that. I will definitely have to buy you one or two at the local watering hole of your choice.

Take it easy, and let me know how things are going.

:hug:

[Pierre.Suave]

19. I went for a walk earlier...

you were probably looking at me wondering who the crazy guy was walking down the sidewalk muttering to himself with tears down his cheeks...

[Lil Missy]

20. Ugh. What a blow. I'm so sorry jasonc

:hug:

[DarkTirade]

21. Jesus, I'm sorry man.

Although if she's already looking at someone else, something tells me that the reasons she told you are just excuses. I had an ex who was what I refer to as a 'serial monogamist'. She never left one relationship unless she had someone waiting for her already. She couldn't stand to be single.

[LeftyFingerPop]

22. jason, I'm really sorry....

Hang in there....there are people who like you here, and I am one of them. :hug:

[supernova]

23. I'm so very sorry, jason

That's a rough thing to go through right at the beginning of medical school.

:hug:

It might not seem like it now, but it was probably better that she bailed out now. Trying to have a relationship and go to school is really, really rough. I put my ex through most of a masters' program and that was difficult enough. I can't imagine how tough medical school must be.

[Haole Girl]

24. Sending hugs your way...

:hug: :hug: :hug:

[BeachBaby]

25. Wish I lived closer, babe....

to share a beer or two. Or three. Or four. :hug:

xoxo

[redwitch]

26. I'm so sorry, that really sucks!

The place you're at right now makes it impossible to see around the corner. I had my heart stomped on many years ago and still remember how much I hurt. Then this great old friend took me out for a beer to cheer me up. I married him a year later and we are still in love 26 years later. I belirve in your happy ending too! Hang in there and know that the future holds love for you and many good things!

[redwitch]

27. dupe delete

[BreweryYardRat]

28. Sounds like you're better off without her.

:hug: That reeks of shallowness, and since her reasons don't match with your testimony, that suggests she decided to screw around on you because she can't handle the fact that you've got to focus on med school first. Self-absorbed narcissism.

Look on the bright side -- at least she didn't string you along until marriage and then spring this on you.

(Yeah, I know, I suck at being sympathetic.)

[siligut]

29. Oh sweetie, so sorry

Damn! You are a great guy. Sorry for your pain, man that stuff hurts. :hug:

[The Velveteen Ocelot]

30. Awwww, that's terrible!

I know how much that hurts; been there too. :hug: So sorry it turned out this way. :(

[flvegan]

31. Shit dude, I'm sorry.

I am going to go out on a limb and risk you hating me, though. If she's going directly from your fiancee to "dating someone else"...

Hell, you're investing time in yourself to better the future for you both. I'm not saying anything bad about her, I'm just trying to be a supportive bro.

I wish you the best. This sucks.

[blueraven95]

32. hang in there...

:hug:

[leftyclimber]

33. Oh, Jason, I'm so sorry.

:hug:

School is a brutal thing and can be hell on relationships. If you need to take time out that's understandable, but know that we are here for you to lean on. If you have the chance, go somewhere pretty for a little while, sit outside, and look at the view.

Hang in there. Apparently it is Shitty Day Day.

:hug:

[Chan790]

34. aww man...

that really sucks. I've been through it and it was one of the lowest points of my life. If you need an ear or anything, I'm around.

[PassingFair]

35. That sucks.

I could tell you really cared about her....

BUT...

there are many other fish in the sea, Jason.

The Marvelettes, just for you:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HKQbpSLW1jE

[XemaSab]

36. OH NO!

Oh, that sucks! :(

[Tuesday Afternoon]

37. Jason.....first off, I am sorry you are hurt. --

secondly, she is not worth it. Remember? I asked you if she understood what you had undertaken for your guys future. You deserve better. :hug:

[MrSlayer]

38. You're probably better off.

Better this happen now than after you were married. Best thing to do is go on to be highly successful.

[PBS Poll-435]

39. I am so sorry to hear that, jasonc

Do what YOU need to do.

I and We will miss you.

[stewartcolbert08]

40. wow

I am so sorry! Nothing is as painful as a broken heart. I am going through something similar so I can totatlly relate to how you are feeling. I would rather have something amputated that go through life with this kind of heartache. Thats actually why I came back here, to have a place to vent and something else to think about. So if you want to talk or vent.....I am a great listener and as long as I am listening to you I dont have to think about love life. LOL or lack there of. I have found so far that laughing really makes me feel better! If there is anything you need.........:)

[AirmensMom]

41. I'm sorry, Jason.

:cry:

That really sucks. :(

If she's already dating someone else, it doesn't sound like the reasons she gave you are real. I'm sorry.

:hug:

[malta blue]

42. damn jason

:hug::hug::hug:

I feel for you my friend.

[NJmaverick]

43. Very sorry to hear all of this Jason

Don't blame yourself though. When someone says they are going to start dating someone else, you can count on whatever excuse that comes with it to be Bull Shit.

[BarenakedLady]

44. That sucks

I'm sorry to hear it.

:hug:

[mduffy31]

45. Dude I understand totally

That is kind of what happened to me. My wife walked out due to my job and unfortunately my former physical state. I can't say it won't hurt, I know it still hurts 2 1/2 years later, but each day will get a little easier. I wish you nothing but luck.

[Sequoia]

46. I'm so sorry jasonc.

You were so happy about it and we were happy for you. Don't expect to get over it anytime soon and don't feel bad if you feel bad about it because damn, it happens to the best of us. I wish we could all give you a hug. Maybe after your studies you can go on that yacht cruise you so deserve. Go to Tahiti, that's a beautiful place.+

[racaulk]

47. I'm so sorry, jasonc.

:hug:

[WinkyDink]

48. {{jasonc}} I'm sorry for your heartbreak.

Dang. Her "reason" sounds like the other guy, to me.

[LibraLiz1973]

49. I know your down & I wish you well. But I think you know

the reasons she gave were bullshit. She distorted the truth to allow herself to cheat.

[Lucian]

50. Oh man, that sucks.

:(

[Bake]

52. Dude. Seriously. Better now than later.

And less expensive too. You'll live. And be better off.

Bake

[BluRay01]

53. Mostly a lurker here but I wanted to chime in...

Medical school (and residency, to varying degrees depending on specialty) is hell on a relationship. Even in the strongest and best of relationships, the demands of your school and career can take their toll. I'm sure that you did all you could--there just aren't enough hours in the day. I went through med school and residency, and then a year or so after finishing residency I found myself in a relationship with someone who was...applying to medical school! If I hadn't been there myself, I think it would be hard to understand how all-consuming the training process can be. I hope that when you're ready, you find someone who is able to understand the commitment required for your training. Please know that even though it isn't easy, it is possible.

[crispini]

54. Dude.

:hug: :hug:

Bummer. :(

[cwydro]

55. Sorry to hear that .

Stay strong and believe in yourself.

Many of us have been there. Sometimes the worst times are the times that make us stronger.

You can handle whatever life dishes out.

Good wishes to you.

[HEyHEY]

56. Good.

You found out early it is the wrong one. It'll suck for a while but when you're 75 you'll be telling your grandkids about the two-timin' hussy you were engaged to before their grandma came along.

[Aristus]

57. Oh, jason. I'm so awfully sorry for you.

Take all the time you need, buddy. We'll leave a light on for you. And we'll see you when you get back. :grouphug::pals: