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On the Road Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Apr-08-09 09:59 PM
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Anyone Other Than a Waiter: How Do You Tip?
Since this seems to be the topic du jour:

How do you personally tip the following:

-- Hotel maids
-- Taxi drivers
-- Skycaps
-- Doormen
-- Luggage handlers in hotels
-- Anyone else who might expect or be worthy of a tip

Having worked as a waiter, I have well-formed opinions on that. (I tip 20% but make allowance for people for different circumstances who tip 15%.) Most of the other situations I find baffling. Who, how, and how much?

I feel condescending handing a hotel employee a dollar or two, but more than that may not be justified for a few minutes work. Same with doormen and skycaps. I have not idea what the norm is for hotel maids and I sometimes forget.

The laborer is worthy of his hire, but it also smacks of a class-based social monarchy.
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Oregone Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Apr-08-09 10:08 PM
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1. You give the employer a tip by telling them to pay their employees properly
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On the Road Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Apr-08-09 10:30 PM
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6. Well, When I Was Driving a Taxi,
I had a female passenger say "here's a tip" and give me a condom.

Not that that's appropos of anything.
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Oregone Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Apr-08-09 10:38 PM
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10. Couldn't you have said "here's a tip" while....
You gave it back to her?
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Roon Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Apr-09-09 11:45 AM
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38. I drive taxi too..off and on...lately it's been off because of medical issues
but you meet all kinds when you drive a cab.It's a fun job though and the money is good. Hours are long but if you stay busy the time just flies by. And if you get stuck with an asshole passenger,just give it time and he will be out of your cab. And even if he stays in your cab for awhile, that's just more for the meter!
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On the Road Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Apr-09-09 12:23 PM
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41. I Enjoyed Driving, Too,
You meet so many people, and there are so many stories you come away with.

I met a lot of diplomatic people, including one of the Iranian hostages when the rest were still being held (she was one of the women released early). I asked her about the Stockholm effect and she said "It's pretty difficult to sympathize with someone when they've tied your arms to a chair."

A lot of prosititutes and johns, too -- I came from a sheltered background and it was a real eye-opener. That was the days when 14 & K in DC was an unbroken line of streetwalkers on parade.

I got a call once on a November evening to give a jump start to a young woman in Clarendon. She said "You look cold. Don't you have a coat?" I said no and she waved me into her house. In her front closet were about a dozen men's coats. She picked one out and gave it to me. I got another call from her later that night and took her to a motel room. Then the light went off. She looked a little ashamed. But I still have that coat.
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Roon Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Apr-10-09 07:49 AM
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50. I learned a good way to earn more tips...
play a classical music station on the radio low...the passengers love it..
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NMDemDist2 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Apr-08-09 10:19 PM
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2. I pay $1 a bag for standard service from a sky cap
$5 if I have three stupid bags, one of which is ridiculously heavy (like when I traveled to Reno last month and was taking cookware to a friend....) I tipped the shuttle driver dude for helping me wrestle them on and off the van and didn't use a sky cap

maids nothing for one night, $5 if I stay more than 3 days and asked for linen service, but usually I just leave all my change that I've been throwing on the table for my stay (usually adds up to about 5 bux anyway LOL)

the only way I'd tip a doorman is if I lived in the building, then I'd give a Xmas check like I do for my mail carriers and UPS dude

Taxi drivers I tip about 10% usually

but I don't count, I was 25 years in the F&B industry
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flvegan Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Apr-08-09 10:22 PM
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3. You left out strippers.
And the male v female stripper dynamic as well.

:hide:
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On the Road Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Apr-08-09 10:28 PM
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4. God, I Forgot About Strippers!
I even dated one for seven months.

I usually never close enough for the garter belt to come into play. That's another world, and it depends on where you're goin'.
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CreekDog Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Apr-10-09 05:10 PM
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55. how much do you tip a stripper when you're dating her?
there's probably no right answer for that one. :D
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donheld Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Apr-09-09 11:13 PM
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49. You do not tip strippers
you give them the whole thing. :D
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pnwmom Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Apr-08-09 10:28 PM
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5. Why would you skip a hotel maid when they work harder than many of those
you do tip?

