Just Fuck

[USMCMustang]

"Fuck it" My brother said about fighting in Iraq. "It is about oil," he said. Coming from a Bush fan, that really struck me. No more a Bush fan.

My wife had a choice between Greece for 2 years with me going or Afghanistan for 1 year by herself. I can't get a passport because of child support. I couldn't get a reduction after I lost my job, so I accrue at the rate when I was divorced. I "owe" more than I made in that time frame according to the State of South Carolina.

She'll be deployed from Feb 2012 to May 2012 and then go to Afghanistan for one year. I cried at work (alone of course). My wife is my best bud even though she drives me nuts sometimes. She came from Ecuador to study and became a citizen. A recruiter for the Navy got her and she has been doing it for 15 years and loves it. A college degree and a commission followed.

She is the "American Dream" and loves to watch Maddow and Shultz. I get her for three more months until June of 2013 and there are some people who want to fuck with her retirement.

I don't know what I am going to do. I will be so worried.

[akbacchus_BC]

1. Just be good to yourself! The politicians are not rooting for us!

[Rhiannon12866]

2. Oh, boy, am so sorry.

Your wife sounds quite remarkable. What would her job be in Afghanistan? Though I don't blame you for being worried. She's certainly a lot braver than I will ever be. Here's hoping that we're out of Afghanistan sooner rather than later. With bin Laden long gone, I don't know why we're still there. Hang in there, we're here for you... :hug:

[USMCMustang]

4. Logistics

[Rhiannon12866]

6. Wouldn't that mean that she'd be relegated to an office away from any fighting?

Certainly just being in Afghanistan is cause for concern, but at least she'd be away from the front lines... :hug:

[USMCMustang]

8. Sir, There is no front line.

It is as far as you can see there. We should be gone.

[Rhiannon12866]

10. I agree with that.

It baffles me why we're still there after all this time. I have no clue what the objective is at this point, nor have I for several years. All I meant was that your wife wouldn't be near anywhere there is active fighting, which should make you feel slightly better, Though I can't imagine what you're going through. I am so sorry, though your wife sounds exceptional. :(

[USMCMustang]

12. She Is Old School First Generation American

Family is first. Job is second, but job supports the family. She has trouble with the republican agenda and doesn't understand why they try to hurt the people. She will do whatever is necessary to support her family.

[Rhiannon12866]

13. I understand.

My mother was first generation, as well. I lost her two weeks ago. When my grandfather came to this country from Poland they made him a citizen and sent him to France to fight in the war. He still always thought this was a great country and welcomed the opportunity to work hard and did well for his family. When my grandmother (mother's mother) became a citizen, she cast her first vote for Lyndon Johnson. My father ever did forgive her for that... The countries may have changed, but the values have not.

[USMCMustang]

11. Where Is The Front Line?

They do convoys. Convoys = IEDs. I listen to what my bro says. Mortars are easy as a re RPGs.

[SheilaT]

3. I'm not sure I'm completely following you.

Normally if you start earning less money, you pay less child support/alimony.

I'm a wife whose spousal support ("alimony") got reduced by more than a half when he lost his job. I won't comment on my thinking he's gaming the system, because that's not the point. The point is, his income is less, so he gets to pay more.

Now where children are concerned, I'm more likely to take a hard line, but if you're making less money, you're making less money.

[USMCMustang]

5. Denied

"Motion for reduction denied" "You have a graduate degree and can make money." Not in a Southern county with no tech and a pop of 100,000. i always paid and had my checks garnished. They were (are) my kids. Oldest was paid for. I just think it is fair to base it on actaul income and not potential income in a make believe world. Child support is not a bad thing because you support your kids. It is just the crazy anount they hit me with.

[SheilaT]

14. Wow. The state of Kansas only looks at the actual

money earned. My ex could be working, but has chosen to return to school, isn't looking for work at all, even though he worked in IT for twenty-some years, and lives in a major metropolitan area (the Kansas City area) that there are LOTS of IT jobs for him.

He also inherited significant money from his parents, so he could be paying me support. I stayed home twenty-five years to raise our kids, made it possible for him to have the career he had.

Oh, well.

[EFerrari]

7. You'd think. As someone who divorced a sperm donor

and brought up two kids with exactly $35 of support, I can say my brother is going through the same thing. He is being charged for what he could make or has made in the past, not what he's making now or will make any time soon. He can't afford a lawyer so the bills pile up and his credit is being ruined. It's just unreal.

[USMCMustang]

9. South Carolina is Different

There is no justice for a man in family court.