an official apology to DU

[Lerkfish]

in a recent thread, I was less than wonderful. Although I have been less than wonderful at other times, I owe DU an apology and an explanation:

I was laid off in december, traveled 2,000 miles for a job that ended suddenly in march. I'm here away from my family (wife and son I haven't seen since January) and a job I was applying for that I thought I had a good chance to get fell through the same day I read that thread that rubbed me the wrong way. I don't have enough money to pay both rent here and mortgage back home and I can't afford to move what little furniture I have here so I have to abandon it.

I was bitter and angry and took it out on that thread and people that didn't deserve to be treated that way.. I'm really sorry about that. I didn't realize that was what I was doing at the time...I kind of came to my senses this morning.




again, my apologies.

[Captain Hilts]

1. Hang tough. nt

[Midlodemocrat]

2. I didn't see the thread.

And, I'm sorry for your troubles, Lerkfish. You're a valuable member of this community. I'm glad you're here.

[Lars39]

3. I'm sorry for the troubles you're going through.

I hope things start turning around soon. :hug:

[firedupdem]

4. I find myself in a very similar position. Hang in there. We're

going to make it through this mess we're in.

[supernova]

5. Sorry you're having a tough time, LF

I am too. Been laid off since October. :-(

You're a good person and we will survive.

:hug:

[NC_Nurse]

6. I missed the thread you speak of. I am sorry you are in such a tough place. I

hope things improve speedily and greatly. hang in there.

[jefferson_dem]

7. No worries, Lerkfish.

Best wishes to you and yours during these challenging times.

[smoogatz]

8. Good on you.

And good luck in these hard times. Go home and see your family, for chrissakes.

[FrenchieCat]

9. Sorry to hear about your misfortunes! :(

Many of us are barely hanging in there. It's tough. Let us hope that it won't get much worse before it gets better. I wish for the best for you and yours.

[GoCubsGo]

10. FWIW...

I'm not sure what thread you speak of, but I have been going through something similar for the past two years. I understand the bitterness and anger. I think the others here will, as well. Hang in there. This too shall pass. Keeping my fingers crossed that it's soon--for all of us.

[YOY]

11. Shit Lerk...hang tough man.

You're always welcome here in my book.

[Lerkfish]

21. thanks, fellow gaming dude!

[FSogol]

12. Where's your furniture? Maybe someone has a garage or shed

you can keep it in until you can move it?

Also, what field do you work in?

[Lerkfish]

16. graphic design

I used to work for newspapers...and well, you know what happened to that industry.

[windbreeze]

13. Anyone who has paid attention to your posts over the years,

surely caught on to the fact that something was wrong...Even though I wasn't on that thread, I know, that it takes a big person to come back and apologize...So I will accept your apology and ask if there is anything we can do?....wb

[Lerkfish]

18. thanks,,,, I'm not sure what anyone can do unless they have a magic wand handy

Like many people, I"m wanting to support my family but having a hard time at the moment.

[Peacetrain]

14. All I have to say.. is you are my kind of Democrat.. Ready to go head to head.

:fistbump:

[Solomon]

15. Hey. We love you Lerkfish

Hang in there. Things will get better.

[prolesunited]

17. Don't know what happened

but I do share that stress. I haven't been the greatest company either. Get outside and take a walk. It really helps.

[Lerkfish]

19. thanks for the advice. I will probably do that later today.

I"ve been sitting in a dark apartment and mass applying for jobs and trying to learn new skills.

getting out is probably a good idea.

[prolesunited]

25. Yep, you can't let it consume you

It changes nothing and destroys you in the process. I was in a VERY dark place over the winter. I kept the thermostat at freezing and with the short days and cold, I was more miserable than I have been in a long time. Thing is, that is really going to show up in an interview. You can't hide it. So taking mental breaks are just as important as sending out the resumes.

Now that it's warmer, I'm outside and back in my garden and feeling much better. Now I just have to lose 10 pounds so I can fit in my professional clothes again. Sitting around in long underwear and sweats doesn't provide the needed reality check. LOL!

