Those who have NEVER been married...

[Archae]

Like me.

How old are you?

And why are you still unmarried?

I'm almost 50, and just prefer being unmarried.
My great-uncle lived into his 90's, having never married.

He had girlfriends, but he just preferred being unmarried.

[TZ]

1. Never married and almost 40

A combination of being picky and hating the head games of dating and just being generally sucky with relationships . I doubt that will change..I would like to get married someday but I've kind of resigned myself to keeping company with cats...:shrug:

[Archae]

2. Same here!

I have two.

[appal_jack]

51. 38 here - gone to the dogs

I'm 38 now. The last woman I even contemplated proposing to was around 15 years back: I chose to head eastward to grad school, and she chose to move back out west, so no marriage then. I haven't even had a serious relationship with a woman since my late 20's. That one turned out to be pretty nuts, and we broke it off more or less mutually (though not particularly amicably). Since then, I've helped my parents build their house, started a career (first job I've held for more than 2 years is the one I'm in now: 8 years & hopefully counting), and started a farm (aka my 2nd job: 7 years & counting).

What with doing those things and all else that keeps me busy, I don't really find the time or energy to date much. I'd describe myself as halfway-content being on my own. If I met the right woman who was into me, I'd certainly be open to a committed relationship and maybe even kids, but suddenly I feel I may be getting a little old and set in my ways for that. And marriage as a legal contract is fairly repulsive to me, so she'd have to be happy being long-term fiancees at best. Fat chance, right? A man can dream... (so while I'm at it, she'll be pretty, kind, frugal, politically-engaged, tolerant of my many idiosyncrasies, intelligent, emotionally-supportive, artistic, and around 10 years younger...);-)

OK, back to reality. I do have 2 dogs, and they're always happy to see me when I get home. And I still view life as an adventure, so I've got no complaints worth mentioning.

-app

[no name no slogan]

3. To those who have never been married == STAY THE FUCK AWAY!!!1111

:rofl:

[bigwillq]

4. 31

I choose not to be married. Never say never, but I do not plan on ever getting married.

[Ava]

5. well, i'm only 18.. so that's my excuse

i don't plan on marrying anytime soon though. marriage is really nothing more than a legal contract

[Bucky]

6. "And why are you still unmarried?"

Shit, I only thought parents were allowed to ask that question.

I was married for about 18 months back in my 20s. It didn't take. Almost two decades later, I can't see me tying a knot; I'm far too settled in my ways. I hope I'm like your g'pa and still datin' when I'm dyin'.

[LeftinOH]

42. "When are you going to get married?"

I'm 43. That question is a very effective way to end a conversation with me. I've been quite tempted to ask people in response:

"When are you going to lose weight?" (if they're fat)
"When are you to die?" (if they're old)

..and so on-

[Rising Phoenix]

7. 31

was engaged didn't work out
I'm more picky now.

[alarimer]

8. 40 here.

I guess I am not relationship material. Too set in my ways and independent.

My most recent ex wanted to move in together after only 2 months. He is someone who "needs" to be in a relationship. And he took my reluctance to move in as "not being that into him," which wasn't true. I still can't convince him that most people date a year or so before moving in together. But he's been divorced twice so maybe his method doesn't work so well.

[applegrove]

9. 44 and unmarried. I like my space. Now more than ever.

[WildEyedLiberal]

10. In my mid 20s... haven't met the right person

I'd love to be married one day, but if I don't meet the right man, I would rather be single for the rest of my life.

[elana i am]

11. 35 and "marriage" is just another icky

social construct like "religion". i don't believe in either one.

[rcrush]

12. 29

I do what i want!

[Angleae]

13. 42 next month.

Severly introverted is an understatement.

[rockymountaindem]

14. Unmarried and 22

I'm beginning to wonder if time is running out. Lots of my friends who are one or two years older than me (if that) are already hitched.

[tabbycat31]

17. you're still young

my sister just got married (last weekend) at 26. She's been with the guy sicne she was 18 and living with him since 21. It took them that long to get married.

[Sequoia]

45. Ha, ha....you're just a young whipper-snapper.

Let's see how long they stay married. You've got your whole life ahead of you. Don't sweat it. I've always hated it that our society has been brainwashed to believe a woman's worth is only in marriage. And for men, if they stay bachelors it's like...what are you, gay? And for women who go past the "marketable age"...."Something must be wrong with you. Are you a man-hater or a shrew?"

[tabbycat31]

15. 29 and never been married

I have a few years to go until I feel really old. I do realize I'm not getting any younger.

I'm single at the moment. I've had relationships before, but unfortunately I'm a cheater magnet. I discovered my last ex had 2 other girlfriends at the time when I let him use my computer, and his girlfriends were IMing him like crazy. I was furious.

I also have serious trust issues as I've been betrayed one too many times (by friends and family)

[Withywindle]

16. I'm 39, and I just never had a boyfriend who cared enough to really follow through.

After 2 CONSECUTIVE experiences of living with a lover for 6 years and being content and pretty sure on my end that we were great and this was "it," only to find myself dumped and kicked out, I'm pretty soured on the whole idea of "romance" as a long-term prospect.

