I got a divorce for Christmas - Top that!

[Crazy Dave]

:P

[PassingFair]

1. Was it on your list?

Or were you simply naughty?

[Skittles]

2. fresh start, Dave

get ready to start dating in the new year; yes INDEED

[Crazy Dave]

6. I actually told somebody that today

"a new life and journey begins"

This is my 2nd and no kids this time so it really hasn't got me down as much as it should I guess.

[Joe Fields]

23. I have decided to wait until the new year to have the papers delivered

to my soon to be ex. I didn't feel that her birthday, (the 9th of Dec. or Christmas ) was the appropriate time.

But very soon.

[hippywife]

3. I hope it was something you wanted

and not just a sad stocking stuffer.

Dance with me, Dave! :rofl:

[Crazy Dave]

7. Didn't want it but...

It was her choice to leave so now I don't want her back.

[hippywife]

8. Greener pastures straight ahead. No looking back.

I wish you happiness in your new life. :hug:

[Crazy Dave]

10. As bad as it sounds to some...

I am actually looking forward to my new future.

Thanks :hi:

[Pool Hall Ace]

17. Oh shit!! I'm so sorry.

Is there a "foot in the mouth" smiley? Sorry. :hug:

[Crazy Dave]

20. Oh no problem at all

It was 100% her choice to leave and she walked out so that's pretty much a deal breaker for me. I didn't want it, didn't see it coming but since it did, I just want to hurry up, get the divorce and move on :hi:

[safeinOhio]

40. Got my papers in the mail on

Dec 23 2006. Didn't know they were coming. When I got married 3 years earlier, I had swore I wouldn't divorce her. I was married until the end of time. Then, like Meat loaf, I was praying for the end of time. By the Lights of the Dash Board has been my favorite song ever since. Best that could have happened. Congrats and

never, never marry a Cop.

[Curmudgeoness]

4. The best/worst gift you can get. I'll drink to that.

:toast:




I really do feel bad, I hate to see a love die.

[Pool Hall Ace]

5. green w/envy here.

Congratulations!! :party:

[Crazy Dave]

9. The legal anniversary is actually tomorrow

My lawyer can't (won't) file the papers until the first week in January.

[Haole Girl]

11. I read your "stop talking to mother-in-law"

:hug:

[Pool Hall Ace]

18. So you know why I was so happy at first for Crazy Dave.

I treasure every moment that I don't have to spend with my wackaloon that I forgot that some people don't want to get divorced.

*sigh* . . . relationships. :-\

[mike_c]

12. OK....

I got mine for christmas SIX YEARS AGO.

Unfortunately, my SO, whom I actually love dearly, dumped me THIS christmas. Shit.

[dawg]

14. Tell me it gets better.

Hope you're over the worst of it by now.

[mike_c]

15. OMG, the sense of relief was PALPABLE....

Six years ago, I mean. That was a bad relationship. I STILL get a happy feeling when I realize that it's really over.

Now the girlfriend, that's a different matter. First relationship since the divorce, and we've been living together for the last year and a half. She's having some emotional difficulties right now-- her youngest son is about to go to Afghanistan, for starters-- but I have never known anyone I've been as compatible with, or felt as close to, ever. And she dumped me yesterday, hard. Made it pretty clear that going back isn't a likely option. We've been friends for 40 years, literally, so I'm hoping we can preserve that, at least.

Best of luck to you. I'm done with this shit.

[dawg]

16. Best of luck to you, too.

I know exactly what you mean by, "I'm done with this shit."

But I'm not done. Not just yet. (I hope!)

[WinkyDink]

36. Wow. Christmas, no less. ((mike_c}}

[dawg]

13. I'm gonna have to get me one of those soon ...

.. and I sooooo don't want to. But she really isn't giving me any other choice.


And I'm such a great guy! What's her problem, anyway? :)

[kimi]

19. Nope, I cannot top that.

But, as long as we're talking bad relationships and their outcomes (and not to take away from your news, really!) I got the news that the guy I was seeing is still in love with the chick who dumped him 3 years ago.

He thought it would be helpful for me to know this. And cannot seem to understand why this is a bit upsetting to me.

Arghh!

I do hope that your new life works out, Crazy Dave. And I don't think you sound like you're so crazy, either. This might be a breakthrough for sanity for ya! :)

[Crazy Dave]

21. Thanks Kimi

I was in a similar situation once with an ex girlfriend. One of her ex boyfriends wanted to get back together with her and was really going all out of his way to do so. She told me, "I really care for both of you and don't know who I want to be with" so I told her that since she couldn't make up her mind I would help do it for her and then told her not to call me anymore :)

[kimi]

22. Thank YOU

It helps to know that we aren't alone in these matters of the heart, yeah?

I'd really invested myself with this guy, it was my first real "thing" since my big break-up with my husband of umpteen years. And I had no clue till he told me, when he was sort of drunk and wanting to be "honest". Which I guess is good, in the long run. Still, this is a woman who he admits will never have anything to do with him again, so it flummoxes me how he can turn his back on possibilities.

Eh, how do you make sense of it all, sometimes? In the end, knowing that others are facing similar stuff does make it more bearable.

Cheers to your new life! :toast: 2011 will be a good one, I'm thinking!

[seabeyond]

24. ya, but sometimes those drunk confessions are nothing but emotional garbage

that means little in RL. i can see getting drunk and then go on and on about a past. and in lite of day, it isnt really sittin there.

best to you on this. a consideration

[dawg]

30. I don't know, kimi ...

maybe he's hopeless; maybe not. I was (am?) really in love with my wife before she broke my heart. Now, my emotions are all over the place. If I had a great lady like you in my life, I can easily see myself saying something stupid like that while under the influence. (Luckily, I'm not much of a drinker.)