I tip them $2/night, beginning with the first night.
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On the Road Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Apr-08-09 10:37 PM
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9. I Don't "Skip" a Hotel Maid
I'm just asking what people think is customary. When I was younger, I used to think maids were paid hourly and didn't depend on tips. That may have been the result of childhood trips, staying with my parents in cheap midwestern motels where tips were not expected or given.

The last hotel I stayed at I gave $10 for two nights. Before that I might have forgotten for another two nights.

It's not a question of how hard people work. Factory and constuction workers work hard. Cooks work just as hard as waiters and many of them don't even participate in tip sharing. It's an arbitrary set of expectations, and perceptions differ across regions, over time, and among individuals.
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pnwmom Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Apr-09-09 12:26 AM
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34. Okay, you "sometimes forget." n/t
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HamdenRice Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Apr-08-09 10:31 PM
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7. One rule about NY bartenders I learned
This may sound excessive, but you tip $1 minimum per drink, no matter what drink.

If you do that, not only will you be doing the right thing, but you will enter into the magnificent scheme of the "buy back" in which the bartender pretends to sell you drinks that you pretend to pay for.

Tony Bourdaine wrote about it, and it's quite funny, but true.
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On the Road Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Apr-08-09 10:47 PM
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13. I Always Tip a Dollar for the First Drink
or first round. If it's just me, I may only tip every other drink. But never less than a dollar.

Of course, that may be one reason I never got "comped" the way Bourdain described it. That man is my hero. Did you ever see his show "Into the Fire"? Most amazing depiction ever of what it's like to work in a restaurant.
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justabob Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Apr-08-09 11:06 PM
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17. slightly ot on Bourdaine
Bourdaine's book, Kitchen Confidential, made me laugh so hard I cried. I wish someone would write a book like that for the front of house!! Having said that, he is right..... good tips do magic with the bar-- NYC or not:)
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fishwax Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Apr-08-09 11:15 PM
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23. did you ever see the TV show Kitchen Confidential?
It was on Fox a few years ago. I didn't watch it at the time, but have since seen the entire run on DVD. I thought it was a pretty good treatment of the book--though apparently I'm in the minority since the show didn't last long :)
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justabob Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Apr-08-09 11:51 PM
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29. no, sadly
It is a great book though.... I still giggle to myself when I think of the story he told about the chefs screwing with the rest of the staff with fake severed fingers suplied by the pastry chef(drawing flies and everything).... and chef wrapped in saran n the cooler for the FOH manager to find when he was sent for shrimp or something.... poor guy quit the next day. :) Restaurants are crazy places to work.

The thing I remember most though, is when he describes the guys on the line as the crew of a pirate ship. :) That is exactly what it is like. I have never heard it described better in 10+ years of restaurant experience.
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Stinky The Clown Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Apr-08-09 11:18 PM
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24. I'm not much of a drinker and am as likey as not to have just a Coke ...... I tip a buck a drink
At least.

I often drink all night for free.

I'm happy. The barkeep is happy. I get to keep the car keys for half the joint.
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Richard Steele Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Apr-08-09 10:36 PM
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8. It really depends, to be honest.
Hotel maids: $5
Maids in a SHITHOLE motel in a rural Red State: $2

Doormen, generally $5, (the crappier hotels don't even have them)

Hotel luggage handlers: $5

Luggage handlers in a strange city where I'm hoping to score some weed: $20,
and eventually another 10% of the weed's purchase price.

Taxi drivers: 20%, unless they do something specifically deserving of LESS.

I've never utilized the services of a Skycap.

And I once broke my guideline for maids in crappy rural hotels:
My GF and I were staying at a real DUMP in the middle of nowhere.
The maid made up the room while we were out, and left a note
on the bed that said:
"Pleas. If you leav me a tip pleas hide it in the bibel
becase im off werk tomorow and the other Made steels all my tips.
"

We stuck a $20 bill next to the first page of the Gospel of Mark.
I hope she got it.

