We Had Some Sad, But Not Unexpected News Today.

[MarianJack]

My Mother passed on last night.

It was painless, in her sleep and in the apartment in the retirement community in which she very happily lived the last 3 years of her life.

Her name was Mary. She was a great Mom, Mother-in-Law, Aunt, Sister, and Friend. She loved her Grandson very, very much.

My sister and I are respecting our Mother's wishes that her remains be donated to Medical research. She always appreciated the quality of medical care she received and wanted to give back and, hopefully, help develop a new generation of doctors. That's the type of person she was.

I could write for hours, but I don't have the energy right now. Whatever else I say won't add to what I've already said.

When Kephra died, Plaid Adder said that we are a sort of cyber-family. I agreed with her whole-heartedly, so I'm sharing this now.

Peace.

[Philosoraptor]

1. So very sorry to hear.

[w8liftinglady]

2. bless you.I hope you'll be gentle with yourself-we are all here

:hug:

[CottonBear]

3. I am so sorry MarianJack. RIP Mary.

She sounds like she was a wonderful human being and a great Mom. :hug:

[bigwillq]

4. I am very sorry for your loss.

:hug:

[Sanity Claws]

5. My condolences

It's so hard to lose your mother. :hug:

[Master Mahon]

6. May she rest in peace

If mothers like yours, and many others as well I'm sure, were in charge of things around the globe, the world might just be a happy place for all it's inhabitants.
I lost my father 10 years ago, but he's as much, if not more, with me now as he was before he died. I just don't get to see him.

[MarianJack]

94. A Line From an Old Play,...

..."I Never Sang For My Father", says it perfectly.

"Death ends a life, not a relationship."

[datadiva]

7. So very sorry to hear that.

Both my parents are gone. My mom died very unexpectedly and I had a really hard time dealing with the loss. Dad's was expected and was more of a painful relief to see him not suffering. I still talk to them all the time and it helps me to deal with the loss. I hope you can carry on. It does get easier as time goes by. Peace.

[Jack_Dawson]

8. I'm sorry...may I ask

how old she was?

-JD

[MarianJack]

95. She Turned 84 Last December.

The Happiest years were after she moved into her retirement community.

Thanks.

[blue cat]

9. I'm sorry for your loss.

God be with you.

[livetohike]

10. My sympathy to you and your family MarianJack

:hug: I hope that all the good memories of life with your Mom will help to ease the sadness.

[tnlefty]

11. Hugs to you and to all of your family.

Next month will be the 2nd yr. for my father and it is still difficult - especially when something big is going on for one of my sons. I still catch myself picking up the phone to call him about something important or some silly something they said or did. Or to just get into one of our infamous political 'debates'. peace to you and your family.

[MarianJack]

96. Yesterday...

...I reached for the phone a dozen times. That will go on for awhile.

[uppityperson]

12. my condolences to you and your family.

peace to you too.

[lonestarnot]

13. Ahhh. I'm sorry MarianJack.

Just know that there are things in this world worse than death. Peace to you and your family. :hug:

[Solly Mack]

14. Sending the warmest of feelings your way.

(((((((MarianJack and sister))))))

[smokey nj]

15. My condolences, MarionJack n/t

[Skidmore]

16. It sounds like your mother had a wonderful life and left many

good memories for you and your family to share for generations to come. May she rest in peace having left such a wonderful legacy.

[RFKHumphreyObama]

17. My deepest thoughts, prayers, condolences and sympathies

are extended to you and your family on your loss:hug: Your mother sounds like she was a wonderful woman. May she rest in peace

Once again my sincere and heartfelt thoughts, prayers, sympathies and condolences to you and your family

[Emit]

18. Sending warm thoughts your way n/t

[malaise]

19. Deepest sympathy

It's hard losing a mum.

[Tsiyu]

20. Sad news indeed

:hug:

[Catherine Vincent]

21. My condolences.

My mother's name is Mary also.

Peace to you.

[soup]

22. Thank you for sharing a bit of your mother with us.

She sounds like she was a wonderful woman. The greatest thing is she loved you and you loved her, and beyond that, all else seems so unimportant.

