Wed Oct 3, 2018, 09:47 AM

Goodheart (4,904 posts)

I just alerted my brother I will no longer talk to him.

He has crossed the line by calling Dr. Ford a "lying bitch".

I'm truly, truly sad that my own brother is among the basket of deplorables.

Did this need its own thread? Probably not.

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I just alerted my brother I will no longer talk to him. (Original post)	Goodheart	Oct 2018	OP
My sister and I no longer speak for that same reason. nt	zanana1	Oct 2018	#1
Trump and his cadre of have succeeded in driving the nation into hopeless division.	olegramps	Oct 2018	#46
He has revealed who they are. nt	Duppers	Oct 2018	#102
Beautifully written.	kag	Oct 2018	#104
it is important to remember, our degradation is from REPUBLICANS.	CharleyDog	Oct 2018	#113
I'm going to disagree slightly	FakeNoose	Oct 2018	#127
Far too few	krkaufman	Oct 2018	#147
We were in this place way before the Orange Turd.	MadDAsHell	Oct 2018	#131
I very much agree. As Obama reflected that Trump is the result, the symptom not the exception.	olegramps	Oct 2018	#159
Life is too short to be dealing with such ignorance.	OnDoutside	Oct 2018	#2
im no longer speaking to my t party sis...	samnsara	Oct 2018	#3
Brother against brother. Another Civil War is not out of the question if things get worse.	Funtatlaguy	Oct 2018	#4
I think it's inevitable	The Liberal Lion	Oct 2018	#47
Except	DownriverDem	Oct 2018	#62
This.	CrispyQ	Oct 2018	#76
2016 map	jdoyle1x1	Oct 2018	#105
is this real?	highmindedhavi	Oct 2018	#116
It's real, but deceptive . .,,	reACTIONary	Oct 2018	#143
Great point. I've seen maps with	klook	Oct 2018	#146
the map is very much on point in light of electoral college	AlexSFCA	Oct 2018	#150
Maybe, but they're still the minority.	John Fante	Oct 2018	#151
Not really . ...	reACTIONary	Oct 2018	#158
I couldn't have been more wrong.	CrispyQ	Oct 2018	#121
You've figured out the difference between common and rare, yes?	LanternWaste	Oct 2018	#122
election maps based on population not area	spike jones	Oct 2018	#125
I also like the vertical ones.	Pope George Ringo II	Oct 2018	#130
The very low voter turnout was a factor.	CentralMass	Oct 2018	#129
Welcome to DU, jdoyle1x1.	calimary	Oct 2018	#148
yes, most of the higher populated cities within Red States can be VERY Blue	JI7	Oct 2018	#156
IMHO Civil War II has already begun.	CaptainTruth	Oct 2018	#64
And that IS the Truth, Captain.	dchill	Oct 2018	#144
It IS developing into a latter-day Civil War.	calimary	Oct 2018	#69
I've never seen it this divided either.	Ligyron	Oct 2018	#83
Agreed	customerserviceguy	Oct 2018	#110
Didn't Alex Jones say the left would start a civil war this past July 4th?	OnlinePoker	Oct 2018	#81
Project and reverse	Ellen Forradalom	Oct 2018	#112
Good article in NY Times about this.	BigmanPigman	Oct 2018	#141
Hey, there's nothing wrong with making a thread.	Zing Zing Zingbah	Oct 2018	#5
Every day feels like a nightmare to me.	Goodheart	Oct 2018	#6
You are absolutely right.	Ligyron	Oct 2018	#86
Maybe true..	Zing Zing Zingbah	Oct 2018	#88
Oh, I'd be the very first to welcome them back to sanity if it happened.	Ligyron	Oct 2018	#91
Yeah, the first type you mentioned is much easier to deal with	Zing Zing Zingbah	Oct 2018	#97
I'm not the DU Grand Poobah but I encourage you to post what you want.	DemocratSinceBirth	Oct 2018	#7
You might want to amend your thinking on that	vlyons	Oct 2018	#8
Sometimes for your own health, you need to back away from a person	mythology	Oct 2018	#29
Julia Sweeney's dad refused to speak a word to her because...	kiri	Oct 2018	#78
Yeah, I was saying the same thing	Zing Zing Zingbah	Oct 2018	#32
My sister went off the rails about 10 years ago with the tea party.	pazzyanne	Oct 2018	#63
My brother is the same way. Staying away is best for your well-being. nt	SunSeeker	Oct 2018	#9
This is common now	sarah FAILIN	Oct 2018	#10
I don't think trump should split siblings...	SimpleC	Oct 2018	#11
Yeah, maybe the people that seem to follow fads in general are more susceptible to Trump. n/t	Zing Zing Zingbah	Oct 2018	#162
That's sad.	greytdemocrat	Oct 2018	#12
You need understanding and someone to listen to you	tymorial	Oct 2018	#13
My Brother-in-Law	Turbineguy	Oct 2018	#14
Yours sounds like my family in a way.	hostalover	Oct 2018	#82
Faux Bot	lpbk2713	Oct 2018	#15
Good. (nt)	Paladin	Oct 2018	#16
maxim: qui tacet consentit [silence gives consent]	RestoreAmerica2020	Oct 2018	#17
Politics is absolutely no reason to sever ties with your brother. That's a lazy response.	jpljr77	Oct 2018	#18
Of Course It Is	ProfessorGAC	Oct 2018	#21
My grandfather told me: God gives you your relatives, you pick your friends.	olegramps	Oct 2018	#50
Your grandfather is a wise man. Thanks for sharing this saying. I love it. NT	SWBTATTReg	Oct 2018	#74
Good luck with that line of "reasoning"...	Wounded Bear	Oct 2018	#22
This stuff can be very bad for your health	BeyondGeography	Oct 2018	#33
What a toxic response	Boomer	Oct 2018	#43
+1,000,000. n/t	Different Drummer	Oct 2018	#92
In normal times you would be right	The Liberal Lion	Oct 2018	#52
True	Oppaloopa	Oct 2018	#66
Sharing DNA doesn't mean we have to tolearate them when they cross a line	nini	Oct 2018	#71
Man i can certainly relate to your problem!!	bluestarone	Oct 2018	#19
My list is longer than I would like	angrychair	Oct 2018	#20
I feel sorry for both of you.	pintobean	Oct 2018	#23
Its not politics and its not love	GusBob	Oct 2018	#79
Putting politics over love? Sure.	Goodheart	Oct 2018	#95
Politics? You call supporting someone who mocks the disabled politics? You call supporting	lunamagica	Oct 2018	#103
Don't worry	pintobean	Oct 2018	#107
Why would I worry?	lunamagica	Oct 2018	#108
This. nt	Atticus	Oct 2018	#135
Politics is about morality and values.	LuckyLib	Oct 2018	#119
I thought that was religion.	pintobean	Oct 2018	#132
you know people use politics to push their shitty religion like taking away gay rights	JI7	Oct 2018	#157
I'm sorry. I have a brother like that, too.	GoCubsGo	Oct 2018	#24
You know, we all have challenges enough in life to have to worry about our own family ...	SWBTATTReg	Oct 2018	#25
My sister and I no longer speak either...	Moostache	Oct 2018	#26
Both of my brothers fall into that category	Bettie	Oct 2018	#27
OMG that is one scary dad . Stay away	lunasun	Oct 2018	#154
I've came to believe we can change people only by example....	KY_EnviroGuy	Oct 2018	#28
No brother	D00ver	Oct 2018	#30
In haven't spoken to my brother in years, fox fake news addict and racist	elmac	Oct 2018	#31
You can't pick your family.	Joe Nation	Oct 2018	#34
Good for you... had the same issue with my Bushiphile brother after the 2000 election disaster.	InAbLuEsTaTe	Oct 2018	#35
Every unhappy family is unhappy in its own way.	violetpastille	Oct 2018	#36
This one here....	LuckyCharms	Oct 2018	#39
It has been 7 years since I've spoken to my siblings.	LuckyCharms	Oct 2018	#37
So sorry for your family tragedy, having a total ass as a brother.	lark	Oct 2018	#38
Sometimes family is truly toxic. That is all. nt	FromTheAshes	Oct 2018	#40
Sometimes a relationship becomes so toxic that for your own health you need to walk away.	octoberlib	Oct 2018	#41
Support for you!	HAB911	Oct 2018	#42
You are not the only one	riverbendviewgal	Oct 2018	#44
Don't Blame You; Sister in Law Trump Supporter	djacq	Oct 2018	#45
Same with me and my older brother. We no longer speak.	PearliePoo2	Oct 2018	#48
Lines are being drawn	Loge23	Oct 2018	#49
I refuse to be withing 1 mile of my brother.	sagesnow	Oct 2018	#51
Haven't spoken to my brother, my only sibling	Heartstrings	Oct 2018	#53
I'm lucky, I have no direct blood family members who gave their support to that orange asshole	The Liberal Lion	Oct 2018	#54
Good for you... Sounds like the right thing to do. Zn/t	whathehell	Oct 2018	#55
I, long ago, even before Trump, decided to not associate with racists, mysogonists and morons	louis c	Oct 2018	#56
Welcome to the sad club of folks who have had families & friendships torn apart by that	catbyte	Oct 2018	#57
Seems to be down to that.	backscatter712	Oct 2018	#58
I have cut off all Trumpinistas	The Wizard	Oct 2018	#59
My sister and I parted company about a year ago.	pazzyanne	Oct 2018	#60
Me and my twin brother have been estranged	jb5150	Oct 2018	#61
I'm sorry that happened but you need to do what's	Upthevibe	Oct 2018	#65
My brother is a Trumpian and I already know his misogynistic nature for strong professional women,	iluvtennis	Oct 2018	#67
For the most part, we've cut ties with my brother in law and family	mountain grammy	Oct 2018	#68
I haven't been talking to my sister since Trump began running and she was "rabid" with me	ebbie15644	Oct 2018	#70
No Trumpsters is the only sane policy	The Polack MSgt	Oct 2018	#72
A story of two uncles and some hope	mahina	Oct 2018	#73
THESE PEOPLE ARE NOT IRREVERSIBLE!	Hortensis	Oct 2018	#75
Perhaps	Ellen Forradalom	Oct 2018	#114
:) No, and guessing he won't change that way.	Hortensis	Oct 2018	#123
That view is optimistic	Ellen Forradalom	Oct 2018	#163
I Lost A Very Good Friend Who I Once Respected	ChoppinBroccoli	Oct 2018	#77
.....So Sorry.....	titanicdave	Oct 2018	#80
You did what you had to do . . .	hatrack	Oct 2018	#84
I used to have a friend like that...	BlueJac	Oct 2018	#85
Actually, it kinda DOES need its own thread.	BobTheSubgenius	Oct 2018	#87
Some things run deeper than family.	Nitram	Oct 2018	#89
That's what I've come to know.	Goodheart	Oct 2018	#93
I haven't reached that point in my family yet.	47of74	Oct 2018	#90
If family members can respect boundaries and just avoid the topics they know will cause each other	Nitram	Oct 2018	#94
My sister and I still speak - but barely.	lillypaddle	Oct 2018	#96
Division in my family also	HelenWheels	Oct 2018	#98
I tell myself that this is what my BROTHER chose.	Goodheart	Oct 2018	#100
Oh, this needs its own thread. It needs its whole national discussion.	LisaM	Oct 2018	#99
I'm so sorry. Had my brother said that	Duppers	Oct 2018	#101
now that's a "presidential alert" alright	0rganism	Oct 2018	#106
I no longer talk to my brother	Ellen Forradalom	Oct 2018	#109
I'm sorry to hear that.	sandensea	Oct 2018	#111
The re-election of President Obama in 2012	LittleGirl	Oct 2018	#115
sorry for your loss	trueblue2007	Oct 2018	#117
Your family is not alone. Perhaps the most famous example is Rep. Gosar.	Marcuse	Oct 2018	#118
It has to be done.	Scruffy1	Oct 2018	#120
I'm pretty sure the same thing happened in the Trump famly	FakeNoose	Oct 2018	#124
I have literally ended dozens of long time friendships over Trump	Sqee	Oct 2018	#126
I do not blame you one bit	CountAllVotes	Oct 2018	#128
How do you fight this kind of nastiness?	Goodheart	Oct 2018	#133
Might wanna stay away from him at least for a while, lest things are said...	Honeycombe8	Oct 2018	#134
that's beyond the pale	jcsg	Oct 2018	#136
Welp... Doubt if it will ever heal... Unfortunately!	busterbrown	Oct 2018	#137
If you only hear from them when they want something well ...	CountAllVotes	Oct 2018	#139
really it's not worth the anger and pain..n/t	busterbrown	Oct 2018	#140
Right	CountAllVotes	Oct 2018	#152
People used to say "blood is thicker than water..."	hay rick	Oct 2018	#138
This is very sad	Raine	Oct 2018	#142
Thank you. So many of us have this dilemma with diabolical words from family members.	Prof.Higgins	Oct 2018	#145
Trump should be burning in hell for his lies. (Tots & pears) nt	Ilsa	Oct 2018	#149
I have separated from some family but no trumpers . Anytime it's uncomfortable to the point	lunasun	Oct 2018	#153
I'm sorry	Niagara	Oct 2018	#155
I have a brother like that.	CousinIT	Oct 2018	#160
My husband's extended family except for a couple are trump worshippers nt	maryellen99	Oct 2018	#161