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On the Road Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Apr-08-09 10:43 PM
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11. That is a Great Story About the Maid!
And man, you have got a great set of standards there. That is a challenge -- I'm obviously too cheap or too timid.

Do luggage handlers usually arrange for weed purchases? 'Cause I will have to remember that. I have avoided it for twenty years out of fear of the law.
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Richard Steele Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Apr-08-09 11:10 PM
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19. Well, "arrange" is a strong word....
But it seems like the "luggage handlers" are your best bet
for "directions" to ANYTHING that someone in a strange city might want.
They're just about the SAFEST strangers you could ever flat-out ask,
"Hey, do you know where I could get some weed?"

The worst consequence of such a question would be the reply,
"No Sir, I'm sorry I don't".

And sometimes that reply is followed by a knock on your door
5 minutes later.
If that happens, open the door- it's a different baggage handler,
and he has something for you. ;)
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On the Road Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Apr-08-09 11:20 PM
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25. When I Was a Cab Driver,
I would have people ask me to troll 14th & K in DC for hookers. I went where they wanted to go and even picked them up.

I had other passengers who asked unpleasantly "Where can I get some tail?" I was evangelical at the time and simply said "I don't know."

But that's quite a suggestion about the baggage handler. Especially after a decent tip.

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Jack_DeLeon Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Apr-08-09 10:45 PM
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12. I dont, since I dont use any of those services..
Edited on Wed Apr-08-09 10:49 PM by Jack_DeLeon
I've actually never ridden in a Taxi, prefer my own vehicle or the bus.

When I'm staying at a hotel I always put out the do not disturb, I prefer not to have random people rummaging through my room, althought after reading this thread yeah I should probably leave a $5 or so at the end of my stay.

I dont know what a skycap is.

I've not had any of my doors opened by a professional but in either case I have no problem doing it myself so its not a service I would pay for.

When I travel its usually just one duffel bag, and prefer to carry my own luggage as I dont trust my belongings to others, other than when forced to such as checking it at the airport.

I do tip waiters the typical 15-20% though unless bad service, and I will tip my bartenders $1 or $2 every other drink depending on what I ordered.
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On the Road Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Apr-08-09 11:03 PM
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16. I Hate Having Doors Opened by a Professional
not that it happens that often. It's just so....un-American.

Whenever I check into a hotel, I would much rather carry my own bags. They're usually not that great, anyway -- feels a little like Eddie Murphy checking in in "Beverly Hills Cop."

A skycap is an optional baggage handler at airports to help unload luggage from cars and take it to where it can be checked in.
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TripleKatPad Donating Member (241 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Apr-08-09 10:52 PM
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14. My tipping life is mostly in restaurants
But I tend to tip 20-25% across the board. Have had lots of friends who rely on tips, so I know how much it means.
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Gormy Cuss Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Apr-08-09 10:59 PM
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15. I tip as follows

-- Hotel maids :$2.00 per night for standard service, higher for extras like cleaning up a kitchenette area or sand from the beach.
-- Taxi drivers: 10% of the fare or at least $2.00, more if the cabbie is professional (actually opens the trunk or helps with the bags, doesn't spend the whole ride talking to someone on a cell phone, makes sure he understands my destination before he set off in the wrong direction -- little stuff like that.)
-- Skycaps: don't use them, but would give same as luggage handlers if I did.
-- Doormen: don't use their services either, but probably would start at a couple of bucks for hailing a cab except in NYC where it'd be a fiver.
-- Luggage handlers in hotels: $2.00 a bag, extra for a heavy bag.
-- Hairdresser: at least five bucks or 10%.

A lot of people don't tip the chambermaids, according to my family and friends who do/did that work.
Taxi drivers in some parts of the country seem surprised when I give them ANY amount of tip too.
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On the Road Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Apr-08-09 11:13 PM
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22. God, I Forgot Hairdressers, Too!
and the editing period has expired.

As a male, I go to cheap places like the Hair Cuttery. Generally tip $3 for a good cut, $2 for no-so-good (which is frequent).

I don't know the proportions for chambermaids, but as a former taxi driver I know over half the customers don't tip.

