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trump Lands In Alaska, Dressed To Negotiate With Putin (Original Post) groundloop Aug 2025 OP
Will He Wear a Dental Dam This Time? MrWowWow Aug 2025 #1
Nice shot, sir or madame! CTyankee Aug 2025 #2
isn't funny - - (and wasn't terribly funny back in 7th grade .. ) - - -(nt)- stopdiggin Aug 2025 #3
Yes. We have to move away from middle school insults and MineralMan Aug 2025 #12
Waiting for some responses for the "this is why we lose" file. BannonsLiver Aug 2025 #4
You were correct. nt Celerity Aug 2025 #10
My response had zero to do with winning or losing. Ms. Toad Aug 2025 #14
You misread what the poster I replied to was saying. Celerity Aug 2025 #20
He named those pads Neil and Bob Martin Eden Aug 2025 #5
he brought out the big ones rurallib Aug 2025 #6
He will need to wipe off his chin before the presser RainCaster Aug 2025 #7
The art of the deal Hornedfrog2000 Aug 2025 #9
Please delete. Ms. Toad Aug 2025 #8
Where was 'gay' mentioned? I see a commentary on power/domination, in a similar vein to Celerity Aug 2025 #11
Don't play games. Ms. Toad Aug 2025 #13
I'm not playing any games. I made my stance clear. As a queer female I refuse to buy into the over-expansive use of Celerity Aug 2025 #17
But you don't get to decide that for all gays, or for DU. Ms. Toad Aug 2025 #19
Nor do you. And as stated, I do not see this OP (not made by me) as falling under the EarlG directive. Celerity Aug 2025 #23
I didn't say I got to decide - I said EarlG already has, as to what is permitted on this site. n/t Ms. Toad Aug 2025 #24
This message was self-deleted by its author Celerity Aug 2025 #28
Look at the first post of mine you responded to. I quoted EarlG, Ms. Toad Aug 2025 #31
My first reply was adressing the framing attempt and stood on it's own, as general observation. I did not use EarlG Celerity Aug 2025 #34
it is without question a slur against (male) gay sex stopdiggin Aug 2025 #42
I disagree. As stated before, it is a commentary on power and the domination of Putin over Trump. Celerity Aug 2025 #47
sure it is! and that's why all the 7th graders find it so hysterical stopdiggin Aug 2025 #50
It's about............ Celerity Aug 2025 #51
it's about 7th grade locker room humor - degradation - and cruelty stopdiggin Aug 2025 #52
I can see all sides of this argument but no one mentions that it was used against women for centuries. 58Sunliner Aug 2025 #62
I speak for no one but myself, but... Orrex Aug 2025 #35
I'm with you Celerity. Someone sucking up to a person for a power play doesn't have anything to do with being gay or BComplex Aug 2025 #37
Don't play games!111 BannonsLiver Aug 2025 #41
Exactly. This kind of juvenile nonsense gets us exactly nowhere. MineralMan Aug 2025 #16
And beyond that - Ms. Toad Aug 2025 #18
Yes, of course. MineralMan Aug 2025 #21
So are you saying, aside from the juvenile aspect Solomon Aug 2025 #25
Trump isn't a female. Ms. Toad Aug 2025 #30
or - perhaps just packing away the crude (and quite obviously homophobic) humor as a starting point? -(nt)- stopdiggin Aug 2025 #43
We are going to "offend" ourselves out of being able to talk to one another. hamsterjill Aug 2025 #48
I can laugh at crude humor (most of us can, and do) stopdiggin Aug 2025 #53
Then ignore it and move on, or alert if you feel you must. hamsterjill Aug 2025 #54
or call it out. for the public reprobation and clap back that it deserves. stopdiggin Aug 2025 #55
Where did I say you could not respond? And I have a right to criticize what I want to criticize just like you do. hamsterjill Aug 2025 #57
I believe it was fairly direct .. stopdiggin Aug 2025 #58
I think you're reaching. hamsterjill Aug 2025 #59
under no illusions about my ability to 'control' stopdiggin Aug 2025 #60
100 percent BannonsLiver Aug 2025 #56
If you think this post breaks the rules, alert on it and let a jury decide. ShazzieB Aug 2025 #38
It is in EarlG's hands now. n/t Ms. Toad Aug 2025 #39
Yeah....nt Figarosmom Aug 2025 #15
She has always been right!! aeromanKC Aug 2025 #22
Good 1 gab13by13 Aug 2025 #26
Chump's magats understand kneepads. BidenRocks Aug 2025 #27
This is offensive Orrex Aug 2025 #29
Ha! skamaria Aug 2025 #40
Doesn't want his old knees to give out during the extended ass kissing session? LudwigPastorius Aug 2025 #32
I do not see any comment on why he's wearing knee pads? vapor2 Aug 2025 #33
and you saw that as necessary .. ? stopdiggin Aug 2025 #44
Will "Seward's Folly" beome known as ultralite001 Aug 2025 #36
not a gay thing a subservience thing. nt msongs Aug 2025 #45
Gracious, wherever did those kneepads come from? Paladin Aug 2025 #46
Yup republianmushroom Aug 2025 #49
It is interesting to me as a woman who has had to live with this type of imaging/insult/degradation, 58Sunliner Aug 2025 #61
It never crossed my mind that it might be a gay sex reference. I took it as that Trump would kneel down to Putin and progree Aug 2025 #63

