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Pets are 'scared' and look around for their owners in dying moments.
In a viral social media post, the anonymous vet wrote that animals “don’t understand why you left them” in their dying moments.
“I beg you DO NOT LEAVE THEM,” the message shared by Hillcrest Veterinary Clinic in South Africa read.
“DO not make them transition from life to death in a room full of strangers in a place they don’t like.
“The thing you people need to know that most of you don’t is that THEY SEARCH FOR YOU WHEN YOU LEAVE THEM BEHIND!!!!
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“He said when he has to put an animal down 90% of owners don't actually want to be in the room when he injects them so the animal's last moments are usually them frantically looking around for their owners &tbh that broke me,” Ms Dietrich wrote in a tweet.
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phylny
(8,818 posts)I would have it no other way, even though it’s gut-wrenching.
gademocrat7
(11,938 posts)
Siwsan
(27,834 posts)The vet talked me through the process. It was hard, but I couldn't imagine her not feeling my presence, at the end.
SharonAnn
(14,172 posts)It’s for their comfort, not mine.
calimary
(90,010 posts)
It was so odd. I couldn’t cry. I’d been crying off ‘n’ on for several days beforehand and continuing lo almost two weeks later.
But as it was happening, I was totally dry-eyed. Wasn’t expecting that. She went out so peacefully. I’m glad we could do that for her. I wish we humans could all have it that way too.
Siwsan
(27,834 posts)I was pretty strong until I put the empty carrier into my car. Then the tears started. By the time I got home, I was in full eye flood mode, and stayed like that for days.
CountAllVotes
(22,214 posts)Never.
I was there in the beginning and I was there at the end.
May it always be this way for my beloved fur critters!
Being there at the end is so very important for our beloved fur critters!
RockaFowler
(7,429 posts)We just had to put our dog Jasmine to sleep a few weeks back. The vet asked us if we wanted to be there with her. I couldn't leave her. She was my baby. I wanted to be there for her until she fell asleep. She fell asleep in my arms. It was the hardest thing I ever did, but I could not and I would not leave her alone at that time.
roamer65
(37,953 posts)and told her I love her. Tough but I owed it to her. The thought of leaving her was repulsive.
BannonsLiver
(20,589 posts)My wife can’t handle it but I see it as a very solemn responsibility. I get it that it may be too intense for some folks. But I’ll never not be there when the time comes even though it is deeply painful.
spooky3
(38,631 posts)I did stay with my beloved kitty suffering from lymphoma when he was put down, but when the oncologist asked afterward if I wanted to remain a few minutes alone with his lifeless body, I told her no, thanks, that I could barely stand the pain I already was experiencing. I had just assumed that others stayed and I was too weak, but this post suggests otherwise.
Maraya1969
(23,495 posts)and leaving them outside, (I'm in FL; never had bad weather affect it) with the box open so the others
could see and smell them and know that they had gone before I bury them. I have a pet door so they have all gone out at some point when the deceased one was out there.
I started it after I realized that they would not know what happened to their little brother or sister.
PWPippinesq
(195 posts)It is hard, but as others have said, we owe it to them, if possible. Unfortunately, our Ally at age 8 was dying, apparently from vaccinosis (over vaccinating) causing immune mediated hemolytic response. Her body was attacking her red blood cells as though they were alien to her system. Within 6 days she was gone. Our vet came to our home one morning to gave her a shot to put her to sleep forever. Sadly, I let the vet take her away with her to have her body cremated. Our other poodle, 15 year old Gabby, didn't know where Ally had gone, though she was there when Ally was put to sleep. She spent the next weeks looking for her sister and, even, taking over her duties. In Ally's place, she went outside before going to bed, checking up and down the driveway to make sure everything was ok, something she had never done before, but took over as a duty from Ally. She also looked for her constantly. These behaviors went on for several months until we got her a new companion, Audrey, a lovely black poodle. Only then could she give up taking on Ally's role. I didn't make the same mistake with Audrey when Gabby died. Again, the vet came to give Gabby a final shot to put her to sleep. Audrey was with us the whole time and I kept Gabby on her bed after she died for a couple of hours before we took her to the crematorium. Audrey was with me when I went back to get Audrey's ashes. She traveled all the way home lying with her chin on the box containing Audrey's ashes. Audrey seemed to understand and accepted the loss of Gabby and settled quickly into our new configuration. We can learn so much from our four legged comapnions.
BannonsLiver
(20,589 posts)You met the obligation as a loving fur parent. That’s all anyone can ask. When I took our cat for his final moments I stayed with him for a few minutes after. It was a brief moment of reflection of how this cat who seemed to hate me for so long ended up so close to me in the end. He always favored my wife. In his final years we finally came to an understanding, or rather after years of me desperately hoping he would like me, he finally did.
