I went to see my doctor today and I was diagnosed with

[SummerSnow]

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cervical cancer. My daughter is taking it really hard. I don't know what to do.

[ADX]

1. My thoughts and prayers are with you, SummerSnow...

...Stay strong.

[SummerSnow]

89. Thanks ADX, I intend to fight this and win

[Proud Liberal Dem]

2. Sorry

Best wishes

[SummerSnow]

119. Thank you Proud Liberal Dem

[elleng]

3. Very sorry. Lots can be done.

The five-year survival rates by stage for cervical cancer are as follows:

Stage I: 80%-93%
Stage II: 58%-63%
Stage III: 32%-35%
Stage IV: 15%-16%

>>>

https://www.medicinenet.com/womens_cancer_symptoms_pictures_slideshow/article.htm

[GeoWilliam750]

65. And it has probably improved since these statistics were published

SummerSnow, can you let us know which stage?

Most probably, this is highly beatable, but it is still a shock when one hears it for the first time.

Big hugs and big hugs and big hugs

[SummerSnow]

87. Stage 1. The Dr. said she is happy they caught it in time

[smirkymonkey]

93. My sister was diagnosed with Stage 1 about a two years ago. She had surgery and is cancer free.

She goes in for regular checkups to make sure it doesn't come back and they told her the prognosis was very good as long as she kept up with her checkups. I know it's very frightening and we were all very worried, but she has been fine since and lives a completely normal life. I wish you all the best and I hope you are getting a lot of emotional support. That is very important. Don't be afraid to lean on people. I hope you are in very good hands.

[SummerSnow]

128. Thanks for the encouragement and well wishes

My children and my hubby are very encouraging to me. I'm just worried about my daughter, she took it hard. She has been doing a lot of research and reading about it and she seems to be in better spirits now. Happy that your sister beat it

[smirkymonkey]

137. I think with stage 1 cancer, your chances are excellent. I am not a doctor, but with a

cancer diagnosis, stage 1 has a high recovery rate. I wish you and your family the best and I know you will beat this thing.

[RestoreAmerica2020]

104. I wish you the very best. Your post was helpful, a

...reminder to take care of my health. Made an appt., with physician today something Ive been avoiding. Take care. Paz

[SummerSnow]

129. Thank you so much

[GeoWilliam750]

107. Very good news that you caught it early

Best wishes for a successful and mild treatment.

The first time one hears "cancer", it takes one's breath away, and yet, hopefully, in a few months yours will be gone. Treatment has come so far even in my lifetime, and what was once a terror, is now commonly little more than an inconvenience.

It seems like an excellent time to explain to your daughter about the benefits of regular checkups (you caught yours before it was far advanced), and healthful living. That way, as in so much of life, solving the problem when it is little, is so much easier than trying to solve it when it is big. Screening and prevention are so important. You might want to think about taking your daughter with you to the next appointment so that she is completely in the loop, and that way so that she can also learn how to avoid this in her own life.

Again, very best wishes for a successful treatment and a rapid complete recovery.

Keep us posted, and we will all cheer you on from afar.

[SummerSnow]

130. My daughter had a tumor in her breast that was as large as an egg

she had surgery to remove in 2 years ago. She was not getting regular check-ups and I make her now cause it can come back. I was not going to take her to my next appointment but you said I should for her to see the importance and keep her in the loop. So she will be going with me. Thanks and I will keep all posted.

[Hortensis]

110. I'm so glad to hear that! You will beat this,

not least because you obviously did something extremely important to survival early on. Fantastic!

On to the next step.

[SummerSnow]

131. My doctor said they caught it early . I feel so happy about that

[Hortensis]

138. :) Of course! And knowing what it means, I'm so glad for you.

Hope your daughter is able to join you very soon.

[Pachamama]

126. My best friend had Stage 3 cervical cancer....

That was 6 years ago....and she is healthy and strong....

[SummerSnow]

132. I use to think stage 3 was a death wish but after reading alot about this

it doesn't have to be if I keep my regular check-ups and change my diet too.

[Pachamama]

136. My friend cut out sugar and also was really big on Wheatgrass shots during the whole process....

No scientific data to back that up, but the theory being cancer feeds on sugars and Wheatgrass has something in it that helps in healing process....