MineralMan

(150,423 posts)
12. Yes. We have to move away from middle school insults and
Fri Aug 15, 2025, 12:14 PM
Aug 2025

start working on helping people understand how this can be fixed.

Ms. Toad

(38,050 posts)
14. My response had zero to do with winning or losing.
Fri Aug 15, 2025, 12:18 PM
Aug 2025

It had to do with using being gay as an insult, which EarlG has forbidden on DU - not because it has anything to do with winning or losing, but because it is hurtful for those of us who are gay to have our lives used as an insult.

https://www.democraticunderground.com/100215969127

RainCaster

(13,347 posts)
7. He will need to wipe off his chin before the presser
Fri Aug 15, 2025, 11:55 AM
Aug 2025

No sense showing the press what we all know. Of course the press will swallow it all...

 

Hornedfrog2000

(866 posts)
9. The art of the deal
Fri Aug 15, 2025, 12:07 PM
Aug 2025

Sell out your country, and then sell out other peoples countries you have no say in.

I expect some horrifying, market shifting declaration tonight to get people off of epstein.

Ms. Toad

(38,050 posts)
8. Please delete.
Fri Aug 15, 2025, 12:05 PM
Aug 2025

According to EarlG, implying someone we hate is gay is not permitted on DU

While I'm on the subject, please knock off the "Lindsey Graham is gay/a woman" jokes. Most of you have figured this out by now, and DU Juries actually have a pretty solid track record of removing these posts, but you know what would be even better? If we didn't have to send such bigoted "jokes" to Juries in the first place.

Thanks for reading.


https://www.democraticunderground.com/100215969127



Celerity

(53,333 posts)
11. Where was 'gay' mentioned? I see a commentary on power/domination, in a similar vein to
Fri Aug 15, 2025, 12:13 PM
Aug 2025

prison rape, which is not about sexual orientation, but about power, control, and subjugation.

Ms. Toad

(38,050 posts)
13. Don't play games.
Fri Aug 15, 2025, 12:16 PM
Aug 2025

You know exactly what was intended, as did those who made the half-dozen other disgusting posts in the thread.

Celerity

(53,333 posts)
17. I'm not playing any games. I made my stance clear. As a queer female I refuse to buy into the over-expansive use of
Fri Aug 15, 2025, 12:24 PM
Aug 2025

framing that see 'homophobia' in most anything those employing said overly expansive (IMHO) framings choose to see it in.

Celerity

(53,333 posts)
23. Nor do you. And as stated, I do not see this OP (not made by me) as falling under the EarlG directive.
Fri Aug 15, 2025, 12:30 PM
Aug 2025

I see it as a power/domination (Putin over Trump) commentary, not calling out Trump and Putin as gay.

Ms. Toad

(38,050 posts)
24. I didn't say I got to decide - I said EarlG already has, as to what is permitted on this site. n/t
Fri Aug 15, 2025, 12:31 PM
Aug 2025

Response to Ms. Toad (Reply #24)

Ms. Toad

(38,050 posts)
31. Look at the first post of mine you responded to. I quoted EarlG,
Fri Aug 15, 2025, 12:41 PM
Aug 2025

and linked to one of his posts on the matter.

Celerity

(53,333 posts)
34. My first reply was adressing the framing attempt and stood on it's own, as general observation. I did not use EarlG
Fri Aug 15, 2025, 12:50 PM
Aug 2025

in it. Sorry for any confusion that came from my last reply, which was not correctly stated by myself.

I have removed it.

stopdiggin

(14,859 posts)
42. it is without question a slur against (male) gay sex
Fri Aug 15, 2025, 03:18 PM
Aug 2025

to claim otherwise is both disingenuous, bordering on dishonest - and rather inartfully in the attempt at that.