I love cats but cats never have loved me much. Probably because I approach them like I would a dog and cats don’t seem to like that very much. Anyway he was s good kitty, and a grouch, which is something I loved about him. I miss him launching himself across the living room to lock his fangs into my bare ankles for reasons we never really could figure out, but make for fun memories of the little shit (said with love and affection).
spooky3
(38,631 posts)You must miss him badly.
tavernier
(14,443 posts)to go in with their pets. But he sent a letter proselytizing his church along with the bill. Bad taste.
stopdiggin
(15,462 posts)Too much extra trouble (and maybe a little time?) for HIM .. not because that was what was best for you or your pet
No words.
My vet clinic always sends a sweet sympathy card. The first time it really took me by surprise, and I cried a lot all over again. I was so touched by that gesture.
Stonepounder
(4,033 posts)we stayed with her. After she was gone, our vet hugged us and told us how sorry he was.
When we had composed ourselves enough to leave, we noticed that there was a candle burning on the reception desk and a sign that said (approx): "When this candle is burning a pet owner is saying a final good-bye to a beloved pet. Please speak softly." And I broke down again.
tavernier
(14,443 posts)Wish they would all do that.
calimary
(90,010 posts)erronis
(23,869 posts)I may be wrong, but most people that love animals, love nature, have empathy ---- are not repuglicons.
Maybe I'll make that a litmus test next time I take an animal (or my partner) for their final moments....
radical noodle
(10,595 posts)She was a terrific vet, but she'd once had an owner try to snatch a cat back at the last moment causing extreme pain for the cat. I can see why she was reluctant after that.
Bettie
(19,702 posts)when she went. It broke our hearts, but it was time.
milestogo
(23,073 posts)First, if you are putting an animal down, the animal doesn't know what is coming next. He does not know whether he is going to be put to sleep or have his teeth cleaned.
Second, if an animal is dying of illness, they will often seek seclusion.
My last dog went down and hid in the basement twice in his life - once when he had bloat - I found him and took him for emergency care - but he was probably in great pain and thought he was dying.
The second time he actually was dying - I brought him up from the basement and petted him until he passed. He was 16.
I doubt that this was written by an actual vet.
qazplm135
(7,654 posts)I was heart broken when I had to put my cat down. In the moment, I couldn't be in the room when it happened. In hindsight wish I was but in the moment it was too much.
When they put them to sleep they knock them out first. My cat was "dying" but she wasn't in the throes of death. She probably could have made it another day or two or slightly longer but I didn't want to put her through that as she was in distress from the lack of ability to breathe thanks to the combination of heart cancer and heart disease filling her with fluid.
She wouldn't have known that this injection of anesthesia was any different than the one she'd gotten the week before, or the week before that.
Maybe an animal that is literally moments from death, but not an animal that isn't quite there yet.
democratisphere
(17,235 posts)THIS certainly is true. Who wants to die alone with strangers? No one including your family member pet.
qazplm135
(7,654 posts)quite a difference between the two. A human knows they are dying, and you can talk and communicate to them. And most humans aren't "put down" or actively killed/euthanized, so we often aren't around family members the moment they die. We often say our goodbyes ahead of time for that very reason. And I certainly didn't leave out of malice, I left out of extreme distress.
So I reject your attempted analogy.
tonedevil
(3,022 posts)except non-human companions are generally a lot more humane.
qazplm135
(7,654 posts)the pet doesn't know it's dying. The human does.
The pet doesn't know you "left it" anymore than the other times you "left it" to get anesthesia for a non-lethal purpose.
Should a pet owner be there every single time a pet is anesthetized?
tonedevil
(3,022 posts)that a non-human companion doesn't know it is dying doesn't square with my experience. That said, my grandmother didn't know who she or anybody else was and I doubt very much if she knew she was dying, but I still stayed camped out and by her bed at the facility for her last days. I know I have talked to and comforted my companions if they had to be anesthetized for any reason. Obviously I'm not going to be in surgery and sometimes medical emergency has to take precedence.
I understand that a lot of people are very upset being in the presence of another animal that is dying. That goes for human animals as well as non-human. If one is unable to hold up they are unable to hold up. My mother's sister was diagnosed with a form of brain cancer. It took her nearly a year for it to consume her. As she got worse and worse my aunt was hoping my mother would come help more. My mother was not able to the depression she was experiencing made her physically ill. My mother has expressed regret, but is still stuck in depression 2 years later. I think the aftermath would be easier for my mother if she had been able to face her fear/depression, but I saw what was happening to her and I don't think she was physically capable.
