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Edited on Sun Apr-12-09 03:02 PM by Juche
I'm trying to think of how to write this without sounding meladromatic but I am not sure how. I am 29 now, will be 30 soon and when I turned 17 I started having symptoms of a serious mental illness that was likely schizophrenia. I did alot of embarassing, humiliating things when I was sick and I had to live with psychotic delusions that destroyed my sense of identity and that caused me massive emotional harm.
Mental illness is a triple whammy in many ways. With most serious illnesses you get sick, then you get treatment. But with mental illness the stigma is gigantic and nobody wants to admit it is going on. So we pretend it isn't happening and sweep it under the rug. So that is strike two, the fact that we as a society (I am guilty too, I am not moralizing about how evil 'those other' people are because we all need improvement) for the most part do nothing. If 25% of the prison population and about half the homeless population were made up of people with cancer you'd hear a public outcry. Not so with mental illness.
But what is even worse is that when you are mentally ill you likely don't even know it. If you have cancer, cardiovascular disease or any other disease you know it and you can be a part of treatment. With mental illnesses your ability to realize you are sick is also damaged. It is a triple whammy that makes neurological illnesses the most feared and misunderstood illnesses on the planet. Its not just the illness itself (I have seen statistics showing mental illnesses responds as well to, if not slightly better to treatment as CVD or cancer and we don't consider those death sentences), its the stigma and the inability to be a constructive part of your own treatment.
When I was sick nobody knew what to do. I was a senior in high school. People felt sorry for me, but you can't cure serious brain diseases with pity. There is a great place called the Pfeiffer institute about 300 miles from where I live, and they have good results with treating neurological illnesses by combining allopathic and alternative therapies. But I didn't know about the place back then. I spent 4 years basically living in my room with no friends and nobody to talk to while the delusions destroyed my soul. By the end I was so fucked up I was trying to get help from total strangers, but because my social skills had atrophied so badly from isolation and being sick, and because I was so full of self hatred and self loathing by that point (and attracted abusive people into my life because of the self hatred) I would get violently and aggresively rejected. Something snapped in me and I realized I had to do everything alone, nobody else cared at all.
And I got better. I have not had symptoms in 8 years (I have mild symptoms when my stress levels are extremely high, but they go away after the stress goes down. Just so people know, partial or full recovery is possible for a growing number of people because our knowledge is growing so fast), I do a variety of things to keep my brain healthy (supplements, nutrition, exercise) because I know a healthy, well nourished brain is more resilient. But what really helped me was my senior year in college when I started seeing a therapist. She was one of the most beautiful human beings I've ever met. Not beautiful on the ouside (I'm hoping people realize that isn't what I'm referring to), but for what she was.
She not only worked with me for 1 hour a week, but she got me involved in group therapy and schizophrenics anonymous. And doing that helped open a door inside my soul that had been violently slammed shut all those years before when I felt like people would become abusive or do nothing if I asked for or needed help. I graduated 2 years ago in spring 2007, had my last therapy session with her in May 2007 and my last SA and group meeting in August 2007. Going to those sessions made me feel safe enough to start facing what had happened to me and as I did that many of the dysfunctional behaviors and neuroticisms I had had before went away.
And I was taking a shower just now and just realized I can't remember their names anymore. I remember my therapist's name (I'll always remember her name) and I remember the name of the leader of the group therapy session, one of the members, and the first name of one of the guys in SA, but that is it. I don't remember the names of the other people in my group therapy session (about 12, people came and went as spring semester changed to summer) or the names of the people in my schizophrenics anonymous group. And I started bawling uncontrollably. I would recognize their faces if I saw them again, but I can't remember their names anymore.
I just want one person to say they know why this is affecting me so strongly and that they understand.
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