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Celerity

(53,333 posts)
47. I disagree. As stated before, it is a commentary on power and the domination of Putin over Trump.
Fri Aug 15, 2025, 04:26 PM
Aug 2025

There is nothing disingenuous in my stance on that.

stopdiggin

(14,859 posts)
50. sure it is! and that's why all the 7th graders find it so hysterical
Fri Aug 15, 2025, 07:02 PM
Aug 2025

Of course! All about power dynamics - n' other stuff like that!
First thing comes to mind ...

stopdiggin

(14,859 posts)
52. it's about 7th grade locker room humor - degradation - and cruelty
Fri Aug 15, 2025, 07:43 PM
Aug 2025

and plain as the nose on your face.

58Sunliner

(6,273 posts)
62. I can see all sides of this argument but no one mentions that it was used against women for centuries.
Sat Aug 16, 2025, 10:53 AM
Aug 2025

Being a queer female myself and coming from a city that has a strong BDSM culture and LGBTQ population, I see this as a power dynamic as well.

Orrex

(66,518 posts)
35. I speak for no one but myself, but...
Fri Aug 15, 2025, 12:51 PM
Aug 2025

When I see this kind of commentary, it strikes me as an act of submission by the person who would usually find the commission of the act abhorrent . They are, in essence, subordinating themselves to their superior by performing a service that they would perform for no one else.

I’m not naive; I can see why people object to the imagery, and I have no doubt that it’s readily used as a homophobic slur, but I think it’s possible to see it as it as a peon trying by any means necessary to ingratiate himself to his owner.

BComplex

(9,698 posts)
37. I'm with you Celerity. Someone sucking up to a person for a power play doesn't have anything to do with being gay or
Fri Aug 15, 2025, 01:05 PM
Aug 2025

straight...it has to do with another type of "bending the knee"...it's just whether you have knee pads on your old joints or no knee pads.

I'm shocked to see anyone trying to make this about being gay. It's neither a mutual appreciation, positive and pleasurable, relationship nor a violent (rape) sexual encounter between people of the same sex...it's about power and domination on the world stage....something trump has flaunted since he came down the escalator.

MineralMan

(150,423 posts)
16. Exactly. This kind of juvenile nonsense gets us exactly nowhere.
Fri Aug 15, 2025, 12:23 PM
Aug 2025

It wasn't funny in middle school, and it's not funny now. Nor is it in any way useful.

MineralMan

(150,423 posts)
21. Yes, of course.
Fri Aug 15, 2025, 12:27 PM
Aug 2025

And it's not OK just because it's Trump. That changes nothing about the crudeness and juvenility.

Solomon

(12,627 posts)
25. So are you saying, aside from the juvenile aspect
Fri Aug 15, 2025, 12:33 PM
Aug 2025

of the image, that if it was a female president, putting the kneepads there wouldn't be making the same point? There's nothing "gay" about making that point. I agree that it's juvenile, but political cartoons are juvenile in the same sense.

I guess if it was a female in the image we'd be decrying the image for being misogynistic. I guess no one can ever talk about a person sucking up to someone period. We need to find a better term.

Ms. Toad

(38,050 posts)
30. Trump isn't a female.
Fri Aug 15, 2025, 12:39 PM
Aug 2025

And had the president been female, the joke likely wouldn't have been made at all, and certainly would not have been posted on DU.

Misogyny and homophobia are closely related, and implying men on the right we hate are gay or women plays into both of these. And, unfortunately, far too many DU members rationalize what is going on as something else (hypocrisy, power dynamics, etc.)

stopdiggin

(14,859 posts)
43. or - perhaps just packing away the crude (and quite obviously homophobic) humor as a starting point? -(nt)-
Fri Aug 15, 2025, 03:23 PM
Aug 2025

hamsterjill

(16,882 posts)
48. We are going to "offend" ourselves out of being able to talk to one another.
Fri Aug 15, 2025, 05:47 PM
Aug 2025

There are some on this board who find offense with everything.

When we can't freely express ourselves because we have to be too cautious of who we will offend, we are walking a tightrope.

When I saw the image in the OP, I laughed. That does not make me homophobic.

stopdiggin

(14,859 posts)
53. I can laugh at crude humor (most of us can, and do)
Fri Aug 15, 2025, 07:52 PM
Aug 2025

At the same time - I am not the person that is bringing the degrading (and deliberately offensive) stuff to the table. Not repeating it, Not promoting. Not perpetuating ...

Because I am not a 7th grader.

hamsterjill

(16,882 posts)
54. Then ignore it and move on, or alert if you feel you must.
Fri Aug 15, 2025, 07:58 PM
Aug 2025

Let everyone deal with their own moralities and consciences. As mentioned further down in the thread, DU has a jury system. Let that work.