Long story short version:
I reject the concept of non-human animals not being our equals. I am quite certain that non-human animals have an awareness of our presence and look for our companionship to provide comfort. I can't speak for other human companions of non-human animals, but I am involved in anything like that to the extent I can be so without causing difficulties.
qazplm135
(7,654 posts)I specifically said these words:
"I said that the pet does not know that they are dying the vast majority of the time."
You must have read those words so I don't really understand the point of your post suggesting that you've have in some handful of times experienced something different.
You can reject the concept all you want, but I reject that if you had to choose a human or a pet to save from death, you would honestly say that choosing either to save is equally valid. Anyone who argues that is either lying, or has misplaced priorities. So no, I don't believe even you truly believe that humans and animals are equals. I certainly think you may try to treat your pets like humans as much as possible, but I'm also sure you treat them differently sometimes simply because they are different.
You don't ask your pet if it wants to go to the vet. You don't let it decide what it's going to eat. You make all sorts of different choices for animals vice humans in how you interact with them...for good reason.
tonedevil
(3,022 posts)know they are dying? How do we tell the difference?
You keep bringing up the fire dilemma as if that proves something. Given said fire, would you save gramma or an infant first? Would you save the 1 year old or the 18 month old. If you save the 18 month old does it make the 1 year old somehow lesser?
As far as making health care decisions I don't ask a sick child if they want to go to the doctor and in fact I make many if not all the same decisions I would make for a non-human companion.
qazplm135
(7,654 posts)as to the hypo, I would probably save the child versus an older person, but I most certainly would save the older person vice a kitten.
Pretty easy answer there.
You certainly listen to your child, and you certainly take how they report their feelings into consideration. You can also explain to your child what is going on that you can't do with an animal.
tonedevil
(3,022 posts)I have rethought everything about how I have lived these 63 years and now realize that non-human animals lives are worth so much less than human lives. Thanks for showing me the 'facts' regarding human superiority.
qazplm135
(7,654 posts)I said nothing about "so much less."
I said, not equal.
That you want to over-dramatize and hyperbolize that is on you, not me.
tonedevil
(3,022 posts)by not equal you do mean lesser do you not?
qazplm135
(7,654 posts)lesser and "so much lesser" are two vastly different things.
tonedevil
(3,022 posts)
Blue_true
(31,261 posts)they did not sense the big wave coming. What was it that caused the animals to seek high ground? You may say instinct, but what is instinct? An animal that was not born before the last tsunami seeks high ground as the current one makes it's way to the shore, so the response was not learned.
So, to me it would be possible for an animal to know that it is dying and the end for it is near.
I co-owned one per in my life. Me and my bothers were walking beside a road. Our dog loved to chase cars but on that day, it caught up to the car and tried for a front tire. A back tire ran over it. We ran to our dog and tried to comfort it, but blood was coming out of it's mouth and nose. We knew that it was dying and it seemed to have known. So we passed it around and each of us held it as it died. The dog looked at each of us as we held it and did not die until the last kid held it. What was that in your opinion? Did my dog know it was dying or not? For all of my life since that day, to me, our dog seemed to me to have known that it was dying and wanted us to be ok.
qazplm135
(7,654 posts)I didn't say it "wasn't possible that an animal knows it's dying"
I, in fact, said: "I said that the pet does not know that they are dying the vast majority of the time."
The fact that animals can sense things we can't like atmospheric pressure changes, or sounds that indicate something coming, or various things is science, not mystical.
The dog you speak of may or may not have known it was dying. The fact that it didn't die "until the last kid held it" does not mean that it "held on" for that reason. You are ascribing meaning and intent where none very well may exist. You are placing human emotions and thoughts where those thoughts are in fact not that.
Blue_true
(31,261 posts)four brothers talked about it for several years after and I will never forget that day.
qazplm135
(7,654 posts)you are free to believe whatever you want to believe. I am not attempting to make you believe otherwise.
arthritisR_US
(7,810 posts)democratisphere
(17,235 posts)I have actually been THERE many times. I totally reject your rejection of my premise.
qazplm135
(7,654 posts)My cat and I were together every day almost for 11 years. I understand close bonds with animals.
I said that the pet does not know that they are dying the vast majority of the time.
They know they don't feel well, but they generally don't know they are dying most of the time, because we USUALLY put a pet down before they are literally moments away from death's door.
Like in my case. Like in many cases.
Attempting to characterize those who choose or can't or unable to be there at that final moment as somehow bad people, or unfeeling or hurting the animal is also an incorrect premise.