Response to Goodheart (Original post)

Wed Oct 3, 2018, 09:49 AM

zanana1 (5,816 posts)

1. My sister and I no longer speak for that same reason. nt

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Response to zanana1 (Reply #1)

Wed Oct 3, 2018, 10:56 AM

olegramps (8,200 posts)

46. Trump and his cadre of have succeeded in driving the nation into hopeless division.

He has succeeded in turning citizens against citizen, brother against brother and sister against sister, Trump is jubilant. He has cause for celebration. His message of division and hatred has been such a success that he can cleave even the sacred bond the holds families together during the most stressful of times. He can be likened to one of the Horseman of the Apocalypse spreading hatred and basking in the spoils of his conquest.

There is a ray of hope. But it is up to the citizens to reclaim their county November at the ballot box. The country is under the control of a party that has been infected with such a lust for power that its leadership has become so morally corrupted that it will use any means to retain power. Each succeeding Republican administration has become increasingly more corrupt. The Nixon administration was so corrupt that its vice president was forced to resign for bribery, its president had to resign for corruption and his aides sent to prison, Reagan's saw twenty four of its administration indicted and many sent to prison, Bush the younger took us to war on outright lies costing the death of over 5,000 of our soldiers and tens of thousands hopeless maimed as his friends and supporters reaped millions in war profits. Their latest present for the nation is so corrupt that he defies description.

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Response to olegramps (Reply #46)

Wed Oct 3, 2018, 02:17 PM

Duppers (27,648 posts)

102. He has revealed who they are. nt

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Response to olegramps (Reply #46)

Wed Oct 3, 2018, 02:19 PM

kag (4,046 posts)

104. Beautifully written.

Thanks, olegramps. What an eloquent description of the progression of evil that we have seen unfold.

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Response to olegramps (Reply #46)

Wed Oct 3, 2018, 02:42 PM

CharleyDog (719 posts)

113. it is important to remember, our degradation is from REPUBLICANS.

Republicans are doing this.

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Response to CharleyDog (Reply #113)

Wed Oct 3, 2018, 06:24 PM

FakeNoose (30,738 posts)

127. I'm going to disagree slightly

Remember that a lot of people in the Republican Party are just as appalled as we are.

It's the Libertarians - the crazy right-wing nutjobs - who took over the Republican Party who are doing this. They know that Cheeto is an idiotic windbag and they're using him to achieve their agenda of destroying our government.

We need to convince the sane Republicans to join with us and put this nightmare to its ignominious end. I really think that many of them are willing, but they're not gonna tell us. They're just going to quietly stay home on Nov. 6th.

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Response to FakeNoose (Reply #127)

Wed Oct 3, 2018, 09:47 PM

krkaufman (13,396 posts)

147. Far too few

No, it’s Republicans, whether Conservative, Evangelical, Libertarian, White Supremacist, whatever. The polling indicates far too few object to Trumpism.

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Response to olegramps (Reply #46)

Wed Oct 3, 2018, 06:44 PM

MadDAsHell (2,067 posts)

131. We were in this place way before the Orange Turd.

Every election since 2000 has been claimed to have been stolen. The opposite political party isn’t just an opponent; they’re thieves.

The political opponent isn’t just different, they’re EVIL, they’re STUPID, they’re SATAN INCARNATE.

We’ve been in a very sad place in this country for at least 2 decades.

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Response to MadDAsHell (Reply #131)

Thu Oct 4, 2018, 06:50 AM

olegramps (8,200 posts)

159. I very much agree. As Obama reflected that Trump is the result, the symptom not the exception.

They have pursued a campaign to polarize the nation. They have succeeded in dividing the citizens turning them into enemies with their message of hatred of anyone who doesn't yield to their demands. It is a message of total intolerance that extends to any group they consider a threat to their dominance especially based on race. They masses are victims of demagogues who play on their fears and provide a scapegoat for the own failures. They have been transformed into innocent victims that through no fault of their own have been betrayed by radical liberals. The exploitation extends through the entire spectrum from race, religion, sexual orientation, economic class, to what ever is the present day event.

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Response to Goodheart (Original post)

Wed Oct 3, 2018, 09:49 AM

OnDoutside (19,797 posts)

2. Life is too short to be dealing with such ignorance.

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Response to Goodheart (Original post)

Wed Oct 3, 2018, 09:50 AM

samnsara (17,215 posts)

3. im no longer speaking to my t party sis...

..I cant trust her judgement on anything any more....

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Response to Goodheart (Original post)

Wed Oct 3, 2018, 09:52 AM

Funtatlaguy (10,699 posts)

4. Brother against brother. Another Civil War is not out of the question if things get worse.

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Response to Funtatlaguy (Reply #4)

Wed Oct 3, 2018, 10:56 AM

The Liberal Lion (1,414 posts)

47. I think it's inevitable

but that's just me. We shall see. I'm ready regardless.

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Response to Funtatlaguy (Reply #4)

Wed Oct 3, 2018, 11:20 AM

DownriverDem (5,986 posts)

62. Except

It won't be geographical. How will we know who we are fighting? I'm white and do not want folks to think I support trump and the repubs.

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Response to DownriverDem (Reply #62)

Wed Oct 3, 2018, 12:10 PM

CrispyQ (35,012 posts)

76. This.

When you look at an electoral map by state, it looks like red dominates the center of the land. But when you look at one broken down by county, it's a whole other story. Those red areas are not one big color block of red. There's a ton of blue in there, too.

