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Oh noes, for once a serious post.
Starting Friday, I began receiving calls from a few of my buddies back home regarding the behavior of one of our friends. This friend, we'll call him 'John', has been acting like a fucking moron lately. He has two failure to appears for a DUI, which he is likely facing 6-9 months of jail time for (second offense). He has not had steady above board (paying taxes, contributing to society, etc) jay oh bee in a few years and continues to do fly by night, under the table work. He has sabotaged any possible career changes out of the quasi construction bullshit he does now since John is now covered with tattoo's starting at his knuckles and going to his neck. He also owes people money which kind of goes with territory.
All of the above I've known about for quite some time. And honestly, it's his life, he can fuck it up. But apparently now, he's depressed (I would be too) and is habitually drinking far beyond normal limits. John has also taken to making up outrageous stories involving violence, police brutality, drugs, you name it. He sounds like he's some fucking mob character out of Grand Theft Auto. But unfortunately this activity isn't really impressing anyone. Most people are sick of him, hate being around him, loathe having to constantly cover his bills, and they're all beginning to feel like he's a liability. The potential of him running off his mouth and getting people hurt, especially given the area where I'm from, is high. To some degree, it's already happened with him recently getting into a barfight and not remembering anything about it except getting his ass beat.
All this at the ripe age of 26.
Most of the phone calls I received regarding my friend here were independent of each other. When they came in one after the other about this and that and this, I started to panic. He might be dillusional or spiraling into alcoholism or worse. So, I did what I thought was right... I called his parents yesterday. They laid into his ass and now, he hates me. Some of my younger friends are calling my actions as some sort of betrayal. But in sincerity, I didn't know what to do. Hell, now I don't know what to do. I feel bad that my friend is going through alot, and it's sad he put himself there. Am I supposed to sit back and let this kid possibly get himself, or someone else, hurt or killed? Do I take it easy while he royally fucks up his own life?
I don't know. I need advice. I don't know whether to apologize to him or just cut him the fuck off or somewhere inbetween. Part of me feels he has the right to feel angry. Part of me feels very justified in trying to help him get his shit together. Part of me says, fuck it I'm 3000 miles away.
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