Move over, Mrs. Robinson: Older women have more to offer a younger man

[Missy Vixen]

According to Psychology Today, the thirty-year-old men who are currently looking for a younger woman are selling older women short.

http://tinyurl.com/37pnp4d

>The age of thirty-six places a woman firmly in the center of the twenty-seven-to-forty-five range that psychologists are calling the period of "reproduction expediting." From early twenties to late thirties women lose about half their ability to conceive, according to previous studies. In a new paper in press at Personality and Individual Differences, a group of researchers at the University of Texas at Austin argue that women in this age range experience a heightened sexuality in response to their diminishing fertility. As a result, the researchers contend: Women’s "biological clock" may function to shift psychological motivations and actual behaviors to facilitate utilizing remaining fertility.

In other words: yes, Benjamin, Mrs. Robinson is trying to seduce you.<

We've heard a lot about "cougars", but do you think it's a sustainable model for society?

[villager]

1. So then, rather than be sexist about this, we'll start saying the same about men, too?

:shrug:

[Missy Vixen]

9. It's not the same dynamic, is it?

Older men/younger woman: She gets financial security. He gets to brag about bagging the young chick.

Older woman/younger man: She has her own money. She's more than likely independent. It's nice if he's handsome, but sheesh. I should also mention that any woman over 40 even willing to be with someone 30 is going for somebody with a brain as well; she's bored if he doesn't have one.

IMHO, YMMV, discuss amongst yourselves.

[villager]

15. But again, a sexist double standard not tolerated in reverse: It's "better" when women do it

... the September/May thing.

Look, I think it's up to the two people in a given relationship to decide what makes their bells jingle, and I don't care about ages, etc., since it's their business, regardless of the gender match-up.

But I find it amusing -- among other things -- that older women with younger men is cool/hip/edgy, but somehow older men with younger women is icky/exploitive.

Bit of a double-standard, eh?

[FedUpWithIt All]

20. There are plenty who bash the old woman/younger man relationships.

There is a lot of stereotyping and insulting prejudice regarding either gender's age gap relationship scenarios.

I often wonder how the same people who state that a relationship between two consenting adults (particularly when speaking of homosexual couples)is only the business of the participants, can then turn around and dissect and insult the relationships of those who have a distance in age.

Hypocrisy abounds.

[SoCalDem]

2. Young men are not usually all that interested in the "concieving" ..

I can see a younger man being interested in a woman 10-15 yrs older than he is, but it could be because they are less likely to pressure him for marriage as a woman his own age, and they are more likely to be financially secure, and not looking to "trap" him into marrying them:evilgrin:

[LWolf]

17. Older women aren't, either.

It's hormones, not desire for parenthood that urge young men to spread their seed far, wide, and frequently. Biological imperatives are operating for both.

[Book Lover]

3. Yet what do younger men have to offer older women? (nm)

[SoCalDem]

4. something for them to brag about with their friends?

about how a hot young man finds them attractive:shrug:

[zipplewrath]

11. Mostly health

1) Relative virility. They will stay sexually healthy longer into the woman's life.
2) Economic support. The younger man will be in his prime "earning" years making "early retirement" easier for the woman.
3) Longevity. Women tend to outlive men by about a decade, so the younger man will tend to live closer to her life time.
4) Staying out of the Nursing home. He'll be slightly more likely to stay healthy enough to help her in her declining years.

[Warpy]

13. Enthusiasm? Reliable sex?

I've known a few cougars and for them, it was all about the sex, although they did care for their lovers in a patronizing sort of way and were as generous as the cash flow allowed.

[Lorien]

23. So in other words, exactly the same dynamic as the reverse. nt

[Warpy]

24. Younger women are far less enthusiastic about sex

than older women are.

[Lorien]

26. I've been both, and I never noticed any change in libido from age 18-45

it all depends on one's level of health, interest, and upbringing/ cultural environment. Older women are likely less inhibited...unless they become born agains along the way!

[Warpy]

27. Damn, I sure did.

My hormones raged during my 40s when there were few prospects, all the men my age being in the college bars creeping younger women out.

I was actually glad when they fizzled in my 50s. It's a lot more restful.

[FedUpWithIt All]

16. Conversation, companionship, laughter, shared interests...

The same thing same aged couples offer each other.

It is sad to see the prejudice that these age threads inspire.

[Beacool]

18. SEX!!!

They are enthusiastic, last longer and are eager to please the woman.

:evilgrin:

At least that's what I've heard.......

O8)

[UTUSN]

5. Could it be.... oh, I don't know... CASH?!1 (same as what old dudes have) n/t

[Barack_America]

6. How disappointing this ended up being about only sex.

[KittyWampus]

7. I was and am not interested in conceiving at any age- biological clock be damned.

[Missy Vixen]

12. I'm not interested in babies, either, but I wonder how many women

would give a younger guy a try if it were a realistic option.

[Hestia]

8. A sustainable model for society? Look at ancient history - look up hieros gammos

when the queen tired of the king (or he aged and wasn't performing up to snuff) the villagers killed the aging king and a new king was wed to the queen/goddess. Why did the villagers do this? They equated fertility of crops with the fertility of the king. The aged queen stepped down and her daughter was then queen.

[Beacool]

19. Ohhh, to be queen..........

:evilgrin:

[Warpy]

10. What's not sustainable is a fixation with youth

that causes a middle aged man to bolster his flagging sexual potency by following his dick out of a marriage to the fantasy of some sweet young thing, abandoning his family in the process.

Males will always find women barely post puberty the most attractive since they have the largest number of viable eggs. However, as a model for any sort of stable society, that attraction serves us poorly.

Only the French seem to have it figured out, that while younger women might look better, the woman over 40 is better.

[panader0]

14. My SO is 50

She's a "younger woman" to me.

[thelordofhell]

21. Who gives a shit........just be happy!!

Love like you've never had a broken heart. As long as they're not under 18, I see no problem with this.

[MineralMan]

22. Adults may have sex with other adults without restriction.

I guess I don't understand the problem. As long as the two (or more) consent to the activity, it should none of anyone else's business.

Maybe I'm funny to think that.

[asdjrocky]

25. Yeah, but I can't find a nice 65 year old woman who is interested in me.