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Response to CrispyQ (Reply #76)

Wed Oct 3, 2018, 02:23 PM

jdoyle1x1 (11 posts)

105. 2016 map

[link:

?resize=570%2C366|

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Response to jdoyle1x1 (Reply #105)

Wed Oct 3, 2018, 02:58 PM

highmindedhavi (355 posts)

116. is this real?

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Response to highmindedhavi (Reply #116)

Wed Oct 3, 2018, 08:40 PM

reACTIONary (5,643 posts)

143. It's real, but deceptive . .,,

,.... in general the red counties are low population areas. Some of those small blue dots contain more voters than some states.

Wyoming 563,626
LA County 10,000,000

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Response to reACTIONary (Reply #143)

Wed Oct 3, 2018, 08:58 PM

klook (11,993 posts)

146. Great point. I've seen maps with

vertical 3D "bars" extending from each state or district to show population density. That's a much more elegant and more nearly accurate way to depict the data.

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Response to reACTIONary (Reply #143)

Wed Oct 3, 2018, 10:47 PM

AlexSFCA (6,110 posts)

150. the map is very much on point in light of electoral college

those thousands of folks in wyoming may as well be counted as millions.

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Response to AlexSFCA (Reply #150)

Wed Oct 3, 2018, 10:57 PM

John Fante (3,479 posts)

151. Maybe, but they're still the minority.

and they won't have the electoral college to save them in 2018.

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Response to AlexSFCA (Reply #150)

Thu Oct 4, 2018, 06:14 AM

reACTIONary (5,643 posts)

158. Not really . ...

... electoral votes are roughly proportionsl to the population of a state: the sum of repeseatives and senators.

It is the winner take all asspect that creates the anti-majority structural bias in the electoral colllege. And this works to favor the Democratic party.

For instance, in a real red stste like wyoming with very few dems, only a few dem votes are canceled by winner take all. And only a smal number of electoral votes are gained. In a large blue state like California where there are a higher percentage of repubs but no where near the number needed to make the state red, a whole lot more repub votes are cancled than the number of dem votes canceled in Wyoming. And a whole lot more electoral votes are gained.

Right now the Democratics have the advantage in the electoral collage.

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Response to jdoyle1x1 (Reply #105)

Wed Oct 3, 2018, 04:12 PM

CrispyQ (35,012 posts)

121. I couldn't have been more wrong.

Then I thought I meant Congressional districts, but it's almost as bad. Now I'm super depressed. This country is seriously fucked.

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Response to jdoyle1x1 (Reply #105)

Wed Oct 3, 2018, 04:24 PM

LanternWaste (37,748 posts)

122. You've figured out the difference between common and rare, yes?

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Response to jdoyle1x1 (Reply #105)

Wed Oct 3, 2018, 06:20 PM

spike jones (1,516 posts)

125. election maps based on population not area

https://www.businessinsider.com/2016-election-results-maps-population-adjusted-cartogram-2016-11

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Response to spike jones (Reply #125)

Wed Oct 3, 2018, 06:39 PM

Pope George Ringo II (1,896 posts)

130. I also like the vertical ones.

Slight offset rather than the direct overhead, and huge blue stacks jutting out of a mostly red carpet.

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Response to jdoyle1x1 (Reply #105)

Wed Oct 3, 2018, 06:36 PM

CentralMass (15,148 posts)

129. The very low voter turnout was a factor.

https://www.washingtonpost.com/blogs/plum-line/wp/2016/11/10/why-did-trump-win-in-part-because-voter-turnout-plunged/?noredirect=on&utm_term=.83ab5fc545b0
"While Trump managed to gain an electoral college victory, not only did he get fewer votes than Hillary Clinton — a fact that, remarkably, seems to merit nothing more than a footnote in almost every discussion of the election — he got fewer votes than Mitt Romney in 2012, fewer votes than John McCain in 2008, and fewer votes than George W. Bush in 2004. In total, fewer than 26 percent of eligible American voters cast their ballots for the man who will occupy the Oval Office come January."

"What’s also important here is how poorly Hillary Clinton did. She got 6 million fewer votes than Barack Obama did in 2012, and nearly 10 million fewer than he did in 2008:"

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Response to jdoyle1x1 (Reply #105)

Wed Oct 3, 2018, 10:28 PM

calimary (78,105 posts)

148. Welcome to DU, jdoyle1x1.

Yeah, that looks like a discouraging map, until you realize that it reflects a LOT of wide-open spaces. Farm country. Cattle country. Low-population centers. The blue bits are all large population centers. Yeah, we cling to the coastlines but that's where a lot of the actual PEOPLE are. Acres of corn stalks and wheat fields and pastures full of grazing cows don't get to vote. Yet.

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Response to CrispyQ (Reply #76)

Thu Oct 4, 2018, 01:13 AM

JI7 (88,313 posts)

156. yes, most of the higher populated cities within Red States can be VERY Blue

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Response to Funtatlaguy (Reply #4)

Wed Oct 3, 2018, 11:26 AM

CaptainTruth (6,287 posts)

64. IMHO Civil War II has already begun.

This battle is not being fought with guns & cannons, but with the modern weapons of lies, propaganda, social media, voter supression, hacking etc.

The Republican party has allied themselves with a foreign adversary (Russia) to attack our institutions & destroy the foundations of our country - our Constitution, our laws, & the standards of liberty & justice for all.

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Response to CaptainTruth (Reply #64)

Wed Oct 3, 2018, 08:48 PM

dchill (36,978 posts)

144. And that IS the Truth, Captain.

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Response to Funtatlaguy (Reply #4)

Wed Oct 3, 2018, 11:36 AM

calimary (78,105 posts)

69. It IS developing into a latter-day Civil War.

I have NEVER seen the country this severely divided. And now it’s gender against gender.

This is getting uglier and uglier.

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Response to calimary (Reply #69)

Wed Oct 3, 2018, 12:31 PM

Ligyron (7,460 posts)

83. I've never seen it this divided either.

The worst of the sixties were a love fest compared to this.

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Response to Ligyron (Reply #83)

Wed Oct 3, 2018, 02:34 PM

customerserviceguy (25,182 posts)

110. Agreed

I remember there being open talk of a race war. A lot of people think of the 1960's as being nothing but peace, love, sex, drugs and rock-and-roll, but we had really bad riots in most major American cities starting in 1965, and culminating in some huge ones in 1968, most notably after MLK was murdered.

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Response to Funtatlaguy (Reply #4)

Wed Oct 3, 2018, 12:24 PM

OnlinePoker (5,599 posts)

81. Didn't Alex Jones say the left would start a civil war this past July 4th?

I don't think it's the left that will kick it off.

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Response to OnlinePoker (Reply #81)

Wed Oct 3, 2018, 02:35 PM

Ellen Forradalom (16,159 posts)

112. Project and reverse

It's what abusers do

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Response to Funtatlaguy (Reply #4)

Wed Oct 3, 2018, 07:34 PM

BigmanPigman (50,203 posts)

141. Good article in NY Times about this.

https://www.nytimes.com/2018/10/02/opinion/the-american-civil-war-part-ii.html
"...that’s why our generation’s civil war is so hard to bring to a truce. There are so many fronts. There’s the battle between those who feel the American dream has slipped from their grasp and those who can easily pass it on to their kids. There’s the one between rural small-town Americans and “globalized” city slickers, who, the small-town folks are sure, look down upon them. There’s the fight between the white working-class Americans who feel that their identities are being lost in an increasingly minority-majority country and the Americans who embrace multiculturalism. And there’s the struggle between men who believe that their gender still confers certain powers and privileges and the women challenging that. There are so many fields of dispute."
"In essence, we’ve moved from “partisanship,” which still allowed for political compromises in the end, “to tribalism,” which does not, explained political scientist Norman Ornstein, co-author, with Thomas Mann, of the book “It’s Even Worse Than It Looks: How the American Constitutional System Collided With the New Politics of Extremism.” In a tribal world it’s rule or die, compromise is a sin, enemies must be crushed and power must be held at all costs."

"It would be easy to blame both sides equally for this shift, noted Ornstein, but it is just not true. After the end of the Cold War, he said, “tribal politics were introduced by Newt Gingrich when he came to Congress 40 years ago,” and then perfected by Mitch McConnell during the Barack Obama presidency, when McConnell declared his intention to use his G.O.P. Senate caucus to make Obama fail as a strategy for getting Republicans back in power."

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Response to Goodheart (Original post)

Wed Oct 3, 2018, 09:53 AM

Zing Zing Zingbah (6,496 posts)

5. Hey, there's nothing wrong with making a thread.

I'm sorry about your brother. I'm sure that hurts a lot. I would say, maybe stop talking to him for now, but don't commit to forever. He could still change. Let him know you care about him. Explain what it is that he is doing that bothers you. Try not to be too mean about it though. Be the better person and give him a chance to come around.

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Wed Oct 3, 2018, 09:56 AM

Goodheart (4,904 posts)

6. Every day feels like a nightmare to me.

And, I promise you, I'm a very sane person.

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Wed Oct 3, 2018, 12:41 PM

Ligyron (7,460 posts)

86. You are absolutely right.

The biggest problem going forward always seems to be: those Trump loving type personalities seldom admit to ever being wrong. Their entitlement to victim-hood often knows no bounds.

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Response to Ligyron (Reply #86)

Wed Oct 3, 2018, 12:46 PM

Zing Zing Zingbah (6,496 posts)

88. Maybe true..

But we have to give them time. It might take years. It might not ever happen for some.

