do you love your mother?

[mopinko]

Poll question: do you love your mother?

my kids are either separated from me, or in the process. when i went through it, it never occurred to me that my mother was going through it, too. i don't suppose my kids think of that either.
i think hating your mother is often a part of separating. seems just like an instinctive part of the process.
anyway, it just got me to wondering how many people love/hate their mothers.

[lost-in-nj]

1. I love/loved my mom

she died in 2006 and I was her primary care giver for the last months of her life...
my daughter stepped up to the plate to and helped me

yea

I love and miss her



:hi:

lost

[flvegan]

2. I love my mom. I owe her everything.

[PeaceNikki]

4. This ^

She's the best and I wish every day that I could do for her a fraction of what she's done for me. I wish I could give her peace and comfort the way she gave me.

I've never hated her.

[The Velveteen Ocelot]

3. I always loved my mom.

She passed away four years ago at the age of 84, and I still miss her terribly.

[davsand]

5. I think it is a part of the process, Mo.

I think separating from Mom is a kind of process and as part of that process you go through a time when you have less contact with your mom. I don't think it is "hate" exactly, but more a matter of letting loose of her.

Somebody one time made the comment that their parents got a whole lot smarter in that 6 months right after they moved out of the house--and i think it is so funny just because it rings so true for us all.

:hug:


Laura

[mopinko]

8. that is true. i really hated mine for a while, and the sad thing is

it wasn't her that made the mess. my dad was the one who had fucked up badly, and made life so hard. she held us all together, and got us all through it. but she wouldn't let him go, because she knew he couldn't live without her.
i am sure it was quite painful for her to be in the middle. i was a brat, and i wish i could take it back. too late, tho.

[Xipe Totec]

6. Sonnet to my mother

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tgHtlIMXf5I

If I've not returned, it's not because I've forgotten
your scent of thyme and kitchen
they say you can see more clearly from afar
and it's not the same to walk than to wander.

I have learned that love has green eyes
and a deck of cards has four suits
that what is lost never returns
and the tide rises and then falls.

And I learned that simple is not the same as stupid
and price and value are not the same
and any dish can be a feast
when the horizon is light and the road is a kiss

If I've not returned, it's not because I've forgotten
It's only because I've lost the way home,
Mama.


- Joan Manuel Serrat

[Kali]

7. My Mom was a saint.

she sucked up the whole family's toxic BS, NEVER said a bad word about anybody, got breast cancer and died

I miss her every day.

[GreenPartyVoter]

10. I miss mine too. :^(

[latebloomer]

9. Yes, ambivalently

She drives me nuts but we are close and I know I'll miss her terribly when she goes.

[KamaAina]

11. Other: She just visited for two weeks and we have a scheduled weekly phone call.

rescheduled to Thursday this week for the Kamehameha Day holiday. :-)

[littlebit]

12. I love my mom.

I live 1500 miles away from her but I still talk to her at least four times a week.

[PassingFair]

13. My mother lives across the street from me.

She drives EVERYONE in my house NUTS...

but I still love her.

She constantly needs attention and validation
and that is what drives everyone crazy.

My father's last words to us kids were:

"Rally around your mother, take care of her."

I mean to do it.

[Drunken Irishman]

20. Ray Barone, that you?

[PassingFair]

37. Well....everyone DOES love me.

but I have no freeper spouse!

[abq e streeter]

14. Yes , very much so; she died of breast cancer 40 years ago when I was 17

and I say prayers every single night asking forgiveness for not being there for her more than I was.

[Swede]

15. I love her very much.

It's coming three years,since she passed away.

[NMDemDist2]

16. my mom was a mess, i don't hate her

but I cut all ties with her years ago

[BarenakedLady]

17. I love my mom but we aren't as close as we used to be.

[Bryan]

18. I love my mother. She has always been there for me.

She has a lot of chronic health problems, so I'm very grateful that she's still a vital presence in my life. If I am generous, curious, patient, affectionate, or sanguine in the face of disappointments, it is because of her influence.

[Drunken Irishman]

19. I see my mom every day.

Well unless I'm out of town.

[SeattleGirl]

21. I love my mother

And I miss her like mad every day of my life.

[ohheckyeah]

22. I've always loved my mom

and don't remember a time of hating her. I got mad at her sometimes but never hated her. She's 82 and if she lives another 20 years I still wouldn't be ready for her to be gone. We talk every day and I take her out to lunch and shopping 2 - 4 times a month.

[GoddessOfGuinness]

23. I love her even though she drives me nuts sometimes.

She loves me even though I drive her nuts sometimes.

[chknltl]

24. Answer: Of course, and I do miss her so!

nuff said

[Jeep789]

25. I am really lucky. Mine told me that I am her best friend

And she is mine also. There was a short time that I didn't realize how great she was and we still have differences on occasion ... but gawd I love that woman and am thankful for every moment I have with her.

[old mark]

26. I went through the usual adolescent thing witn mom, but we were

always close before and after that.
She died in '83, and I still want to call her sometimes and tell her about something I know would interest her.

mark

[Pool Hall Ace]

27. My mom was really cool.

She wasn't perfect, but then again, neither am I. Who is? :)

I love her, and think about her every single day! :)

[meow2u3]

28. My mom passed away 6 years ago

When I was a teen and in my 20's (my college years--I attended as a nontraditional adult student), I hated her. She forever tried to tell me how to live my life!! When I was in my 30's, I found out she was right most of the time. I became close to her, all right--I lived with her, until the day she died when I was 42. I had to watch her drop dead when I tried to get her to the hospital. Problem was, she gave me everything except what I really needed--life (survival) skills.

[bigwillq]

29. I love my mommy!

:)

[Midlodemocrat]

30. I adored her. She was funny, kind, smart, everything I aspire to be.

I miss her terribly and would give just about anything for one more day with her.

[dropkickpa]

31. I love my mom. She is a GOOD person, but not a nice person

And yes, that is very possible. She makes me insane and spending more than 20 minutes with her is trying, but I see her at least 3x a week and talk almost every day.

[Bertha Venation]

32. She died when I was eleven years old.

I feel neutral about her now. For years I hated her, reviled her, cursed her and spit upon her grave. I've worked all that out and have forgiven her. But I have no love for her. And I don't miss her. And my life is better than it would have been if she were alive for the past 34 1/2 years.

[mopinko]

33. a very interesting poll. thanks

to all of you who responded.

[MissMillie]

34. my mother is my rock, my confidant, my best friend

I don't even want to begin to imagine a day without her.

If I could be half the person she is, I would consider myself a great success.

Mom, words could NEVER truly express what you mean to me.

[Smuckies]

35. Yes, absolutely...

I dread the day that she may not be here anymore...my life will never be the same.

[jeff30997]

36. My Mom is a saint...

And anybody saying otherwise will end up sleeping with the fishes.Capiche?



:P

[mopinko]

38. best reply in the thread.

very interesting thread, tho. glad to see so many appreciate mom.

[mitchum]

39. Of course, she thinks I hung the moon

[Digit]

40. My mom passed in 1998 and I miss her dearly

Everyone who met my mom loved her. She just had that quality about her.
She was a tiny little German lady who became an American when she arrived on these shores just after WWII and worked hard her entire life.
Are there things I wish she had done differently, yes, as she was not there for me when I was young.
But she WAS there for me as a young woman and she was my safety net.

[Mythsaje]

41. I don't have one. Never did.

Well, for the first few months, then no.