I'm just doing what I can, plugging away, and believing the universe will take care of it. I've been through worse times than this and I somehow survived. I can get through this again. You can, too. It may not be the same again, but you'll be better for it if you can push your way through it.

[JohnnyLib2]

20. Thanks for the honorable post.

And that's without knowing the history. Good wishes for your future.

[Jackeens]

22. Hey Lerkfish

I know the feeling, you wake up in the morning and think "OH MY GOD, WHAT DID I SAY", and then you want to curl up and die.

I have no idea either what was said, but just wanted to say I've been there too. Good on you for the apology, says a lot about you.

I wish you all the very best, I sincerely hope things improve for you, sounds like you're having a truly horrible time. Take care.

[cali]

23. I didn't see the thread in question, but it takes a real person to apologize

hang in there lerkfish, I hope you get back to your family soon.

[FloridaJudy]

24. {{{{{ hug }}}}}

I hear you. I've been looking for work for over six months, and sending the resumes out without even the courtesy of a reply gets old. Fortunately, I just reached retirement age. It won't be a princely pension, and my savings have evaporated, but it'll be enough to get by if I'm frugal.

I don't envy anyone trying to raise a family in this economy. Sometimes anger is an understandable response. And even some here at DU have bought into blaming the victims of the financial debacle. I'm starting to lose patience with them myself.

[Mopar151]

26. Dude, I could be you

Were it not for the dislocation - in fact, I'd likely be somewhere with a steel toilet...
Basically, my wife, friends, and pets are what is keeping me in shouting distance of sane - and you've been in the outfield for 3 months.

[DevonRex]

27. I hope things get better soon.

Nobody can blame you for being in a bad mood. You've got good reason for that.

:hug:

[cascadiance]

28. Did you deduct for moving expenses anyway? Hopefully you did...

I know it benefitted me when I moved to Portland in November quite a bit, though optimally would have gotten more back had I left in late October instead of November on my Oregon tax refund. Every little bit helps in this economy...

[Cha]

29. Don't we all know how

it goes to lose it at times. Sorry, to hear about your limbo situation, Lerkfish..Hope you get a good job soon and are able to be with your family.:)

[AtomicKitten]

30. Sorry for your troubles.

Cheers.

[grantcart]

31. Keep strong

Its not how far you fall but how high you bounce


from an expert at 'falling' lol.

[mdmc]

32. hang tough bro

[roguevalley]

33. Lerkfish, you had a bad day. I wish for you and yours only happiness

and hope. Hang in there, honey.

[Political Heretic]

34. Hey at least you didn't get banned, like some members.

:shrug:

[Spazito]

35. I hope things begin to start looking up for you very soon....

hang in there!

:hug:

[nyc 4 Biden]

36. You and your family are in my prayers brother.

Same for all the other DU'ers having a hard time in this tough economy. :hug:

[Fleshdancer]

37. My thoughts are with you Lerkfish

I don't know where you are or where you need to get back to, but my city is listed on my profile so if I'm close enough to help in any way, I will.

:hug:

[Lerkfish]

38. thanks for everyone's thoughtful posts.. i think your karma is helpful

since the time i posted this this morning, i got a call for an interview next tuesday. I don't count on it necessarily, cause i'm not a complete fit for it, but this roller coaster ride of jobhunting has extreme ups and downs..


seriously, thank you all.

[namahage]

44. Vibes your way, and congrats on the interview. n/t

[w8liftinglady]

39. dude-most of us have unleashed here-only to regret it later...we're family

when I was drinking heavily,I posted some godawful stuff.shake it off....:grouphug:

[Top Cat]

40. Hang in there better days will come.....

[DevonRex]

41. How can I help? Where are you?

[Lerkfish]

42. where I am....

currently in a month to month apartment in Palm Desert (Palm Springs) Ca, but willing to relocate anywhere in the southwest (while I"m here)

or once I move back home to Ohio, anywhere in the midwest.

Though, to be honest, anywhere a job is, is fine. i'll send you a PM with a link to my portfolio.

[Kaleva]

43. I try and give everyone the benfit of the doubt

I didn't see your thread but for the the ones I have seen that I think are over the top, I think to myself that they may be having a very bad day or are going thru a tough time in their lives.