[SummerSnow]

120. elleng, thanks for this information

[elleng]

122. You're welcome, SummerSnow.

Best wishes.

[unblock]

4. so sorry to hear -- we have a friend who got this diagnosis maybe 20 years ago. it's beatable.

scary road, but take care of yourself, eat properly and follow your doctor's orders and get all the tests done.

[Hassin Bin Sober]

39. I also have a friend who beat it 20 plus years ago

[SummerSnow]

133. I had lost sleep thinking that but now i don't . I m thinking of the future.

prognosis is good

[SummerSnow]

121. I went to the supermarket today and brought lots

of foods high in antioxidants

[Justice]

5. so sorry. What are the next steps for you?

[SummerSnow]

90. I will be getting a call from my dr. tomorrow with my next steps

and the specialist who will schedule some procedures for me.

[TalenaGor]

97. hugs -

Probably surgery but it's not that bad.....
I had two sonograms, two biopsies, a LEEP procedure, two surgeries (both robot assisted laproscopic- tiny scars) - first I had a fallopian tube removed then second one they took my other tube, my uterus, one ovary and the cervix....I have one ovary Left...

At the end of it all it turned out I had cysts on my cervix has stage 4 pre-cancerous cells I had some endometriosis, both my Fallopian tubes were filled with fluid one of them was fused to the ovary that they took and I had polyps in my uterus.... Broken vagina lol

The worst part of it all was waiting on the massive fart that came after surgery when my guts were full of gas.....
Things got alot better after that bad boy came out lol

[SummerSnow]

134. Wow, you went through alot and I love your positive outlook

This is very encouraging. Thanks !!!((hugs))

[bigtree]

6. that's awful

...sorry to hear you have to face this.

Best wishes for your treatment and recovery.

[SummerSnow]

135. Thanks. I'm going to fight this

[bluestarone]

7. just wanted to say stay strong

Hope for the best for you and family!!

[mythology]

8. Try to find out if there are any medical trials in your area

These trials can be part of your medical treatment.

[a kennedy]

9. Breathe, read online about it, discuss with doctors your plan of action...

Get started, stay positive, come here for support, beat this damn thing, live a long and happy life.

[SharonClark]

17. Excellent plan of action.

[hlthe2b]

23. Yes... This for sure. Hugs to you, SummerSnow, but definitely take control

[uponit7771]

92. +1

[imanamerican63]

10. I'm sorry to hear this. You are in my prayers.

Answers are the hardest thing to find, but know we all here for you and your family.

[Canoe52]

11. Sending healing thoughts your way.

[Squinch]

12. Go to the best cancer center in your area. The experience of your caregivers, and the sheer

numbers of patients they serve, does make a difference. Are you anywhere near a Sloan Kettering center?

[OnDoutside]

13. Sorry to hear that SummerSnow, i hope they get you treated asap.

My sister is going through this at the moment, and had her operation last week. She's lucky that she lives in the UK and the NHS were super quick in giving her an MRI and PET scan, followed by a date for an operation within 2 weeks. The surgeon was very happy with the op. Not sure yet if she'll need radiation treatment. I pray you get as speedy a response.

[Ohiogal]

14. I am a cancer survivor

and I think I have an inkling of what you are feeling, Summer.

I will send all the good karma to you I can muster to stay strong. Please remember that research and new treatments for all types of cancer are advancing so fast, my oncologist told me even in the last five years they have discovered new and better ways and tools to battle cancer that they didn't have before.

Do whatever you have to do. Allow yourself time to feel sorry for yourself. Let your friends and loved ones help you get through it. I will add you to my list of cancer patients for whom I try to send good karma and vibes every day. Stay strong.

[hugs] ........

[ollie10]

15. Find out all you can about your diagnosis

What to do depends in part on whether the cancer is contained within the cervix. And there are several treatment options, depending on the nature of your illness, the staging and whether it has spread.

I am sure your doc has told you in detail, and I don't want to pry. But my best advice is find out all you can about your illness, and what treatment alternatives there may be. There are some good sites out there (I am not talking about quack medicine sites).

I am a cancer survivor. I know how overwhelming this can be. I wish I could say something that would make you feel better.

