Which of these people should just suck it up and live in a single-family house?

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Poll question: Which of these people should just suck it up and live in a single-family house?

This is a binary poll, sorry.

But...ignoring finances for awhile...who shouldn't live in an apartment? Who should move?


(In other words: When you're a grown-up, what wins--the right to party or the right to quiet?)

(That last one should end "to play with the kid." It seems I ran out of space.)

[fudge stripe cookays]

1. Sorry you're having tough luck again...

after getting rid of the "Hallelujah" people.

But I really must recommend the single family home for your piece of mind. It's so much more pleasant.

Hint: Our rent here is only $850....think about it! :D

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3. We should be able to move in May (or even before, if my employment agreement is enough).

Still.

They did shut up after awhile--I think the woman's out of town or working a weirder-than-usual weird shift, so the man had a bunch of people over. They left around midnight.

[SoxFan]

2. Meet your neighbors, Wayne and Amy Douchebag!

[Chan790]

4. Unfortunately...

I don't really know that it is reasonable to expect that kind of quiet living anywhere but a single family home, a condo/townhouse or a retirement village. At least, I've never seen it. If you share a domicile with other people, you kind of accept going-in to live to some extent in compromise to their lifestyle.

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5. And we do...but drunkeness at 1:30 a.m. on a Tuesday, with a sleeping child in the house?

I'm not expecting total quiet or anything. Normal living noises are fine and expected at any hour. Even noisy stuff at most hours is fine--we go to bed around midnight anyway, and the child, if she's here, can (usually) sleep through all but the rowdiest stuff.

Parties are fine, too, but I don't think many people expect them to break out in the middle of the night in the middle of the week. It's been *every* day this week so far (a week I started with a 102 degree fever, 80 pages of writing, and two exams to prepare for, so perhaps I'm crankier than usual). (We're in the lower, so if we have a party--which we usually don't because the child's here on weekends and we work/go to school during the week--they won't hear us as much as we hear them.)

When we moved in here, we had a teacher and a sushi chef living above us. They were almost never home, and when they were home, we only occasionally heard the TV, the vacuum, some people over for dinner.

Then, they moved out, and a "single nurse" moved in...her boyfriend soon followed and they're *loud*. Nice people, not at all pissy and quite apologetic if we ask them to quiet down (especially if they look at the clock and realize it's the middle of the night), but if they've been drinking it just starts up again in a few minutes.

Sigh...in the spring, I graduate, and have a job lined up, so we'll be able to move then.

[Chan790]

6. Depending your jurisdiction...

you probably have a noise ordinance, mine is 11PM. I'd use that. I didn't realize your complaint was them partying at 1am, I thought you were complaining that your neighbors had company during evening hours (and weekends) over drinking and being loudly-social. 8,9,10? that might be annoying but it's really a personality conflict rather than an act of rudeness. By midnight they really should be wrapping up their shindig...I mean I used to have parties in college until 3am on weekends, but my neighbors were college kids and they were all at the party. Also, I tried to keep people inside and the music down after 12am. I also got good at talking people into trips to the 24-hour diner down the hill.

Alternately, you could play opera arias while you're getting the kidlet ready in the AM. Nobody with a handover likes Rossini or Wagner at 7am. I'd say mow the lawn, but I'm doubting you have one or that the landlord does that on his own time or dime.

Or you could try talking to them when you pass them in the halls at some time more neutral like 3PM. Explain that you're not unreasonable but you'd appreciate it if they didn't have loud parties until the witching hour on weeknights. I'm guessing you tried that already though and they listen like rocks. I did at that age.