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I met a woman last night who was struggling with some issues similar to the ones I am confronting and I said that 'I want to become a whole person'. She challenged me to define that in more specific terms. I thought that was a great idea. Part of the general answer is: To be a whole person is to be in a state where you are not seeking out pieces from others to fill or make-up for holes in your life, because you have filled or are filling them.
And I think of this like a beaver's dam -- it doesn't actually stop the water (problems). But it creates a calm livable place where the beaver can have a family. The dam survives storms because the beaver repairs it prompty and effectively. I may not get to 100% whole and that is okay as long as I get to live in a comfortable livable beaver pond.
I welcome your thoughts and comments, and your definition if you want to share them.
What does becoming a 'whole person' mean to Kurt ?
Emotionally whole - getting in touch with and taking personally responsibility for getting my basic needs met every day
- sharing my concerns and worries with people who will listen, and in turn being there for them
- forcing myself to find and live within a healthy balance between my work, passions, creative outlets, chores, relaxation, nourishment and exercise. Not neglecting any of those areas. Making course corrections as needed.
Physically whole - taking care of my physical health through proper rest, exercise, hygiene, stress reduction, sex and diet
- owning my energy and using it in the areas I choose to focus on
- taking care of my appearance in order to feel, enjoy and attract healthy energy
and Spiritually whole - embracing and having my spiritual needs met, including: * feeling connected to the spiritual realm * having the Zen of feeling at peace with my role in this Life * asking questions of, and listening to the answers of, my spiritual guides. Thanking them.
- getting back the Zen (aka Serenity) to not react in unhealthy ways to the stresses I face every day
- not allowing my Self to be pulled into pieces by the diverse stresses of money, time, relationships, luck, and all the thing beyond my control
Why become a whole person ? Best and healthiest way to fully live throughout this lifetime. Avoid bringing issues into a relationship that cannot be solved by the other person or that will limit the success of the relationship. Be better able to help others achieve their fulfillment and happiness.
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