This is just an exercise in signalling how great you are, and how sad it is that all humans aren't as great as you are with their pets. So feel free to continue to engage in that if it makes you feel good, but don't expect me to agree with you, or join in.
democratisphere
(17,235 posts)Dogs, cats and other pets have equal standing with human family members and should be treated accordingly.
qazplm135
(7,654 posts)a child is not equal to a pet. If a burning building has my child and my pet in it and I can only save one, no human in their right mind has a hard choice to make.
We don't euthanize humans, we do euthanize pets, another difference.
I know specifically that treatment for cancer in humans is very different from cats...the latter isn't really designed to cure because the doses that might do that would cause pain and suffering that humans can bear or decide to bear, and pets cannot.
Finally, even if pets and human family members were the same, people often do not die with family members holding their hands the moment they pass. Loved ones tell them they love them, then there is usually a period of semi consciousness to unconsciousness to death.
tonedevil
(3,022 posts)well as long as we have to you determine which of us is human and inhuman.
Clearly a few of you have a real need to exercise your I'm a better human muscles, feel free to continue, but I have no further interest in this particular virtue play.
tonedevil
(3,022 posts)others having virtue to signal must really hurt you.
qazplm135
(7,654 posts)that response tells me how unreasonable you are and why it's a waste of time to further engage with you.
tonedevil
(3,022 posts)
Rorey
(8,514 posts)I can't recall that any of my family members have died without someone holding them or their hand. When my husband died (previous to the ass I just divorced), he was in ICU for nine days. I went home every day to shower and change, but other than that I was there with him, holding him and talking to him, around the clock. I look back at that time and honestly don't know how I did it, but I did. The night before he died, in the middle of the night, I asked the nurses what was going on? I had been told there was no hope of him surviving, but a lot of his vitals had actually improved, so I just didn't understand. Those wonderful nurses explained the physiological things going on that I couldn't see. I fell apart. I cried and begged God and cried some more. Then I went into my husband's room and told him it was okay to go, and that he'd be ok and we'd be okay. Almost immediately his numbers started changing. He died in my arms that afternoon. I'm convinced that he heard me telling him it was okay to go.
I've done the "death watch" with other loved ones since then, and because of the experience with my husband, I won't take a chance that a dying person can't hear, and I won't leave them alone.
And of course those of us with human children can't really equate a child with a pet, but that doesn't mean that many of us don't love our pets deeply, and the loss hurts like hell. I know that there are also some folks who just consider a pet a thing. I can't relate to that concept at all.
qazplm135
(7,654 posts)most of them die alone.
I know that many people die on the operating table, they die in accidents, they die suddenly, they die while the family takes a moment to catch a couple hours of sleep.
It's a well known phenomenon that often the dying will wait until they are alone to die.
That's not an always thing of course, some folks die with loved ones around them.
No one said anything about considering "a pet a thing." I certainly didn't.
I spent 8K bucks trying to save my pet. I cried as a grown man for about three weeks off and on or the whole time I was trying to save her. It was harder than anything I've ever had to do.
But that doesn't mean that my pet was let down or I somehow loved her less because I couldn't be in there when they injected her to put her to sleep, nor does it mean she knew what was going on or that she was dying in that moment.
Rorey
(8,514 posts)I didn't mean to sound as if I was implying that you, personally, thought of your pet as a "thing".
barbtries
(31,307 posts)he dropped dead of a heart attack in a different state and nobody was with him.
my daughter died. she was run over by a car and left in the street to bleed out and nobody was with her.
i cannot let these facts torment me.
my friend Marcia's mother, with whom she lived at the time, said she was going to take a nap. No biggie. She went into her room and at some point she died. Marcia had no idea her mother was about to die and there was no opportunity to be there. Yet when the paramedics came, they were amazed at the absolutely peaceful look on her face. They had never seen anyone whose passing had been so non-traumatic.
when my mother died, I stayed with her until about 3am. my sister was also there. I had a 5 month old daughter at home who was nursing and was by this time (probably about 10 hours in the hospital by then) both engorged and utterly exhausted. I went home and my sister stayed. At 8:30 she called me to let me know Mom was gone. She was alone in the room with her. i had meant to be but left early. For this I do feel guilt but again, will not be tormented by it. Our 2 brothers had come by much earlier, said their good-byes, and left. I don't know if this makes them feel bad or not. I do know my mother knew each of us well and in spite of a catastrophic stroke, had made it clear that she did not want to be a burden to us.
Within a few years or so I will die. I mostly hope i go peacefully and do not linger and cause my children any more pain than is necessary. i certainly do not want them to berate themselves or be hounded by the thought that they should have been there at the moment i passed, if that's not the way it plays out.