But that might just be how he was feeling *that* night. Most of the time he might be feeling that you might be the one. I don't know. But I sure can tell you that *my* heart goes back and forth right now, depending on the day. One minute, I'm hoping for a miracle reunion with her. The next, I'm hoping for someone new. The next, I'm thinking "to hell with all this shit!" - my kids are enough for me.

[Iggo]

25. LOL...'Honey, I'm in love with another woman.'

"Wait. Why are you so upset? See? This is why I never tell you stuff!"

:rofl:

[seabeyond]

27. lol. i know. so true. nt

[ZombieHorde]

26. ...

:hug:

[lukasahero]

28. My divorce was final on 2/14

I always thought that was appropriate. (Of course, I initiated the divorce so it worked for me. If you didn't, I am sorry.)

[blondeatlast]

29. Me too--I didn't want it, though; I'm devastated. nt

[dawg]

31. "Devastated" is the right word to use.

Speaking as someone who was so much in love, it's like ashes are all that remain of me. But out of the ashes comes something new. We will continue to learn and grow.

Some people must break their marriages in order to end terrible situations that cannot be abided. In other situations, couples grow apart. In the saddest of cases, people throw away a pearl, devastaing the pearl, but devastating themselves even moreso, although they may not realize it for years.

Good men and women of character are rare commodities these days.

[seabeyond]

32. i hope not

Good men and women of character are rare commodities these days.


i am not a real people person, and over last couple years, really isolated myself much more than usual, but, i hope this isnt true. it feels like it thru the net, hearing so many stories and attitudes. i am not concerned about me, but i think about my sons that are teenagers and how finding someone with character, integrity, decency might be a bet more of a challenge than in the past.

i hope it is just interacting on the net that leaves that impression

hey

happy holidays to you

[blondeatlast]

34. I'm relieved, I took my maiden name back, but I'm grieving indeed.

The situation is horrible for my kid; his dad lives and works in the Czech Republic and he's chosen to stay here with me--but we're doing well and this too shall pass.

Thanks for the kindness--in the midst of my pain, I'm amazed at the love and concern people are offering me. there really are good people in the world.

[gmoney]

33. Woody Allen said it best, as usual...

"My wife and I pondered for a while whether to take a vacation or get a divorce. We decided that a trip to Bermuda is over in two weeks, but a divorce is something you always have."
- Woody Allen

[underpants]

42. "You are a fantastic lover"

"Thanks ... I uh... practice a lot when I am by myself"

[rbnyc]

35. That's expensive!

I was close to getting the same thing, but we're working it out.

Hope it all turns out for the best for everyone.

[Initech]

37. I can top that - I had nasal surgery!

[Manifestor_of_Light]

38. Good luck, Dave!!

I've been divorced twice from men who did not take marriage seriously, and would not go to counseling or change, so there was no solution other than divorce.

Some people don't understand that you cannot make the other person like you or love you or respect you.

[RandomThoughts]

39. Yea, that is a big problem

The saying let something go, if it returns then it loves you, is really true.

Someone in your prison can never love you, sometimes they can appease you, but can never love you. It goes against the concept of love having to be freely given, and why I think free will exist in the first place.

Also why I don't believe in slavery, and have the highest respect for those that share many acts of love just for loves sake, not for control.

[valerief]

41. Good for you! Everyone should have at least one divorce under their belt. nt

[WinkyDink]

43. That's often where they start.

[EnviroBat]

44. The woman who walked out on me back in July

Was writing to me just before Christmas, telling me that she made the biggest mistake of her life, and she still loves me, and I'm her "soul-mate". She is living in a single-wide trailer home with her ex-husband who is a useless piece of crap. She knows I'm with a new lady now and things are going great for me. I guess Karma was my greatest Christmas gift this year!

[Crazy Dave]

45. That's usually how it goes

None of my ex's ever wanted to see me or have anything to do with me until they found out I was seeing someone new. I've had two different ones get near violence with me as they thought it was their God given right to get back together with me whenever they wanted to and that I was obligated to accept.

"How dare you go out and find another girlfriend while I'm still trying to decide on which direction I need to go in my life!"

[EnviroBat]

46. Part of me feels really sorry for her.

But that part of me isn't willing to screw up something really good in my life so I can take her back and take care of her ass again. She's HIS problem now. She tried to tell me that she has cancer, and that she left so she wouldn't be a "burden to me". Ain't THAT some shit?

[Crazy Dave]

47. That is some shit and my 1st ex wife tried almost the same thing

Her's was a brain tumor. Is there a manual that they read for this stuff?

BTW - It's 19 years later so she has apparently self healed herself from the brain tumor.

[EnviroBat]

48. Odd huh?

I think the jury is still out, and not likely to return. One of the "red flags" was that she asked me not to contact anyone in her family and tell them about it, not even her mother. Seems odd that she wouldn't want her mother to know that she had the same type of cancer that we watched almost take her mother out. Fortunately she survived. But to use a horrible disease to play on someones sympathies when you don't actually have said disease is lower than maggot shit in my book.

[meegbear]

49. A $20 WalMart Gift Card ...

IN YOUR FACE!

[GalleryGod]

52. Got a $50 Visa gift card from a Brother who hates me...

Guess I'll go MIS-spend it somewhere today!:puke:

[bluedigger]

50. Nice!

Free to get on with your life again! My divorce was final on my birthday 22 years ago - still the best present ever.

[whogasa736]

51. The world is full of Beautiful

and Terrific women. And the problem is? _____