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Thu Sep 27, 2018, 06:04 PM

 

Let This Be A Lesson To Anyone Who Has Been Abused

If you speak up, you will be ignored as well.

Turns out Dr. Ford was 100% correct. I'm guessing if she had it to do over, she would choose to remain silent.

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Reply Let This Be A Lesson To Anyone Who Has Been Abused (Original post)
LandOfHopeAndDreams Sep 2018 OP
redstatebluegirl Sep 2018 #1
a la izquierda Sep 2018 #5
redstatebluegirl Sep 2018 #6
maryellen99 Sep 2018 #2
Initech Sep 2018 #7
maryellen99 Sep 2018 #8
Initech Sep 2018 #9
backtoblue Sep 2018 #3
ZZenith Sep 2018 #4
NurseJackie Sep 2018 #10
Solly Mack Sep 2018 #11
LandOfHopeAndDreams Sep 2018 #12

Response to LandOfHopeAndDreams (Original post)

Thu Sep 27, 2018, 06:05 PM

1. This why many of us have been silent.

I would not go through what I saw friends go through, not worth it to me. Has it haunted me, yes, but I would do the same again, the system is rigged against women.

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Response to redstatebluegirl (Reply #1)

Thu Sep 27, 2018, 06:16 PM

5. Me too.

I would never say a word. I haven’t for decades. I was 16 and terrified.

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Response to a la izquierda (Reply #5)

Thu Sep 27, 2018, 06:18 PM

6. I was 20.

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Response to LandOfHopeAndDreams (Original post)

Thu Sep 27, 2018, 06:05 PM

2. Rape/sexual assault has now been normalized :(

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Response to maryellen99 (Reply #2)

Thu Sep 27, 2018, 06:22 PM

7. Not only that, Lindsay Graham plans to turn it into a weapon.

Fuck these psychopathic fuckers.

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Response to Initech (Reply #7)

Thu Sep 27, 2018, 06:23 PM

8. He's the next Kevin Spacey and I don't mean acting nt

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Response to maryellen99 (Reply #8)

Thu Sep 27, 2018, 06:25 PM

9. I wouldn't be surprised if he has actual skeletons in his closet!

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Response to LandOfHopeAndDreams (Original post)

Thu Sep 27, 2018, 06:15 PM

3. I came forward and testified. I do not regret it.

I was the one on trial for almost two years because my boss assaulted me at my desk. He ended up serving half of a six month sentence. I fought and I persisted and goddammmit I do not regret it.

I took the stand and he did not. It was the hardest thing I've ever done, but I did not give up.

DO NOT GIVE UP. I was the one who lost my career. But I hope he thinks twice before ever hurting someone else.

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Response to LandOfHopeAndDreams (Original post)

Thu Sep 27, 2018, 06:15 PM

4. I completely and emphatically disagree with your conclusion.

Silence was not an option for Dr. Ford and she bravely stepped forward, regardless of the consequence.

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Response to LandOfHopeAndDreams (Original post)

Thu Sep 27, 2018, 06:28 PM

10. Not raped or sexually assaulted... but physically abused and mentally abused by my first husband.

It was YEARS before I could talk about the specifics. And even today, I avoid it, I suppress it. Even after the end of our short marriage (with no kids) the memory of him tormented me, haunted me, and it was baggage that I carried with me for years. Nightmares of him beating me would wake me up weekly for YEARS! Now that he's dead (bastard drank himself to death) I have some closure and subconscious belief/understanding that he can't hurt me again... and the dreams stopped.

Not everyone understands or appreciates how hard it is to recover from assault or abuse.

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Response to LandOfHopeAndDreams (Original post)

Thu Sep 27, 2018, 06:29 PM

11. Yeah. I already know how bad it is.

Ignored or if not ignored - attacked.

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Response to LandOfHopeAndDreams (Original post)

Thu Sep 27, 2018, 06:55 PM

12. I Wasn't Expecting That

 

Powerful replies. Thank you too all who contributed. I feel for those who have experienced trauma in the past.

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