But posters telling other posters that they have to behave a certain way to accommodate another poster's idea of what is offensive gets absurd. THAT is like 7th grade to me.

We are all different.

An example of that difference is my own opinion that this was NOT deliberately offensive.

stopdiggin

(14,859 posts)
55. or call it out. for the public reprobation and clap back that it deserves.
Fri Aug 15, 2025, 08:10 PM
Aug 2025

Annnnd - why then, would you think it appropriate/okay to criticize (and silence .. ?) my approach - my voice?

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hamsterjill

(16,882 posts)
57. Where did I say you could not respond? And I have a right to criticize what I want to criticize just like you do.
Fri Aug 15, 2025, 09:11 PM
Aug 2025

A response is one thing; expecting everyone else to feel the same sensitivities to the same degree as you is not the same thing.

I have been a Democrat since I was old enough to vote, but do I agree with EVERY SINGLE line item on the party platform? No. But I don't lay awake at night expecting the whole world to conform to what I think it should be. As an adult, I expect that there are going to be things that offend me, and that I need to learn to deal with those things rather than trying to change everyone else. Democrats are widely diverse and have widely different views about many things. To expect to put everyone into one, neat, perfect little box that keeps any one person happy and offends no one is expecting too much.

Perhaps the real question here is why are some so sensitive about any given topic?

stopdiggin

(14,859 posts)
58. I believe it was fairly direct ..
Fri Aug 15, 2025, 09:28 PM
Aug 2025

Last edited Sat Aug 16, 2025, 01:21 AM - Edit history (1)

"Then ignore it and move on"
" - posters telling other posters that they have to behave a certain way to accommodate another poster's idea of what is offensive gets absurd."

That is exactly what you are advocating/directing ...
Sorry if you can not see the irony - the incongruity. It is reasonably plain.

hamsterjill

(16,882 posts)
59. I think you're reaching.
Fri Aug 15, 2025, 09:43 PM
Aug 2025

I am advocating accepting differences and not expecting the world to accommodate everyone's sensitivities.

I am sorry if you feel the need to control what other people post.

It's fruitless to continue this exchange. Have a nice evening. I am done.

stopdiggin

(14,859 posts)
60. under no illusions about my ability to 'control'
Sat Aug 16, 2025, 01:37 AM
Aug 2025

Either other posters - or community standards. But I damned sure do have the option (at least I thought I did) of letting them know when I disagree, or disapprove. There are times of course when I just pass things over ... But I refuse to feel shamed, or chastised, when I choose otherwise.

Meanwhile, you are 100% correct on one thing - and that is that the exchange has been essentially without resolution and fruitless. Have a nice one.

BannonsLiver

(20,172 posts)
56. 100 percent
Fri Aug 15, 2025, 08:30 PM
Aug 2025

A lot of folks live in their little homogenized bubble safe spaces. This is the kind of thing people use in the real world to mock people.

ShazzieB

(22,070 posts)
38. If you think this post breaks the rules, alert on it and let a jury decide.
Fri Aug 15, 2025, 01:10 PM
Aug 2025

That's what we're supposed to do when we think a post breaks the DU TOS.

FTR, I agree with you on the Lindsey Graham stuff, but i also believe this meme is about power/domination, not anyone's sexuality.

BidenRocks

(2,624 posts)
27. Chump's magats understand kneepads.
Fri Aug 15, 2025, 12:36 PM
Aug 2025

They have no idea what subservience is and could never spell it!

Gotta KISS!

Paladin

(32,144 posts)
46. Gracious, wherever did those kneepads come from?
Fri Aug 15, 2025, 03:42 PM
Aug 2025

My best guess: Bill Maher left them at the White House, after his last visit.

58Sunliner

(6,273 posts)
61. It is interesting to me as a woman who has had to live with this type of imaging/insult/degradation,
Sat Aug 16, 2025, 10:46 AM
Aug 2025

that has been used historically against women for centuries. It has also been used against gay males. It has been used to denote the feminization/degradation of men in a power dynamic, a loss of masculine status and a wink at the lack of real power feminization is ascribed.
The reality is that these are 2 people, a psychopath and a sociopath who fetishize power, violence, sexual abuse and degradation. Both utterly toxic and craven.

progree

(12,653 posts)
63. It never crossed my mind that it might be a gay sex reference. I took it as that Trump would kneel down to Putin and
Sat Aug 16, 2025, 12:16 PM
Aug 2025

beg for some concessions on Ukraine.

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