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raccoon (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Oct-04-11 12:24 PM Original message |
Did your parents keep secrets such as one or the other of them having been married before, |
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CTyankee (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Oct-04-11 12:25 PM Response to Original message |
1. Yes. My brother freaked but I didn't. |
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Brickbat (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Oct-04-11 12:26 PM Response to Original message |
2. As far as I know, mine did not. However, I've been burdened with secrets from friends' parents. |
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Jim__ (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Oct-04-11 12:27 PM Response to Original message |
3. If they did, I never found out. |
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queenjane (258 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Oct-04-11 12:35 PM Response to Original message |
4. My mother was married before. She intended me NEVER to know |
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Walk away (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Oct-04-11 12:38 PM Response to Reply #4 |
7. That's a screen play! Get to it girl!....nt |
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lumberjack_jeff (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Oct-05-11 11:34 AM Response to Reply #4 |
61. How different you'd look? |
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Walk away (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Oct-04-11 12:35 PM Response to Original message |
5. I have a Step Brother and my parents don't know that I have known about him for ten years! |
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raccoon (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Oct-04-11 12:46 PM Response to Reply #5 |
10. If yall have the same dad, he's your half-brother. |
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Duer 157099 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Oct-05-11 06:10 PM Response to Reply #5 |
64. Do you want to meet him? How do you feel about his existence? |
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The Straight Story (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Oct-04-11 12:37 PM Response to Original message |
6. I have a daughter in CA who does not know I am her dad - yet |
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Booster (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Oct-04-11 12:44 PM Response to Original message |
8. Yes. When I was 35 my Mother sat me down & said "I have |
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Raschel (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Oct-05-11 08:11 AM Response to Reply #8 |
54. Well that really stinks. How crappy of her. Like you said, what was the point. She just put more |
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Booster (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Oct-05-11 11:20 AM Response to Reply #54 |
60. I really think she was testing me. If I had told my brother, she |
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Raschel (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Oct-05-11 08:12 AM Response to Reply #8 |
56. I've had two people confide in me that they don't think their parent (one is her dad, the other her |
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closeupready (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Oct-04-11 12:44 PM Response to Original message |
9. Yes, something like that, and I wasn't very happy about it. |
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csziggy (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Oct-06-11 12:24 AM Response to Reply #9 |
71. After my father's mother died the family found out she had been married before |
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gkhouston (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Oct-04-11 12:47 PM Response to Original message |
11. I didn't know my Dad had been married twice until I was almost 30. |
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madmom (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Oct-04-11 12:49 PM Response to Original message |
12. Yes, but they only thought is was a secret..... |
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TBF (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Oct-04-11 12:50 PM Response to Original message |
13. My children are still young but they have no idea that I was married |
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calimary (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Oct-04-11 12:56 PM Response to Original message |
14. Yep. My mom. |
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raccoon (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Oct-05-11 07:38 AM Response to Reply #14 |
46. That's the way I felt--why keep it such a deep, dark secret? |
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calimary (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Oct-05-11 05:13 PM Response to Reply #46 |
62. It just rendered me REALLY tired, fed-up tired, of these STOOOOPID taboos from yesteryear. |
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nenagh (657 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Oct-04-11 12:58 PM Response to Original message |
15. My father died when he was 92 yrs old, and essentially .. |
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eShirl (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Oct-04-11 12:58 PM Response to Original message |
16. No, but there was a secret that grandmother tried to keep about great-great grandmother |
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dmallind (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Oct-04-11 12:59 PM Response to Original message |
17. Nope - mother was twice married and never secret. Half sister and all |
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Raschel (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Oct-05-11 08:16 AM Response to Reply #17 |
58. I'm not questioning your situation, but I know a a young lady who looks just like her adoptive |
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dmallind (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Oct-05-11 09:24 AM Response to Reply #58 |
59. I suppose it's possible - only a limited number of "looks". Major coincidence though! nt |
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spin (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Oct-04-11 01:06 PM Response to Original message |
18. Yes. I found out that my father had been married before ... |
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KatyMan (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Oct-04-11 01:08 PM Response to Original message |
19. If there were no children, does it matter? |
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DCKit (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Oct-04-11 01:16 PM Response to Original message |
20. I always wished I were adopted and unrelated to my family. |
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Manifestor_of_Light (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Oct-04-11 01:21 PM Response to Original message |
21. My dad had been married before, during the Depression. |
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raccoon (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Oct-05-11 07:47 AM Response to Reply #21 |
47. Exactly how I felt! "I was shocked that nobody told me." |
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csziggy (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Oct-06-11 12:33 AM Response to Reply #21 |
74. One reason it was kept hidden was there were no "no fault" divorces |
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get the red out (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Oct-04-11 01:27 PM Response to Original message |
22. Yea, I created a "shot gun" situation - found out at 47 |
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sad sally (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Oct-05-11 10:41 PM Response to Reply #22 |
67. When our son was seven years old, his older cousin told him that |
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csziggy (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Oct-06-11 12:40 AM Response to Reply #22 |
