From Now On....

[SPKrazy]

wisest words ever heard as I think about them

high school psychology teacher

said one who controls the relationship is one with least interest or investment...


no more investments...

and as my friend has taught me to say....FUCK IT!!!!!!!! LOUNDER NOW FUCK IT!!!!!!!!!

[rucky]

1. ...

[SPKrazy]

2. Fuck it all!

I dedicate this thread to the one person who made it all possible...

the next thread will be dedicated to me, for whom none of the possibilities would have been realized in my life.


The final thread should be dedicated to the controlling, parental, bastard who provides "safety" and safety is better than life. I lived like that for years though. Safety over life. I'll take life.

[flvegan]

3. Who's Lounder?

[SPKrazy]

8. he must be the dude that comes out after

I've taken my lunesta and should have been in bed long ago and not posting shit here :P

[Droopy]

4. How about being equal partners in a relationship?

Is that possible? I wouldn't know, but that's what I'd want.

[SPKrazy]

9. Being equal partners in a relationship to me

means doing things fair and equally

I'm talking about feelings which I'm not sure you can not quantify them equally

[LeftyMom]

5. If you're trying to establish control you're doing it wrong.

Unless you're into that kind of thing, in which case you'll need a safeword and some good quality lube and more power to ya. :patriot:

[SPKrazy]

10. yeah had a safeword

but that's not what I'm talking about :P

maybe to say whoever has the least investment in the relationship determines the outcome of that relationship

[Frosty1]

6. A different perspective

A writer by the name of Merle Shain wrote a number of books on the subject of Love.
They were:
When Lovers are friends
Some Men are More Perfect Than Others
Courage My Love

I highly recommend them. It may give you a different perspective on relationships.
Amazon has them cheaper in the used books.

[Sky Masterson]

7. I always heard that the one who loves the least controls the relationship

Not sure if it is true or not.
But I do think couples need to be both friends and lovers.
And they're needs to have a healthy mixture of both.
People can be god awful to people they love.

[SPKrazy]

13. I agree and that is what I was trying to say

in my apparently lunesta inebriated state last night :P

[Heidi]

11. Wiser words: The only thing you can ever hope to control in life is your own reaction.

:hi:

[SPKrazy]

15. This is also very true

I was just pondering that statement

the one who loves the least has the least to lose emotionally and I have no control over that you are right as mostly always :P


:hug:

[Heidi]

16. But I don't care about being right.

I care about helping people suffer less. :hug:

:loveya:

[SPKrazy]

17. well that is truly altruistic

and thanks

:loveya: too Heidi my friend.

[Pierre.Suave]

12. I think there may be more to this thread

than meets the eye...

[SPKrazy]

14. nothing related to DU if that is what you are inferring

but of course there is a lot more than meets the eye...

it was a complicated situation...and probably should never have been but it was.

and I wrote this late at night about 2 hours after taking lunesta which means i was probably asleep but awake

I mean LOUNDER