I'm getting married next Saturday.

[Tobin S.]

Some of the guys at work tell me I'm crazy. I tell them I know that, but what does that have to do with getting married? ;)

Seriously, I hope that I don't get to be cynical about married life as the years pass. I'm 39 and I've never been married. Neither has my fiance. We've lived together for a year. I told her that we are actually already married, we just haven't gone through the formalities yet. One guy told me that after the marriage license gets signed things change no matter how long you've been with your partner. But I think he was insinuating struggles with money matters. I think we've got that sorted out.

So the invitations have been sent, the catering is set up, we have the marriage license, the rings have long been bought, and we have the proper attire. I now own a suit for the first time in my life. Now I just have to get over this stage fright and practice my best wedding day kiss and I'll be ready to do this deal. But it's going to happen anyway ready or not. Wish us luck!

[Tuesday Afternoon]

1. congratulations Tobin and best wishes for a long and happy life together

:toast: :party: :toast:

[kayakjohnny]

2. Congratulations!

Don't listen to anyone but yourself. If you know it's right, it's right.

Good luck!:toast: :hi:

[seabeyond]

3. marriage has worked for us. it is what we make of it. i thought you had already married

living in sin... rolling, geesh. make an honest man of you.

teasin

congrats. it is a good thing

[NV Whino]

4. Congrats, Tobin!

Marriage is always a work in progress. But, I think you understand that.

[GreenPartyVoter]

5. So exciting! Congrats to you both! *hugs*

[Lil Missy]

6. Congratulations!

[Tikki]

7. Congratulations, you two....

And luck and more...a life-time of sharing and caring....


The Tikkis

[auntAgonist]

8. Best wishes to you both Tobin!

I wish we could be there to witness this happy milestone in your life.


dinner get-together soon I hope.

All the best from the Man and Me.

aA
kesha

[JohnnyLib2]

9. Congratulations and best wishes.

Sometimes I suspect a lot of long-married people gripe just because it's the thing to do, easy conversation.
Enjoy the togetherness and sense of commitment....

[struggle4progress]

10. cool!

:bounce: :bounce: :bounce:

[rug]

11. Don't ler her mush cake in your face.

And it's Guy Fawkes Day!

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/November_5

Congratulations!

[Tobin S.]

12. When we got engaged

Jen told me that if I smash cake in her face we are getting an immediate divorce. :)

[madmom]

13. Congrats! Don't listen to other peoples "opinions" on marriage, it is what you

make of it. There will be good times as well as bad times, but all in all it is what you make it out to be, you have to work at it all the time, speaking from 38 years of experience.

[WillParkinson]

14. Congrats to you both...

When Paul and I got together people said we'd be looking for new partners within 6 months.

We got married on April 1st so that every year that passed would make them bigger fools. That was 24 years and some change ago. Who's laughing now?

[elleng]

15. Great extension of the saga we've attended to for all these (how many?) years!!!

:applause:

You'll tell us about the honeymoon after you return, right? With pictures!

[Tobin S.]

16. We'll try to remember to bring our cameras

We are going to Tybee Island, just outside of Savannah, Georgia.

[riderinthestorm]

17. Please promise to post pictures?! Wish we all could be there but please know we're there in spirit!

How exciting! Congratulations!!

[nolabear]

18. How wonderful!! Can DU Skype in?

I'm kidding but you know that we here don't think you're crazy at all to marry your love. It's a delight following your dreams coming true.

Been married myself for almost 28 years and love him like nobody's business. I wish the same for you two.

[HopeHoops]

19. UNLIMITED FREE NOOKIE!

:bounce: :bounce: :toast: :party: :evilgrin: :smoke: :beer: :grouphug: :pals: :fistbump: :headbang: :yourock: :woohoo: :applause: :hide: :popcorn: :yoiks:

[Chan790]

20. Congrats Tobin! n/t

[csziggy]

21. Congratulations!

And yes, having that license can change things. It confirms the commitment since neither of you can simply walk away from the relationship. But if you have made it this far, neither of you intend to simply walk away.