I'm sorry for your loss. May she rest in peace.

[Sydnie]

23. I am very sorry to hear this new ... I will keep you and yours in my

thoughts. Knowing that she is still giving with her donation is a blessing. My father in law did the same thing and I found that the family found it very comforting as well.

Peace.

[Robbien]

24. I wish you peace

and strength in this time of sorrow.

Your mom sounds like one of the great ones. Please take comfort that she will still be with you in your heart and your memories.

[me b zola]

25. I wish you and your family peace & comfort

I'm sitting here in tears because I know what it feels like, and I miss my mom.

:hug:

[MarianJack]

97. It's so Hard.

Today is the first time I've been able to reapond to this thread, and I'm typing through tears.

[crim son]

26. You have my sympathy.

Your mother is doing a great thing by donating her body. She sounds like she was a wonderful woman. :hug: :hug:

[in_cog_ni_to]

27. I'm so sorry, MarianJack.

May your mom RIP.:hug:

[laruemtt]

28. my sincerest condolences.

i know her spirit will be watching over you.

[rurallib]

29. Sorry for your loss - but it sounds like she left a good legacy

No one lives forever, the best anyone can hope for is to have left a legacy to be proud of. Sounds like your Mom accomplished that.

[Jeanette in FL]

30. Prayers to you and to your family

I am so sorry for your loss.

[Sequoia]

31. I'm so sorry.

Nine years ago on this very day, July 20 and my oldest brother's B-Day, we went to the rest home where our mother lived in NC. All 6 of her kids her there plus 3 grandchildren (one mine). As kids, the four oldest of us went to live in a childrens home and the youngest two grew up with releavites as they were babies at the time so we never got to be a real live together family. We knew that she hadn't long to live as she had ovarian cancer. A month later she died.

I'm so sorry you have to go through this. I still miss my mother and wish there were things I could've told her. I wish I hadn't been in such a rush sometimes on Sunday's when she called because no, I didn't have time; I had to go to the beach or something. I wish you and your family peace and God rest your mother's soul.

[MarianJack]

99. It Sounds Like You Had a Wonderful Goodbye.

We're greatful that we did, too.

[wryter2000]

32. I'm very sorry for your loss

I'm glad her passing was peaceful. :hug:

[sam sarrha]

33. Namo Amataba..

[Just Me]

34. Loss is so difficult. Sounds like she had a wonderful life, though.

She loved and was loved.

:hug:

My sympathy to you and yours.

:hug:

[Kadie]

35. I am so sorry for your loss.

Take care.

Peace.

[Beaverhausen]

I'm so sorry for your loss

RIP Mary. What a wonderful gift she is giving by donating her body.

:hug:

[MarianJack]

100. She Decided to donate her body more than 20 years ago,...

...and the documents she signed were dated June of 1992.

[helderheid]

36. I'm so sorry for your loss. You are definitely among family here.

:hug:

[Lowell]

37. Sorry about your loss MarianJack

Loosing your mom is the roughest. She'll be in good company now. She sounds like a real caring woman. My grandfather is buried in Sand Hill in Augusta and I see that is where you are from.

[MarianJack]

98. We Live Close to Sand Hill.

We live and work in Augusta. When we buy a house we want to go back to Waterville, but we'll probably stay in Augusta because we love our son's school.

[Lowell]

104. I love that part of Maine

I spent many a night drinking beer at the Wooden Nickle in Waterville. Haven't been back in years but look forward to visiting again sometime. I lived in Bucksport for a while and loved it. Can't say too much for the winters though.My grandfather lived in Mt. Vernon just outside Augusta. We could see the whole town from his house. It was beautiful.

[SeattleGirl]

38. Condolences to you and yours on your loss.

And bless your mother for donating her remain for medical research. What a wonderful thing for her to do.

[DeepModem Mom]

39. Condolences to you and your family, MarianJack.

[zanne]

40. The more you love, the more you grieve.

My mother passed away a few months ago, so I have a pretty good idea of how you're feeling right now. Maybe the people we love just deserve our tears when they leave us. After a little time goes by, maybe we'll be able to remember the good times with joy, not sadness. It sounds like your mother was one of those people who love and are loved so much that some tears have to be shed before the memories can comfort you. Take care of yourself and know that you are in my thoughts.

