Should I ask my ex to do something if I know there is a 99.9% chance I'll get turned down?

[LostInAnomie]

We didn't have a bad split or anything, and it wouldn't be exactly for a date (just a chance to say "Hi"). Do you think it's worth the effort?

[CaliforniaPeggy]

1. My dear LostInAnomie!

I think that you've answered your own question...

:hug:

[LostInAnomie]

2. Yeah, but I kind of just want to send a feeler out there.

We're going to both be at a mutual friend's birthday party in about two months from now. I'd kind of like to put myself in her mind before then.

[CaliforniaPeggy]

3. OK...

Then maybe, and I mean maybe, it might be worth doing...

Good luck, sweetie!

[LostInAnomie]

4. See what you think of this Peggy.

I found out a couple months after we split (from our mutual friend) that the reason she dumped me is because she started liking me too much. Apparently, she gets scared in relationships when her emotions get involved, so she got out of it. Have you ever heard of such a thing?

[CaliforniaPeggy]

5. Oh, many times!

Sounds like she's afraid of commitment...

Or afraid she'll get hurt if you decide to pull away.

She needs to be handled with kid gloves, very tenderly, and with respect. That is, if you want to keep her...

As I said, good luck. And given this story, now I would say, go for the contact. Sounds to me as though she's worth fighting for...