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WilliamPitt Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Mar-12-04 03:49 PM
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The Little Things
Edited on Fri Mar-12-04 04:19 PM by WilliamPitt
I just returned from what will be one of the last trips I will ever take in my life to the house I grew up in. My mom has owned the place since 1978, and I lived there from age seven to age 23, with a four-year blip for college. I pretty much moved out permanently when I moved to California after graduation. If I had any doubts that the place was no longer my permanent residence, they were cleared up when I returned home from California for Christmas to discover that my mom had painted my room a rather robust shade of pink.

Mom has been trying to sell this place for months - it's a great house in a great location, but the real estate market has been pretty flat - so I knew theoretically this day was looming. I was pretty psyched for it, actually. Like I said, it hasn't been my roost for a long time, and my mom really wanted to sell it, so when the call came that the papers had been signed, I celebrated with genuine joy.

I've been in and out of the place for several weeks now, cleaning up stuff and salvaging relics (I found my old tape case filled with my Grateful Dead shows from high school). Every time I went in, it was the same house with the same stuff, the same furniture, the walls hadn't moved, my old room was still frikkin' pink. We've changed the place several times over the years - taking back the attached apartment, renovating the kitchen, gutting the basement - but I was always either watching that happen or doing it myself, so the alterations were just part of the mental flow.

But today I went in and found two little things that had changed. I went down to the basement to throw some garbage in the garage and discovered a new bannister running down the basement steps. I got to the bottom of the steps and saw that the door to the garage was this brand new steel thing. Two little changes.

There had never been a bannister on those stairs before. For 26 years, the basement was like something out of Silence of the Lambs; bad lights, wet floors, rooms that were so totally haunted and therefore never entered into, whole divisions of spiders spinning webs. There was never a bannister. You just grabbed onto your ass and plunged and hoped the mosnter that lived in the darkness beyond the old laundry room was otherwise occupied. Mom had the place renovated, cleansed of spiders and monsters, but didn't put a bannister in. There's one there now.

The door to the garage used to be this rotten behemoth of a wooden door with a metal sheet hammered onto it to give the illusion of sturdiness. As a boy, it was a favorite avenue of entry of mine to kick this door open with a sailing Matrix-esqe karate blow. No wonder, then, that the damned thing has been hanging by one rotted screw for the last couple of months. Now, there's this grey steel door there. If I tried to kick that open, my leg would wind up getting jammed into my brain.

It's funny. You cannot comprehend how different the house is now from that first day I saw it in 1978. The outside and back yard have been re-done. The inside...gad zooks...the inside is a wee bit altered. When we got there, the owners had covered the whole house with this ghastly baby-poop-green shag carpet. We pulled up the carpet to find these gorgeous hardwood floors. Go figure. There were eleven layers of wallpaper on the walls, and nine layers of vinyl/asbestos tiles on the kitchen floor that had to be taken up with a chainsaw by guys in poison-precaution space suits. The kitchen itself was a late-1960s horror of dark brown wood and matching baby-poop-green countertops.

The fellow who lived there before us fancied himself a house renovator, and in his adventures with remodeling took down a bearing wall somewhere along the line. The stairs to the second floor, and the stairs to the basement, were slouching towards Bethlehem before we got them buttressed. At one point there had been a wood-burning stove in the kitchen with a stovepipe running up through the roof. The law says you have to take that stovepipe out when you take the stove out, but he didn't feel like it. He walled the pipe up, and put a Cool-Whip container at the bottom of the pipe to catch any errant rainwater that might come dribbling down. The workers who found this when they broke through that wall were, simply, in awe.

The best - the absolute, bull-moose, gold-medal-winning best - was the anchor. We were renovating the sun room (described below) and pulling up this godawful carpeting there. Under the carpet was this rubber red and black tiling. I kept pulling the rug up, and the tiling went on and on. In the center of the floor was a gaint circle of rubber tile. In the center of this circle was a giant rubber anchor made of the tile. To this day, I have no explanation for this phenomenon. There is a picture out there of this, with a little hand-written sign I wrote that has an arrow pointing to the floor and reading, "Yes. It's an anchor."

See, the new owners had some workers come in to do a little tinkering. They put in the bannister and the door. Two little things, but it isn't my house anymore. I was there for the other changes. Someone else was there for these.

I have a lot of personal history wrapped up in the walls of that place. I celebrated graduating from high school, and then college, in that place. I threw a couple of berzerk parties in that place. I courted the elusive highschoolis femalis in that place, with varying degrees of success. I got my driver's licence while living in that place, and recuperated from several car accidents (as a passenger, mind you) in that place. I dreamed a lot of dreams in that place, and a couple of them even came true.

But I have this secret, see. A mark of permanent ownership, if you will.

