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They ALL have a "rags to riches," "local boy makes good," "nobody ever gave me nothin'" story they just can't wait to share with you. Real "pull yourself up by your bootstraps" kind of stuff. Every last one of them has one. All of them came from nowhere and became successful simply by the sweat of their brow and no help from anyone. And you know what? I bet the vast majority of them actually BELIEVE it when they say it.
I was in a discussion with one of my friends from high school a while back over Facebook. He was relaying his "nobody ever gave me nuthin'" story too. The problem was, even though I hadn't spoken to him in years, I was friends with him back when we were kids. So I KNOW how he grew up. I remember how his family was rich and lived in a big house in a ritzy neighborhood. I remember how he got everything he ever wanted just by asking for it. I remember how it was like going to Disneyland when I, the kid who's father was a public school teacher, went over to his house. I remember going horseback riding with him on HIS OWN HORSE. I remember riding my broken-down bike over to his house to ride on his ATV with him. I remember him getting a car on his 16th birthday, while I didn't get a car until much later, and when I did, it was a broken-down jalopy that my parents bought for like $100 (no exaggeration), and only because they were tired of having to come pick me up from football practice every day. I also remember running into him later in life, when he was trying to get a solo chiropractic practice off the ground, and was being completely and totally financed by.............say it with me, now...........his parents.
I knew all that stuff, and here was on Facebook doling out advice about how other people should live based on his vast amount of knowledge on how to get by when nobody gives you nuthin'. And the really galling thing about is that I think he's actually gone all "Stepford Wives" and really BELIEVES that he achieved his station in life without any help from anyone.
Oh, and in case you're interested in what led to the lengthy "discussion," he had posted an article about how people should never get car loans. His comment on the article was something about how he remembered his dad telling him long ago that with the exception of getting an education and buying a house, you should NEVER take out a loan. So there you have it. Don't get suckered in. Do the SMART thing and plunk down that extra $20,000 you have just lying around on your car and don't waste your money on interest payments. Yeah, that's a great idea, in theory. But some of us live in the REAL WORLD where if you DON'T take out a car loan, you're hoofing it to work every day. Great, sound financial advice, Mr. Nobody Ever Gave Me Nuthin'.
Interesting post-script: shortly after that conversation, I discovered that this guy (who was actually my best friend in high school) had defriended me. And it had nothing to do with me airing his dirty laundry (I didn't write any of that stuff above). I simply disagreed with him and systematically shot down his points. That was IT. Guess Mr. Rough-And-Tumble, Hard-Scrabble-Life couldn't take someone exposing his worldview as a fraud.
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