When did you last socialize in the home of someone of a different race than you or vice versa?

[EffieBlack]

[mwooldri]

1. Good question. But then I can't remember...

... the last time I socialised with anyone outside family. I'm not one for socialising. But yeah, I need to socialise more with people. Race matters not to me.

[onlyadream]

2. Same here, lol.

Been in a social rut for a long time.

[gollygee]

3. Last weekend

A friend and her daughter came over. Our kids played together and we hung out.

[mcar]

4. Yesterday*

*Attended a grad party for the daughters of our good friends. The friends are white; they adopted the girls (correction: amazing young women) from Ethiopia in 2001. The entire extended family travels there next month - the family has a 3 generation history of working in Ethiopia and elsewhere in Africa doing public health and charity work.

[trof]

5. In their home? Never.

In my home?
Maybe a dozen times.

Me: WASA
White Anglo Saxon Atheist

Them: African American

[Kaleva]

6. Outside of immediate family, I do not socialize.

[grantcart]

7. Including my wife?

Or my son in laws?

Three races, four religions, five nationalities in our nuclear family, lol.

[Ms. Toad]

8. Does my sister (Native American) count?

Last time before that was August. (Last time I socialized in a home other than family member's: August)

In my home - December (also the last time I had social visitors)

[Piasladic]

9. Not in a really long time

Not since I got back from Peace Corps, but then I don't socialize much, and I live in a REALLY, REALLY white area...

https://www.clrsearch.com/New-Port-Richey-Demographics/FL/34655/Population-by-Race-and-Ethnicity

The last time I tried to socialize in Florida was with a coworker (white lady), and she turned out to be a rabid trumpist, so I decided to stay home thereafter.

[Sancho]

75. South of New Port Richey...the middle and bottom of Pinellas are quite diverse

My wife works in North Pinellas, and you're right - it's very white and very tRump.

[populistdriven]

10. 24/7

[The Blue Flower]

11. All of my grandchildren are mixed race

Does that count? They happen to be the most beautiful, intelligent, and loving children I've ever known.

[Nanjeanne]

12. At least once a month -

more in good weather with neighbor. Once a month with another friend in book club. Is there some reason you are asking?

[murielm99]

13. I can't remember.

It has been a long damn time. And I have black friends though the Democratic Party. I need to start thinking more and acting on it.

[still_one]

14. Everyday

[rurallib]

15. Kind of depends on your definition of socialize and race

could be anywhere from a couple of hours ago to about 15 years ago

[dumbcat]

19. Agreed. I guess I need a list of races

I learned many decades ago that there were only three. But now it seems to be commonly accepted that there are more. And I have also heard from good, progressive sources that there is only one race.

So I need the OP to provide a list of what she considers to be “races”.

[EffieBlack]

21. If you don't know what I mean by race, just apply whatever definition you usually apply

in the numerous instances in which I’m sure you have heard the term used.

If that’s too difficult, please feel free to just not answer.

[dumbcat]

39. Fair enough

So I would have to say that I socialize every day in the home of my wife (which is also mine), who is Chinese. In the 50's when we learned the three races she would have been considered Mongoloid. Nowadays, I suppose the term is "Asian."

The one I was struggling with is whether to count my neighbor, with whom I spend time in his back yard drinking beer and playing with our smokers and grills trying different recipes. He is of Mexican/Hispanic heritage and his wife is from El Salvadore, and I read many places that such Hispanic heritage is counted as another race. But in my upbringing and definitions, he is white (what we used to call Caucasian.)

That was what got me thinking. Do I count Garcia as a person of another race? I don't, but I suspect many would.

[jalan48]

20. Yes, a list of the races is necessary.

[EffieBlack]

23. Only for those either too obtuse to understand a commonly-used word or is just seeking to disrupt

No one else seems to having any trouble with the question.

[jalan48]

27. Back at it I see.

[EffieBlack]

34. Only if you try me

[jalan48]

35. LOL

[rurallib]

48. It was a sincere question

Does it include Latino?
Is that a race? Some would say yes, some no.

Can't read your mind. Could have answered the question (frustrated as you may be with a question like that) with respect or you could lash out and call me disruptive and imply I am stupid.

Sorry you feel that way. I do enjoy the challenges to perspective your posts bring.

Sorry to have bothered you. I shan't bother you again.

[EffieBlack]

50. My response wasn't directed to you

It was directed to the sparky demand from a particular poster for a "list" which wasn't a sincere question but intended to disrupt.

