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The fact of the matter is, it's a procedure desperately in search of a legitimate justification. The people who say "we're doing it because we've always done it and we want to do it and we're going to keep doing it" are at least being honest with themselves.
We actually spent a good amount of time agonizing over this before our son was born; When I was born, I had it done, I don't even think they gave my mom a choice, it was just done routinely to everyone. Aside from the fact that I come from a generation where it was the standard practice, I come from a family that is marginally Jewish and I grew up in an area that was predominantly Jewish. I didn't know anyone growing up who wasn't; maybe there was one kid in our whole High School, or two. I always assumed when I had kids my sons would have it done, not due to any religious inclination but just, again, because... My aunt didn't do it to my cousin in the 70s, and I remember thinking what a weird hippie she was. My sister didn't have it done to my nephew, and this was in the 80s, and I still thought it was very weird at the time.
By the time my wife was pregnant with my son, and we knew he was going to be a boy.. (somehow, I always knew) we started talking about it and again, I pretty much assumed we would do it. My wife is actually a practicing Jew, so one would think she would be more inclined towards it than I was. She had a lot of cultural pressure to do it... but she was more against it than I was, and was reading books about it and doing research on it.. I was totally on the fence up until the birth, probably leaning towards rather than against.
Then, the birth was really tough.. tough on my wife, and tough on my son. They were taking care of my wife up so I took my son to the nursery to get checked out and to have some tests done. They pricked his little foot for a glucose level and he screamed, and I felt an instinctive urge to protect him, even though I knew, obviously, they had to do this to check that he was okay... so we went back and were recovering in the hospital together, and this decision was making me miserable. And I think it was making my wife miserable, and the dr. wanted to know what we wanted to do... and I think my wife & I both looked at each other and had the same thought; like, if thinking about doing this is so stressful, fuck it, let's just NOT DO IT. After the thing with the foot, I think, I decided that no one was going to do anything to him unless it was absolutely necessary or medically indicated.
So we didn't. And we've NEVER regretted that decision, and now my son is old enough to understand... he's sort of appalled that anyone would consider taking off a part of his body without checking with him, first.
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