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So, we have a guest this weekend. A few comments were made that raised the hairs on the back of my neck over the course of 3 days, little hints here and there. This morning, though, the shit hit the fan.
This person is a 'dive buddy' of my husband's. He is financially well-off white male (wife is a big wig with Fortune 500 Co.) educated as chem engineer, holds a good job. Doesn't want for anything. Has spoiled rotten kids. Actually sat on my couch this morning and said Barack Obama won't get elected because he is a 'black Muslim.' (I effectively refuted that one). Then he proceeded to openly tell me that he was a racist, but an Independent with a big I. I could not look at him as he spewed his invective and shared his ignorant views about African Americans, Muslims, and Jews. His basis for the racism is the time he spent living in the South.
This went on for about 10 minutes, at which point I had enough. I shut my computer and said I am going upstairs, suggested they leave the house and go diving. I slammed the bedroom door and my DH knew I was pissed, he came up to apologize. I was still in shock about what his friend said, and was kind of annoyed that my DH didn't tell him to stop talking such bullshit. I was literally shaking in anger. Part of me wishes that I could have very calmly said, I do not condone racism and bigotry, please leave it at the front door. But what I was really thinking is, how can I look at this person in the same way now, knowing how ignorant he is? He is toxic. I don't even want to be around him anymore.
He isn't welcome in my home from this point forward. Thankfully he is leaving tomorrow.
Thanks for letting me vent, this has really upset me today. -48
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