How to Talk to the Women in Your Life Right Now
Ask how we're doing
When you know that someone is going through a difficult time, it can be a tricky thing to ask them about. You don't want to pry, but you also want to be supportive. Asking basic questions like "how are you doing?" will allow your friends to share as much as they feel comfortable.
If you get a response like "lmao I'm terrible!!!!!" or "I want to launch myself into space after punching Brett Kavanaugh in his ugly mouth," this gives you a green light to ask the next important question: "Ugh, that sounds like a lot. Wanna talk about it?" And if she does, it is time for you to put on your big boy listening pants.
Listening is crucial
Listening is step one of allyship. Listening means not interrupting. It means making eye contact, paying attention, nodding your head, and saying things like "that sounds really difficult" or "I hear you." If you're worried about your listening skills,
this article is a good place to start.