When my mom bought the place, it had an apartment attached to it. The apartment had been segmented off years ago for rental to B.C. grad students. In the summer before my senior year of college, and this would be 1994, my mother decided to break through the walls and reclaim the apartment as part of the house. We got a master bedroom, an office, another bathroom, a closet with a door to nowhere, a sun room and a kitchen out of the deal.

Our living room used to have two bookcases in the walls on either side of the fireplace. These became the doors to the sun room. Before the opening was all fixed up, I prepared a shoebox. In that shoebox I put the front page of the Boston Globe for that day, a pack of cigarettes and a lighter, a guitar pick, a mix tape I made, several other sundry items, and a note I wrote to whomever finds the thing. It was walled up when the construction was completed, and is there now, and will be there probably until someone decides to make that part of the house an apartment again.

Ten years and counting. I like the idea that it's there. Moving Day is this Wednesday, the 17th, also known as St. Patrick's Day. In Boston, March 17th is also called Evacuation Day, to commemorate the day in 1776 when British troops left the city forever.

Somehow, that seems appropriate.
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NightNurse Donating Member (222 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Mar-12-04 03:59 PM
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1. Dammit,Will! you Made Us Cry!
Truly...a genius little homily!O8)

Thanks!

See you in Philly:evilgrin:????
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GOPisEvil Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Mar-12-04 04:00 PM
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2. I think I would totally freak out if my parents sold their house.
It's been theirs since 1980. Their first house after nearly 18 years of marriage and military moves. Even though it's undergone some major changes since I moved out in 1994, it's still the same place. I remember my mom asking if I planned to keep the house after she and dad passed away. I told her that I couldn't bear to see that house without them in it. It would be too strange.

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VelmaD Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Mar-12-04 04:06 PM
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3. Wow
Edited on Fri Mar-12-04 04:08 PM by VelmaD
That was a lovely homage to home.

If my parents ever move out of the house I grew up in I don't know how I'd feel. Here...:hug:...just in case you need one. :)


P.S. I think you got something wrong on 1994 being the before your senior year of high school. *confused look*
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WilliamPitt Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Mar-12-04 04:19 PM
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4. Yikes
Fixed. Thanks.
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VelmaD Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Mar-12-04 04:22 PM
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5. Hee...I was wondering...
if there was something you forgot to mention about being held back 5 times in the 2nd grade. :-)
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nini Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Mar-12-04 04:25 PM
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6. I know how you feel.. my Mom sold the family house after 64 years
It was my grandparents house then my dad bought out his brothers when my grandparents died. It was built in 1924 or so and sold in '88.

The last few visits there were very sad. All the memories jumped out at us. The worn out grooves in the door from the laundry room to the kitchen wear the dogs used to scratch to get into the rest of the house. The plaster patches on the wall from one mishap or another. The crazy lightswitch on the outside of the bathroom. etc..


Then there were the pets buried in the back yard we had to leave also.

It was like losing a part of the family when it was turned over to the new owners. It was definitely not a house, but a home.

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Rainbowreflect Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Mar-12-04 04:38 PM
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7. I had problems when we had to go through my grandparent's home
to get it ready to sale.
We moved around a lot while I was growing up, but we spent summers at my grandparent's in the sandhills of Nebraska. That place always felt like home. The huge garden, the trees that were older than my grandfather's grandfather, the junk filled attic, the basement with all the canned goods, the smell of dill and the sound of mourning doves. I really miss them and that old house.
By the way, what Dead shows do you have????
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WilliamPitt Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Mar-12-04 04:50 PM
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8. More than you could possibly imagine
My CD bootleg collection is even better. :)
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Rainbowreflect Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Mar-12-04 05:07 PM
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9. I would sure like to get my hands on your list.
;-)
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WilliamPitt Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Mar-12-04 05:15 PM
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10. I have to find it
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fishnfla Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Mar-12-04 05:40 PM
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11. I've a secret too!!
My parents, in a pique of a middle aged crisis, moved out of our childhood home when I was away at college. Well, I had a stash hidden in a false ceiling in our basement, a coffee can full of pot seeds from cleaning dope. Sometimes, lying awake in the dark of night, I worry about that evidence. That and the porno mags up there with the can.
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WilliamPitt Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Mar-12-04 06:07 PM
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12. D'oh
If it were me, I'd be lying awake in the dark of night planning on a way to sneak into the house to rescue my stash.

But that's just me.
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Raven Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Mar-12-04 06:15 PM
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13. OK you little s**t, you've made me cry.
Now you have asked for it. What happened in that house? Well, the day we got there (you were in first of second grade) there was a little boy sitting on the front steps looking very sad because he had lost his best friend...the kid who had lived there. That little sad boy has been your best friend for years and his family was wonderful to us.

