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He left yesterday without a fuss and without us having to get confrontational---thank goodness. This was SUCH a lesson for me!!! It was quick and very very hard,but it is interesting that the SECOND I realized I was seeing the true person, I was able to immediately realize how I arrived at the situation, what I needed to learn, and to review the clues left for me. There were several lessons contained in this situation, but the biggest one was to let go and let my husband take control--since he was the person this guy was really after in the first place. See, this person is a very closeted gay man, and I believe he has literally driven himself crazy trying to keep this from everyone. He goes to the opposite extreme to "prove" he is not. I am sure many of you can understand my fear, because I was scared that once he had realized that we knew his secret,that he would react very severely--and he was definitely capable of that. It is EXTREMELY interesting that he looked, walked and acted like a vulture--very very sharp features, sunken eyes, and was invading our personal space in a bad way. What I was fascinated about was the extent of his well-made cover; to the extend that he is coherent in writing but not in person. His cover is VERY well done. knowing what I know NOW, I can go back and review his posts and correspondence and pick up very faint clues,but they are only there if you know what you are looking for. I was blaming myself very hard for not seeing it before I invited him into my house, but hubby pointed out that there was no way I could have known--he also had been talking to this man for months and had no clue. The post someone here made about being nice---this was a perfect example of that. I keep trying not to believe that the the lesson here is not to be nice, because that does not resonate with my soul--but there must be some sort of thing here that I am not/was not seeing. Thank you so much everyone for your support. I knew this was a critical spiritual point for me. I am glad we came through it fairly unscathed. Your energy help was definitely felt and appreciated,and probably helped in his quick and uneventful departure. Bless all of you.
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