ok I had the wierdest afternoon with my mom

[backwoodsbob]

She left my dad when I was 15..justified.

I always got along with her new husband *nice guy*...died last year.I always thought he was the guy my dad should have been to her.He was a saint to my mom.Loved him like a father.

She was telling me stuff today that made me VERY uncomfortable.Like sexual stuff between them.

Ilike that my mom can open up to me but I don't want to hear about her sex life.

How do you handle that?

[WillParkinson]

1. Maybe she wants you to tell her about yours!

Compare notes and all. :)

To be honest, maybe she is just lonely and needed to talk about it and you were the closest ears she trusted.

[DawgHouse]

2. I would say, "Mom, I would rather not hear about your sex life."

Maybe acknowledge that you understand her need to talk and share but you're just not comfortable with that particular subject. Hopefully she has other friends she can talk to.

[emilyg]

3. Sounds lonely. Listen to her.

[Flaxbee]

4. Is this the first time she's talked to you like that?

How old is she (if I may ask)? She could be lonely, or she could be depressed, or she could have some early signs of senility (I hate to say this to you ... but when my grandmother started getting a little fuzzy, one of the first things we noticed was that she would talk about things with us she would normally have been mortified to discuss with anyone, let alone her grandkids).

If that isn't a concern, just tell her you love her, but that you don't feel comfortable learning about the intimacies of their marriage - some things are sacred. If she is lonely, if he was her best friend, too, and she's lost not only her spouse but closest friend, she may need some grief counseling, some therapy, etc.

[Kaleva]

5. I know an elderly widow who had a small stroke.

She went from an an average, nondescript, elderly lady to one that loved to talk about sex.

It is almost like her stroke turned off an inhibition switch in her mind. She may have had sexy thoughts all her adult life but refrained from expressing them. After the stroke, she would just say whatever in explicit detail.

I still do work for her from time to time and she's nice and pleasant as always. I just prepare myself for the unexpected before going there.