They say the hearing is the last sense to leave. i talked to my mother long after she stopped responding. She knew she was loved.
I could also tell other stories i have heard from friends, who left their loved one to go take a shower and change clothes, and the death occurred while they were gone from the room, even though it wasn't expected to happen imminently. i honestly believe that the loved one chose to take that burden away from the one they were leaving behind. so i don't know. probably never will.
every story is different and none are the same.
Rorey
(8,514 posts)But I'm positive that she would rather you be with your baby than at her bedside.
And I am SO sorry about the loss of your daughter.
I just want you to know, I'm in no way saying that someone should ever feel guilty about not being there when a loved one passes away. Every situation is different. All I was saying was that when I could I did, but I'm fully aware that there are many folks who do wait until they're alone to take that last breath. Honestly, I really don't want my family doing the death watch over me.
barbtries
(31,307 posts)Interesting spelling of your name, assuming that's what it is. My youngest son is Rory. if he'd been a girl her name was going to be Rory.
I always wanted a Rory. lol
Rorey
(8,514 posts)Usually when I'm picking a screen name I just keep trying until one isn't taken. It's close to my nickname Rosie. My real name is unique, but it's not Rorey.
barbtries
(31,307 posts)i must have tried 20 barb screen names and they were all taken. when i typed in barbtries what i was thinking is barb tries every frickin' name including barb. but it worked and i've been using it for close to 20 years now.
Rorey
(8,514 posts)I love that story. 
qazplm135
(7,654 posts)unlike some others in this thread.
Rorey
(8,514 posts)I don't want anyone hovering. I've always been very private, especially when I'm not at my best. I always joke that my mom used to send us to our rooms when we were sick, and we really didn't get a lot of coddling, so that's why I'm like that. Of course she did check on us, but we didn't get the feeling that it was okay to feel sorry for ourselves, and I'm pretty sure she didn't want us out in the "general population" spreading our germs.
tonedevil
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WhiskeyGrinder
(26,953 posts)Maybe in your family. Not in mine. Both and other models are valid.
ET Awful
(24,788 posts)don't you? As someone who works in animal rescue and has had far more dealing with animals being euthanized than most, I can assure you that they DO know what's going on and that if the people they're used to aren't there, they are more distressed.
You sound far more like you're trying to justify your (perfectly understandable) inability or unwillingness to be there with your pet than it does a legitimate argument for anything else.
qazplm135
(7,654 posts)none. You project what you think is going on.
There's no logical reason for a pet to know that THIS time, the shot that knocks them out will be preceded by something that kills them vice the time a few days ago where they woke up after receiving other care.
ET Awful
(24,788 posts)Tip: Pets pick up on YOUR emotion. You can keep trying to justify your own action (or inaction), that doesn't make you right.
If you think animals aren't cognizant of the emotions of people around them, you haven't spent much time around animals. But keep on thinking you're right. Just make sure you don't subject any animals to it.
Subject any animals to what?
I don't know exactly what is going on in their heads but I'm pretty sure it's not the same as a human.
There's nothing to justify. If the animal is picking up on my emotions and I am not there then how's it know this is the shot that will kill it?
You're all over the place in the righteous indignation you've ginned up trying to make me a monster. It's ridiculous.
WhiskeyGrinder
(26,953 posts)about it isn't really helpful.
The process of euthanizing a pet means they die in their sleep, which happens all the time to people in extended care facilities or hospitals. It just happens.
milestogo
(23,073 posts)That doesn't mean that owners should abandon them. But it does mean that animals have different behavior than humans, and there is no benefit for animals in projecting human characteristics onto them.
jb5150
(1,362 posts)animals will seek a safe, secluded space because they know they may be too sick or injured to fight off a predator.
milestogo
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Politicub
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qazplm135
(7,654 posts)I spent a whole day saying goodbye to her. I spent three weeks and a good portion of my savings trying to save her. I slept with her, cuddled her, and held her.
but, somehow, because I didn't spend that last moment with her, I'm a monster to some folks on here.
There were few animals more loved or spoiled than she was (which she totally earned by being an absolutely amazing companion).
Politicub
(12,328 posts)on the back and creating a mutual admiration society. They are no better than anyone else.
It sounds like your kitty had a very special parent, indeed, and you made lots of happy memories together. That’s what matters.
And you are causing me to remember times with my beautiful silky terrier who is no longer with me. Thank you for that.
qazplm135
(7,654 posts)and they certainly make life a lot better than it would be without them.
And nothing feels better than when your dog or cat or what have you is snuggled up with you 
WhiskeyGrinder
(26,953 posts)
DeminPennswoods
(17,504 posts)cats. She hid in the basement behind a wicker chair. My folks took her to the vet who then told them she had a huge tumor. She had already lost a lot of weight and was hardly eating. They decided on the spot to have her put down, then brought her back and my dad buried her in the yard. It was a very tough day for them.