75. Yeah, hubby was born exactly seven months to the day |
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sinkingfeeling (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Oct-04-11 01:31 PM Response to Original message |
23. No. |
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Javaman (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Oct-04-11 01:32 PM Response to Original message |
24. I think my aunt was really my grandmother but that's a whole other story. nt |
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DisgustipatedinCA (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Oct-04-11 01:37 PM Response to Original message |
25. Yes. My parents even had a fake anniversary date that covered 2 marriages |
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ljm2002 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Oct-04-11 01:43 PM Response to Original message |
26. My dad was absent from our lives... |
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hifiguy (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Oct-04-11 01:43 PM Response to Original message |
27. My story is similar to yours |
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Throckmorton (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Oct-04-11 01:44 PM Response to Original message |
28. Yes, and it all made sense years later. |
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JVS (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Oct-05-11 07:49 AM Response to Reply #28 |
48. What kind of group of siblings wouldn't take in their nephews? |
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Throckmorton (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Oct-05-11 10:13 PM Response to Reply #48 |
65. That was why I never met any of them. |
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TwilightGardener (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Oct-04-11 02:04 PM Response to Original message |
29. I don't think so--my parents' and grandparents' lives are pretty well documented |
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mysuzuki2 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Oct-04-11 02:10 PM Response to Original message |
30. I didn't find out until I was in college that my dad was adopted. |
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ChazII (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Oct-04-11 02:13 PM Response to Original message |
31. Yes. |
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ieoeja (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Oct-04-11 02:25 PM Response to Original message |
32. My grandmother kept secret being raped by her biological father and the subsequent abortion. |
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gkhouston (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Oct-04-11 02:48 PM Response to Reply #32 |
40. One of my grandmothers was the illegitimate child of her "foster mother". |
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Lone_Star_Dem (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Oct-04-11 02:26 PM Response to Original message |
33. Sure did. |
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Xithras (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Oct-04-11 02:29 PM Response to Original message |
34. I found out as a teen that both of my parents had been married previously. |
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EFerrari (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Oct-04-11 02:29 PM Response to Original message |
35. My family had more secrets than the Winchester Mystery House. |
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Rhythm (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Oct-04-11 02:37 PM Response to Original message |
36. I found out about my dad's two previous marriages when my older half-sibs showed up |
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jtrockville (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Oct-04-11 02:40 PM Response to Original message |
37. I found out about, and met my half-sister when I was 24. |
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pipi_k (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Oct-04-11 02:42 PM Response to Original message |
38. I never knew for years that our grandmother |
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mimitabby (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Oct-04-11 02:51 PM Response to Reply #38 |
42. me too |
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raccoon (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Oct-05-11 08:09 AM Response to Reply #38 |
52. Good golly! "Edna was put in prison for promiscuity." If people were put in prison for that now, |
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laundry_queen (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Oct-04-11 02:48 PM Response to Original message |
39. There are a few in our extended family |
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raccoon (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Oct-05-11 08:11 AM Response to Reply #39 |
55. Well said! |
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MountainLaurel (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Oct-04-11 02:48 PM Response to Original message |
41. Found out when I was about 10 |
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shanti (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Oct-04-11 02:56 PM Response to Original message |
43. no, but a cousin |
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hunter (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Oct-04-11 03:01 PM Response to Original message |
44. A family history of mental illness. |
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pipi_k (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Oct-05-11 07:52 AM Response to Reply #44 |
49. I hear ya... |
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Wait Wut (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Oct-04-11 03:06 PM Response to Original message |
45. My greatgrandmother disappeared. |
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seabeyond (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Oct-05-11 08:05 AM Response to Original message |
50. hm... nada. or secret so well kept, i never found out. my parents were really young |
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Solly Mack (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Oct-05-11 08:08 AM Response to Original message |
51. Yes. Both big and small secrets. |
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bigwillq (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Oct-05-11 08:11 AM Response to Original message |
53. No |
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Aerows (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Oct-05-11 08:13 AM Response to Original message |
57. My mother |
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Raine (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Oct-05-11 06:00 PM Response to Original message |
63. I found out long after she was dead that my grandmother was a lesbian |
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grasswire (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Oct-05-11 10:27 PM Response to Reply #63 |
66. I have come to think that my mother was bi or lesbian |
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MilesColtrane (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Oct-05-11 11:45 PM Response to Original message |
68. It was never discussed that... |
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CaliforniaPeggy (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Oct-05-11 11:57 PM Response to Original message |
69. The woman I thought was my Grandma......wasn't. |
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Manifestor_of_Light (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Oct-06-11 12:21 AM Response to Original message |
70. My dad did not speak to his sister for FIFTY YEARS |
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iris27 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Oct-06-11 12:27 AM Response to Original message |
72. Oh, God, tons. |
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73. This is an amazing thread. Thank you. |
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