But my best advice is to find out all you can about the disease you are facing and the alternatives you have in fighting it. Don't be passive, and don't be afraid to ask lots of questions to your doc and don't be afraid to get more than one opinion on what to do.

[frazzled]

35. If I might disagree a bit on one point

When my husband was diagnosed with an aggressive form of lymphoma (went from perfect health to Stage 3 within a week, by which time the disease spread throughout his body, including large masses on the liver and spleen), his oncologist told us quite seriously not to start reading everything to be found (and especially not to check mortality rates): there are many forms of this cancer (as is the case with other forms of cancer), and many individual variations in response to treatment. She did tell us we could go to the one national lymphoma organization website for general information about his specific type, but to avoid much beyond that.

I think it was the best advice we could have gotten, even though it was against my natural instincts: it allowed us to focus like lasers on the day-by-day treatment at hand rather than "what ifs" and "oh my gods." We were thrown into biopsies and PET scans and molecular tests and bone-marrow testing within hours after diagnosis, and within days landed in the hospital. We just approached each procedure, and each chemo treatment, and each scan and blood test as a step along a path, with the assumption that there would be progress. I think this positive attitude was at least a part of what eventually led to his recovery, even though it was a long, hard slog.

If there had not been improvement, I did know what the next steps would be (stem cell); but it would have been detrimental, I think, to fully explore such options until the first had failed.

My advice is, if you have a good oncologist who explains things thoroughly and treats you as capable of understanding the medical points, and whom you implicitly trust, put yourself fully into their hands, have someone there to ask questions for you and write everything down (because you won't process it yourself), and adhere religiously to everything the doctors tell you to do. We were lucky to have top-notch doctors and a superb hospital, as well as generous insurance. I know not everyone does ... and maybe in that case it becomes necessary to be your own researcher.

I have great hope that the OP will get through this. The advances in treatment today are amazing. But add to them a hopeful, positive, and determined attitude. It may sound corny, but I do believe that believing the treatments will work (as opposed to seeking out potential alternatives) is a valuable asset.

[sinkingfeeling]

16. I'm sorry. You need to fight it with everything you've got. Find the

best place to treat your type of cancer and do what they suggest.

P.S. I'm also a survivor.

[Ohiogal]

27. I found that it helped

To bring someone with me when I went to the doctor, at least at first. Usually it was my husband, but one time my best friend came with me. It helps to have another set of ears there because you will be bombarded with so much information and you may not be able to absorb it all. That other person can help you make sense of it or help you remember what to ask.

[Solly Mack]

18. I'm so sorry. We have a Cancer Group, of which I'm a member because of my own fight w/ cancer.

https://www.democraticunderground.com/?com=forum&id=1146

It helps to unload there. Lot of good suggestions from those who know what you are going through.

[alfredo]

66. Yes, join us.

I know this must be a time of fear and sorrow. After the tears, gird your loins for battle.

Survivor

[irisblue]

19. You and your daughter must be terrified

Sending you both love.

[sheshe2]

20. So sorry to hear this, SummerSnow.

[MFM008]

21. Information

Is the best weapon.
Know everything.
Ask for copies of everything
Like test results.
Read them. Look up words.
Then you regain control.
Keep us informed.

[Granny M]

22. So sorry, SummerSnow

I hope the treatment is successful, and you tolerate it well. It must be very frightening for your daughter. Healing thoughts for you.

[HipChick]

24. My niece was diagnosed with this last year...its beatable...

Sorry to hear this...she has been declared cancer free..

[TwistOneUp]

25. Go for the targeted treatments.

First, CC *is* beatable.

Next, many univ's are now developing targeted treatments, i.e., gene-therapy oriented treatments specifically designed to kill your CC.

Be tough, don't let it get you down, and seek science-based treatments.

[samir.g]

26. You can beat it

[cilla4progress]

28. Best wishes for health,

SummerSnow.

[StarryNite]

29. You WILL beat it!

[airmid]

30. I was diagnosed 30 yrs ago when treatments and choices were limited. Let your daughter know

survival rates are much better now.