Merlot
(9,696 posts)I would agree with you. It's overly emotional. I also find it hard to believe that so many people don't stay with their pets. Just the replies here tell a different story.
japple
(10,459 posts)there for them in life and gave them a happy existence, they will carry you with them into the hereafter. They are pure, innocent creatures.
AtheistCrusader
(33,982 posts)Married to a Vet Tech.
I think staying is the right thing to do, generally speaking (And I always do), unless you can't keep your shit together and THAT is causing the animal anxiety.
I do wonder if the drop-off-walk-away nature of a lot of euthanasia causes this though:
https://time.com/5485552/veterinarians-suicide/
I’ve been there with two kitties when their time came, and I’m glad to have had the experience, though it’s heartbreaking.
Both times it was at home, with a house call by a regular vet in one case and a visit from a pet euthanasia specialist in the other. I saw exactly what the cats went through. They just thought they were going to sleep, except some strange lady had just given them a shot.
The first time I went through this, before either of these two, I left my kitty buddy — who was very ill and in a lot of difficulty — with the vet. It was really hard, partly because I was going through some other very gut-wrenching personal stuff at the time, and because the kitty died young. I know it was hard on the vet to see me bawling like a baby, too. When I saw him on the street months later, he recognized me and teared up a little.
I refuse to condemn people over their decision of what to do in such a difficult situation. It’s a personal decision.
BlueIdaho
(13,582 posts)It was so traumatic to me that I could not watch our second pet pass. I am now so guilt ridden for abandoning pet #2 at its final moments that I have refused to adopt any other shelter animals - knowing I just can’t watch them pass. So you tell me which is worse, not watching my second pet pass or not giving another shelter animal a forever home?
WhiskeyGrinder
(26,953 posts)Last edited Wed Jul 24, 2019, 04:55 PM - Edit history (1)
you could with the information you had at the time, and I hope it (nor this guilt-trip thread) doesn’t keep you from giving another pet in need a loving home.
BlueIdaho
(13,582 posts)Hoyt
(54,770 posts)them right until the end. If it were me, they'd be there, I think.
It actually goes very peaceful.
The last time, the vet did warn me that sometimes they will pass and their eyes will stay open. So, I avoided looking straight at his eyes once he started to get sleepy.
Bayard
(29,679 posts)People do things to pets that they wouldn't do to their human family. They want to be with mother, father, child, spouse, as they breathe their last, to comfort them.
I try not to start sobbing until they are gone, so as not to upset them further, so I can tell them I love them, and everything will be alright. Its okay, baby, its okay. Soothing, giving them peace. Stroking their face, looking in their eyes as the light goes out of them. I've had to do it many times over the years, and it never gets any easier.
We owe them that much.
Duppers
(28,469 posts)I tried to smoothe her as she laid there, in pain and worried. Why am I here, she thought. She hated vets. But my voice cracked and tears flowed. I so wish I could have kept it together, I tried. I think I made it worse for my sweet 13yo border collie because she was so sensitive and one of those dogs who took responsibility for every emotion in their family. Still, I couldn't have left her. We HAD to be there. I loved that baby with all my heart.
Y'all know i'm crying as I type this.
I drove home so grief stricken that I was in a surreal stupor.
Picked her collar up the other day to see if it'd fit Ogee and I cried.
I'll always remember, always love my Patty girl. And wish I could've been a better mama.
Duppers
(28,469 posts)Patty girl laid in the back of our car and had to wait for almost 30 mins in the August heat for the vet to come to the parking lot. We kept the motor running & a/c on but it was still too hot for her.
And there's the other issue: folks, do you know which medication your vet is injecting? Do a search for life-ending meds vets use, please.
Some just use drugs that causes an “awake” form of paralysis. Talk with your vet about the meds she/he will use. Thanks.
This link will help explain:
https://www.petmd.com/blogs/fullyvetted/2008/september/killing-me-softly-chemical-drug-euthanasia-pets-101-5780
spooky3
(38,631 posts)He had already been through so much fighting lymphoma and it had gotten into his bones, but he still wanted to come home. It was devastating. He was only 11. I hope he had some peace as he passed over.
Gothmog
(179,822 posts)My middle child was in law school in Iowa and I flew her down. I picked up at the airport and we drove to the vet's office to be there when they gave my dog his shot. My beardie was 15 (which is old for a beardie) and he recognize my daughter and put his head in her lap. It was the right thing to do.
Everyone of these posts tears at my heart.