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Response to Zing Zing Zingbah (Reply #88)

Wed Oct 3, 2018, 01:27 PM

Ligyron (7,460 posts)

91. Oh, I'd be the very first to welcome them back to sanity if it happened.

And some of them are just marginal, don't really pay attention to politics or just want to be on what they perceive to be the "winning team". Think their taxes are gonna go down or some shit.

But if they are avid Faux News watchers and/or Brietbart type media consumers? You can almost forget it.

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Response to Ligyron (Reply #91)

Wed Oct 3, 2018, 01:48 PM

Zing Zing Zingbah (6,496 posts)

97. Yeah, the first type you mentioned is much easier to deal with

because their minds aren't so made up. They are uninformed/misinformed and they usually don't care about politics all that much so they aren't all that put off by someone politely disagreeing with them. That group accounts for a lot of people though. Those people are definitely reachable, but I think you can't be angling to change their minds. I think just being their friend, sharing your perspective while respecting theirs... they'll consider what you have to say. It has to be casual.

The ones with a religious bent are also hard to deal with. I have a friend like that. No chance she'll change her mind about politics because she makes those decisions based on religious thinking. I know she doesn't want bad things to happen to other people, but her religion feeds her all the wrong ideas about how to help people. It's kind of messed up. She means well.

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Response to Goodheart (Original post)

Wed Oct 3, 2018, 09:58 AM

DemocratSinceBirth (99,136 posts)

7. I'm not the DU Grand Poobah but I encourage you to post what you want.

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Wed Oct 3, 2018, 09:59 AM

vlyons (10,125 posts)

8. You might want to amend your thinking on that

to be "I will not talk to you for now." There's always the possibility, no matter how seemingly remote, that someone will have an epiphany and see the light. Besides, he's your brother. Pretty hard to persuade someone to see the light if you won't talk to him.

People like your brother have some sort of cement in their hearts that has shut out empathy. More importantly, their minds are filled with all sorts of illogical assumptions, beliefs, prejudices. What I call dark delusions, filled with negative emotions.

Sometime ask your brother, when was the last time he remembers a stranger, or someone he barely knows, who did him a totally unexpected kindness that really mattered to him?

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Response to vlyons (Reply #8)

Wed Oct 3, 2018, 10:38 AM

mythology (9,527 posts)

29. Sometimes for your own health, you need to back away from a person

I haven't talked to my biological dad in 19 years. Sure I can't change him by not talking to him, but my efforts to explain to him that he was an abusive ass never worked. Maybe someone else could have, but I couldn't. No need to spend my time and emotional health reserves in dealing with him.

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Response to mythology (Reply #29)

Wed Oct 3, 2018, 12:11 PM

kiri (729 posts)

78. Julia Sweeney's dad refused to speak a word to her because...

Remember Julia Sweeney. When she told her dad that she was an atheist, he refused to speak a word to her for ~8 years, not a hello, not a goodbye.

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Wed Oct 3, 2018, 10:41 AM

Zing Zing Zingbah (6,496 posts)

32. Yeah, I was saying the same thing

I think that is a better thing to say. Gives that other person some hope that you will be there for them if they do change. Who knows, maybe it would motivate them to change. They at least know that you care about them in some way, but you can't handle them right now. The future might be different. No one knows.

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Response to vlyons (Reply #8)

Wed Oct 3, 2018, 11:23 AM

pazzyanne (6,274 posts)

63. My sister went off the rails about 10 years ago with the tea party.

I, being the peacemaker in the family, rode the middle of the road trying to patch the tears in the family fabric for literally years. Being kind, placating, trying to bridge the gaps. It just kept getting worse. I finally had to abandon her or lose myself.

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Response to Goodheart (Original post)

Wed Oct 3, 2018, 09:59 AM

SunSeeker (50,362 posts)

9. My brother is the same way. Staying away is best for your well-being. nt

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Response to Goodheart (Original post)

Wed Oct 3, 2018, 10:00 AM

sarah FAILIN (2,857 posts)

10. This is common now

I haven't had anything like do with mine since 2008.

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Wed Oct 3, 2018, 10:00 AM

SimpleC (279 posts)

11. I don't think trump should split siblings...

I was faced with a similar quandary with my own brother...

My brother has always been a free-thinker and very intelligent... in his heart of hearts I don't believe him to be an asshole...

Imagine my surprise when I talked to him last and he was spouting off shit right out of Fox News and even hurrumpt me when I called Fox News a propaganda machine.

He's become a trumper.

I believe one day he'll see the light and unfortunately with him I'm going to have to be like... "I told you so..."

It's not the first time I've seen him follow some stupid shit and I can only pray he'll grow out of it...

I'm not going to give up on him...

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Response to SimpleC (Reply #11)

Thu Oct 4, 2018, 08:13 AM

Zing Zing Zingbah (6,496 posts)

162. Yeah, maybe the people that seem to follow fads in general are more susceptible to Trump. n/t

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Response to Goodheart (Original post)

Wed Oct 3, 2018, 10:00 AM

greytdemocrat (3,297 posts)

12. That's sad.

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Response to Goodheart (Original post)

Wed Oct 3, 2018, 10:01 AM

tymorial (3,433 posts)

13. You need understanding and someone to listen to you

I get it and I am extremely sorry.

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Response to Goodheart (Original post)

Wed Oct 3, 2018, 10:01 AM

Turbineguy (36,388 posts)

14. My Brother-in-Law

Is a t-party type. We started out as colleagues, then friends and then his Wife's younger Sister and I got married. He knows and I know and he knows that I know etc.. We have an unwritten, unspoken rule. Never discuss politics.

He has on occasion, halting gone in that direction like a man gingerly walking through a minefield.

I didn't let Bush break up my family and friendships and I'm denying trump that happiness too. Although I have let go one or two FB friends.

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Response to Turbineguy (Reply #14)

Wed Oct 3, 2018, 12:31 PM

hostalover (447 posts)

82. Yours sounds like my family in a way.

I have a dear cousin, grew up together. I know he is a solid right winger and he knows I am a solid left winger. We simply do not discuss politics. His brother, my other cousin, is a moderate repub, and I know he and his wife are more on my side, but again, when cousin #1 is around, politics are not discussed.

I appreciate your comment about not letting Bush or Trump break up your family. I feel the same way. Some of the success we have in my family, I think, is that the right wingers are not bombastic, ugly, etc.. at least not around me! I did hang up on a long time friend, though, when she said we weren't giving Trump a chance

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Response to Goodheart (Original post)

Wed Oct 3, 2018, 10:08 AM

lpbk2713 (42,330 posts)

15. Faux Bot

So sorry to hear this. The real shame is an asshole like Trump has come between family members.

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Response to Goodheart (Original post)

Wed Oct 3, 2018, 10:12 AM

Paladin (27,600 posts)

16. Good. (nt)

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Response to Goodheart (Original post)

Wed Oct 3, 2018, 10:22 AM

RestoreAmerica2020 (3,393 posts)

17. maxim: qui tacet consentit [silence gives consent]

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Wed Oct 3, 2018, 10:25 AM

jpljr77 (1,004 posts)

18. Politics is absolutely no reason to sever ties with your brother. That's a lazy response.

Besides, if you really do follow through with that, then the terrorists (Republicans/"conservatives"

are winning.

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Response to jpljr77 (Reply #18)

Wed Oct 3, 2018, 10:29 AM

ProfessorGAC (61,078 posts)

21. Of Course It Is

The "sanctity" of family is already a ridiculous construct. Nobody gets to pick their family and sometimes family members just happen to be people one would NEVER pick to be a friend.

So, since it is a casual relationship to begin with, politics is as good as any reason to identify that ties are best cut.

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Response to ProfessorGAC (Reply #21)

Wed Oct 3, 2018, 11:00 AM

olegramps (8,200 posts)

50. My grandfather told me: God gives you your relatives, you pick your friends.

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Response to olegramps (Reply #50)

Wed Oct 3, 2018, 11:56 AM

SWBTATTReg (20,485 posts)

74. Your grandfather is a wise man. Thanks for sharing this saying. I love it. NT

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Response to jpljr77 (Reply #18)

Wed Oct 3, 2018, 10:29 AM

Wounded Bear (57,194 posts)

22. Good luck with that line of "reasoning"...

That kind of toxicity is contagious. If a sibling can force one to condone that kind of talk/behavior with no consequences, that would indicate a toxic power arrangement that one should excape.

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Response to jpljr77 (Reply #18)

Wed Oct 3, 2018, 10:43 AM

BeyondGeography (38,838 posts)

33. This stuff can be very bad for your health

I cut off a family member a long time ago and politics was a big part of it. If we weren't ferociously at odds in politics we could have worked past all the other stuff. Sometimes I wonder if I was being a little thin-skinned. In times like these, ie the entire Trump presidency, I know I did the right thing. And right now it would be particularly vile dealing with his cruelty. Life really is too short.

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Response to jpljr77 (Reply #18)

Wed Oct 3, 2018, 10:53 AM

Boomer (4,122 posts)

43. What a toxic response

Setting boundaries for one's own sanity is never off the table.

Politics is a reflection of our values and priorities in life, and there's room to agree to disagree, but only up to a point. And that point is a very personal decision.

Maintaining ties with my blood family isn't that much of a priority anymore. The differences between us are just too great a chasm and I grew tired of accepting that they disapproved of my being gay, Hispanic and a liberal atheist. Some of those, you'll note, are things I can't even change about myself even if I wanted to (which I don't).