[redstatebluegirl]

31. Thinking of you during the difficult time.

[malaise]

32. Weigh your options

and get the best treatment you can - start with a second opinion

[CountAllVotes]

36. Damn right!

That is the next thing you MUST do and that is seek a 2nd opinion to confirm this horrific DX. After you get another opinion and if it is commensurate with what you've already been told, then plan accordingly.

Fight the bastard crap! You can do it and YES you WILL win.

Hopefully, "they" are wrong, absolutely WRONG.

Question authority always.

Take care and hang-in there!!

[Blue_true]

33. Start examining your treatment options.

If you have a university hospital nearby, go there to see whether there are support groups, you can learn a lot from other women that have gone through what you will face, look for legitimate groups and gain from their shared experience. Good luck, please get and maintain a mindset that you will beat your illness. As far as your daughter, she can't change what has happened, but she can help you in your fight by being strong.

[mercuryblues]

34. What you do is...Take charge

Find out what stage you are. Base you medical choices on that. Be proactive.

On the upside, I was diagnosed in my 20's with it. Stage 1 the 1st time and stage 2 the 2nd. 30 years an 3 more kids after that, here I am pissing people off on a message board.

[snacker]

37. Sending hugs

and healing vibes.

[ancianita]

38. Love each other. You can tell by this thread that we are with you. You will beat this.

[lancelyons]

40. Love your daughter and sons and husband and spend a lot of time with them

[Heartstrings]

41. Healing vibes sent your way....nt

[yardwork]

42. I'm so sorry.

[Marie Marie]

43. I am so sorry to hear this. This must be very frightening for you and your daughter.

Take a little time to absorb this, then catch your breath and fight like Hell. As many have said, this is beatable.

[kimbutgar]

44. Im so sorry

Hopefully they caught it in time for you to get treatment. Wishing you healing thoughts. Stay strong you will best it.

[TalenaGor]

45. I had stage 4 precancerous cells

I had a hysterectomy... I imagine that's what they'll do with you and if it hasn't spread anywhere you're probably just fine....maybe you still have to get annual pap smears afterwards like I do....

[TNNurse]

46. I am a breast cancer survivor.

I remember that first day and those words "this is cancer" very well. It was unexpected and I was frightened. I got through it. You may think you cannot do what is necessary, but you can. You have people who care about you and even though you are scared and you know they are also, you can do this.

I agree with always taking someone with you to appointments. (You will think all you do is see doctors). Take someone with you who can stay calm and listen. My husband went to every appointment. He would say that my eyes would just glaze over and I would not remember everything that was said. Sometimes I would recall them a few days later.

Ask every question you want, write them down before you go. If you do not understand what they are saying, speak up and ask again. No question is dumb or silly if it is about you.

I had surgery, chemo and radiation and it was hard and I was weak during it, but I did it.

It has been five years now. I am 68 years old. Today I went to my Tai Chi class and just walked a little over a mile outside in 80 weather. You can get through this.

Please keep us updated when you feel like it. If you want to ask me or any other cancer survivor questions, we are grateful people did the same for us.

Wishing you a speedy recovery, go get this. Do not put it off.

[mobeau69]

47. You can beat it. Medicine has made great strides in the last 50 years.

Never give up, Summer.

[backtoblue]

48. I'm so sorry SummerSnow!

[Louis1895]

49. Starting point for authoritative information

Cervical Cancer—Patient Version

Best of luck!

[dbackjon]

50. Sending all my love to you

Best wishes.

[spanone]

51. You can BEAT it!!!!

Love, spanone

[Bettie]

52. So sorry

hoping that they caught it early enough.

[janterry]

53. I'm so sorry! Be strong

get lots of support for yourself - and your daughter (I'l bet there are groups for her, too)

[Ilsa]

54. I'm so sorry.

Tell your daughter you're on it.

I hope you and your doctors get you wellasap.

[demmiblue]

55. ...

[Habibi]

56. Hey, Summer!

First, a giant virtual hug for you and your daughter!

Second: I'm going through something similar, as I was diagnosed with OC in December and am undergoing treatment.

A lot of advice from well-meaning friends and family came at me all at once. I decided I didn't have to know everything right away; I decided it was okay to pace myself, to move to the next level of dealing with this when I was ready. (And to tell people to back off when I needed them to.)

