Snoring and Relationship

[pinstikfartherin]

For as long as I've been dating my SO, he's snored. I've known this, I've for periods tolerated it, but it just seems to have gotten worse. At this point he can't even afford to go to the doctor to get a referral to go to a sleep clinic, so we're stuck at this point in time. His snoring has gotten (a) louder and (b) longer. I already have always had a hard time sleeping, so his snoring wakes me and keeps me from falling asleep. I've been sleeping on the couch lately because it's gotten me so frustrated and angry because I never get a good night's rest. We don't live together, technically, but he's pretty much always at my house and has spent the night for as long as I can remember.

The snoring has made me so irritated with him and just plain mean because although I know it's not his fault, I get angry when I can't sleep due to the noise and it carries into the next day. It's just became an endless cycle of anger due to lack of sleep and extreme irritation with him. I already have a tendency to get irritated easily at times, and the situation has just made it worse. I hate that I find myself being so angry towards him, but I don't notice until I've already done damage with my bad attitude.

Anyway, tonight he's going to sleep at home for the first time in months. I'm upset because I'm so used to him being here and I know I'll miss him, but I am relieved that I might get a good night's sleep. I feel that this will help us until he can get this seen about because otherwise we have a really good relationship and I love him dearly.

Have YOU had problems occur in your relationships due to snoring? If/How did you resolve the problems?

[malta blue]

1. get the snore strips, they help a bit.

On a more personal note, you need to consider his alcohol consumption (if any) on the nights the snoring is more pronounced, his weight, position, etc.

good luck.

btw - I am the guilty snoring person in my house, most of it attributed to allergies and if I drink.

[pinstikfartherin]

5. The snore strips do not work.

I know that when he drinks he snores worse. AND he is a smoker, which he is not willing to stop yet.

He's thin and it doesn't matter how he lays, he still snores.

[PRETZEL]

15. that's me,

but I'm married (or at least the ring on my finger reminds me) but you are describing me.

I do snore more when I drink. I do smoke (did quit for over 5 years but that had no effect on snoring). I'm thin (5'10", 170 lbs) and can snore at the drop of a hat.

My thoughts,

A sleep center won't show anything. I've done 2 of them and they both came to the same conclusion. I snore..................................

What the ENT specialist told me what that my throat is thinner in diameter than most. He can fix it, but insurance won't pay for it.

I sleep in a separate room. When she's ready to go to sleep I go into the other room. She sleeps better and isn't as cranky in the morning.

[ScreamingMeemie]

2. MrG snored.

After a time of being together I got used to it and was usually able to fall asleep. We did get it checked into because he also had apnea.

On the other side of the coin, I'd give anything to hear that snore one more time.

[mainegreen]

6. ....

:hug:

[trof]

3. Breathe EZ worked for me. Nose clip.

http://www.breatheez.biz/

Also, I lost 45 pounds and no longer snore (at least not chainsaw like I did) and don't use the clip any more.
But the clip sure worked for me.

[Roon]

4. I snored

me and my ex got separate bedrooms the last few year we were together.

[pinstikfartherin]

7. Sleeping separately seems like the right thing to do, but

I hope that we can get him to a doctor and have it at least reduced so we can sleep together. I can take a little snoring, but not wall shaking, can't escape it snoring.

[TZ]

8. Try this.

If he has apnea (which loud snoring CAN be a symptom of) sometimes a mouth guard (you know like the football players wear) helps..Go to a sporting goods store- if it works-woo hoo..if not..you are only out a few bucks...

[Rabrrrrrr]

9. Biggest things that will help is to be normal weight, and no alcohol before bedtime

And you are right to be angry for lost sleep - that's what loss of sleep does to people. Makes 'em angry.

Separate bedrooms might be a good idea as well. There's nothing in the rulebook that says committed couples absolutely positively must sleep in the same bed.

There are also some sprays that can help, which at least one person has posted already.

[YDogg]

10. try a different pillow? Or not as many?

[Kali]

11. ask his or your doc about possible studies going on

I got into a big study, got my diagnosis, a cpap machine and a little spending money. push - there are resources but you need to be motivated (or he does)

there might be some info on help with testing costs or other questions here: http://www.apneasupport.org/index.php

[Fenris]

12. My wife and I had a similar problem.

I had a sleep test and it turned out I had apnea. Now I use a CPAP. Works like a dream.

[mcctatas]

13. mr. mcctatas snores like a buzzsaw...

we have separate rooms...

[nadine_mn]

14. Been there..turns out hubby had sleep apnea so

a C-Pap machine helps - the sleep clinic is essential for your SO, I hope you can afford it soon. Turns out my husband stopped breathing (those snores that are more like snorts) 60-90 times an hour. It was a major cause of weight gain, headaches, depression, and irritability (ha for both of us).

however before that, (and now because I have insomnia) we sleep in different rooms. The only way our marriage works is if we don't sleep together.

I used to wake up, hear him snore and contemplate taking a pillow and smothering him long enough for me to get some sleep.

Seriously, sometimes separate beds is the way...it sounds unromantic, but we cuddle before bed and in the morning. I don't have to share my blankets, and we both sleep better. I have insomnia so I am up all night, and with his C-Pap machine he looks like he is on life support which used to freak me out. Plus we have 3 dogs and a cat - 2 beds give them opportunity to cuddle with us both.

[MissMillie]

16. my snoring registered on the Ricter scale

I had the sleep study and got the CPAP

back when I was in a relationship, I set up a bed in the spare room for my partner to retreat to when he couldn't take it.

Maybe that's something you could do? a futon, maybe?

Or earplugs for you?

[tigereye]

17. I usually have him roll over on his side - seems to help

but he probably should get the sleep apnea test... seems to be a common problem for a lot of folks.