Everytime I meet up with the ex for a friendly lunch or coffee

[UndertheOcean]

she opens old wounds and blames me for everything not working out . Why do I do that to myself ? We miss each other sometimes and a quick meet up seems benign , but I end up being blamed , while I never hit back .

The solution is severing all connection . But that is hard , for both of us.

[HopeHoops]

1. Next time, loudly announce that you faked all of your orgasms.

That will

1) confuse the fuck out of her
2) embarrass the piss out of her
3) shut her up

[UndertheOcean]

2. Ha , but for men , it is almost impossible to fake an Orgasm

Trying to fake an Orgasm will CAUSE an Orgasm . Men have it easy with the big O.

[HopeHoops]

3. That's the "confuse the fuck out of her" part.

Which directly contributes to the "shut her up" part.

[Ikonoklast]

4. The problem is she's using the 'friendly lunch or coffee' to kick you in the nuts.

Time to stop it.

Don't do it anymore.

Time to move on, and let the past be past.

[Roon]

5. It wasn't until my ex moved out of state that I realized I was over him

We used to meet up all the time,but it's been about 5 years since I last saw him.

[UndertheOcean]

6. sigh , The human heart is such a mess.

We get too attached sometimes , even when it is not good for us.

[skygazer]

7. Do you miss who she is or who you wanted her to be?

Because it seems that you're just reliving all the reasons she's your ex when you meet. Sure, severing connections is hard but that's what breaking up is. Seems like it's time to break up completely.

[vadawg]

8. okay heres how you do it

1 hire a stripper or exotic dancer to just sit there and say nothing but introduce her as your new russian/czech etc wife, do nothing but talk about new mail order bride and her fabulous ways. Guarenteed you will never hear from ex again and you can get on with life....

[Madrone]

9. Dr.! Dr! Please help, tell me what to do!

Every time I poke myself in the eye I'm in excruciating pain!

;)


No advice, but my sympathy to you. You already know the answer.

[NJmaverick]

10. Seems like you know what you need to do

I hope you find the strength to do it. For both of you

[NNadir]

11. That's funny, because I blame you as well.

The fact that I don't know anything about you makes me even more certain that I am right.

It's all your fault.

If it makes you feel any better, you may use this smiley to whack me, thus finally feeling as if you hit back: :spank:

[Quantess]

12. Have you checked out the forums on

www.enotalone.com ? That's a busy discussion board for people with relationship snafus of all sorts.

[quiet.american]

13. Let go. Just let go. nt