A thought as I head for bed...

[CaliforniaPeggy]

I like some mystery in my marriage!

Do you...in your marriage or relationship?

Good night, everybody! See you all tomorrow!

:hug:

[Haole Girl]

1. A little intrigue never hurt anyone...

well, almost never. :hug:

[Lyric]

2. Nope. We are as unmysterious as can be, and we like it that way.

Of course, it depends on your definition of "mystery." To us, more mystery means privacy, space, aspects of the unknown. It unfortunately also equals less intimacy to us, and we're BIG on intimacy. We know each other's lives and histories to the smallest detail, and we're all the happier for it.

It isn't for everybody, though. I think the worst relationships are ones in which the participants have different "values" in regard to privacy, mystery, etc. In that kind of dynamic, one person will inevitably feel smothered and the other will inevitably feel shut out. Rhythm and I are lucky, because we're both of the same kind--we like to be close in every possible way, and have no desire to have "privacy" from each other. Other people try to say that we're "unhealthy" because we fill so many of each other's needs exclusively and have few "outside" friends, but we're going on ten years of "marriage in all but name" now and we're just as ridiculously happy together as ever, so you be the judge.

:hi:

[DFW]

3. The only mystery I can think of

...is why my wife has stayed with me all these years. I'm not complaining about my luck, but I'm still mystified....

[MrScorpio]

4. Wear a trenchcoat and fedora

and something racy underneath