Good folks here.
secondwind
(16,903 posts)when the time comes, surrounded by his favorite toys etc. At home.
lunatica
(53,410 posts)One died at home from some sort of heart attack but she died in my son’s arms. A few years later, after he died, and it was necessary to put his dog down she died in my arms while I whispered how much I loved her and said every endearing thing I always told her. She went very gently.
TygrBright
(21,361 posts)It was incredibly hard, but I'm glad I did.
My darling Tommy had bone cancer and was in terrible pain. He hated the vet, too. But when we got there and I scooped him carefully out of his carrier, and laid him on the pad on the exam table, and put my arms around him, he just relaxed against me. I held him as the needle went in, and as his eyes closed and his breathing stopped. And for a few minutes more, getting the tears out.
My Fisbin didn't have cancer, he was just old, and his kidneys were giving out, and he had some arthritis and inflammatory disease issues. I could tell he was eating the little morsels of food I put in front of him just to please me, and then one day he turned his head away and wouldn't eat. He sipped a little water, and then just lay there quietly for a couple of hours. I moved around the room doing this and that, staying where I could see him and he could see me, and frequently coming to kneel by him and pet him and murmur love to him. And then one time when I did that I could tell he was gone.
It still hurts me that I was gone when my T'chiu died. He was older and had diabetes and kidney issues but he was hanging on gamely and I had a wonderful, knowledgeable cat care pro who stopped in three times a day while I had to be out of town for work. I got a call at my hotel one evening telling me that between the midday and evening visit he'd died, and I just broke down. I hadn't had much choice about being out of town, but I felt just awful about not being there for him.
Be there for them.
They're there for you, so often.
reminiscently,
Bright
catrose
(5,365 posts)like I hope someone will do for me
bullwinkle428
(20,662 posts)a year ago with my cat, who meant the world to me. My girlfriend had joined me at the vet's office for the procedure, and there is not a chance in the world we ever could have left for the room for her final moments.
For those who haven't been through it, they are given a sedative prior to the main euthanasia drug, so they're clearly getting sleepy, but still seem quite aware of your presence, and I couldn't have lived with myself if I wasn't there to hold her and comfort her until the very end, when the vet confirmed that the heart had stopped beating.
FakeNoose
(41,622 posts)She was a sweet and wonderful pet, but at 14 she had something terminal - either cancer or a large inoperable tumor on her belly. I held her gently while the vet gave her the shot. Nakita knew it was over but she looked straight into my eyes and trusted me.
She would have been terrified if I hadn't stayed there with her. I still tear up every time I think of her.
RayOfHope
(1,829 posts)and we hold them during this process, then after they are well sedated he takes them to another room for the final injection. We get to hold them through their last moments of consciousness but don't have to witness the really hard part.
cbdo2007
(9,213 posts)I petted her and looked into her beautiful eyes until she closed them for the last time.
donkeypoofed
(2,188 posts)I might have left my cat and dog when their time comes, and now I will be sure to never ever do that. Guess I just needed a poke between the eyes!
Big Blue Marble
(5,691 posts)This is by far the best solution to such an awful time. I have done this many times and it is the
kindest and most comfortable for your pet and for you and your family. This is truly the way to
give your beloved animal a "good death'"
The are vets who specialize in this kind of hospice care. Check on line for locating them near your
home. There is one organization that has vets all over the country. The one near me has been
wonderful. I have had to say good bye to three pets in the last five years. Each time she was there
for us in the final declining months available 24 hours day for questions and support. Also
to help know when we had reached the end of the line. And she only charged for her services
at the final visit. I am forever grateful for her kindness and compassion as well as the dignified
ending she provided for my precious pets.
Maeve
(43,456 posts)He died in my lap in the garden....
Duppers
(28,469 posts)Thank you, thank you.
Did it cost much more for the vet to drive out?
Thanks again.
Big Blue Marble
(5,691 posts)And that included months and months of kind support and advise at any hour of the day or night.
She is amazing. She made an terrible time bearable for us all.
Duppers
(28,469 posts)I imagine it would depend on what part of the country you live.
🙏
Hoyt
(54,770 posts)Last edited Wed Jul 24, 2019, 05:48 PM - Edit history (1)
of the inevitable.
Went to vet’s office last for last two pets. Thought it was quite peaceful once there, but why put him through that trauma if avoidable. He’s been the best buddy anyone could want.
Thanks.
Big Blue Marble
(5,691 posts)as well as being less traumatic for your animal.
spooky3
(38,631 posts)While we were in her office getting the bad news. I was concerned that the other two pets at home would react badly to seeing this happen, and that for humans, anticipating the visit would be awful. It was better to do the euthanizing while we were already in the office for treatment. But I can definitely see different circumstances would lead to different reactions.