Although, truth be told, I do still long for that kind of companionship, very badly. Accepting that it may never happen for me is one of the hardest things I've ever faced, and I don't think I'm taking it well, so the catch-22 is that makes me a pretty dubious dating prospect. And honestly I'm pretty gun-shy; I don't think I can take getting kicked in the teeth like that AGAIN.

[sakabatou]

18. I'm 22

and I'm not married... yet.

[Wetzelbill]

19. 34

Just a bit of a loner sometimes. I prefer to be single, for the most part. Although, I'm changing my views on that somewhat. I'm thinking I'd like to find somebody who I can love and be with etc. At least more serious relationships, not sure about marriage by any means.

[Mugu]

20. I've been engaged to the same woman for over 20 years.

We don't see any reason to risk spoiling something that works for us.

I don't think that any sane woman could tolerate me for even a week. I currently have a chainsaw in pieces on my kitchen floor and have moved the living room furniture against the walls so I have room to take photos.

What sane woman could/would deal with that? And if she's not sane why would I want to deal with her?

[redqueen]

50. I'm curious...

You deal with it... are you sane? And if you're not... why would anyone want to deal with you?

I'm not trying to be confrontational... I just don't get the logic.

[Maccagirl]

21. Just turned 53.

I've never been married because no one has asked me to marry him.

[Bucky]

54. Yo Macca

[Jamastiene]

22. I'm 38

It's illegal for me to get married still. America needs to catch up with the times.

[Blue_Tires]

34. hopefully for you, sooner rather than later!

[Zavulon]

23. 45, living with longtime girlfriend, no desire for marriage on either side.

The reasons I have against marriage are plenty:

* marriage penalty

* outdated societal norm with roughly a 50% failure rate

* if she and I do decide to break up, we'd prefer not to be penalized for it

I simply prefer being unmarried. I don't believe in marriage at all, which is why I love to joke around with my liberal friends by claiming I'm against gay marriage. It's technically the truth because I'm against marriage, period. :)

[oedura]

24. I'm 40...

...and I'm not married yet because I've never met a woman who was interested.

The fact that I'm very short, sort of homely, severely depressed, and socially awkward to the nth degree doesn't help.

[ccharles000]

25. ...

Never married,19 years old,If I did want to get married I am not allowed in NC as I am gay.:(

[LostInAnomie]

26. I'm 29. Apparently, I'm just unlucky with women.

I've been in two long term relationships that I though were going to lead to marriage... then things fell apart.

I'm single now, and since I don't have any real social outlets, I figure I'm going to stay that way.

[raccoon]

27. Late 50's never married, although I lived with a man for 6 years.

Does that count? :rofl:

I think because my parents' marriage was so crappy I always had a negative view of marriage.

Now that my parents are gone, sometimes I wish I were married--happily. You never know, it could happen. But I'm real set in my ways and I know that demographics aren't on my side.

[DarkTirade]

28. 27. I was almost stupid enough to get married.

Not that getting married would have been stupid. But getting married to THAT girl would have been. :P

[MissMillie]

29. I will be 45 in a couple of months... I would very much like to marry

It would be wonderful to have someone make that kind of a public statement about their commitment to me.

[TreasonousBastard]

30. 62 and almost got married a few times, but...

only one of those had half a chance in hell of working.

A long time ago I stopped thinking there was anything particularly good about marriage for most people, but most people end up doing it anyway for some unfathomable reason.

[schmuls]

31. My partner were together for 25 years before he passed away,

and whenever people ask why we never married, I really don't have an answer. We talked about it from time to time, but I guess we never got around to it. So I guess you could call it a "marriage".

[Chan790]

32. 29 and unmarried.

I know, I'm a young'un. It does not appeal to me though. I have no desire to ever get married or have children, I'm not big on LTRs either.

Every time it comes up, someone who "knows better" wants to tell me that I'm commitment-phobic or immature or an ass. It couldn't possibly that I am not in the least bit "relationship-minded" and, as a result, a terrible romantic partner for anybody who ever wants to "settle-down". I just see the non-appeal of domesticity and it holds no deeper social purpose for someone who doesn't want to have children (It's off-the-table entirely.), doesn't want to co-habitate (Really, I'm truly happiest living alone.), doesn't want to own property (I rent. It breaks, the landlord fixes it.), and thinks hell is suburbia. (It is hell. I lived there long enough to know for sure.)

[Blue_Tires]

33. 32, and i would like to be married someday

to a compatible woman, but I suck in the dating world...

[datasuspect]

35. 39, bullet dodger for life, yo

[bikebloke]

36. 53 and have been wise

I tend to be a freak magnet with americans. There was one, who was talking about it. In the end, she confessed about feeling terribly guilty for feeling good when we were together. So much, she had to take medication. I walked away from that one. And that's just one story. There have been other loonie tunes.

I click with Europeans and Australians. We're on the right frequency. But with travelling, it's here today, no tomorrow.

