Would you change who you are based on how others see you?

[MrScorpio]

Poll question: Would you change who you are based on how others see you?

Or would you make any changes, if needed, based totally on your own perception?

[tigereye]

1. maybe, that's an interesting question

I might make adjustments, it's good sometimes to get an outside-self reality check!

[Madrone]

2. I can't answer your poll!

It's equally 1 & 2 for me. If someone perceives me in a way that I don't perceive myself it may be that I am projecting something negative that I am not aware of. Someone else's observation of this could make me have a realization and I would make an attempt to fix it. As for self-reflection and growing as a result - it's an important part of living as far as I'm concerned.

[CaliforniaPeggy]

3. My dear MrScorpio...

I would have chosen your third option, but I can't because I'm not perfect.

But I would not change to suit someone else.

I would change if I saw a need to inside me.

:hi:

[Lucian]

4. Nope.

I don't change for other people.

[amyrose2712]

5. I think most people do both...

consciously and subconsciously.

[jobycom]

6. I do it all the time.

When a cop notices me and stares at his clipboard too long, I immediately go home and switch wigs and facial hair, and change my clothing. I ain't going down again, not again, not cause some lame flatfoot makes me again, dammit.

Aside from that, I make changes, if I can, and if I feel I need to, based on my observations and on others. If my boss tells me I need to do something differently, for instance, I'll try. Depends on whether we are talking about superficial changes, fine tuning, or ideological ground-shifts. The latter I don't do unless something external shocks the hell out of me.

Other than that, I need sleep, and can make no further sense of the questions. :)

[Richard Steele]

7. "Once you're REAL, you can't ever be ugly again, except to people who don't understand."

So, no.

I might be wierd & confused 18 different ways, but I'm very REAL.
I can't go back to caring what other people think. I WON'T go back.
There's really nothing back there that I miss very much.

[supernova]

9. The Velveteen Rabbit?

:hi:

[Richard Steele]

15. Yup.

Some very powerful shit disguised as a children's book.
Gotta love it.

Oftentimes, a speck of dust will fly RIGHT into my eye
just as I get to that "Once you're real" line, knowhutImean? :cry:




So, how's things down your way? Good, I hope. :hug:

[applegrove]

8. I think you do both. And then sometimes you are a certain way depending on who you are with. I am

quiet but get giddy around someone talkative because I have conduction aphasia and don't have a good verbal memory. Someone who is actively listening to me speak is reminding me where I am. So I get talkative. And am perhaps less reflective that I am when I am quiet and thinking for myself. But I think most people are less reflective when they are talking fast.

When I'm talking to someone who isn't an active listener I can sometimes get going for a bit. Then I need a rest. I also can make no sense at times.

I'm not being two people. I am the same person inside both ways. Though he perception of me would differ.

Plus now I am on meds/drugs that take a part of my personality away so I'm less bubbly even when I do bubble like a brook.

[AlCzervik]

10. i'm not perfect but i'm not changing, i'm deeply flawed and i like it that way.

not every flaw needs fixing.

[flvegan]

11. No. Perception isn't reality.

[Bucky]

12. Aren't we really talking about my *perception* of how others percieve me?

So it's still my perception, even if I think it's others'.

[cynatnite]

13. It would be based on my perceptions...no one else's. n/t

[Deja Q]

14. Certain genetic abnormalities cannot be altered.

Otherwise, I would do my part to improve based upon pertinent criteria.