What's with the "we are pregnant" ?

[Liberal_in_LA]

I hear and read this more and more: "We are pregnant" "we are trying to get pregnant".

[HopeHoops]

1. Oh, that's really simple.

When a couple says "we are pregnant", it translates directly into (guy speaking) "Since she can't drink beer now I have to drink twice as much to make up for her lack of consumption."

[Liberal_in_LA]

3. It does seem to be mostly guys who say 'we are pregnant"

I understand the sentiment but technically 'she is pregnant'. I may be proud that my spouse got a Masters degree and participated in their success but 'they have the Masters degree'. I could use other analogies but you get the point.

[Danger Mouse]

2. It's pure douchery.

[The Velveteen Ocelot]

4. When the guy who says "we are pregnant" starts getting morning sickness

and stretch marks and swollen ankles and waddles around like a penguin, then he can legitimately say "we" are pregnant. Otherwise he's being a douche.

[Liberal_in_LA]

5. but since it's commonplace to say "we' I'm assuming the woman is ok with it?

It seems to be the standard phrase now. I hear it ALL THE TIME. No more, I'm pregnant.

I was just reading reviews on Sears dishwashers. Guy posted "when we become pregnant with our 2nd child".

[The Velveteen Ocelot]

10. Don't know whether the woman is OK with it.

Personally, I wouldn't be. My response would be: dude, *I* am pregnant. *My* feet are swollen, *my* back aches, and *I* throw up every morning. What are you doing? Sitting around bragging about MY pregnancy. Don't be a douche.

[CaliforniaPeggy]

6. My dear Liberal_in_LA...

I suspect that any guy whose SO is pregnant, and who says "We're pregnant" is just trying to share in the experience...

Be part of it, so to speak.

:shrug:

:hi:

[Liberal_in_LA]

8. It still seems weird. I don't say "We just got our Masters degree' if my SO graduates.

lol... maybe a poor analogy.

[CaliforniaPeggy]

9. But the point really is...Did you help her get her Masters?

The man does participate in helping his SO get pregnant...

I think that's where this "we" stuff comes from...

[HopeHoops]

7. There's a simple translation for that too....

"I'm banging her as often as possible" - again, guy-speak and ALWAYS followed by a shit-eating grin ;}

[mitchum]

11. It's as annoying as "we are remodeling" or "we are building a house"

[Liberal_in_LA]

12. lol. I get your point.. I think

[Ptah]

13. It probably should be "we are going to be parents!"

[DarkTirade]

14. Whenever they say that, I think of this.

[jobycom]

15. What's it to you what they say?

It's just an attempt to acknowledge that the male is going through something with his wife, as opposed to the old idea that the woman was the only one responsible for the kids. It's better than "The old bitty is pregnant so I'm getting smashed at the bar and hoping to have an affair."

Sounds funny to me, too, but who cares? It's just another sign of people trying to live their own lives on their own terms while escaping the outdated systems of the past, and creating language to fit their realities where no language has fit before. It's sweet, it's a sign of progress, and it's something liberals who believe in egalitarianism and equality should understand, if not applaud.

My opinion, anyway. :)

[mnhtnbb]

16. As long as "we" change the diapers, get up at 2 a.m. for feedings and clean up projectile vomiting

I think it's cute.

[DFW]

17. I heard it used perfectly correctly

My wife and sister-in-law were together, and told someone this when they were both pregnant with their first children.

[Liberal_in_LA]

19. cute!

[Dappleganger]

18. When "We" get urinary tract infections and 'roids together...

then you can say that.

If not, back it down real slow.

[old mark]

20. No, honey, YOU are pregnant - I'm on the bus to California.....nt

[Rhiannon12866]

21. Is there an Arnold Schwarzenegger on DU?

:shrug: :rofl:

[Flaxbee]

22. well, to play devil's advocate, perhaps the trend was started

by those who think single women shouldn't have babies. Perhaps the "we" is a subtle dig at the single moms out there. And I would suspect if this were true, it was started by right wing religious nutsos who think only traditional families are valuable and worthwhile.

Then again, maybe it's just the guy wanting to be part of it all and lend some support while the woman does the heavy lifting for 9 months.

[pokerfan]

23. she's pregnant; we're expecting

would seem to be more appropriate.

[Liberal_in_LA]

24. Yep. I agree.

[DemBones DemBones]

25. Yes! I have even heard men refer to "our deliveries."

You just know they're jealous they can't breastfeed, narwhals that they are.