I thought about calling my mom last night

[ashling]

Occasionally I think about giving her a call ... sometimes to ask about her opinion or about how she felt about things when she was my age. That's when it hits me, though I am 59, she never made it to my age. She died of cancer when she was 56. At 21, was standing at the foot of her bed as she drew her last painful breath. Of course we all had known for a few years what the end would be, and there was some time - never long enough - to be with her and let her know how I felt about her. Of course, she knew anyway; mom's always know. I suppose she knows now ... somehow ... but I still wish I could call and tell her how much I love her.

So I have just one thing to ask of all my DU friends: Call your mother!

[MrsBrady]

1. i did today!

:hug:

[marzipanni]

2. Like you, I can only call mine in spirit

She died in June last year, and though she was 95 we still had great conversations on the phone at least once a week. Sometimes we'd say we should have written things down between calls that we wanted to ask or tell each other...
I often think of something to ask or tell her, and just say to the air, "I miss you Mom!"

[Rhiannon12866]

3. That was what I wanted to say to you when I first saw your OP.

I lost my mother a month ago, tomorrow. It was an accident, so it's still so unbelievable. I am so sorry that you lost your Mom, and I can understand. I keep thinking of things that I need/meant to ask my mother. I share your advice, call your mother while you can... ;( :hug:

[ashling]

4. Thank you, Rhiannon

As I am sorry for your loss ... it has been nearly 40 years for me: the cut is still deep, but the shock has lessened with time. :hug:

[Rhiannon12866]

17. You're more than welcome.

I don't think this is the kind of thing that you ever really get over. I still miss my Dad a whole lot and I lost him in 1990. I've found myself wishing that he was here to help me deal with this. ;( :hug:

[blueamy66]

5. I can so relate.

My Mom was about the same age as yours when she passed. I miss her terribly.

Sometimes life sucks. She didn't get to see her great grandkids, who are absolutely adorable....strong woman, full of life...never got to meet my guy......but her memory will live on....but I will let the little ones know...

be strong

:-(

[zanana1]

6. There are times when I still get up to call her...

My mother died of Alzheimer's six years ago, but we were best friends and every once in a while, I'll want to tell her something. Isn't it strange that you can go through all that mourning for someone and still have a spiritual connection to them? In the back of my mind, she's still very much alive.

[GreenPartyVoter]

7. I know exactly what you mean. Still think about talking to my parents too. *hugs*

[elleng]

8. I do, I call my 2 moms often, in my heart.

My 'birth mom' passed when I was 8, and my adopted mom passed 2 years ago. My daughters and I often discuss what the grandmom they knew would do, in certain situations, and that she was 'with' us at daughter's recent wedding. I wore a pin my dad gave my 'birth' mom, maybe as an engagement gift, at daughter's wedding.

Wish my daughters and I were closer geographically now, but the 'industrial revolution' has changed everything.

[JitterbugPerfume]

9. Nothing warms my heart like

a phone call from one of my children(or grandchildren)

CALL YOUR MOM or GRANDMOTHER!!

[nolabear]

10. I understand. I was in the same situation only much younger.

Not having a mother is strange. I'd say "hard" but I was only 13 so kind of don't know what I'm missing. But I imagine it would have been much different to have someone in that "mother" spot.

I'm sorry for your loss, even after a long time.

[ashling]

11. I had wondered if I was the only one

who did this or still thought about his parents that way after so long. I've always been super sensitive and sentimental about stuff. I still have mom's cedar chest with all the stuff that was in it. I have no idea about some of the pictures and things, but I still have both parents high school and college diplomas, etc. My mom's Red Cross pins and buttons from WWI and my dad's lieutenant bars, dog tags, etc.

[The Velveteen Ocelot]

12. Sometimes when I'm out shopping

I'll see something and I'll think for just an instant, "Oh, Mom would love that, I should get it for her," and then I remember that she's been gone for 6 years and I choke up a little. Or I see a program on PBS about history or railroads, things that my Dad was interested in, and I think, "I have to call Dad and tell him to turn on the TV," and then I remember he's been gone since April. And that chokes me up, too. Both of my parents were quite elderly and in poor health, so their passing was not unexpected, but when I think of them and how much I want to talk to them again...

I know exactly what you mean.

[ashling]

13. Exactly !

I guess I'll always do that

[givemebackmycountry]

14. I took my Mom to dinner last night. (Ok it was Chili's, but I have her hooked on Margaritas).

She will be 80 on November 3rd.

So we go to Chili's and I order us a couple of top shelf Margaritas.
She's eating and we're chattering back and forth and all of a sudden she has another Margarita in front of her.
Feeling like I missed something I say, "Did they hook you up with another drink?"
"Yeah" she says. "The waitress said it was drinking hour"
"Drinking hour? You sure you don't mean Happy Hour?"
"Oh, Yeah, That too" as she takes a big sip.
"I love the salt" she says.

I'm 56, and I'm pounding Margaritas with my 80 year old Mom.
How cool is that?

[femmocrat]

15. I used to call my mother every Sunday night.

She would talk, talk, talk..... How I miss her.

[WinkyDink]

16. {{{ashling}}}

[KC]

18. I lost

my Dad 17 years ago and I miss him everyday. I would give anything to be able to talk to him and give him one more hug.
I don't think it will ever be any different. He was my best friend.

[ashling]

19. My dad died in '98

I had seen him in October and when we went for Thanksgiving he was in the hospital with pneumonia. He died on the 28th,

[KC]

25. We just never

know when someone we love will be taken away from us. I'm so thankful that I was able to
say goodbye to my Dad. I will never forgot our last minutes together either.

[TuxedoKat]

24. Me too

my dad was my best friend and role model too.

[rurallib]

20. My mother was 6 when she died, aloso. I was 24 or so

sat next to her as drew her last breath.
Yet oddly, I never really missed her much. Guess I never really got to know her well.
Sadly, most of my life I watched she and my father slowly kill themselves with Pall Mall cigarettes and any liquor they could get their hands on.
Both died of lung cancer. Father died at 61 - an age I just passed.

[texanwitch]

21. Both my parents died last year, both 88 years old.

Both were ill, so not unexpected.

I quess I miss them, still new to this.

The stress I was under dealing with them is just going away.

A very wise older woman told me that I will miss them in time, just give it some time.

I did have some good memories of them toward the end, that will help.

I hope both of them are at peace.

[tk2kewl]

22. Nice post and a shame it can't be rec'd

:grouphug: We should have many more mothers working in Washington.

[sinkingfeeling]

23. I talked to my mom last night. She is in an assisted-living facility in Florida and will be 93 in

December.