[MiddleFingerMom]

22. OH, HAPPY DAY!!!!

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I think you both appreciate your life together and how lucky you are to
have found each other.
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I also think you both have a fantastic grasp on idealism AND pragmatism.
I don't see either one of you becoming jaded -- you both present a sort
of never-ending appreciation of life in general... and of each other in
particular.
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I have faith that you'll both just accept your happiness AND work at it.
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I don't think either one of you will become jaded about it -- on the
contrary, I bet you'll just appreciate each other more and more with
each passing day/week/month/year/decade.
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Your happiness had made ME (and lotsa other folks) happy.
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[TuxedoKat]

23. Ah, congratulations

Sounds like you both know what you are doing and have thought things out carefully, just tell yourself that and you'll be fine. Hope you will both be very happy. Hugs to you both. :)

[CaliforniaPeggy]

24. My dear Tobin and Jen!

I cannot really express how thrilled I am for you both!

I know you'll be happy........forever...

There will be struggles and quarrels, but you love and respect each other, and everything will work out.

Congratulations to you both!

:grouphug:

[snacker]

25. Congratulations

and best wishes for a lifetime of happiness!

[hunter]

26. Congratulations!!!

:applause:

[mzteris]

27. Congratulations!

It couldn't happen to a nicer guy.

She better treat you right or she'll have all of DU all over her!! :) You're one our favorites, you know.

(Keep the stories coming, too...)

[La Lioness Priyanka]

28. very happy for you.

:cheers:

[DFW]

29. "we just haven't gone through the formalities yet"

Exactly the same words my wife and I used.

We met in 1974, got invited to our own wedding by my brother (who had the time?), and had a double wedding
in Washington (neutral ground, as my wife is from Germany and his is from Japan) in 1982.

We are still very happily together. No time limit or schedule on happiness. Don't let anyone tell you otherwise.

[WinkyDink]

30. BEST of luck, Tobin S.!! Have a grand wedding day!

[siligut]

31. Congratulations, so glad you two found each other

You two deserve to be happy.

[lunatica]

32. Well she's the love of your life so of course you two should get married!

[LeftishBrit]

33. Congratulations to you both!

Best wishes for a long and happy future together!

[LibertyLover]

34. I got married for the first (and so far only) time at 45

All the best wishes to you and your intended. Hint on the wedding day kiss: passionate, but no tongue.

[applegrove]

35. All my best to you two.

[rurallib]

36. Here's to you and Jen!

:toast: :toast: :toast: :party:

[Kali]

37. OH OH OH!!!

is it already here? wow the time is flying eh? Congratulations you two, have fun! Don't stress, anything that goes off plan will be the best things you remember! I'm so happy for you guys! Hope if you ever get on the road this direction you will stop by!

[fizzgig]

38. have fun!

the ceremony, at least for me, was a very surreal experience. had a blast, though :)

may you two have many years of love, health and happiness together.

[MilesColtrane]

39. Mazel Tov, my friend!

[abq e streeter]

40. Reading this put a great big smile on my face. I'm so very very happy for both of you.

:toast:

[krispos42]

41. Congrats and good blessings

I was very happy being married. And contrary to common wisdom, it didn't make the intimacy suffer. ;-)


Now I'm happily divorced, but that's after she went off her rocker.

[Dystopian]

42. Happy Congratulations!

Tobin ...
I, we, know your life...
This is all so beautiful....
The time is now...

Has it not been a long road? .... a happy ending to a precious lifelong beginning ...
Joy!

Wishing you and Jen a life filled with peace and love...

[BiggJawn]

43. Best of luck to you and the future Spousal Unit!

[Iggo]

44. Yikes!

And Congratulations!!!!!

[KT2000]

45. Good luck and

best wishes to you both!

[Starbucks Anarchist]

46. Congratulations!

:toast:

[yewberry]

47. Wow, Tobin, that's great.

It's wonderful to know that you've found someone. It was a big deal for you, in years past, to not have someone and now it's happening for you!

[sarge43]

48. Marzel tov, love, laughter and a long life together.

Things do change once you're married and not necessarily for the worse. When you're living together, it's day to day. Marriage means a committed future together and that does color how you look at things.

(Hubby and I lived together for six years and are coming up on our 30th wedding anniversary.)

[Little Star]

49. Best wishes and happiness to both of you! Marriage is what you make of it..

It will be 30 years for me in May.

I was a self supporting, divorced mother of 4 children. My husband was a 32 year old never married, still lived at home, single guy.

Our marriage (though trying at times), we both agree, is the best thing we ever did.