[AnOhioan]

41. My condolences on your loss

[babylonsister]

42. My heartfelt condolences, MarianJack.

Moms are so special and so very difficult to lose. Hang in there. :hug:

[Neecy]

43. hugs to you and your family

Your mom sounds like she was a terrific person.

[WinkyDink]

44. And peace and God bless to you and your family.

[rockymountaindem]

45. My condolences n.t

[kimchi]

46. My condolences.

May you find comfort in your family.

[Arkansas Granny]

47. My thoughts are with you.

[mmonk]

48. My deepest sympathies.

[ccpup]

49. Interesting that you write this

(and experience this) now. My Mom passed quite unexpectedly in 2000 (thank God before the theft of the 2000 Election as that DEFINITELY would have done her in!) and this morning when I woke up she was sitting on the foot of my bed, peacefully smiling at me. For a split second I was no longer in NYC, but in my childhood home in Washington State, the kitchen window open to catch the breeze, the smells and sounds of the house stirring to life and my the familiar feel of family surrounding me. For one precious, too-quick moment, she was there and all was well. And then -- poof! -- it was gone. I saw the familiar surroundings of my bedroom, the hum of the air conditioner, my dogs stretching at the foot of the bed. But instead of feeling empty, I felt happy and wonderfully content.

I guess what I'm trying to say is that despite the pain and emptiness of "now", your Mother hasn't really left. She's in the stories you tell us, your friends, your family, perhaps someday your children. She's in the color of your eyes, the blush in your cheek and the way your lips curl into a mischevious grin. Even in the way you stride across the room. With a single thought -- "Mom" -- she's by your side, ready to lend support and, as she did in Life, her never-ending, unconditional love.

Give it time. Let these painful, kinda lost moments pass and then, when all is clear, you'll see what I mean.

Just thought I'd share.

[annabanana]

50. I'm sorry for your loss..

She sounds like a wonderful person.

[City Lights]

51. So sorry for your loss, MarianJack.

:hug: I know it hurts, my mom's been gone since 1997. :hug:

[RagAss]

52. So sorry for your loss... Peace

[NC_Nurse]

53. I'm sorry to here this

Sounds like your mom was a great lady. Kudos to her for helping medical research.

[whalerider55]

54. condolences and prayers...

as a parent who is blessed with in-laws who live nearby, i know her grandson will carry wonderful memories for the rest of his life.

whalerider

[Canuckistanian]

55. I lost my Mom in 1996, far too soon.

And two weeks before I was married. She wanted the wedding to go on as scheduled.

My son was born 10 months later. I always considered her my son's guardian angel, because that's what she did in life.

[brook]

56. Condolences, MJ

I'm glad your Mother had a painless, peaceful passage and hope that that brings you some comfort as well. It is never easy, this realization that those we loved have gone on from our daily life. No lingering over a cup of coffee or afternoon tea. No silly birthday card. No sighs. We miss it all terribly. As time goes on, the memories, wrapped in ribbons of yesterday, nestle deep in our hearts, always accessible.

:hug:

[eridani]

57. It's never easy, even if you know it's going to happen.

:hug:

[leesa]

58. So glad she died in her sleep. Best wishes to you all and good memories.

[senseandsensibility]

59. My sympathies,MarionJack

And peace to you, your mother, and your family at this difficult time.:hug:

[bklyncowgirl]

60. I'm very sorry for your loss.

My mother died last year. It takes a long time to get over it.

[brer cat]

61. Thank you for sharing with your DU family.

The first year is very difficult..so remember we are here if you need support.

My prayers are with you and your family.:hug:

[Samantha]

62. There are no real words of comfort one can say on the loss of a parent

In time, however, one looks back and remembers mostly the good times, the truly standout moments and realizes how lucky he or she was to have had that parent as many years as they did. It is truly a gift to have a long-standing relationship with one's mother or father and hopefully the time will come for you when the grief will subside and the joy of those memories permeate your daily life.

