DU Help: Is there a polite way to drop the hint....

[CrownPrinceBandar]

to a friend that you would like to come and visit them?

Here's the sitch: I have a friend in Vegas, who, when I last saw him, told me I should come out and visit him anytime. I recently had a beach trip fall through and just got laid-off, so not only do I need the vacation, I could use the trip as a job-seeking safari. The problem is that I haven't talked to the guy in about 6 mos.

Is there a polite way of dropping the hint that you would like to come visit without being appearing rude? He's not the kind of guy to get offended at this kinda stuff, but I've never been a good judge of these social esoterics.

[Midlodemocrat]

1. I just had a friend do that to me.

She said "I would really like to come visit you. I've missed you."

That's all it took.

[blogslut]

2. Be honest

Ask your friend:

"I would like to come to Vegas to have some fun and look for a job. Is your invitation still open?"

If your friend can't accommodate you then I'm sure he'll let you know.

[MissMillie]

4. +1

I'm sure it'll be fine.

Good luck finding work

[siligut]

3. I live in a city people want to visit.

For a while, people just announced they were coming and if I wanted to I could offer a spare room, if we didn’t want to we helped them find a hotel and took them out to dinner and a little sight seeing. I would just call your friend and tell him you are planning to visit his fine city and see if he offers a spare bed.

[Pacifist Patriot]

5. I never tell people they should come visit me any time unless I mean it.

I have friends I haven't talked to in months (probably years) that I'd be thrilled to hear from and would gladly welcome a visit. Call and tell him what's up.

[Gormy Cuss]

6. No need for hinting. He extended the invitation.

You should expect that he may not be in the mood for guests anymore or that he can't accommodate you for some reason, but it doesn't hurt to ask.

[skygazer]

7. Don't drop hints

There's nothing more annoying than trying to decipher what someone is trying to say while not really saying it. This person is a friend. He told you to come visit. Give him a call and say, "Hey, I'd really like to come out there and visit you. It's been too long since I last saw you."

It is not rude to take someone up on their offer. It is not rude to want to visit a friend.

Have fun! :hi:

[guitar man]

8. or you could do like us bikers do

"Hey bro/sis, we're about 100 miles out, we'll be rollin' up on ya real soon :hi:

never tell bikers they can come visit anytime unless you really mean it :D

[no name no slogan]

13. Or better yet

Grad your Mr. Microphone and drive by in your convertable. Crank the volume on the car radio and yell out, "Hey good lookin', we'll be back to pick you up later!".

Works every time. At least in the commercials.

[datasuspect]

9. just show up and open the door

don't knock, just walk in.

a real friend will understand.

[CreekDog]

10. I had a friend that I invited to stay with me when he came through town

7 times later (in the space of about 5 months), he was coming without calling, bringing people with him, told me "your milk is spoiled" :eyes: and "you're out of cereal" :wtf:.

he showed up once at 10pm, said he had emailed me at work that afternoon :eyes:

i never told him but he was not invited ever again, even when a friend of mine became his fiancee and asked me to put him up.

but at least he made up for it by picking up a check once in a while...nooo, wait, he never did that. :eyes:

[Shell Beau]

11. Just tell them you want to come and visit.

If y'all are decent friends, it shouldn't matter. As long as this friend isn't busy at that time.

[jobycom]

12. "I'm here!" works for me. Face it, it isn't showing up that gets most people upset.

It's not leaving after a reasonable time.

[Jimbo S]

14. Six months is nothing.

Call/text/whatever him and just ask if he's up for hanging out.