[easttexaslefty]

50. Congratulations!

May you have a long happy life together!:toast:

[alphafemale]

51. woohoo!!!!

:toast:

Congratulamagfiafabulous!

[Phentex]

52. Wait! The invitations have been sent? Hmmm....

my mail has been slow but I haven't seen anything yet. :D


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Congratulations to you both ! I hope you have a wonderful time!

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[handmade34]

53. Congratulations!!

as I told my daughter when she got married... practice RESPECT and COMMUNICATION and you've got it in the bag :)

[Curmudgeoness]

54. I am glad to hear that you two are so happy.

And don't you listen to all the naysayers (and I can be one of those too). Marriage is what you make of it, both of you, working together. There are good marriages out there, and my sincerest wishes are that your will be one of those. Congratulations. I am really pleased to hear this, especially knowing you from all your stories---I know you are ready for this.

[kaiden]

55. Best wishes, Tobin. Marriage is a good thing!

[LNM]

56. Congratulations, Tobin!

I've been reading your stories and posts for years and I'm very happy for you.

[Capn Sunshine]

57. Good luck!

I see no problems with your plan!

Enjoy your lives together.

[peacefreak]

58. I've been reading your posts for years

& if anyone deserves happiness, it's you. Best wishes to you both.

[Name removed]

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[dawg]

60. I guess this is evil of me to say, but I'm so jealous.

You met a wonderful woman, won her heart, and Saturday you will be married.

And in the same time that you accomplished all that, I did nothing but grieve. :(

I do think you are a really great guy, and that you have found a good woman.

And I'm very proud and happy for you both.

[PRETZEL]

61. Congrats

You've made a great many friends here over the years.

You're making everyone one of them happy.

Best of luck to both of you,

Make each day together the best day of your life.

[Mopar151]

62. Happy day!

:party: :toast: :wow: :beer: :thumbsup: :loveya: :grouphug: :yourock: :headbang: :woohoo: :applause: :toast: :wow: :beer: :thumbsup: :loveya: :grouphug: :yourock: :headbang: :woohoo: :applause::toast: :wow: :beer: :thumbsup: :loveya: :grouphug: :yourock: :headbang: :woohoo: :applause::toast: :wow: :beer: :thumbsup: :loveya: :grouphug: :yourock: :headbang: :woohoo: :applause::party::party::party::party: :toast: :wow: :beer: :thumbsup: :loveya: :grouphug: :yourock: :headbang: :woohoo: :applause: :toast: :wow: :beer: :thumbsup: :loveya: :grouphug: :yourock: :headbang: :woohoo: :applause::toast: :wow: :beer: :thumbsup: :loveya: :grouphug: :yourock: :headbang: :woohoo: :applause::toast: :wow: :beer: :thumbsup: :loveya: :grouphug: :yourock: :headbang: :woohoo: :applause::party::party::party::party: :toast: :wow: :beer: :thumbsup: :loveya: :grouphug: :yourock: :headbang: :woohoo: :applause: :toast: :wow: :beer: :thumbsup: :loveya: :grouphug: :yourock: :headbang: :woohoo: :applause::toast: :wow: :beer: :thumbsup: :loveya: :grouphug: :yourock: :headbang: :woohoo: :applause::toast: :wow: :beer: :thumbsup: :loveya: :grouphug: :yourock: :headbang: :woohoo: :applause::party::party::party:

[av8rdave]

63. Congrats!

I'm excited for the both of you as you start the best parts of your lives!

:toast:

[Bombero1956]

64. Best of luck to the both of you and remember

be good to each other.

[DebJ]

65. Congratulations but yes things do change that are not related

to money. I would categorize it more along the lines of balance of power type stuff.

[Rambis]

66. Fooking brilliant!

:toast: :applause:

[blue neen]

67. Dear Tobin,

I've been following your posts and stories here on DU for a long, long time. It hasn't always been easy for you, but you've grown into a healthy and happy man. :)

It's wonderful to hear this news about the upcoming nuptials. May I wish you both every happiness and understanding for each other in good times and bad. :)

As with all things in life, marriage is what one makes of it...31 years here and still going strong. :)

:toast:

[Skittles]

68. something about you two

tells me you're making the correct decision. Congratulations!! :D

[Odin2005]

69. YAY! Congrats, Tobin!

[LibDemAlways]

70. Very happy for you and your fiance. Congrats!