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In elementary school, at least. Things like "pays attention in class," "gets along with others," etc. And those certainly always became topics during teacher-parent conferences. I remember teachers saying, alternately, of my daughter, "she is very quiet" or "she's such a pleasure to have in class." Really? I'd think: the child who never stops yakking and yakking at home and can sometimes be an absolute terror? My son's 2nd grade teacher, I remember, complained that he was such "a linear thinker." She seemed really irritated about it. I said to myself, "Well, what the heck can I do about THAT?" We certainly read him story books and gave him many creative outlets, including art and music, but the kid turned out to be a mathematician, fer chrissake.
We certainly don't want everybody to be the same (heck, some people are shy and some are boisterous), and I don't always think teachers can fairly judge behavioral or character traits. (Not that these grades ever counted for anything.) But sometimes these assessments can be useful in informing parents of how their child acts when away from home, or can provide them with ways to help with self-control or being more comfortable in social situations. They might even inform a parent who is in denial about real problems their child is having. I recall talking to a friend about my worries that my son was not very social, and didn't make friends easily. "Is HE unhappy about it?" my friend asked. No, I decided. "Then it's not a problem." That always became the measure I used when teachers pointed out some behavioral trait of my children.
At any rate, this is just to say that kids have gotten "graded" (or in some way marked) for character/behavior traits for many many years. They might not have been called the same thing, but "self-control" and "social intelligence" were always among the mix of things my kids' teachers reported on when they were young.
Maybe (just maybe, and I'm not saying I agree), a kid who is getting a low mark in 'optimism' (what the heck is that anyway?) will be encouraged to stop being a negative-Nellie all the time and start trying to improve her mark by finding something nice to say. She'll certainly be more successful in life if she does. I'm recalling a little boy I mentored in first and second grades. He was brilliant but a terror, and was always yelling out in class "that's STUPID!" "she's STUPID" (or worse, poking kids with scissors, etc.). I pulled him aside after class one day and said to him, "you know, everything has been "stupid" for you lately; usually, when someone always thinks everything or everyone else is stupid, it's really something they are feeling bad about themselves. What's bothering you? He started to cry, and told me how he'd been left alone while his mom had been taken to the hospital the night before, and he didn't know where she was and he was worried." I hugged him and, after telling him we'd help him find out about his mother, talked to him about making other children feel bad. His behavior improved, with some exceptions, over the year. I didn't seem him until four years later, at sixth grade graduation. My little terror gave the graduation speech for his class, all dressed in a jacket and tie, and beaming from ear to ear! I cried buckets, knowing he was going to be A-OK.
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