In the meantime, my oncology team has moved very quickly to treat me, and I'm okay with that. I don't want to fuck around. It's good to be informed, but in my opinion, my care team is the best source for information.

My best wishes for you; please keep us informed here if you wish. I'll be thinking of you.

[Hortensis]

111. Trusting your care team's expertise and moving fast sounds

very competent.

We have a neighbor who made us realize that not everyone benefits from the extravagance of information, good, bad, and incomprehensible, available. He set out to educate himself about lung cancer and before long he was postponing recommended care while he examined alternative treatments even though his condition wasn't very advanced.

I tried to explain the sort of information gathered by cancer registries and so on these days and that the oncologist his doc sent him to didn't exactly fly by the seat of his pants, but something in him wouldn't let him trust experts enough to jump in and get to it.

Anyway, of course I hope your remaining treatments are kind to you and do very well.

[Habibi]

115. Thank you, Hortensis!

Doing pretty well so far. My oncology team seems to be on top of the latest/greatest treatment approaches, and I'm not interested in chasing down alternative-therapy rabbit holes.

It helps that they take an "integrative" approach to treatment that includes free massage therapy and Reiki. They understand that this is an extremely stressful time for patients.

[Hortensis]

116. Sounds like you have a good group on your side.

And pretty well so far sounds like you'll be able to finish your treatments on schedule.

We keep finding out that people have had cancer at some point. Of course, we're getting older and so our acquaintances are mostly also and thus more likely, but it's becoming, if not usual, not in the least unusual. What strikes me is how fast it seems to be becoming a normal thing.

[TygrBright]

57. There are likely to be support groups for family members in your area...

...and they can be REALLY helpful.

Not sure where you are, but ask your doctor or the nurses at your doctor's practice, or the oncology specialist they'll likely refer you to about organizations that sponsor support groups and provide education, help, etc. for people with various types of cancer.

Knowledge is power.

Stay strong.

Will be holding you and your family in my heart for a good outcome.

respectfully,
Bright

[dewsgirl]

58. I am so sorry.

I wish the best for you.

[rasberry]

59. There is hope

I was diagnosed with cervical cancer 42 years ago. Still here!

[barbtries]

60. so many questions.

this is often a very curable disease! did they tell you otherwise?
at any rate i wish you the best possible outcome. comfort your daughter as well as you can.

[Honeycombe8]

61. My stepmother got Lymphoma, Stage 4. That was maybe 5 yrs ago.

She's in remission now. Her dr told her she'd die from something else before the Lymphoma got her, as long as she follows her maintenance and treatment plans.

[Nuffer]

62. Summer Snow

Some advice from a breast cancer patient...clear for 14 years...now have bone cancer....take a deep breath...stay off the internet...too much junk and bad info...depending where you reside...find the best cancer doctor ...I go to U ofP....listen to what the doctor suggests for treatment...get it done...don't listen to the horror stories...cancer treatment has come a long way. You are not going to like some of the things you will have to endure..but you gotta to do it....pulling for you...I am 69 years old...still kicking!

[SammyWinstonJack]

63. ...

[dixiegrrrrl]

64. So very sorry you have had scary news. There are lots of variables in cancer diagnosis and treatment

We do have a cancer forum here, I found it very helpful.If you feel like posting there, you can find information and lots of support.

[Paula Sims]

67. I am so sorry -

Breathe, find out as much as you can, but don't panic. You have a long way to go such as typing and staging. It's going to be a process. Turn here for hugs and love.

[dem in texas]

68. so sorry to hear the bad news

Don't be afraid. I am a four year survivor of stage 3 breast cancer, so I know how scared your are; I was once in your place. My advice is get yourself to a good cancer treatment center and let them manage your illness. Eat lots of protein because any treatment will be hard on your body, In addition to good nutrition, two other things you can do that sometimes will be difficult; keep a positive attitude and laugh a lot.

[sweetroxie]

69. I'm not a cancer survivor, but

I did survive the diagnosis of kidney failure and have lived with it now for 3+ years of daily dialysis. Getting a horrible diagnosis is a huge shock to the system. It takes time for it to register fully and to find your strength for fighting it. Be kind to yourself and gather all the love that's available to you. I will be rooting for you.