It's not always the case that people are just cheap and greedy. In the olden days, there was a greater class differential, and users of personal services were richer, more cliquish, and tended to have a common understanding (at least in my imagination). Think of visitinga foreign country -- the appropriate behavior is not always clear. That's one reason I started the thread.
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myrna minx Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Apr-09-09 12:36 PM
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42. I'm ashamed to say I didn't know to tip a chambermaid until this thread.
I don't stay in hotels/motels very often, but when I have, I haven't tipped. :blush: Now I know, so I'll make sure to do it in the future.
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LooseWilly Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Apr-08-09 11:09 PM
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18. I drove a taxi for 10 years... and expectations are fluid.
If someone flags me down on the street, is in the cab in a hot second... goes somewhere, has the money ready when we get there, and can get back out in a flash... 10% is nice, more is nicer... but even just a buck or the remainder of the change isn't a problem.

If a fare calls for a pick up at home, 10% (at least 2 or 3 bucks) is reasonable. If they have bags, and especially if they need the driver to help load them, then more is liable to have the driver be willing to take a call at that address again the next time. If the driver has to wait more than 2 minutes while people get their shit straight to get in the car, at least another buck. More than 5 minutes... at least another 2-3 bucks. More than 5 minutes, if the driver hasn't already started the meter to be sure he gets paid for waiting on you, figure upward accordingly.

If you are going to a laundromat or moving... and you're loading the entire trunk and half the backseat with crap... you should be tipping at least 100%. Yes, I said 100%. Since no one does this, 80% of drivers won't pick up at laundromats... if people started, then more drivers might take those calls (or even stop for people flagging in the street in front).

If you're at a supermarket or any other store... if you can't carry your bags into the car without the driver having to get out, 20% and/or at least 2-3 bucks. If the driver has to get out to load your stuff, 20-25% and/or at lest 3-5 bucks. If you're expecting the driver to then help you unload (past the curb in front of your house) another 1-3 bucks. If you want a driver to help you take stuff to your upstairs apartment, or down your 1/4 mile walkway to your door... 5 bucks at least, or he'll curse your name for hours and is liable to drive away the next time he pulls up to the store and sees that it's you (yes, I know drivers who've done that...)

If you're going into the neighborhoods to buy crack or whatnot, leave a deposit, and a 10-20% tip will assure that the driver won't remember your face.

If you're picking up hookers and bringing them back to your house, a good 10-20% will assure that he doesn't remember where you live.

If you expect the driver to help you shimmy your grandmother who's in a wheelchair down a flight of stairs... 50-100% is really fair.

And never, ever think that it's a good idea to make the driver wait 3 minutes while you fish 2 shiny dimes out of your purse to show your thankfulness for a 2 block ride to the hairdresser. Ever.

In general, with a taxi, the time the driver spends with you he can't spend making money somewhere else. If you're quick and efficient, then you can get away with less tipping... but if you burn up lots of time with extraneous futzing around, tipping is the only way to make up for it.

And as far as the class based social monarchy thing goes... it is ironic that waiters and bartenders tip well, and pimps & dealers too... but suits not so well. It's more of a sign of appreciation of the service provided, and a way for a customer to "give the worker a raise"... because the bosses sure as hell ain't gonna do it.
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Tierra_y_Libertad Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Apr-08-09 11:10 PM
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20. I gave $10 to the guy who cleaned our roof & gutters last week.
He did a great job on a slippery roof in the rain.
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empyreanisles Donating Member (313 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Apr-08-09 11:11 PM
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21. Alaways tip food delivery (to your residence) people $1 to $3
For example, the pizza delivery guy should get 1 to 2 dollars.