The definition is whatever you want it to be.

[Eliot Rosewater]

81. Your patience in dealing with certain people is impressive.

I have two wishes

a. win 100 million dollars, no wait 100 billion (that way I can buy the KOCH bros and put them out of business)

b. watch non POC live under the control and power of POC for one month

It would be both VERY funny to watch and very very sad.

[bettyellen]

43. Poor you who can't figure this out, what will you do?

HA

[EffieBlack]

45. Funny how no one demands definitions when white DUers accuse black DUers

of "race-baiting," "making everything about race," being "racially decisive," or "unfairly" accusing white people who engage in racist behavior of engaging in racist behavior.

But let a black DUer ask when the last time anyone interacted with someone of another race, and suddenly, folk need an advanced seminar on the etymology of the word "race" before they can answer the question.

Go figure.

[jalan48]

59. Yuck, yuck.

[elleng]

24. Right,

I was gonna ask 'what's race,' but didn't want to make a fuss.

Indian/Pakistani different race? 'Socialized' for the past week in his home, and will do so again Thursday-Friday in my home.

Couple months ago visited with African American former officemate in my home for an afternoon, and many times prior to that (including her wedding 20? years ago.)

2 years ago, attended wedding of mixed race, African American/Caucasian former neighbor.

40 years ago 'socialized' with my African American husband.

[jpak]

16. When my in-laws come to town on their annual summer visit

n/t

[yardwork]

17. Does my wife count? If not, then two weeks ago.

My wife is Latina, I'm white, and we had a friend over for dinner a couple weeks ago. She is African American.

[kwassa]

18. we socialize with people of other races frequently ...

but usually in public settings, not in anybody's home.

then there is Thanksgiving, a massive family reunion of the wife's family, a giant potluck. 75-100 people, and a couple of us are white.

[Glorfindel]

22. If Latino is considered "different race," then about three weeks ago

in the home of my niece and her husband (he's from Ecuador), and just before that, in the home of my cousin from Venezuela and her family. But EVERY Christmas time, in the home of my cousin who's more like a sister, her Chinese husband, their daughter who is my goddaughter, her husband, and their amazing little girl, who is six going on 20. Our family is a glorious hodgepodge of races, religions, cultures, and orientations. Forty of us are going to Antigua in July to celebrate the Golden Wedding of my cousin. It should be a blast!
For a grumpy old bachelor, I'm a very lucky man. Thank you, EffieBlack, for a very interesting question!

[H2O Man]

25. May 14 thru 18

Our house guest. I learned a lot.

[Lunabell]

26. The last time I had a taco tuesday.

My friend, Elisa. My "nephew", Jonah and my niece , Rhianna about 1 month ago. I dont have many friends but my bestie is Elisa.

[Bok_Tukalo]

28. Last Friday

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[OldHippieChick]

29. I am one of the few white people in my neighborhood. When

my neighbor across the street invited me over, I was the only white. I chose this house on purpose.

[kennetha]

30. Well everyday, since I socialize with my wife everyday.

[cilla4progress]

31. Ages.

Terrible.

I do go out and socialize with, however.

Also, looking forward.to nephew's wedding into an AA family this summer!

[Squinch]

32. Friday.

[Cary]

33. Last night.

[JackInGreen]

36. About a week ago

And a few days before that

[MaryMagdaline]

37. Last dinner parties 2016

I haven't had dinner parties since the election ... so going on two years. Nephew's wife and in-laws are Caribbean. I think I last visited them in 2016 when they rented a house in Fort Lauderdale. haven't socialized much since November 2016 except with my siblings.

[Wawannabe]

38. About six weeks ago

Texas Hold em Poker at “our” house.
When I was rooming...
Just moved tho. Haven’t let anyone in the new place except my son when he came to visit. It is still a total mess.

My home away from home has a refreshing mix of race. (A dive bar)

[GulfCoast66]

40. 8,9 months ago.

Beer club guys. And African American couple in their early 60s. Natives of Florida.

All the other guys are Yankees and when Fred started telling stories of rural central Florida in the 60s and of his parents experiences they were shocked.

Being southern it did not shock me. But Of course I really could not understand.

They are great people and have both been successful and about to retire

Thanks for this thread...I need to call them up and get back together. The wives really hit it off for a first meeting.

[Aristus]

41. A couple of months ago. A colleague of my wife is Hispanic, and put on a big St. Patrick's Day bash.

I know. Hispanic, not Irish. But who cares? Great excuse for a party.