[Woodycall]

70. So sorry to hear

We have all heard of studies similar to these but please Google this. The first just came out about two weeks ago and is truly amazing if it works in humans (100% remission in mouse studies - little or no side effects) which, they appear confident it will. The drugs in the first one are already approved for other uses in humans so it could move to practice very quickly. There are two separate studies from Stanford University that have been released in the last two weeks.

This is one that is already in human trials:

https://med.stanford.edu/news/all-news/2018/01/cancer-vaccine-eliminates-tumors-in-mice.html

And this is the other:

http://med.stanford.edu/news/all-news/2018/02/induced-pluripotent-stem-cells-could-serve-as-cancer-vaccine.html

Very best wishes.

[Exotica]

71. My thoughts are with you. You can beat this!

Huge hugs.

[mnhtnbb]

72. I am so sorry to hear this.

It's a shock to you and your daughter.

There is some great advice in these threads about getting information--including a second opinion--and many insurance
companies will pay for the second opinion. Check with your insurance company first to find out.

My brother was a Gyn-oncologist for many years before he left clinical practice to work in the development of cancer treatment.
If it were me, he'd tell me to find the best university research hospital in your region with a gyn oncology service (might even be a neighboring state depending
upon where you live) and get an appointment there.

Examples: If you are in Texas: MD Anderson
If you are in DC area: Johns Hopkins
If you are in the Bay area of CA: Stanford
If you are in the NY area: Sloan Kettering


An excellent place to start with information is with the American Cancer Society right here: https://www.cancer.org/cancer/cervical-cancer.html

Once you get over the shock, you can develop a plan for getting more information, finding the best treatment in your area, and then stay positive.

And come to DU for cyber hugs. And take advantage of all the hugs you can get in person. Touch is extremely important to healing.

[PJMcK]

73. That's rough news

My heart goes out to you, SummerSnow.

In your OP, you wrote, "I don't know what to do." May I make a few modest observations as a cancer survivor? There are many areas of your life to address with a positive attitude and with all the strength you have within you.

First, hug your daughter and friends every chance you get. They love you and they care for you and they form the core of your support system which will be the key to your health.

Second, do everything your doctors tell you to do. They are the second most important part of your support system. Trust that they know the latest science regarding your diagnosis. After all, that's their job.

Third, every day do something for yourself that gives you the positive feeling like you've given yourself a gift. It will help you smile which, almost unbelievably, will release endorphins creating a feedback loop of positive energy.

Most importantly, have as much fun as you can! Eat well. Live your life as fully as you can! If you can do these things, you'll embrace the moments of your life fully and, interestingly circling back to "First" above: the people in your life who love you will respond joyously to your positive outlook!

I've followed your posts for a long time and have great respect for your online personality. Please consider me a friend. Keep in touch!

[SleeplessinSoCal]

74. my sister survived cervical cancer.

I hope you caught it early enough to be rid of it for good.

[Cha]

75. My heart goes out to you, SummerSnow..

What does the doc say you can do?

[BoneyardDem]

76. such horrid news...I'm sorry

I hope you are already entering into a plan of action.

[onethatcares]

77. not making light of your situation but

get your butt over to the Health forum/cancer support group on this site.

Many a good person there.

Peace and best wishes to you.

My wife is two years into remission from cholangial carcenoma. I leaned on that group
heavily.

[Freedomofspeech]

78. All the best to you.

[DonCoquixote]

79. hold those dcotors by the throat

Many doctors and facilties are there to try and get rid of you...Insurance sees cancer patients of money holes, which they want to close..Make sure that however nice your docotr is, you will ask questions, and demand answers, and this is said from someone who lost his mother because of quacks.

[Adrahil]

80. You can beat this!!!

We’rw pullibg for you.

[OldHippieChick]

81. Sounds to me that you are asking for help w/ your daughter,

not for you, normal for a mother. There are groups for cancer families as there are for alcoholic families. You obviously know and can see from many replies that this cancer is beatable, but your daughter needs something more solid. Indeed take her w/ you to your next doctor's apt and find out what groups are available to her.

You don't say how old she is, so if you give us more info perhaps we can help more.