Family is supposed to be people who have our back, who share our struggle in life. If they make that struggle worse, what's even the point?

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Response to Boomer (Reply #43)

Wed Oct 3, 2018, 01:34 PM

Different Drummer (6,920 posts)

92. +1,000,000. n/t

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Response to jpljr77 (Reply #18)

Wed Oct 3, 2018, 11:03 AM

The Liberal Lion (1,414 posts)

52. In normal times you would be right

as in normal times we are only talking about the difference between economic policy and merely rhetoric on social policy. These times are different. This is not merely politics, but rather it's an orientation in life. We find those who cling to trumpism and right wingism are now bent on destruction of civility as well as collapse of our environment. They will have us bend our knee to pure evil instead of continuing down the path of egalitarian justice. In so saying, I don't think the this poster is being lazy by cutting off his brother, hell he should have done it as soon as the man said he supported trump. No, this is an act of courage that will be repeated many millions of times across this nation as we move forward. Every trumpster, no matter how close in the family, should be the subject of disdain and complete rejection. This is not a time for kumbaya. We are at war, like it or not.

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Response to The Liberal Lion (Reply #52)

Wed Oct 3, 2018, 11:31 AM

Oppaloopa (843 posts)

66. True

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Response to jpljr77 (Reply #18)

Wed Oct 3, 2018, 11:47 AM

nini (16,658 posts)

71. Sharing DNA doesn't mean we have to tolearate them when they cross a line

Sadly, some family members are supporting this fascist regime. They are hateful. who needs that crap in their life?

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Wed Oct 3, 2018, 10:26 AM

bluestarone (15,462 posts)

19. Man i can certainly relate to your problem!!

RUMP is DESTROYING this country!! All my siblings (5) are religious rights, and are RUMPIES! I cannot believe how easy Rump earned their praise! Totally unexplainable to me! I feel the SAME as you do!!!

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Response to Goodheart (Original post)

Wed Oct 3, 2018, 10:28 AM

angrychair (7,874 posts)

20. My list is longer than I would like

But I will not compromise. I don’t talk to a host of former “friends” and a couple family members, an uncle and my mil.
I will only tolerate so much and memes or comments meant to be racist or sexist or blatantly hateful, just to much for me to deal with so I don’t.

Wife still try’s to put it aside and ignore it, desperately clinging to the “disagree without being disagreeable” but these people clearly show, almost daily, they have no intention of honoring that ethos.

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Response to Goodheart (Original post)

Wed Oct 3, 2018, 10:29 AM

pintobean (18,101 posts)

23. I feel sorry for both of you.

Putting politics over love is just sad. You should talk and find a way around this.

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Response to pintobean (Reply #23)

Wed Oct 3, 2018, 12:17 PM

GusBob (7,269 posts)

79. Its not politics and its not love

It abnormal human behavior and ones family and fear of hatred.

my brother, who started in with Hillary Clinton with this sort of hateful talk, is not allowed my wife and daughters

and they don't want to be around him for fear of his hatred

has nothing to do with politics, its misogyny

big difference

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Response to pintobean (Reply #23)

Wed Oct 3, 2018, 01:41 PM

Goodheart (4,904 posts)

95. Putting politics over love? Sure.

Politics matter. As sad as it might be (quite sad, actually), I can live without my brother. I can't live outside of politics. Nobody can.

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Response to pintobean (Reply #23)

Wed Oct 3, 2018, 02:17 PM

lunamagica (9,967 posts)

103. Politics? You call supporting someone who mocks the disabled politics? You call supporting

someone who separates families politics? You call supporting someone who will take health insurance away from millions because they have pre-existing conditions politics? Insulting a sexual abuse victim is politics? I could go on, and on, and on and on, and on...

I'm sick and tired of people treating politics like it was some football game. "We're support different teams, so what?"

No, politics involve life or death issues. And supporting trump tells me all I need to know about someones values, and the care and respect they have for the most vulnerable of out society.

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Response to lunamagica (Reply #103)

Wed Oct 3, 2018, 02:32 PM

pintobean (18,101 posts)

107. Don't worry

I'm not sad for you.

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Response to pintobean (Reply #107)

Wed Oct 3, 2018, 02:33 PM

lunamagica (9,967 posts)

108. Why would I worry?

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Response to lunamagica (Reply #103)

Wed Oct 3, 2018, 07:07 PM

Atticus (15,124 posts)

135. This. nt

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Response to pintobean (Reply #23)

Wed Oct 3, 2018, 03:18 PM

LuckyLib (6,794 posts)

119. Politics is about morality and values.

We live in it and of it every day. Many are choosing to stay away from folks whose morals and values are toxic. Family or no family. Life is short, and we need to surround ourselves with the beauty of nature and people who want to share the earth in a way that enriches us all.

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Response to LuckyLib (Reply #119)

Wed Oct 3, 2018, 06:47 PM

pintobean (18,101 posts)

132. I thought that was religion.

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Response to pintobean (Reply #132)

Thu Oct 4, 2018, 01:24 AM

JI7 (88,313 posts)

157. you know people use politics to push their shitty religion like taking away gay rights

because of morals or some shit.

same people support Trump bragging about sexual assault while attack victims of sexual assault.

so these are moral issues.

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Response to Goodheart (Original post)

Wed Oct 3, 2018, 10:30 AM

GoCubsGo (31,801 posts)

24. I'm sorry. I have a brother like that, too.

I haven't heard him call Dr. Ford such a name--but I'm pretty sure he believes she is lying.

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Response to Goodheart (Original post)

Wed Oct 3, 2018, 10:31 AM

SWBTATTReg (20,485 posts)

25. You know, we all have challenges enough in life to have to worry about our own family ...

not being in our corner. Believe me, I know this. I'm the same way in not dealing w/ some of my siblings and mother, but my situation is not due to rump (in could in one situation) but to too much drinking on their part constantly. And I tried to get them help, but if they don't want to persist and use the help, then so be it. I'm tried too many times, had too many late night horror phone calls, emails, and the like that I pretty well disappeared from my immediate family and don't want to deal w/ them. My own family and life now is far more important to me.

Life is way too short to really waste time on trying to talk w/ people who won't not just talk, but listen, which is the most critical thing. I know because I have a 95% hearing loss, and listening is the most important thing of all to me, it's not the talking (believe me, everybody seems to want to talk all of the time!), it's the listening that is far more important (in my case it's the lip reading).

I find in most gatherings that by far, talking comprises by far the bulk of the communications, while listening is a very minor part of it. It's kind of like 'me me me me me ME me me me ME me me etc.' mentality and one does get pretty tired of it.

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Wed Oct 3, 2018, 10:34 AM

Moostache (9,847 posts)

26. My sister and I no longer speak either...

She is married to a real douchebag Kavanaugh-esque trust fund baby and the right wing nonsense that douchebag spouts is too much...as long as my sister stayed neutral I avoided talking about it and maintained a social relationship with them...once she started yelling about having to watch MSNBC and CNN at my parents' home instead of Fox, that was the last straw for me.

She is always welcome back to sanity, but her decision is made and I won't be meeting in any middle on this...it is either family or Trump supporter and I don't have the power to make that decision for her, only to enforce the consequences of it.

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Response to Goodheart (Original post)

Wed Oct 3, 2018, 10:36 AM

Bettie (15,291 posts)

27. Both of my brothers fall into that category

They figure that the Circus Peanut was selected by god and thus is perfect.

One of them said that there is no such thing as sexual assault, just women refusing to admit that they "wanted it" because they are ashamed of their sinful nature. Upon digging down into this statement, he said that his preacher says that Eve is the reason there is no sexual assault, because original sin gave men the right to be dominant over women and it is for the women, you know, to help them get past their sinful nature.

This man has two daughters.

I've unfriended them both on Facebook and will never speak to either of them again. I'm done with this crap.

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Response to Bettie (Reply #27)

Thu Oct 4, 2018, 12:40 AM

lunasun (21,646 posts)

154. OMG that is one scary dad . Stay away

his preacher !

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Response to Goodheart (Original post)

Wed Oct 3, 2018, 10:37 AM

KY_EnviroGuy (14,413 posts)

28. I've came to believe we can change people only by example....

and by sharing what is working emotionally for us, not by instructing others on what they should do.

Republicans have been building this machinery of divide and conquer for decades and they ain't done yet. They and their plutocrats want an America that is filled with individualistic, isolated, greedy and fearful people. I other words, citizens with personalities just like the plutocrats but dirt poor.

We on the left have the right way on our side and we have a city of love and brotherhood and community. Their city is one filled with fear and hate.

Goodheart, I hope that by good example you are a shining light in the darkness to your brother and that he slowly comes back to reality and the peaceful side of human life.

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Wed Oct 3, 2018, 10:40 AM

D00ver (18 posts)

30. No brother

I did the same over the children being jailed. It’s embarassing and I don’t need to socialize with that

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Wed Oct 3, 2018, 10:40 AM

elmac (4,642 posts)

31. In haven't spoken to my brother in years, fox fake news addict and racist

luckily my sister and her husband are progressives so I do have a few family members, very few, that I associate with.

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Response to Goodheart (Original post)

Wed Oct 3, 2018, 10:45 AM

Joe Nation (929 posts)

34. You can't pick your family.

Many of my 9 brothers and sisters are blue collar Republican voters. You know why I am not? I was the only one that went to college. Trump loves the poorly educated and they love him. Makes sense.