I passed the bar exam in that house and you aced your SATs.
I got a good job at a good law firm and you got into college.
You brought some really nice girlfriends to that house and I got divorced.
You got drunk with Andrew on the golf course across the street and I retaliated! Big time!
You began reading and writing in that house...enough said!
You learned to ride a bike on that street and I had my heart in my mouth.
You learned to drive a car on that street and I REALLY had my heart in my mouth.
You have the unending love and loyalty of Rose, our 90 year old neighbor, who watched over you as if you were her own.
You had dreams, made mistakes, had great victories, made decisions, cared for me and grew in that house...and for those reasons it will be very hard to leave it!
BUT...a young, very nice couple is buying it and they are expecting their first child in April...that makes me very happy! :-)
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fishnfla Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Mar-12-04 06:21 PM
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14. now I'm all choked up
sniff
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VelmaD Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Mar-12-04 06:21 PM
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15. Dammit Raven, now you made me cry
and smile at the same time. I can almost see Will as a little snot-nosed 7 year old meeting his best friend for the first time. :hug:

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WilliamPitt Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Mar-12-04 08:09 PM
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16. That's a good list
I left off the four burglaries and the guy who burned your car up in the driveway. That's for later, I guess. :)
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mlawson Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Mar-12-04 08:14 PM
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17. Been there, done that. But you will dream about the house for years,
or for the rest of your life, so get ready for that. I do about my parents' house, which I sold in 2002. They are both 'somewhere else' now, but I constantly dream that I walk in the house, and they are both there, just like it was, and they were. It helps a lot.
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Zomby Woof Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Mar-12-04 08:24 PM
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18. amazing memories
I cannot relate, having been a military brat, and averaging 2-3 years in homes we didn't even own... so to think back of living in the same house from 7 to 23 boggles my mind. No doubt the attachments are deep and strong, and may you hold them forever.
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mwdem Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Mar-12-04 08:33 PM
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19. What's really bad is when the house is bulldozed..
now, when I go back home, I can't even stand to go by the corner where my family lived: my aunt's house was suddenly gone last summer, my grandparent's house long gone, and my parents house totally gone. I grew up in the country in N.C., which is now very much the suburbs. The woods I used to wander through are gone, with houses covering the fields that used to sprout up with hay bales every fall. I know time goes on, but it's tough to go back and see what progress has done to our childhood. Will, at least the house is still standing. You're younger than I, and I hope your memories will always be intact.
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WilliamPitt Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Mar-12-04 11:39 PM
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23. Reminds me of Groose Point Blank
He discovers his house is now a convenience store.

"Who are you? What are you doing here?"

I can't imagine it.
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KoKo Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Mar-12-04 09:11 PM
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20. Well, Will...gotta say, here, that your Mom's doing what she's gotta do.
Edited on Fri Mar-12-04 09:32 PM by KoKo01
but....having had your experience where I went back home to the South and found my room painted "GREEN" and all my stuff moved out because "younger brother" wanted my "sunny South facing room as opposed to his cold "painter's light North facing room," I can sort of deal with you here.

When my daughter was born, I vowed to myself that even if I was "close to dead" she would always have her OWN ROOM to come home to. With her Pictures and Memories (seperate of us) there to give her a connection to her past where she could always have a kinship with where she had been.

Unfortunately, she doesn't want to remember or associate with "Her Past" in "Her ROOM" and can't in her "wildest dreams" understand why I've kept her room in her house as a mausoleum where she would "come back and get in touch with the person "she was."

So....gotta tell you here....I don't know what the hell we try to do as parents because even the most "sensitive" of us get it "TOTALLY WRONG."

I'm "Clueless" about this. But think that what "I" wanted as a "Refuge" really doesn't fit with "some" generations.

But, I tried. And, I'm glad that I will keep that place where my own Daughter will come home to, with "HER STUFF" and "HER THINGS" so that she knows that I love her. But, she doesn't think this means that "I Love Her." She thinks......"Mom want's to "Control Me" so she keeps my room the way it was!"

So..........WTF.....what do I know? I try to do this nice thing and get "TRASHED" for it? :shrug:

Take this for what you want.....We always love you...no matter what color we paint your room.

If you don't want to accept that...then I don't know what else to say about it..

ROFL.....so funny the time we spend anquishing on this stuff..on both ends.
edited: typos....which are probably still there..atrocious typo's ..ugh.
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KoKo Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Mar-12-04 10:00 PM
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21. Delted.
Edited on Fri Mar-12-04 10:15 PM by KoKo01
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KoKo Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Mar-12-04 10:18 PM
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22. Yikes......delete that other post.....I was replying to the wrong ..
whatever..........ugh.
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