[SummerSnow]

88. She is 23 , a good kid . She's scared because I lost my mother

to cancer when I was 21 and my mom was 46. She told me she was giving up on life cause she won't live without me. Right now she is very quiet and not being herself.

[OldHippieChick]

95. Can so relate to this. My son lost his father when my son was 19. He

was suicidal in many ways More than I could deal w/ on my own. Please reach out to all available support groups to get help for your daughter. You cannot reassure her on your own. She won't believe you. Love her, hug her, but get her help. Believe it or not help can actually reach her quickly and make her feel safe.

In the meantime, prayers your way

[Hortensis]

112. Poor girl. That sounds serious, as if professional guidance

is needed. I assumed that educating her so that she had a good picture of the situation, instead of a black hole of fear, would have its usual great effects and be enough, but maybe not. Does your clinic offer counseling to patients? That might be a place to start.

[Mesee]

82. Cervical cancer

Please contact Dr. Steven Robert Goldstein, NYU on 30th Street and 1st Avenue. 212-263-7416
He is the best of the best and will guide you as to the next step to take.

[Glimmer of Hope]

83. I am so sorry you are going through this. I have ovarian cancer and I agree with the advice to

Go to a top teaching hospital if you can. NCCN centers have higher survival rates:
https://www.nccn.org/members/network.aspx

Surgical technique and research makes a difference. It isn't easy but you will be ok.

[mahina]

84. Hugs. Good luck SummerSnow.

[Ken Burch]

85. So sorry. It is always horrible when anyone gets a diagnosis like this.

Wish there was something I could say that would help.

[Soph0571]

86. I had this several years ago

Scooped out half my insides. Still blinking and breathing. Good wishes to you. It will be nasty, stressful and emotional, but it is not a death sentence. It is fucking horrible for you, worse for your daughter, because I imagine mortality just became real for her. Do what the doctor says, go through the treatments, bitch and moan and then live to fight another day. For me, this happened before I had children, so I never had any, so it is difficult for me to perspective take on your daughters emotions.

[RandomAccess]

91. I'm really sorry to hear this

But you've gotten a lot of encouragement in this thread, and positive vibes.

I'd like to also suggest you check out natural remedies -- there are MANY for different types of cancer. Many, many. They can help alongside of whatever you choose to do at your doctor's behest. The medical establishment has been brainwashed against natural cures for things, and in turn try to brainwash us. But here's what I learned a long time ago: things that stay around and have followers and proponents for literally millennia do so because they have validity.

Too, there are many, many, many actual scientific studies that doctors never see (never go looking, for one thing), both here in the US and around the world.

Here's a good article from a holistic healthcare practitioner, midwife (I think), and herbalist:
http://www.susunweed.com/herbal_ezine/August08/anti-cancer.htm

Best of luck to you.

[Greybnk48]

94. I wish you the best of luck.

As a cancer survivor of almost 11 years, my advice to you is to get all the information you can on your type of cancer and make sure you have a good idea of what your docs should be doing, and what they can do. Be as positive as you can because it helps.

In getting info from the internet and elsewhere, I'm not saying to be a know-it-all jerk, but you also don't want to be passive in your care. Try to know what you can.

My kids took it hard too. We're mommies, it's scary for them. She has to process what you told her and then she will be an ally.

I did not have to have chemo and/or radiation, so I can't advise on that. I had two abdominal surgeries and they got it all. If you have any questions about that or aftercare, or just want to talk, please feel free to message me and I will help if I can.

[Skittles]

96. tell your daughter you and she will fight the cancer together

start researching now! It's the helplessness and the not knowing that feeds the fear

[runtel]

98. Nothing we say

will take away the pain and anxiety that you are feeling. I am new here but I am sure that there are people who have been around a while that will be there for you if you need a shoulder. Not saying I wouldn't be, but I'm a stranger. I have serious health issues and I have to be very careful around my son. Some things that I can actually joke about he doesn't find one bit funny. When I first became ill we had the round table talk where mother hen was telling them all how we were going to tackle this when my oldest son told me I didn't understand. That it wasn't my job to get them through it was their job to get me through it. I hope that you find that balance to fall apart a little bit if you need to but also be strong for your daughter. My best wishes and good luck.