I've had offers of paper marriages so I could live in another country, but I wised away from those.

Now I'm so used to life as a solitaire with my own activities, I can't be bothered to even date.

[City of Mills]

37. Married at 29, divored at 34

Never should've done it, it ruined the relationship. Not her fault, not mine, we just should've put it off for a few more years :(

[Hell Hath No Fury]

38. 48 and never married.

I did have the chance a couple of times, but the idea of marriage was never really appealing to me -- the idea of staying with one person the rest of my life was too bizarre and unreasonable for me. :shrug: I just don't think I have the temperament for marriage, now more than ever.

If the gods should put a man in my path who sparks a desire for partnership, we would have to create a union that didn't look like the typical one.

[Iggo]

39. 47. Never been. Never gonna be.

Life is good.


(EDIT: There was one girl, but thank god she was smarter than I was...lol.)

[TK421]

40. 33 and happy being single

I just can't imagine myself being married, and since all of my brothers and sisters are ( I became an uncle for the 19th time yesterday, in fact ) the questions are coming at me from all sides

I want no part of it...I happen to enjoy my privacy and like being independent

[Deja Q]

41. Nigh 37

Because, back when I was looking, people preferred one night stands or what might erroneously be titled "friends with benefits".

The world is changing; building relationships is increasingly as antiquated as CP/M...

[RFKHumphreyObama]

43. 28 years old and unhappily single

Due to circumstances in my life, I've never had the opportunity to be in a relationship, let alone to be married. I would very much like that to change but don't see it happening in the foreseeable future

[eyepaddle]

44. I feel conflicted--I always expected that I'd never get married

and I was fairly cool with that. And I always posted in threads like this.

Until one month agao, then I got married very late 30s. It took me as much by surprise as it did any of my friends!

Like I say, I was happy and content being single, but then I started dating awoman who would very clearly be with me through thick and thin. But still, after more than 30 years of umarried life, I still view the world through an "unmarried" frame of mind.

[Sheltiemama]

46. 41

I wasn't able to look at any of the men I dated and think, Yes, I want to spend the rest of my life with you and possibly have children with you, which would tie us together forever. I'm done with even trying to date, and I'm much happier.

[Lydia Leftcoast]

47. During my "prime" years I had a lot of extreme shyness and leftover

issues from my earlier life to overcome. I've had three major relationships, but one dumped me, I dumped the second one, and I came to an amiable parting with the third one when our lives took different directions and I realized I wasn't committed enough to follow.

Now in my late fifties, I look at the available men, and they're either unavailable (married, gay, etc.) or they're BORING, and I don't mean "nice," I mean BORING, as in they know nothing but "guy stuff" and whatever they've heard on TV. By "nice," I suppose they mean, "I'd never beat you up," but actually, that's my minimum requirement for "decent human being," not my maximum requirement for "lover."

I actually like being "double," but until I meet a straight man who has a wide ranging mind and a kind heart, and doesn't act as if it's a huge, unreasonable favor to accompany me to a cultural event or to leave his comfort zone in any way, I'm better off single.

[KamaAina]

48. 44. Ask the females.

They seem to have some sort of spidey-sense, perhaps akin to "gaydar", that alerts them to my presence in time for them to throw themselves at someone else, move to another state, whatever. :(

[AmyDeLune]

49. 40 this month and never married...

Haven't met anyone I've really clicked with and I tend to attract men waaay older than me or manboys looking for a mommy figure who are way too young (emotionally). I've got one of those hanging around even though I told him I am in no way attracted to him romantically or physically and the relationship will never be anything other than platonic...he's still hoping I'll change my mind. *sigh*

I still have hope there's someone out there for me though...:)

[abbeyco]

52. 46 now & was engaged twice

I date occasionally now but a lot of men have kids, baggage from past relationships, blah, blah, blah and all of those elements make dating a bit squishy for me.

I love the life I have now - I make decent scratch, have my own home, a wonderful doggie, lots of close friends and get to do my own damn thing whenever I want.

To scratch any itches, I have a friend with benefits situation and that works well for me right now. }(

[Pool Hall Ace]

53. May a married person crash this thread?

I always thought that I would never marry. It never seemed appealing; and no one was interested, anyway.

At the age of 42, I finally married. The man came into my life during my mother's illness. After her death, I purchased her home and he helped me fix it up. He asked me to marry him and move into his home in North Carolina. He said I didn't have to work! I thought it sounded like a great adventure!

Now, almost five years later, I have deep regrets. My husband is a heavy drinker. He is not that great of a business man. He has dumbasses working for him who constantly have grubby hands out for money. With the proceeds from the sale of my home, we purchased an RV. It spends more time sitting in a parking lot than going camping.

Then there's the whole drama with my meningioma, which is a whole 'nother story.

If you are happy to have never married, that's great! I would encourage you to stay that way. Marriage is highly, *highly* overrated. In fact, I feel that getting married is one of those things that the minority of us should do, just like having children.

I will be so happy once I am divorced. And the only vow I will make is to never marry again! :)