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Tue May 29, 2018, 07:50 AM

She was in labor. From her hospital bed, she officiated the wedding of a couple also having a baby.

Sushma Dwivedi Jindal was having her baby last week at NewYork-Presbyterian/Weill Cornell Medical Center.

As she was getting an epidural in her spine to halt the pain of contractions, her anesthesiologist started chatting with Jindal to calm her nerves.

“She happens to mention that there was a mad dash to hunt down the hospital chaplain for a wedding,” said Jindal, 37.
A couple down the hall — together for 10 years but never married — had their hearts set on tying the knot before the baby came, the doctor said. They had gotten their wedding license the day before, but then the woman unexpectedly went into labor.

Jindal blurted out: “I don’t know if this will feel helpful or weird, but I was ordained on the Internet and I can perform the ceremony.”


Whole story here:
https://www.washingtonpost.com/news/inspired-life/wp/2018/05/24/she-was-having-a-baby-from-her-hospital-bed-she-officiated-at-the-wedding-of-another-patient-also-in-labor/?utm_term=.621b189fd4c3&wpisrc=nl_optimist&wpmm=1

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Reply She was in labor. From her hospital bed, she officiated the wedding of a couple also having a baby. (Original post)
FSogol May 2018 OP
snowybirdie May 2018 #1
FSogol May 2018 #3
Cracklin Charlie May 2018 #7
Ilsa May 2018 #2
marybourg May 2018 #4
FSogol May 2018 #5
marybourg May 2018 #6
MissB May 2018 #8
moriah May 2018 #9

Response to FSogol (Original post)

Tue May 29, 2018, 08:03 AM

1. Anyone else

think these folks had plenty of time to marry without imposing on a woman who was experiencing her own life changing moment? Selfish and silly. Not "heartwarming"

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Response to snowybirdie (Reply #1)

Tue May 29, 2018, 08:15 AM

3. Except the woman seemed happy to help out & even volunteered. That's what makes it a nice story.

People put things off. There is never enough time.

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Response to FSogol (Reply #3)

Tue May 29, 2018, 10:16 AM

7. Plus, women are amazing creatures!

Multitasking is a constant.

Perform a small, but important ceremony during childbirth...all in a day’s work!

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Response to FSogol (Original post)

Tue May 29, 2018, 08:04 AM

2. An epidural can make all the difference in knowing your officiant

won't be screaming or huffing her breaths between asking if anyone has any objections and pronouncing a couple husband and wife (or wife and wife or husband and husband).

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Response to FSogol (Original post)

Tue May 29, 2018, 08:23 AM

4. Internet officients arent

necessarily legal in N.Y.

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Response to marybourg (Reply #4)

Tue May 29, 2018, 08:27 AM

5. They have a certificate. All it needs is a signature.

I'm sure NY doesn't spend much time verifying every signature on every marriage license.

FREEZE! It's the NY Marriage Enforcement Squad. Come out with your bouquet up!


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Response to FSogol (Reply #5)

Tue May 29, 2018, 08:36 AM

6. No. They don't.

But when the day comes, maybe years down the road, when a valid marriage needs to be proven for some benefit, that one may not qualify

But then the DUers of the future will read of another indignant tale of the big unfair gub'mint.

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Response to marybourg (Reply #6)

Tue May 29, 2018, 10:59 AM

8. The validity of a marriage is shown by a marriage certificate

In our state at least, the state’s vital records office records marriage certificates. I can go and get a copy from the state at any point, showing that my marriage from 23 years ago is valid.

Doesn’t matter that our friend’s friend got his officiating abilities from the interwebs. Only matters that the state took the required documentation and issued a marriage certificate.

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Response to MissB (Reply #8)

Tue May 29, 2018, 11:13 AM

9. NYC has stricter rules for registration of officiants than the rest of NY, but....

... I still doubt their marriage would be considered invalid if it turned out she hadn't gone through the required steps.

Generally speaking, the couple believing the officiant was validly registered wouldn't be the one penalized, but the one who offered her services.

I would need to look up the precise way New York words their law regarding when the contract made is considered invalid from the start vs annulment being a required process to dissolve a marriage. I know here in AR, we have to register our ULC ordination with the county we reside in, and are given a "Book" and "Page" number. That must be entered, along with the officiant's signature and which county's book they're in, by the officiant on the marriage license.

Which kind of makes any person who simply got ordained from kicks and never registered their ordination say "Waitaminute, I don't have this information...."

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