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We don't know her but she is only one year younger than my kid. She was very smart and accomplished and an athlete and pretty. 11th grade, the toughest year in school. I don't ask anything for my family. I am keeping a close watch on my kid's emotions over the coming weeks We are, I think, okay, just really shocked and shaken up.
But for this young lady's little brother and her other family and her friends, and her teachers who might blame themselves for not doing something, I ask your thoughts and/or prayers. May not have anything to do with it, but this is a very rigorous college prep school. Kids go to the highest rated colleges from there. They win national awards. They all take school very seriously. My kid is much less that way, works hard but is very balanced. Effort matters more in our household than grades and rankings. .
Over the last few weeks I've been obsessing about college admissions but I am reminded now that there are things much more important than that. If whatever happened to this poor girl is the price of success, it's not worth it to me anymore. I have to step back and have faith that things will work out. They will if we define success by our own terms. I'd rather have a kid content and at peace within, feeling loved and often joy, than a trophy child who cannot stand to go on living.
She was so young. I could not survive this if it was my kid. Can you imagine?
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