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Wed Oct 3, 2018, 10:46 AM

InAbLuEsTaTe (24,001 posts)

35. Good for you... had the same issue with my Bushiphile brother after the 2000 election disaster.

But, we eventually did reconcile... maybe in time you'll do the same. But, don't feel bad... he's the one with issues, obviously.

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Wed Oct 3, 2018, 10:47 AM

violetpastille (1,483 posts)

36. Every unhappy family is unhappy in its own way.

First a big hug.

(No hug emoji?)

i am estranged from my parents and have been for years. My mother is a racist and my father has Bannon-like fascistic beliefs.

These attitudes don't have a hard stop when it comes to me. They think that I'm "less than" they are as well. Political differences being one reason.

Abusive people have abusive politics, ime.

They have found another family to inhabit and love so they don't have to face the mess. They "adopted" one of my cousins.
I had to go through all the stages of grief, and I won't do it again. i had to bury them, emotionally. It is truly over.

Something to consider:
If your brother treats you halfway decently, there is hope.
If he treats you like shit because he thinks you are "inferior", cut bait.

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Response to violetpastille (Reply #36)

Wed Oct 3, 2018, 10:50 AM

LuckyCharms (15,925 posts)

39. This one here....

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Response to Goodheart (Original post)

Wed Oct 3, 2018, 10:48 AM

LuckyCharms (15,925 posts)

37. It has been 7 years since I've spoken to my siblings.

It had nothing to do with Trump, even though one of them is a Trump supporter.

I was wronged by them in the care giving process during my mother's prolonged dying process. They ignored her, I didn't.

They know what they did, they know it was wrong. But they won't apologize. They are the type of people that literally cannot say "I'm sorry". One of them puts up a charade with her friends and pretends that we are still in close contact. The other slimes me with untruths behind my back, that I won't bother to rightfully refute.

The estrangement changed my life, but I don't regret it. So I am writing here to let you know that I understand, and I'm sorry. It's a slap in the face when you realize that you never had what you thought you did. The act of taking a firm stand, however, kind of negates the emotional turmoil that comes with all of this. You will become a stronger, changed person. You know yourself better than anyone. Do what your heart tells you to do.

I'm just relating my experience here. Don't listen to the people that may come out of the woodwork telling you that you need to work it out. Do what your heart tells you, because you are the only one who knows.

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Response to Goodheart (Original post)

Wed Oct 3, 2018, 10:49 AM

lark (22,748 posts)

38. So sorry for your family tragedy, having a total ass as a brother.

I feel for you, having that kind of hate of women and total unreasonableness in the family would be so tough to deal with. My dad & mom & I fought tooth and nail over GW & the Iraq war of choice and I'm sure it would be far worse now.

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Response to Goodheart (Original post)

Wed Oct 3, 2018, 10:51 AM

FromTheAshes (128 posts)

40. Sometimes family is truly toxic. That is all. nt

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Response to Goodheart (Original post)

Wed Oct 3, 2018, 10:51 AM

octoberlib (14,971 posts)

41. Sometimes a relationship becomes so toxic that for your own health you need to walk away.

The only way I can still keep in contact with my stepbrother is that we've both agreed to never talk about politics otherwise I'd be in the same boat. The Trump supporters I've met refuse to listen to reason and it's useless to try to change their minds. If anybody needs to be a better person , he does, not you.

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Response to Goodheart (Original post)

Wed Oct 3, 2018, 10:53 AM

HAB911 (8,449 posts)

42. Support for you!

I've lost at least 6 friends and all of my cousins, deplorables one and all

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Response to Goodheart (Original post)

Wed Oct 3, 2018, 10:54 AM

riverbendviewgal (4,209 posts)

44. You are not the only one

I already did this with my Trump loving brother.

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Response to Goodheart (Original post)

Wed Oct 3, 2018, 10:55 AM

djacq (1,622 posts)

45. Don't Blame You; Sister in Law Trump Supporter

Still a Trump Supporter.
African American.
Did not vote in 2016 election.
Single parent of an African American child.
Unemployed.
High School level education.
Finds Kavanaugh a lier.
Still a Trump Supporter.

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Response to Goodheart (Original post)

Wed Oct 3, 2018, 10:58 AM

PearliePoo2 (7,768 posts)

48. Same with me and my older brother. We no longer speak.

Last edited Wed Oct 3, 2018, 11:30 AM - Edit history (1)

He is now in the cult of trump, fox and limbaugh.

I don't even recognize him anymore.

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Wed Oct 3, 2018, 11:00 AM

Loge23 (3,922 posts)

49. Lines are being drawn

We were out last night with a couple we often dine with.
My wife and my friends' spouse got into it - friendship seems irreparably harmed now.
As much as I abhor the opinions and position of his spouse, I am truly upset at losing the relationship (interestingly, the male of the couple is anti-Trump).
We're seeing the fault lines widen in this country now - families, friends, colleagues - everyone is taking sides. The earthquake is unavoidable. This will not end well.

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Response to Goodheart (Original post)

Wed Oct 3, 2018, 11:01 AM

sagesnow (2,785 posts)

51. I refuse to be withing 1 mile of my brother.

He's an extremely violent, loud, tRump Humping lover. Family reunions are out of the question.

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Wed Oct 3, 2018, 11:04 AM

Heartstrings (7,349 posts)

53. Haven't spoken to my brother, my only sibling

since last January.....I just can't.

He's a Fox News addict. Sits in his recliner, loaded gun and Jack Daniels beverage next to him every single night.

I just can't.....

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Wed Oct 3, 2018, 11:07 AM

The Liberal Lion (1,414 posts)

54. I'm lucky, I have no direct blood family members who gave their support to that orange asshole

but I do have people who I once called friends who I cut off immediately. As far as I'm concerned if you voted for trump you are a moron. If you support him still you are my enemy. No exceptions.

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Wed Oct 3, 2018, 11:08 AM

whathehell (28,590 posts)

55. Good for you... Sounds like the right thing to do. Zn/t

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Wed Oct 3, 2018, 11:10 AM

louis c (8,652 posts)

56. I, long ago, even before Trump, decided to not associate with racists, mysogonists and morons

and it has made my life much more pleasant.

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Wed Oct 3, 2018, 11:11 AM

catbyte (33,121 posts)

57. Welcome to the sad club of folks who have had families & friendships torn apart by that

vicious orange nightmare. It is a sucky club to be in. I lost a friend I've known since 7th grade over it. And, yes, it does deserve its own thread. It's a very real, very important, very toxic side effect of what that thing currently infesting the White House has done and continues to do to this country. I'm sorry it happened to you, too.

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Wed Oct 3, 2018, 11:13 AM

backscatter712 (26,355 posts)

58. Seems to be down to that.

This is yet another one of my unpopular opinions, but I'm now at the point where I am completely incapable of having basic respect for Trump supporters.

It'd be different if it was somebody like John McCain that was president. Sure we'd all be ranting and raving right here on this board about McCain, but at the same time, with McCain, I can see that lots of people could have a genuine disagreement on political philosophy without losing respect for each other.

Trump's a completely different animal. One that doesn't function by ideology, but by malice.

What's the first thing that happened when Christine Ford talked about what happened between her and Kavanaugh? Oh yeah, all the vicious attacking, slut-shaming, and general savagery that happens when a victim confronts an attacker.

Which is par for the course for the candidate chosen by the sexual-assaulter in chief. Bragged about grabbing women by the you-know-what. Attacked a Gold Star family on the campaign trail. Millions of people saw that vile crap, then checked the box for him anyway. I can't respect that.

I cannot respect Trump supporters. Not. One. If you like Trump, I don't like you. Simple as that.

Trump is a psychopathic piece of subhuman shit, and if you support him, you're a piece of shit too.

I don't want to hear "you should walk in their shoes first." I understand Trump supporters just fucking fine. That's not economic anxiety that brings them to Trump's Nuremberg rallies. That's bigotry. And maliciousness. That's a third of the country saying "I want to be an asshole to people and suffer no consequences!"

The only appropriate response to that is "Try it and we'll rip your faces off!"

Yes, I realize I called a third of America's population pieces of shit, but I suppose that's what it has come down to.

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Wed Oct 3, 2018, 11:13 AM

The Wizard (12,272 posts)

59. I have cut off all Trumpinistas

Life is too short to suffer fools.

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Wed Oct 3, 2018, 11:18 AM

pazzyanne (6,274 posts)

60. My sister and I parted company about a year ago.

Her worship of the orange one was detestable, and then she started crying about how I wouldn't say anything nice about her president. Next came the set ups with her bad mouthing me to mutual friends and family. After spending 45 minutes on the phone one day trying to calm her hysterical outburst concerning my youngest brother and listening to her set me up as the "bad guy". The things she was yelling into the phone had nothing to do with what I was saying. Her husband got on the phone and read my pedigree and called me names. I hung up the phone, blocked her on facebook, and blocked her number on my phones. Have not had contact with her since. She is freaking crazy.

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Wed Oct 3, 2018, 11:18 AM

jb5150 (1,119 posts)

61. Me and my twin brother have been estranged

since the election of Obama. We talk maybe twice a year, and it's always "hey how's the weather", how's the family", .. "you take it easy, bye".

Sad perhaps, but I will not suffer homophobic, misogynistic, bigoted, self-righteous christian assholes anymore .. not even in my own family.

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Wed Oct 3, 2018, 11:26 AM

Upthevibe (7,256 posts)

65. I'm sorry that happened but you need to do what's

right for you. I'm so fortunate that my sister is very progressive. We speak sometimes daily about everything that's going on. Hopefully you have other people in your life who share your beliefs and are supportive...