[Skittles]

100. lovely post

welcome to DU, runtel

and you are correct - someone is *ALWAYS* here on DU

[calimary]

125. Welcome to DU, runtel.

Thanks so much for this. Our Skittles just responded with one of my favorite things about DU: "Someone's always here." The truth of that reminder has certainly gotten me through a few things, particularly when my mom died.

You're not a stranger here. And your input, experience, and sense of humor can buoy us all up. This whole thread, supporting our SummerSnow with such empathy and kindness, is one of the great examples. Glad you're here. We all get into it here, and get the vapors and yell and curse and fight. But it also shows how deeply we care. Our "better angels" are among the best there is.

[Demsrule86]

99. So sorry. My friend had this and made a full recovery.

[shenmue]

101. Lord have mercy

[liberalnarb]

102. They found a cancerous growth on my Dad's eyelid earlier this year. It was very early on

and was curable by injections. You will beat this! Wishing you all the best.

[MLAA]

103. Wishing you the very best.

I have two possible suggestions to consider adding to whatever your doctor recommends. First a Whole Foods plant based diet low in salt, sugar and oil. It really just means eat vegetables and cook from scratch (no prepackaged foods from the store). And second take up meditating.

Sending you healing energy and 🏋️?♀️ And ❤️

[IluvPitties]

105. I am very sorry, and I wish you health and a speedy recovery!

[blueinredohio]

106. My mother was diagnosed with cervical cancer in 1988, had a radical hysterectomy and just passed

away in December 2017 so there is hope . Don't give up and I wish you the best of luck.

[ProfessorPlum]

108. I'm so so sorry to hear this.

Dealing with a cancer, too. I wish you and your family didn't have to go through it.

[vercetti2021]

109. I'm sorry dear

Hope you can beat it down and hard. Best wishes.

Much love

[DFW]

113. My wife had a rare and usually fatal form of that 2 years ago

The specialist said it stuck women who were of advanced age or very slender, and it was called "The Murderer," as it was nearly undetectable until it had metastasized all over the place, and thus almost always fatal.

But since my wife had cancer once already (in 2001), she was going in for regular checkups, and this was caught before it had the chance to metastasize even once. The 5.5 hour operation was brutal, but every one of the 84 biopsies they took came back negative, and the surgeon said she the was one case in ten thousand where he thought she would not need chemo or radiation. A year and a half later, she gets herself checked every 3 months, but so far, she's clean. Most women in her family have had cancer, usually twice, including her mom (who just turned 90). None have died from it. My daughters are not thrilled with their probable upcoming ordeals, but they know their mom survived it, and they are prepared to fight for their lives as well.

Catching it early is THE key, and as long as your treatment is competent and conscientious, you should come out of this. Surgery is probably inevitable, and if they recommend chemo, do it. But these days, this is not the death sentence it used to be thirty years ago. Talk to people, talk to US, do stuff, remain optimistic, because these days, you have every right to. Don't let anyone tell you differently!

After all, you have that 90th birthday party down the road to prepare for.

[ProfessorGAC]

114. Wow! Sorry To Hear That

I didn't get particularly good news yesterday, but nothing like this. I just got told that this pinched nerve in my C spine may be a thing that can't fix. But, that's nothing compared to what you got told.

[NewJeffCT]

117. Sorry to hear that

but, glad it was caught early. Best of lucking beating cancer.

[Phentex]

118. Just throwing out good vibes for you...

echo what all the others have said. Best wishes to you!

[eleny]

123. I'm so sorry for this diagnosis

And I hope that in these past few days you've learned about a plan for treatment and it's helping to settle your daughter a little bit.

You're in my heart.

[Tanuki]

124. You are surrounded by love and good wishes for complete healing.

The fact that this was still Stage 1 when detected is extremely encouraging. Please let your DU family know if we can help in the days ahead.

[woodsprite]

127. So glad they caught it early.

I’m 11 years out from an endometrial cancer diagnosis of 2A that had invaded 1/4” into the cervix and uterine wall. My obgyn/onco told me to research as much as I could so I was educated about treatment options and could ask questions. He also asked me to realize that I was not a statistic, and by the time statistics are published, they can be 5-10 yrs old.