I don't think there was a person there who thought: "This is a Hispanic family? They do things just like us!"

[Igel]

42. Years.

Then again, haven't much been in another family's house for years so that's a meaningless subject-line answer. Did visit with a fellow teacher who's part Lebanese, but she's as Euro-American white as any German would be.

Used to visit with my Latino neighbors before they moved. That was 5-6 years ago, but for all the "of color" rhetoric I considered them white. (One very fair skinned blue-eyed blonde student said she was a "student of color" while her slightly-darker skinned brown-haired brown-eyed teacher wasn't. Argentinian.) The AfAm neighbors, to the extent they have parties, host them in their driveways and garages.

I've been invited to a number of parties hosted by administrators and such. Come to think of it, I think they were all hosted by EurAms. The AfAm administrators where I work don't host parties for staff of non-color, but I have heard them talking about parties at which they invited each other.

[cagefreesoylentgreen]

44. Whenever Oscar night was this year

A friend of mine, a gay white man, spent Oscar night sitting on his couch discussing movies, movie history, celebrities, and women’s Oscar gowns.

[oberliner]

46. Any intention of answering this question yourself?

[EffieBlack]

52. Hey, boo! I was wondering if you were going to show up

But silly me. Of COURSE you showed up - since you're always interested in hearing about my life.

But I'm still waiting for you to answer the last question I asked - I gave you my answer but you never gave me yours. Are you shy?

[Codeine]

47. I'm a pasty white guy in SoCal.

Finding an exclusively-white group to socialize with would probably be difficult. Most of the people we know are Hispanic, as is my wife.

[Blue_true]

49. About 4 months ago. nt

[TimeSnowDemos]

51. yesterday

[Chemisse]

53. I never socialize except with family, which is all white.

And the coworkers that I see frequently at work are mostly white.

But each day I host a plethora of "races" in my high school classroom. I am fortunate to have diverse groups of students who are white, black, Middle Eastern, Hispanic, Asian, and Russian.

I don't have a choice about who walks into my classroom, but I did choose to work at a school that has a highly diverse population. I love that about it.

[Squinch]

54. How about you? When was the last time for you?

[Wolf Frankula]

55. Today

With the Vietnamese family across the street. When was the last time you socialized in the home of someone of a different race than you or vice versa?

Wolf

[dogknob]

56. yesterday n/t

[aikoaiko]

57. Now that you ask the question, I'm not invited very often to their homes.

Most of my socializing is via work or quasi-work events.

[mythology]

58. I don't remember when it was, but it was second most recent time I did so

But I also don't get out much. I'm pretty much a hermit. I go to work, I go workout, I retreat to my cave to ice and eat.

The time before that might have also been in the house of somebody of a different race, but that's going back many months, maybe even a year. I'm really boring like that.

[First Speaker]

60. Right now, as a matter of fact...

...watching the NBA at a friend's apartment; used a commercial break to check in with good old DU. Go Rockets!

[treestar]

61. At least every week

a group of AA friends, also have friend from India.

[cynatnite]

62. Well, unless you count a couple of kids birthday parties...

I really don't socialize much.

[pangaia]

63. I am white---late dinner, and a hang early this evening, after playing an orchestra concert,

with a Chinese cellist and her husband and two girls.

-Couple of weeks ago dinner with several South Koreans .

And in April I spent 2 1/2 weeks with A Japanese woman visiting from Japan for the first time who was staying with her Japanese former teacher. We all had a ball together.. and my Japanese improved.

[safeinOhio]

64. About once a week.

Last week with my Nepalese friends.

[Stinky The Clown]

65. This past Friday.

[OhioBlue]

66. Between work, volunteering and kid's activities, I can only think of one time we socialized

in anyone's home other than family in the past year. I have stopped by a lot of houses, but it is usually to drop things off or pick things up. The last time I stopped by a friend's house of a different race would have been last November when I dropped off campaign signs.

[NBachers]

67. Today

[krispos42]

68. I don't know. A long time.

Maybe 4 years? Had a neighborhood group opposing development plans, and one meeting was held in our Pakistani neighbors house. And once or twice I've been in homes of my kid's classmates and socialized for a while. Once I think they were Vietnamese, and I know two couples where the wife was of Japanese decent.

Always wound up dating white women with white families (married one of them). Excerpt for my ex wife it was done via online dating services and I never specified a racial preference. Both sides of my family are white except for a great grandparent that was Cherokee.