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Wed Oct 3, 2018, 11:32 AM

iluvtennis (18,900 posts)

67. My brother is a Trumpian and I already know his misogynistic nature for strong professional women,

so I will not bring up Dr Ford with him. Last Thanksgiving we got into a big shouting match over Trump. Since then, I vowed to just never discuss politics with him to try to keep the family peace.

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Wed Oct 3, 2018, 11:36 AM

mountain grammy (26,058 posts)

68. For the most part, we've cut ties with my brother in law and family

we listened to their Obama hate all of 2012 while we traveled to Texas twice a month to care for my father in law.. We nursed him for the last 9 months of his life, a gift he didn't really deserve being a hateful and abusive father, but we did it with kindness and are better for it. That said, we have no desire to spend time with the holy roller trumpers. Saw them once in 2013 .. enough of their bullshit. My husband calls his brother on his birthday.

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Wed Oct 3, 2018, 11:41 AM

ebbie15644 (1,193 posts)

70. I haven't been talking to my sister since Trump began running and she was "rabid" with me

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Wed Oct 3, 2018, 11:50 AM

The Polack MSgt (12,453 posts)

72. No Trumpsters is the only sane policy

Doesn't really matter who they are.
They are hate and your only options to deal with hate are:
To cut them off and keep them away from you.
Ignore their hate silently and enable them.
Or hate them back and actively fight them.

The only sane option is to cut them away from your life.

The last option is poisonous and leads you to become like them.

And silently making allowances for them is supporting their positions.

All this is sad, but they pushed the country into this situation and have no right to be surprised that others are unwilling to kiss their asses.

I came to the same point last year:
https://www.democraticunderground.com/10029822240

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Wed Oct 3, 2018, 11:51 AM

mahina (16,761 posts)

73. A story of two uncles and some hope

First, I’m so sorry. I’m sure you did the right thing for you.

I had two uncles, one a real uncle and one a man who grew up with my Dad and whom I have loved since I was able to walk. I had lost both to the loony right. Cut off ties with uncle 2 when he wouldn’t stop emailing me disgusting g mean shit about Hillary. I told him I don’t want to read that and asked him to stop sending but he wouldn’t. Finally closed the door.

I learned that he was seriously ill recently so I reached out to him, now 10 years later, through his son who s my age and also a winger on FB. Found out he has since unfriended me. Ok. It’s pau. (Finished).

My real uncle came back to reason in 2016. We just didn’t talk politics since we had a big disagreement in the lead up to the Iraq war. (How can I think I know more than the President, etc) I’m so glad my real uncle has returned to reason.

Still love both of them. Good luck.

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Wed Oct 3, 2018, 12:01 PM

Hortensis (58,785 posts)

75. THESE PEOPLE ARE NOT IRREVERSIBLE!

Research has discovered that, generally speaking, people (us!) choose their group they identify with, the group chooses their leader, and the members of the group adopt the positions of the leader.

That last is horrifying and goes against all our notions of who and what we are politically. But it's real.

Conservatives, influenced by both their own negative responses to an increasingly diverse world of galloping change, but also subjected to very deliberate insidious influences, have been electing increasingly poor, and now even depraved leaders. Reagan, Bush I, Bush II, Trump.

Most now support Trump and thus support his positions, even become "believers," including a large number of those who've left the Republican Party. They still need a leader, and he's it.

But this same mindlessly dutiful adoption of the leader's views and positions would happen if they somehow elected better people. Those better leaders would lead their followers to be better people.

Something for families to keep in mind. Keep the door open for the future.

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Wed Oct 3, 2018, 02:54 PM

Ellen Forradalom (16,159 posts)

114. Perhaps

But that change won't come from a lower-status person.

In relation to my brother, I'm younger and female, therefore lower status. So of course I've been mansplained to for over 50 years.

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Wed Oct 3, 2018, 05:29 PM

Hortensis (58,785 posts)

123. :) No, and guessing he won't change that way.

He would improve politically with more balanced, moral leaders guiding him, though.

Hopefully some day that will happen, and families will be able to mend. Fortunately, these days it's almost impossible to lose track of people entirely, which once happened often with estranged relatives and friends.

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Thu Oct 4, 2018, 04:38 PM

Ellen Forradalom (16,159 posts)

163. That view is optimistic

I see the same people who rhapsodized over Obama--who was a wonderful president, but not a god--call Hillary a warmonger and referred to her as "that woman." All this tells me is that the consistent feature in my leftist family and friends' politics is male supremacy. I hold out no hope for them either.

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Wed Oct 3, 2018, 12:11 PM

ChoppinBroccoli (3,717 posts)

77. I Lost A Very Good Friend Who I Once Respected

When we first met, he pontificated on how he was a big Libertarian and was all about freedom. Then he joined the Trump Cult, completely changed his views on just about everything in order to match up with his cult hero, and still supports him to this day. This was a person who I once respected and considered pretty intelligent. But one day he came to me and said he liked Trump, wasn't sure why, but probably because he liked it and thought it was funny when Trump was rude to the other candidates in the Republican debates. Now I can't even have a conversation with him anymore. To him, the mountain of evidence that Trump is incompetent and a criminal is nothing more than proof of the "Deep State" trying to bring down a good man because they're afraid of him "shaking things up."

What's really upsetting about it is that I'm actually saddened that I lost a friend over Trump Cultism, whereas he doesn't really seem to care.

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Wed Oct 3, 2018, 12:22 PM

titanicdave (429 posts)

80. .....So Sorry.....

........I am so sorry for your situation......I only have one brother and no sisters.......I live in a very Blue State on the West (Left) Coast......my one and only brother lives in a very Red State.......we agree completely that Blue is the ONLY way to go.....sometimes, he is certain that he is the only Blue Voter in a very Red State......

.......I truly hope that you can reconcile with your brother and even more than that, I hope your brother wakes up and realizes that Blue is the ONLY way to go so your reconciliation will be that much easier........

......Good Luck to you.......

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Wed Oct 3, 2018, 12:38 PM

hatrack (58,484 posts)

84. You did what you had to do . . .

Don't need the toxicity, and won't go along with humoring/enabling the venom?

Tired of the bullshit and anger, and family member just won't/can't shut up about it?

Do as I did - walk away.

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Wed Oct 3, 2018, 12:40 PM

BlueJac (7,838 posts)

85. I used to have a friend like that...

Civil War started by Trump

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Wed Oct 3, 2018, 12:43 PM

BobTheSubgenius (11,437 posts)

87. Actually, it kinda DOES need its own thread.

I'd be dollars to doughnuts that there are a pretty large numbers of families in a similar boat.

My brother-in-law is a Drumpf supporter, and no one can believe it. Thankfully, he never talks about it, but it's weird because he is SUCH a nice person. Masters in Environmental Engineering, committed to making the planet better, for one thing.

The day I met him was at a T'giving family (theirs) gathering, and he appeared to be extremely interested in making sure I felt included and welcomed. If I went into a different room of the gathering, he almost always came with. It wasn't intrusive or weird, but seemed genuinely solicitous. In fact, I REALLY liked him for it, although I was completely fine with or without.

So...there is a real spectrum, obviously. He would NEVER say that in front of his family, and I very much doubt he'd ever say it. No one can figure out what the attraction is for him.

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Wed Oct 3, 2018, 12:47 PM

Nitram (21,748 posts)

89. Some things run deeper than family.

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Wed Oct 3, 2018, 01:36 PM

Goodheart (4,904 posts)

93. That's what I've come to know.

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Wed Oct 3, 2018, 12:48 PM

47of74 (18,470 posts)

90. I haven't reached that point in my family yet.

There are some ex-friends I've cut off because of their love for that orange fuck.

Fortunately my family either hates that orange fuck as much as I do or if they do like him have the good sense not to get all Branch Trumpvidian about it in my presence.

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Wed Oct 3, 2018, 01:39 PM

Nitram (21,748 posts)

94. If family members can respect boundaries and just avoid the topics they know will cause each other

pain, then they can remain close. I used to think families should be able to discuss these things rationally, and dispassionately, but that is not really possible when the gulf is too wide.

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Wed Oct 3, 2018, 01:46 PM

lillypaddle (9,568 posts)

96. My sister and I still speak - but barely.

We can NOT bring up politics for this uneasy truce to work. It's sad.

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Wed Oct 3, 2018, 01:50 PM

HelenWheels (2,284 posts)

98. Division in my family also

My youngest daughter and her husband are teabaggers. My son and other daughter will have nothing to do with them. I share a home with my leftist daughter and as I no longer drive seldom get to see my youngest daughter. The worst thing is my youngest daughter has 5 kids and the youngest 4 still live at home and I seldom see the kids.. Her oldest daughter has broken away from her parents and is leading a successful life with her husband and son.

It is just a big mess and has gotten worse with tRump as president.

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Wed Oct 3, 2018, 02:15 PM

Goodheart (4,904 posts)

100. I tell myself that this is what my BROTHER chose.

People like him didn't vote for Republican ideology, as there were plenty other candidates who would governed somewhat civilly. The ideology wasn't enough, it had to be accompanied by MALICE. This division was intentional, and our side didn't start it.

I can no more listen to him call Dr. Ford a "lying bitch" than I could hear him calling me the same. I won't tolerate it.

