And I would urge you to read the entire article posted, as it appears that both neither parents were going to be awarded any honors for their parenting skills. Also, I could find no accusation that he beat the woman accused of smoking around their children, he is suspected of beating his third wife, the 911 calls were from that household.
As I read this article (and others I found), it sounds like both parties need extensive counseling. I feel intensely sorry for the two children, but I'm having problem mustering up any sympathy for the parents.
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Tamara Silvius said the issue arose when she petitioned for full custody of the children in 2002 because of a series of 911 calls for domestic disputes at the home of her ex-husband and his third wife. Sheriff's department records show six 911 calls originating from Steve Silvius' house within a three-month period in early 2002.
"The children were not in a good environment," Tamara Silvius said.When the custody matter came to court, she said, Murphy, Steve Silvius' attorney, raised the issue of her alcohol consumption."From there, it went to smoking. The whole 911 thing never came up," she said.A court-appointed guardian concluded that Tamara Silvius' farm home, where she lives with her boyfriend, was not a particularly clean or safe environment.
After an inspection, the guardian wrote she found the home to be "filthy and cluttered, to have many beer cans and bottles strewn about inside, and with such debris as broken glass and jagged metal scraps outside the home as to make entry dangerous."
http://www.no-smoking.org/august04/08-11-04-3.htmlFrom two articles found from researching the topic:
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Tamara Silvius was ordered to undergo a substance-abuse evaluation. She told an evaluator that she and her husband both drank early in their 14-year marriage, but that they stopped after counseling with a military chaplain in 1987. She indicated she continued to abstain, off and on, and last began drinking again in 2000.
A waitress at the All-American truck stop in Doswell in neighboring Hanover County, she has a "couple of beers a couple of times during the week" and "a six pack every other weekend," according to the evaluation. She and her ex-husband trade weekends caring for the children.
Steve Silvius alleged that Tamara Silvius consumed alcohol while driving, according to court papers.
"No," she said yesterday. "If I did, it was moving the truck from one side of the property to the other."
"I like to crack a beer, especially in the summer," said Tamara Silvius, who has smoked since she was 15.
The evaluator determined that she did not have a substance-abuse or substance-dependence disorder, though she had the potential to develop one.
Tamara Silvius believes the judge's ruling is one-sided because it proscribes her behavior, but not that of her ex-husband.
"I can't smoke around the kids, but he can," she said of her ex.
Does he smoke?
"No, but he can. It's not fair."
http://www.timesdispatch.com/servlet/Satellite?pagename=RTD%2FMGArticle%2FRTD_BasicArticle&c=MGArticle&cid=1031777227381snip:
Mark A. Murphy, the Fredericksburg lawyer representing the children's father, said yesterday that it wasn't his client's wish that his ex-wife go to jail.
In fact, on an earlier occasion in which the children's mother violated the court order, Steven Silvius specifically asked that she not be jailed, Murphy said.
"He wants the children to spend time with their mother. He just wants them to be safe from cigarette and alcohol abuse," Murphy said.
Murphy wasn't in the Caroline courtroom yesterday, but he said he wasn't surprised that the judge imposed jail time.
"If you continue to violate a court order, a judge is not going to stand for that," he said.
Tamara Silvius, a pack-a-day smoker, claims the restriction violates her rights.
Murphy recalled an earlier hearing when Tamara Silvius was asked what she would do if she were required to give up smoking as a condition of seeing her children. "I think she amazed most people in the courtroom when she said, 'I guess I wouldn't see my kids, then,'" Murphy recalled.
http://www.fredericksburg.com/News/FLS/2004/082004/08132004/1465183