pretend and deny what they really ARE. The right is full of assholes and they want to keep being assholes and get away with more assholery. Some people will give these assholes yet another benefit of a doubt,either because they sympathize with abusers identify as them.Or to avoid breaking the cultural imperative to be in denial about bad people and cling to the popular yet very false belief that all people are inherently good.
Out of every 100 people, approximately 90 have at least one sociopath in their circle of friends. Those remaining 10 people are the sociopaths. Estimates vary anywhere from 4% to 12% of those waiting in line with us at the grocery store are sociopaths. These personality disorders, categorized as sociopathic, are very misunderstood by the general population, especially in accepting the fact that they are extremely prevalent and dangerous.
I believe the first matter to deal with is to shed the denial. Of course, that’s very difficult to convince people of the reality … and for some, it’s virtually impossible. What is equally as prevalent and dangerous, as the condition itself, is the rampant denial.
http://country-of-liars.com/2520/sociopath-protection/Co-author Steven Hoffman, Ph.D., visiting assistant professor of sociology at the University at Buffalo, says, "Our data shows substantial support for a cognitive theory known as 'motivated reasoning,' which suggests that rather than search rationally for information that either confirms or disconfirms a particular belief, people actually seek out information that confirms what they already believe.
"In fact," he says, "for the most part people completely ignore contrary information.
http://machineslikeus.com/news/how-we-support-our-false-beliefshttp://www.scu.edu/ethics/publications/iie/v3n2/justworld.htmlWhy don't targets of abuse report their abuse? There are many reasons:
* abuse is a betrayal; the target trusted and depended on the integrity of another (eg child on adult, pupil on teacher, subordinate on manager) and that person betrayed them. The target fears and anticipates, often with justification, that when they report the abuse, they will be betrayed again.
* those in authority did nothing to prevent the abuse while it was happening, nor did they do anything subsequently. Very often it was the person in the position of authority who was the abuser. Trust in authority is low, with justification.
* the target fears, with justification, that no-one will believe them
* disbelief and denial are everywhere; people not trained in abuse and with no experience of dealing with abuse find it easier to disbelieve and deny the abuse
* if the target reports the abuse, and initiates legal action, prospects for future employment may be impaired
* abusers often operate in networks, sharing information, and even, in paedophilia, sharing victims; sometimes the networks are loose, sometimes they operate covertly within organizations, especially those of a secretive nature
* the abuser relies on compulsive lying, Jekyll & Hyde nature, and charm (click here for details) and uses denial, counter-attack, projection and feigning victim hood to evade accountability (click here for details). Charm has a motive - deception.
* the target felt fear at the time of abuse and continues to feel fear - fear of violence, fear of loss of job, fear of humiliation, fear of what others will think, etc
* the target feels ashamed of what happened, having been encouraged by the abuser to believe that they were responsible rather than that the abuser was responsible.
http://www.bullyonline.org/related/abuse.htm#Reporting%20abusehttp://www.zimbio.com/Psychopathy+-+Sociopathy/articles/mbKIk95CCKt/Getting+Through+My+Thick+Skull
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