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On the Road Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Apr-09-09 11:37 AM
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36. Yeah, I Think $2 is Minimum for Delivery
driving that round trip takes time.
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orleans Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Apr-10-09 04:22 PM
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51. i tip my pizza delivery people $5. n/t
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Ex Lurker Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Apr-08-09 11:33 PM
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26. 20% to waitstaff for acceptable service
for subpar service, 10%. If really awful, I'll leave a dollar to let them know I didn't forget to tip, but their crappy service was duly noted. My barber owns his own shop and doesn't accept tips. I rarely encounter your other examples and don't have enough experience with them to know what's appropriate.
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petronius Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Apr-08-09 11:34 PM
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27. It depends a bit if it's my money or expense account money
But bottom line:

$5 per night to the hotel maid
$1 per bag when someone actually carries a bag (I usually pack light and carry it myself)
$1-3 to the shuttle driver
10-15% to the taxi driver (typically rounded up to whatever $5 increment exceeds the tip target)
$1 per person to the taxi stand guy
$1 per drink to the bartender
20%+ to waitstaff
$3-5 to the haircutter (Fantastic Sam's for me)
$4-5 for the pizza person
$5-10 for other workers who come to my house (cable, phone, gas, etc) but they often won't take it
$2-3 for the kayak rental attendant
$10-20 for the dive boat crew

No clue for doormen or elevator attendants - the one time I stayed at a place with an elevator person I handed him a $10 on the way out

Can't think of any other tipping situations I've found myself in...
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lpbk2713 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Apr-08-09 11:39 PM
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28. I tip my barber even though he's the owner.



I think his business has fallen off as a result of the BushCo economy.



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DeepBlueC Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Apr-08-09 11:53 PM
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30. I take cabs a lot...minimum $3 tip up to $12 and about 25% or more above that
Most of my rides are 6 to 15 dollars. No matter how low it goes I always give a minimum of $3 because short fares aren't a driver's dream so I like to make a cabbie glad he picked me up. And they never let me forget anything in the car and they help me get my bags out of the car and sometimes carry my stuff upstairs. Other than waiters and food deliverers those are about the only tipping situations I run into. A couple of summers of working waiting table as a student eons ago(god do I detest the public)left me with a life-long mission to make people working for tips happy. I tend to be pretty generous and enjoy doing it.
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Leftist Agitator Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Apr-08-09 11:55 PM
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31. The following:
Edited on Wed Apr-08-09 11:56 PM by Leftist Agitator
-- Hotel maids

I always take care of my own room, and specifically request no maid service.

-- Taxi drivers

Depends on their attitude. Where I live there are some real shitty cabdrivers. They get nothing. The good ones? 20% - 25%.

-- Skycaps

I don't fly.

-- Doormen

Where I live, there are no doormen.

-- Luggage handlers in hotels

I handle my own luggage.
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frazzled Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Apr-09-09 12:12 AM
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32. Personally ...
Hotel maids: $4-$5 per night, left at the end of the stay. (I realize this means a Friday maid may not get the tip left to the maid on Sunday, but I figure it evens out for them in the end.)

Taxi drivers: I think it's supposed to be only 10-15%, but we tend to do a round-up method. If it's seven dollars, we give nine. If it's in the eight-dollar range, we leave ten, etc.

Skycaps: rarely use them.

Doormen: rarely use. We lived in a doorman building for about six months while we were looking for a condo to purchase, and we would slip them a $20 bill every once in a while, as a kind of "good will" gesture (i.e., bribe).

Luggage handlers in hotels: we often will check our bags with the hotel at checkout time if our flight isn't until later in the day. That means a tip (say a five-spot for two small carry-on suitcases); then you have to do it again in the afternoon when you come back to get them, cause there's always a new guy.

Hairdressers: 15-20%, so they won't give you bad hair when you come back in three months.

Delivery guys: nothing to UPS or FedEx. On the rare occasion someone sends flowers (very rare!) or we order some big honkin' thing that needs to be carried up, a tip is in order.

The maintenance guys in our building: $75-$100 at Christmas. They also get pooled money taken out of our assessments from the whole building. But these guys work hard, and I know for one they get NO benefits (health insurance, etc.). A couple of times a year, we'll get them to come help with something (Luis helped the husband fix a faucet, Carlos helped him get down a heavy light fixture): they never accept something extra when we offer. They say it's their job. It's just good to know they're there.




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SPedigrees Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Apr-09-09 12:12 AM
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33. In general I avoid situations where tips are required.
I'm very uncomfortable having my bags carried, my hair styled or cut, etc. I do these things myself and avoid places that offer such services. I'm also uncomfortable tipping for services that I'm unaccustomed to receiving.