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Wed Oct 3, 2018, 01:56 PM

LisaM (27,491 posts)

99. Oh, this needs its own thread. It needs its whole national discussion.

For years, I've been convinced that many worldwide problems are due to the fact the World War I never ended, but now, looking at my own country, I've concluded that the Civil War never ended. Oh, I knew there was always a solid base of people dedicated to keeping it going, but I never realized how much it was still going on.

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Wed Oct 3, 2018, 02:16 PM

Duppers (27,648 posts)

101. I'm so sorry. Had my brother said that

I'd certainly do the same. For sure.

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Wed Oct 3, 2018, 02:26 PM

0rganism (23,619 posts)

106. now that's a "presidential alert" alright

our nation is so broken right now

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Wed Oct 3, 2018, 02:34 PM

Ellen Forradalom (16,159 posts)

109. I no longer talk to my brother

on the far left, who called Hillary Clinton a warmonger and contrasted her with a "real woman," Jill Stein.

Just like your brother on the right, he sees fit to pass judgement on who is and is not a real, credible, female human being. Fuck misogyny, left, right and center.

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Wed Oct 3, 2018, 02:34 PM

sandensea (20,464 posts)

111. I'm sorry to hear that.

He'll come around when you least expect it. You'll see.

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Wed Oct 3, 2018, 02:58 PM

LittleGirl (8,040 posts)

115. The re-election of President Obama in 2012

sent my brother over the edge and he didn't speak to my (now 86 yr old) Mother for 4 yrs. Pissed off me and my other brother so much we cut him off. He finally started to contact Mother a few months before the 2016 election. Never told her why but we all think it was political. My brother says that he will beat the shit out of my other brother if he ever sees him again so I was worried last week. My oldest brother died and they had a "celebration of life" for him in my home town (I live in Europe and couldn't attend) and I called my brother and asked him if he was going to beat up my other brother. He said no, it's Mom's birthday so he'll live another day. They had the celebration on my Mother's 86th birthday.

My sister and I have spoken twice in 6 years and the last time I saw her was right before the 2016 election and the first words out of her mouth were "How do you like Obama now?" Well, F* that, I said, no problems. She went on a 5 min rant against him and I said, you know what? Not the time or the place. (I was watching my favorite band play and didn't want to listen to her Rush Limbaugh, Fox Spews point of view anymore). I was civil and we parted ways and I haven't seen her or spoken to her since.

This is my life. I live in Europe with my very liberal spouse and the only family members I speak with are my brother and his daughter and my Mother. The rest of my siblings are not what I want in my life and I don't miss them. I can't miss them. They are horrible racist people and I don't want to have those toxic people in my life. I'm too old for that shit.

You do what you have to do and maybe some day, your brother will come around. If he doesn't, maybe it's for the best.
Do you want that toxic person in your life?

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Wed Oct 3, 2018, 02:59 PM

trueblue2007 (16,761 posts)

117. sorry for your loss

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Wed Oct 3, 2018, 03:06 PM

Marcuse (7,177 posts)

118. Your family is not alone. Perhaps the most famous example is Rep. Gosar.

[link:https://www.nytimes.com/2018/09/22/us/politics/paul-gosar-arizona-family-siblings.html|

https://www.adweek.com/creativity/in-the-years-most-brutal-campaign-ad-6-siblings-tell-you-not-to-vote-for-their-brother/

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Wed Oct 3, 2018, 03:47 PM

Scruffy1 (3,202 posts)

120. It has to be done.

Listening to these fact free assholes just enables them. I foundit best to completely ignore everything they say. They hate that. They want to piss you off and argue, but you can't reason with them, so whats the point? If enough people ignore them maybe they might come to their senses. Alternate facts are like fottball. They both give idiots something to talk about.

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Wed Oct 3, 2018, 06:16 PM

FakeNoose (30,738 posts)

124. I'm pretty sure the same thing happened in the Trump famly

His kids still talk to him, but siblings, nieces, nephews, ex-wives, former in-laws, pretty much anybody else have all disowned him. It's happening all over.

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Wed Oct 3, 2018, 06:22 PM

Sqee (25 posts)

126. I have literally ended dozens of long time friendships over Trump

One entire side of my family are also now dead to me.

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Wed Oct 3, 2018, 06:30 PM

CountAllVotes (20,692 posts)

128. I do not blame you one bit

I'm on that same page with a lot of people, some relatives some not.

My what a disgusting batch of pigs.

Anyone that wishes you were dead and gone deserves to be on a list of just FUCK OFF. They earned it.

There is no coming back from something like that. Nope.

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Wed Oct 3, 2018, 06:54 PM

Goodheart (4,904 posts)

133. How do you fight this kind of nastiness?

An actual exchange:

Deplorable: "Her story doesn't add up."

Me: "You know what adds up? The number of women who have credibly accused him of being a victim of or witnessing his sexual assaults/rapes."

Deplorable: "Are all 7 women Democrats? I would guess YES. Why would he just rape Democrats? I guess he was interviewing the women he wanted to rape. I guess 35 years or so ago he knew he was going to be a Republican."

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Wed Oct 3, 2018, 07:02 PM

Honeycombe8 (37,648 posts)

134. Might wanna stay away from him at least for a while, lest things are said...

that are even worse.

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Wed Oct 3, 2018, 07:12 PM

jcsg (55 posts)

136. that's beyond the pale

too bad, sorry to hear it.

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Wed Oct 3, 2018, 07:13 PM

busterbrown (8,515 posts)

137. Welp... Doubt if it will ever heal... Unfortunately!

Unless your brother finally gets it.. Doubt he will.. I'm in same situation...

and it's believe it or not a relief not to hear from him.

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Wed Oct 3, 2018, 07:21 PM

CountAllVotes (20,692 posts)

139. If you only hear from them when they want something well ...

You know where it is at already.

I have given up.

I have said person on email ----> trash. That way I don't have to read the sh*t.

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Wed Oct 3, 2018, 07:28 PM

busterbrown (8,515 posts)

140. really it's not worth the anger and pain..n/t

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Thu Oct 4, 2018, 12:00 AM

CountAllVotes (20,692 posts)

152. Right

The energy spent wasted on these types is just that, a waste.

You could be doing something else with your time, anything at all will do!

This nightmare is just that, a nightmare that isn't going to go away any time soon.

Why waste what time we may have left on such negative garbage? It isn't.

Hang-in there. I hope you find solace in knowing that you are not alone!

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Wed Oct 3, 2018, 07:16 PM

hay rick (6,968 posts)

138. People used to say "blood is thicker than water..."

With great sorrow I say "common decency is thicker than blood."

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Wed Oct 3, 2018, 07:39 PM

Raine (30,014 posts)

142. This is very sad

I could never let a family member go but we've always been really close, all families are different.

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Wed Oct 3, 2018, 08:52 PM

Prof.Higgins (194 posts)

145. Thank you. So many of us have this dilemma with diabolical words from family members.

My brother, a retired engineer from a huge corporation, watches FoxNews assiduously in order to keep his rightwing Republican hate-filled delusions stoked up.

I gave him a final warning when, in public, he called Pres. Obama a piece of s***. Since then he’s adhered to our agreement not to mention politics in any context.

I would certainly make the same decision as “Goodheart” has been forced to make if he reneged and shovelled any Rightwing manure whether it be sexism, racism or just the usual Republican Party/FoxNews propaganda lies. Thank you again, Goodheart, for sharing this with us DU progressives.

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Wed Oct 3, 2018, 10:38 PM

Ilsa (61,516 posts)

149. Trump should be burning in hell for his lies. (Tots & pears) nt

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Thu Oct 4, 2018, 12:37 AM

lunasun (21,646 posts)

153. I have separated from some family but no trumpers . Anytime it's uncomfortable to the point

of making you feel constantly miserable or repulsed in some way it's not worth it for family sake. I don't have any trump deplorables in my family but other issues have caused separation . Only a few, I still have other family and friends but even if I didn't I would have dumped the ones that I did and no regrets
Also thank you for taking a stand !

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Thu Oct 4, 2018, 01:08 AM

Niagara (5,540 posts)

155. I'm sorry

Welcome to DU.

You have the right to avoid toxic deplorables, even if it is your own brother.

There are many of us here that have cut ties with people like that. Not only is it deplorable behavior, it's also toxic. Toxic to the point where one dreads being around them. These days, I have zero tolerance for it.

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Thu Oct 4, 2018, 07:36 AM

CousinIT (8,522 posts)

160. I have a brother like that.

Still speaking to him - barely. He had voted dem until the nominee was a woman. Then he said he was "not going to vote for no feminism!"

He's an MRA, and now watches Fox.

I keep convos to a bare minimum- family issues. I didn't speak to him for MONTHS (could have been over a year) after Russia, racists and sexists like my brother forced Trump on us.

He's a nasty person politically. I mostly avoid him as much as possible. God forbid I'd ever have to rely on him for anything.

My sister is an idiot, also Republican. But at least she's kind to family. But she has strange political beliefs - hates politics though. Just goes by what my BiL tells her and he's a typical alt-right Fox Cultist.

My whole family except 2 other Dems are Trump Cult members.

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Thu Oct 4, 2018, 07:42 AM

maryellen99 (3,754 posts)

161. My husband's extended family except for a couple are trump worshippers nt

I had to unfriend 2 of my husband’s cousins over the fact that they think the kids being separated from their parents is a-ok plus I’m 99% sure they all support Kavanaugh and think Ford is a lying slut. Funny thing is they are now posting on FB the meme “Just because I disagree with you doesn’t mean I hate you” which I think is BS and don’t believe it one bit.

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