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As anyone who has watched Trump over the last 30 years knows, he cheats on his wives. He has publicly bragged about his infidelities for years, in print, on television and on radio. No big deal and I don't care since it's public knowledge and I don't look to Donald Trump for morality.
The new story in the New Yorker featuring Playboy model Karen McDougal is hardly surprising. It's only interesting facet comes from the details of how Trump covered for his behavior. Again, no big deal because he wasn't a public servant at the time so I don't care.
But something in the story bothers me. In her 8-page, handwritten letter, Ms. McDougal wrote:
Okay, she wouldn't accept money from Trump for the sex they shared because she's "not 'that girl.'" What? She just had an adulterous affair with a man she knew to be married. So she's 'not that girl,' she's 'this girl.'
The fluidity of her morality is striking.
One other point: Ms. McDougal apparently sold her story to the National Enquirer for $150,000. It was an exclusive deal and restricted her ability to speak with other media outlets.
The National Enquirer didn't take away her rights; she sold them. This kind of exclusive deal would nearly always have limitations on her. It's why they paid the money! Apparently, their agreement had a term limit and the media company has been trying to extend the contract. Is she negotiating through the media?
So, I'm not sure I see how she is a victim. In fact, since she could have come forward at anytime, that she's done so now is suspect.
Ultimately, I really don't care much about any of this. The dangers that Trump presents are far more important than his sex life. By the way, I'm certain Melania must be thrilled to hear these stories. I doubt that this latest story is a revelation to her but if it makes Trump's home life uncomfortable, I'm all for it!
As I wrote above, none of this story is particularly surprising for anyone who has looked at Trump's life. It also proves the point that everyone who comes into contact with Trump is either creepy to begin with or they get soiled.
hlthe2b
(102,225 posts)unless I missed that she was also married.
Again, I believe in the "sisterhood" and would never personally become involved with a married man. But, it seems like society always goes after the woman in these situations. It was Trump who was married, committing the adultery.
PJMcK
(22,031 posts)The affair was adulterous by definition: at least one party was in a marriage. She knew he had a wife.
In this case, however, how is society going after Ms. McDougal? It seems like she's crying the blues because she can't tell her story. But she-- and her lawyer-- made an exclusive deal for a lot of money. As I wrote, that's why she was paid.
Trump and his goon squad will deny everything, of course. Then later, when more details come out, they'll revise their story. It's part of their atrocious dishonest behavior.
brush
(53,765 posts)extensive investigation.
bobbieinok
(12,858 posts)PJMcK
(22,031 posts)Never in my life could I imagine pulling out my wallet after an evening of sex!
For Trump, it seems like it's part of his routine.
What a creep.
FSogol
(45,478 posts)unblock
(52,196 posts)never mind that the *criminality* of those two are very different.
i have zero problem with her drawing a line between the two things, and zero sympathy for the argument that someone who does one thing that's immoral has no basis for saying they won't do something else because it's immoral.
PJMcK
(22,031 posts)To be clear, my first point is that she presents herself as not being a prostitute. That's respectable. At the same time, she continued an affair with a man she knew was married. I find that of questionable morality. You and I can agree to disagree on the spectrum of morality and the application of different standards.
However, she sold her story about having an affair with Trump. Can you see the thick, gray area this behavior inhabits? Trump didn't pay her for having sex but the National Enquirer paid her for telling her story of having sex with Trump. That her story was never published is irrelevant because when she accepted the money, she planned to tell her tale.
Once again, anyone in Trump's orbit gets smeared one way or another.
unblock
(52,196 posts)but near as i can figure, everything she did is legal.
unless donnie's offer of money happened in certain counties in nevada, accepting it would have been illegal.
i really don't understand the notion that some sort of idea you have about moral consistency means you can't understand her drawing a line between legal and illegal behavior.
PJMcK
(22,031 posts)As I wrote to you above, unblock, we disagree on this.
But I'm sure you'll agree that Trump is disgusting. We never would have had this discussion about President Obama, would we?
unblock
(52,196 posts)and the media is reprehensible for allowing his tenure to continue when they would have run any democrat out of town 99 scandals ago, yet they treat donnie's scandals like manna from heaven.
morality and legality are different; though still, adultery and prostitution are morally and ethically different acts. so why is it hard to see how someone might find it ok to do one but not ok to do the other.
i don't see the logic behind the idea that anyone who has sex with a married man must also be morally fine with accepting payment for that.
Blue_Adept
(6,399 posts)There are plenty of open relationships where such things are accepted as well.
PJMcK
(22,031 posts)I just don't see how she's deserving of sympathy. She was a knowing party to her circumstances.
As I wrote, however, this story is a bit late in being told.
Blue_Adept
(6,399 posts)PJMcK
(22,031 posts)No one that I'm aware of is offering it to her.
This is from the article:
malaise
(268,933 posts)and being a prostitute.
Blue_Adept
(6,399 posts)malaise
(268,933 posts)An adulterous affair is from a different part of the spectrum of morality than prostitution.
But aren't they both on the "wrong" side?
Regardless, she sold her story for fame and fortune. Does that have any moral implications?
She's practicing capitalism
dawnie51
(959 posts)it settles something in his psyche. As soon as they become the wife, and no need to pay for it, he's not interested anymore. Time and again. The paying for it makes it "a deal?" or business transaction and thus exciting and wanted. This guy is a very sick person.
PJMcK
(22,031 posts)Interestingly, and on a totally different subject, this transactional nature is why Paul Manafort worked for Trump's campaign for free. Manafort wanted Trump to view him as an equal, not as an employee.
Indeed, Trump is a very sick person.
IluvPitties
(3,181 posts)Consensual sex is not my problem.
Snotcicles
(9,089 posts)PJMcK
(22,031 posts)Thanks for helping to make my point.
sarcasmo
(23,968 posts)MosheFeingold
(3,051 posts)I think it is generally attributed to Winston Churchill. It sounds like him.
Winston was talking to a lady about infidelity of another, when he suddenly asked her, "Well would you sleep with me for a million pounds sterling?" He took out his checkbook and pen.
She stuttered for a moment and said, "Yes, I suppose I would."
He then replied, "How about 50 pounds sterling?"
Indigent, she sputtered, "What kind of woman do you think I am?!"
Winston smiled and said nicely, "Oh, we've established what kind of woman you are. We just haven't established the price."
PJMcK
(22,031 posts)When I wrote it, I knew I'd get flamed on this post. I was going to include that joke but wanted to limit my exposure to adverse comments.
Thanks for going there, MosheFeingold!
DetlefK
(16,423 posts)2. She sold the story to the National Enquirer on the premise that the National Enquirer would publish the story for her. NE did not publish it and she was no longer allowed to publish it.
PJMcK
(22,031 posts)I said that she was expressing a flexible set of morals.
If you can't see that, okay. We disagree. Nonetheless, enjoy your weekend, DetlefK.
skypilot
(8,853 posts)I pretty much stopped following this story altogether after I read THAT.
This sounds horrible but he would HAVE to pay me. There is no other reason I'd have been sleeping with him to begin with. What on earth did she find to like about him?
PJMcK
(22,031 posts)How much would he have to pay you, skypilot?
(big wink)
A fucking LOT!!!
Buzz cook
(2,471 posts)nt