However I love to eat out and I tip waitresses/waiters at least 20% whether at a diner or a nicer restaurant. To me, anyone who has to deal with food deserves a good tip. Of course if they totally screw up my order I tip less, but I always tip at least 15% no matter how bad they are.

I also love to stay at motels and have someone else do the housekeeping, and I tip about $20 for one to two nights and about $50-75 for a week. I avoid fancy motels and like the cheaper motel 6 type places. I tend to tip better at the cheaper places since I figure the housekeeping wages are less there.

I tip about 1/4 of the fare in a cab.

I give the guy who trims our pony's hooves an extra $20 before xmas.

Other services I've tipped for are the construction workers who did the remodel and new addition on our house ($500 to the head guy and $200 to his assistant) and they deserved more.

If we win our court case (and possibly even if we have a not so great outcome) I intend to tip our attorney several hundred bucks because she's done a great job keeping apprised of the facts and has been consistently willing to fight for us.

This is a good topic about which I think a lot of people feel uncertainty.

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ConcernedCanuk Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Apr-09-09 05:02 AM
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35. Interesting thread - I've worked as a waiter in a bar, and as a cab driver
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I always did better than my fellow waiters and cabbies tip-wise

My customers liked me!

I knew when to talk, and when to shut up.

I paid attention to the attitude/needs of the customer,

drinkers never went dry, and cab customers always got assistance with their luggage and groceries without having to ask

As a cabbie, it was not unusual for me to outdo my cab-fares with tips.

Too bad I got in a kafuffle with the owners of the company, they fired me, I sued them, got ten grand - but I miss being a cabbie.

I liked the job, the customers, the traveling all over the city - -

I remember asking one customer when she commented that I was her favorite cabbie -

"Why am I your favorite cabbie"?

She responded

"You don't scare us!"

checking my face in the mirror, and then hers, I asked - "what does that mean?"

Her response:

"You drive like my father - slow and careful - every other cabbie I have been with drives like a madman to get from A to B"

The I started to understand

Until a taxi driver "clears" he/she is not entitled to another fare.

So most RACE to the destination, not with consideration for the passenger, but so they can "dump" this passenger and get on with the next fare.

Sad that -

OH - while I'm rambling for anyone that has bothered to read this far.

Once on a fare, I picked up a lady passenger on the edge of the city, the other side of the road was pure field and bush.

As I pulled out, I spotted a deer in the field close to the bush - asked my customer if she wanted to stop and watch it.

I saw her eyes go immediately to the fare meter and said - "oh - I'll just shut the damm thing off" -

I did and we watched the deer for 5 minutes before we got back on the road so to speak.

yeah - I sorta miss the cabbie thing . . .

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LeftHander Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Apr-09-09 11:43 AM
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37. 20%+ for restaurant service...others a fair tip.
Edited on Thu Apr-09-09 11:48 AM by LeftHander
I tipped the appliance delivery guys $20....
Tip food delivery $5-10 depending on the size of order.
Hair stylist $10-15

ones you mention $5-10

Doorman $5 for a days worth...$10 for last time.

Bartenders always get tipped before I leave or they go off-shift.

It is usually above 20%....








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NeedleCast Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Apr-09-09 11:53 AM
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39. I was a waiter and frequent business traveler
Hotel Maids: Most of my business trips were two to three weeks in one city/hotel so I'd leave a flat rate 20$ tip for anything two weeks or more. Two dollars a day otherwise

Cab Drivers: 20%
Skycap: $2/bag
Doormen: $2/bag or five bucks, if under five bucks

Best tip I can give on tipping is if you're going on a trip or whatever where you're going to be in a cab, going to a hotel, etc...keep plenty of ones and fives on you. That way you don't have to worry about being stuck with only a 20 in your pocket outside your hotel door with a bellboy axiously staring at you and having to ask for change.
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hfojvt Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Apr-09-09 11:55 AM
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40. and what about the janitor?
I always call the money I find on the floor my tips. I used to make about $2-4 a week in tips when I cleaned the bar. That's not a bad bump when you only make $5.5 an hour, although once my boss came in on a Saturday morning and said "holy crap, this place is trashed" and tipped me $20 the next day.