I am so sorry for the loss of your Mom, MarianJack, but I am happy you seemed to have had a wonderful relationship with her while she was here.

[DarbyUSMC]

63. I'm sorry about your sad news.

[demgurl]

64. I am very sorry for your mother's passing.

I will keep you and yours in my thoughts tonight.

[GreenPartyVoter]

65. *hugs* I am so sorry.

[Ilsa]

66. Bless her for making such a wonderful gift. Peace be upon her and

your family. She's left a wonderful legacy to the world by raising such a fine family.

[peekaloo]

67. Condolences.

:hug:

[Cleita]

68. My condolences.

Mothers are especially hard to lose.

:hug:

[qanda]

69. So sorry to hear about your mom

Sounds like she was a wonderful person. I hope your heart is comforted just a little by your cyber-family. (((MarianJack)))

[proud patriot]

70. Rest up and Take care

I'm sorry to hear about your mom , but I'm glad she was happy .

I like her wish my remains to be used for science .

My sincerest regards
proud patriot :patriot:

[cantstandbush]

71. So sorry for your loss. Condolences. nt

[OhioChick]

72. My Condolences

:hug:

[goclark]

73. Our thoughts are with you at this time

My Aunt, at the age of 93, donated her body to medical science.

She inspired my mom to make her plans for a Body Donation. I am doing the same.

[blm]

74. Peace to you all.

.

[H2O Man]

75. I am sorry for your loss.

The death of a parent is always hard. It sounds like your mother was a very special person.

[judaspriestess]

76. My sincerest condolences

I'm going through some hard times temporarily but my mom, who lives with me, is just bailing me out left and right. She wanted to cash in her retirement to help me but her company said she could not. And she ain't got much.

I also grew up without a father who has since passed on. I know I will go nuts when my mom passes on. I am so sorry......

[Bullwinkle925]

77. We are never totally prepared for the loss of a loved one.

Wrap yourself up in the loving memories of your mother, take care of yourself and just take it one day at a time.

Hugs :hug:

[CornField]

78. Deepest condolences on your loss

Even if unexpected, it's never easy to say goodbye. Be good to yourself as you deal with the grief. :hug:

[wanpete]

79. prayers for strength and comfort for you and your family

:hug:

[oasis]

80. MarianJack,you have my condolences. May she rest in peace.

[Spazito]

81. My sympathies to you and your family, it is a sad time for all of you

Hold tight to your precious memories, they will keep her with you always.

[wtmusic]

82. MarianJack, our thoughts are with you nt

[Tinksrival]

83. I would like to share my favorite Buddhist poem with you

I have been looking for you, World Honored One,
since I was a little child.
With my first breath, I heard your call,
and began to look for you, Blessed One.
I've walked so many perilous paths,
confronted so many dangers,
endured despair, fear, hopes, and memories.
I've trekked to the farthest regions, immense and wild,
sailed the vast oceans,
traversed the highest summits, lost among the clouds.
I've lain dead, utterly alone,
on the sands of ancient deserts.
I've held in my heart so many tears of stone.


Blessed One, I've dreamed of drinking dewdrops
that sparkle with the light of far-off galaxies.
I've left footprints on celestial mountains
and screamed from the depths of Avici Hell, exhausted, crazed with despair
because I was so hungry, so thirsty.
For millions of lifetimes,
I've longed to see you,
but didn't know where to look.
Yet, I've always felt your presence with a mysterious certainty.

I know that for thousands of lifetimes,
you and I have been one,
and the distance between us is only a flash of though.
Just yesterday while walking alone,
I saw the old path strewn with Autumn leaves,
and the brilliant moon, hanging over the gate,
suddenly appeared like the image of an old friend.
And all the stars confirmed that you were there!
All night, the rain of compassion continued to fall,
while lightning flashed through my window
and a great storm arose,
as if Earth and Sky were in battle.
Finally in me the rain stopped, the clouds parted.
The moon returned,
shining peacefully, calming Earth and Sky.
Looking into the mirror of the moon, suddenly
I saw myself,
and I saw you smiling, Blessed One.
How strange!

