On the issue of avoidance..

[cannabis_flower]

I was sexually assaulted by my first cousin when I was 12 . We lived in the same small (45,000) town. Could I really avoid him? I couldn't even avoid being alone with him.

What he did was to catch me doing something that would get me
in trouble (tape recorded me saying bad words) and then saying he would tell if I didn't let him. If I tried not to be alone with him he would tell. I told him to take a hike when I was 14 and he played the tape... but the tape was old and they couldn't understand it. That was the end but it took 2 years for me to get up the nerve to say go ahead and play the tape.

I didn't tell anyone till I told my mom when I was 30 or so. She said "ya'll were just kids"