After working there for about a year, the bar got a new manager, and suddenly it seemed like somebody was blowing chunks all over the men's bathroom once a week. I thought about telling the management that I need an extra $10 or something whenever this happens because this is ridiculous.
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tjwash Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Apr-09-09 01:46 PM
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43. I'm reminded of an old buddy, who was a little, um, "challenged" in the area of etiquette
He knew that a patron should tip in a restaurant. He had zero clue, however, that gratuities are actually sort of customary for a number of other services as well.

What's more, he'd been going to the same barber for years (never tipping him of course) - and never really clued up, that his hair actually shouldn't end up looking like cross between the "Forrest Gump" and a "mid-Appalachia trailer park mullet" cut. Of course, he never really caught on to his mail getting accidentally mangled from time to time, and the fellows at the car wash always seemed to miss a few spots, but, like I said...slightly challenged in the area of etiquette.

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cobalt1999 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Apr-09-09 01:48 PM
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44. As a business traveler, I leave the waiter/bartender the difference between...
My meal and expense limit.

I usually only eat an appetizer and have a glass of wine in the evening, so the bartender is usually walking away with about a $25-$30 tip.

I figure it's mine to eat or spend like I want.
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blondeatlast Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Apr-09-09 01:51 PM
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45. Very well to start and even better for efficiency, better still for efficiency and a pleasant
attitude.

It's only right the way I was raised.
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lumberjack_jeff Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Apr-09-09 01:59 PM
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46. Your list was an epiphany to me.
Edited on Thu Apr-09-09 02:04 PM by lumberjack_jeff
Tipping is reserved for unnecessary jobs.

Necessary functions are never tipped. Luxury pursuits are. Bring me my food, and as a token of the superior social status conferred by my ability to snap my fingers and compel people to refill my water, I'll leave a few coins under the dirty dishes when I leave.

I'll bet if restaurants started carrying diners to and from their tables on these

They'd get even bigger tips.

Waiters get tips. Grocery clerks do not.
Taxi drivers get tips. Bus drivers, not.
Lawn care workers? Maybe. Home builders, electricians... the telephone guy? definitely not.
Babysitters? Sure. Teachers, no.

The likelihood of getting a tip is inversely proportional to the survival importance of the task being done.
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inna Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Apr-09-09 10:01 PM
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47. +1 NT

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orleans Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Apr-10-09 04:32 PM
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53. don't forget the christmas "$thank you$" to postal carriers. n/t
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Ilsa Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Apr-09-09 10:07 PM
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48. Anyone working on my face, hair, or food gets tipped well.
Edited on Thu Apr-09-09 10:09 PM by Ilsa
I tip servers around 20-25% for good service. Seems reasonable to me. I tip my barber/stylist about $4-5 for a $24 bill for both my kids' haircuts. I think it is good practice to treat nicely the people that do your hair, skin, or food.
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orleans Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Apr-10-09 04:26 PM
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52. let's not forget the performers you hire for various events
the band at the block party should get at least 20 percent of what they are charging--if they are playing for free then they should get a great tip.

the magician/clown/artist/mime/actor/performer you hire for the kid's birthday party deserves at least 20%

the piano player you hire for that special dinner party or fancy anniversary/christmas party needs at least 20% also.

i think a lot of people don't realize this.
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AllieB Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Apr-10-09 04:43 PM
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54. I'm a generous tipper unless I get disrespect or attitude.
-- Hotel maids: I used to travel a lot for business, and after reading Barbara Ehrenreich's 'Nickel and Dimed', I always tip $5-8/night.
-- Taxi drivers: 20% unless they drive like assholes or spend the ride talking on their cellphones (a serious danger in Boston traffic), 30% if they're taking me to the airport.
-- Skycaps: never use them as I travel light and rarely check luggage.
-- Doormen: $2-3
-- Luggage handlers in hotels: Again, I travel light and rarely need them.

Hair stylists, estheticians: 20%
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