The moon of freedom has returned to me,
everything I thought I had lost.
>From that moment on,
and in each moment that followed,
I saw that nothing had gone.
There is nothing that should be restored.
Every flower, every stone, and every leaf recognize me.
Wherever I turn, I see you smiling
the smile of no-birth and no-death.
The smile I received while looking at the mirror of the moon.
I see you sitting there, solid as Mount Meru,
calm as my own breath,
sitting as though no raging fire storm ever occurred,
sitting in complete peace and freedom.
At last I have found you, Blessed One,
and I have found myself.
There I sit.

The deep blue sky,
the snow-capped mountains painted against the horizon,
and the shining red sun sing with joy.
You, Blessed One, are my first love.
The love that is always present, always pure, and freshly new.
And I shall never need a love that will be called “last.”
You are the source of well-being flowing through numberless troubled lives,
the water from you spiritual stream always pure, as it was in the beginning.
You are the source of peace,
solidity, and inner freedom.
You are the Buddha, the Tathagata.
With my one-pointed mind
I vow to nourish your solidity and freedom in myself
so I can offer solidity and freedom to countless others,
now and forever.

- Thich Naht Hahn

PS. I miss my Mom too.

Take Care

Wendy

[leftyladyfrommo]

92. How beautiful. Thankyou.

[MarianJack]

93. Thank You, Wendy!

I have always had great respect for the gentleness of the Buddhist Faith.

Thank you for a lovely poem.

[Greybnk48]

84. Sad news. Condolences MarianJack. n/t

[lavenderdiva]

85. I am so very sorry to hear of your Mother's passing, MarianJack

my parents both donated their bodies to science as well. I think it is one of the most selfless acts one can make.

I am sending you lots of hugs: :hug: :cry: :hug:

[shance]

86. I'm sorry for your loss Marian.

It sounds like your mother had a full life with family surrounding her during her last years. That's nice.

Thank you for sharing. I hope you'll take care of yourself in the days ahead so you can move through this gracefully, like I imagine your mother would want for you.

I lost my mother in 1992 when I was 27. It's never easy to lose our parents.

Peace to you as well Marian.

***

[PsychoDad]

87. I am sorry for your loss.

Bless you and your family.

[flyarm]

88. MY HEARTFELT SADNESS FOR YOUR LOSS....

losing your mom is like loosing part of oneself..it is losing your best friend, your confidant..the person who loved you unconditionally..and its the hardest loss of all.

i will say a prayer for your mom, and for you as well..

they say time heals..but i haven't found it that way..i miss my mom each and every day..
reaching for the phone to call her was my hardest thing to deal with...

now i talk to her, with no phone lines...but it is a loss that never goes away..

it only gets a bit softer..

but the tears always come..let them..

think of her..and talk to her..hold her pictures close to your heart..

she will always be with you..

my condolences to you and your family..

fly

[roguevalley]

89. she will be with you forever. god bless you and your family. I am

so sorry for this. I wish we could be together and healthy forever.

[snappyturtle]

90. I am so sorry.

May her memory reside forever in your heart.

[bdamomma]

91. my deepest sympathy

to you and your family, your mom is in a better place right now.

[Minnesota Libra]

101. MarianJack, I am so sorry for your loss, it's.................

.....always especially hard to loose a mother. If you just need a friend please come back and tell us more about your Mom. We're here for you now and later on too.

Rest in peace Mary and know you were loved and will be missed.

[DemonFighterLives]

102. Sorry to hear that

It is nice of her to provide for the young doctors to be.

My mother named Marian died a year and a half ago. All I can think is the throng of Angels is growing strong. :hug:

[calico1]

103. .......

:hug:

I lost mine over the Memorial Day weekend. Please accept my sympathies. I know exactly what you are feeling. PM me if you want to talk more.

[mac56]

105. My sympathy and support goes to you and your family.

Hope you support each other, and find the peace you all deserve.

[area51]

106. I am so sorry for your loss.

:hug:

[LibDemAlways]

107. So sorry to hear about your loss.

Your mother sounds like a wonderful and giving person - to be loved by family and friends and to reach out beyond that circle to want to help others - speaks volumes. My sincere condolences.