I don't have much of a social life and work in a field that tends to be older white men. I live in a town that tends towards white middle-class and higher. And I tend to be a stay-at-home when I'm not working.

But I'm in the process of moving and my condo neighbors are Latino, so I should be able to change my answer soon.

[NickB79]

69. I hung out with my wife today

Who is Puerto Rican.

I ate dinner at my best friend's Chinese restaurant Friday night, and he and I chatted for an hour.

Last night we visited my white friend and his Japanese wife and all went for a walk and dinner together.

Not really any black people in my circle though, which is crappy.

[catsudon]

70. is it cheating?

if it is so easy for me and my friends? since i'm asian, laat weekend i went to a friend's ouse for his daughter's college graduation party.

[Adrahil]

71. A long time ago....

When I lived in the D.C. Area, I have a quite a few black friends and we socialized often.

But here in Indiana? Not bloody many black folks at all, and virtually none in my peer group. We did have an Indian friend we socialized with frequently, but he moved away about 5 years ago.

[KitSileya]

72. I hardly ever invite anyone home,

But my parish is incredibly multicultural, with people from pretty much every continent save Antarctica (however, since Norway owns a part of Antarctica, perhaps it counts?) I socialize with people from African countries (especially Ethiopia and Nigeria), Asian countries (especially Sri Lanka, India, and Vietnam), European countries (especially Poland), and South America (especially Chile) every week at church coffee. (The weekly church coffee is also known as the eight sacrament in the Catholic Church in Norway.)

Among those I regularly invite to my home is a friend and her half-Sudanese son. Dunno if that counts.

[Bettie]

73. I haven't socialized in the home of ANYONE

of any race in years.

Iowa is a weird place, at least the little town we live in.

No one invites anyone they aren't related to into their homes.

It has been 16 years since we were invited to anyone's house or anyone has accepted an invitation to our home.

I hate this state and this town.

[Sancho]

74. In my part of FL...work, neighborhood, and church are all diverse...

lots of races and cultures represented. About a third of my co-workers were born out of the US and our leadership is African American. My church is a mix of white, black, asian, and hispanic.

The neighborhood is mostly white, but there are some African American families; and my neighbors next door are from Argentina on the left and Germany on the right. The German was literally a rocket scientist recruited (captured?) after WWII who later married an American women. He's quite elderly now (90s). The Argentine neighbor was on a student visa at MIT many years ago (60s?), and married an American woman. Becoming a US citizen was not so hard then. He is visibly non-white; and most people would think he was black/hispanic. We've been in both their homes in the last year several times.

I went to a holiday party with a group last December, and there was a mix of people - the homeowners were a traditional, retired white couple. That's the only home I visited in the last couple years. We don't go to other homes to socialize much anymore.

My wife and I visited some friends a few weeks ago on their boat (they live aboard), and they are from Poland. They were illegal immigrants 20+ years ago, but have obtained citizenship after a long and costly effort, so this summer they will legally go to Poland and visit their elderly parents. They have made a living in the US. Their son is in medical school now. They got their infant son out of Poland by hiding him in a secret compartment in a car. They entered the US by island hoping across the Atlantic.

[LanternWaste]

76. Player in my Dungeons & Dragons game is AfAm.

Player in my Dungeons & Dragons game is AfAm. We all get together and play about once a week.

I'd like to pretend I'm being clever by asking chicken-shit variations on a question like "what's a race?" to derail the conversation, but it's Monday morning and I just don't have enough follow-through for that kind if insincerity.

[elehhhhna]

77. My house. If African American, Mexican, Asian, Indian, First nations, and Puerto Ricans count.

Mostly teens in recovery and their parents.

[a la izquierda]

78. Weekly.

My best friend is from argentina. Most of my friends are from Latin America.

[JustAnotherGen]

79. Every single day!

[GrapesOfWrath]

82. Every other weekend

Plus my house looks like the “ colors of Benetton “ on a daily basis

[RobinA]

83. Wait!!!

As a white person I’ve heard repeatedly how I’m not allowed to say I have friends of color, so I’m not answering. It’s a trick question!

[Iggo]

84. When I was 19, back in '80 or '81....

...is about the last time I remember having dinner at the home of a family who wasn't White or Latino.

(I'm mixed-race White/Latino, so for the purposes of this thread I'm not counting either one of those, since I feel at home in either setting.)