Big Blue Marble
(5,691 posts)I have been there as well. I have also had animals die naturally at home. Having lost many animals over the years,
I have learned that, when possible, home euthanizations are the kindest and most comfortable for our pets and for ourselves.
I would like to add that our other pets were at peace with the process every time. I believe that is better when they
see what happen to their friend instead of them going to the vet and not coming home. (They will know that is
where you were; they will smell the vet's on you.)
lagomorph777
(30,613 posts)How could I not be there?
tymorial
(3,433 posts)It broke me for a long time. Returning home, there was this silence. I swear, I could feel the missing heartbeat and the lack of life. The silence. Ugh, this article just wrecks me.
zonkers
(5,865 posts)You are the salt of the earth.
NRaleighLiberal
(61,857 posts) Duppers
(28,469 posts)
RichardRay
(2,613 posts)Eight dogs in my 72 years. All have passed at home. I’m lucky enough to have a place where they’ve been able to rest in a favorite spot, and a vet they know and trust. They all passed in my arms, looking into my eyes, and the vet has permitted me to push the syringe plunger. It’s the last act of love and care I’ve been allowed to give them.
Making that call for my dogs is my duty and my privilege.
As to a ‘natural’ death as opposed to helping them pass: I hope that when my Parkinson’s Disease reaches the stage where I no longer find my life worthwhile that I live someplace where I can make my own choice. If I can’t make that decision, then I beg that my loved ones will be allowed to make the call for me.
Duppers
(28,469 posts)WhiskeyGrinder
(26,953 posts)weirdly judgmental.
qazplm135
(7,654 posts)in virtue signalling.
tonedevil
(3,022 posts)qazplm135
(7,654 posts)yes.
tonedevil
(3,022 posts)the use of the term 'Virtue Signaling' with Right-Wing Nut Jobs. I see no reason to change my opinion at this point.
qazplm135
(7,654 posts)don't really care.
hunter
(40,688 posts)
tonedevil
(3,022 posts)Blue_Tires
(57,596 posts)elocs
(24,486 posts)The first was my cat that I found as a 3 day old kitten when she was 20 years old. It was a hard decision, but it was time. I stopped before I reached the vets office to have a cry, and so I thought I was ready. Well they couldn't find a vein the first time and I was still ok, but after they couldn't find a vein the second time I was in tears.
At this point my cat had been with me for nearly half my life and since she never saw her mother I was the first animal she saw, one that cared for her and fed her.
I'll always be with my pets when their time comes if I can.
in2herbs
(4,388 posts)other way. When an animal means as much to you as anything or anyone else, their allowing you to share their death experience is truly amazing and enlightening.
Norbert
(7,762 posts)One died while rushing her to the vet. She had a heart attack.
The other one we euthanized. We were both there and I comforted her til her dying breath.
It is never pleasant but if it were the other way around they would be there for you without question.
nolabear
(43,850 posts)My god. I can’t imagine. We’ve had many dogs over the years and I cannot imagine not loving those beautiful souls out of this life. Holding them and telling them what good, good dogs they are and how I’m right there, and they’re okay. It’s always hard and I’m not sure I’ve ever “gotten over” a one of them. But I do have that one comfort, of knowing I did the best I could to give back the loyalty they gave to me.
This is so troubling.
Rorey
(8,514 posts)When I took my old cat Claws in, the vet asked if I wanted to stay and seemed a little surprised when I said of course. I petted him and loved him and told him thank you for being such a good cat.
I was the one holding each of our three dogs too, while my (then) husband sat and cried. He never has been too good at helping others through difficult times. It was always me. But I considered it to be an honor.
pnwmom
(110,260 posts)Then the youngest went on a walk with their dad, while their mom stayed with the rest of us, the whole family our dog had grown up with. It was heartbreaking but the vet gave us the room for as long as we wanted -- and we were there a couple hours -- before my husband held our dog while the vet gave the injections.
And it wasn't just the dog who needed US. WE all needed to be there with him. It was a comfort to know that he didn't suffer at the moment of death.
Kaiserguy
(740 posts)except one who die during cancer sugary had my wife and I there for them when they cross over the rainbow bridge. I would never let them died alone they are family.
Moostache
(11,171 posts)People are going to think I have lost my mind in here...literally crying uncontrollably.
I just re-lived every passing of pets we have held dear in our family over the last 25 years...
2 cats that had to be put down (agonizing decisions - one happened at home and I was there, one happened at Vet's office when it became obvious nothing more could be done, but I was at home with the younger children who were asleep - and that was a mistake),
3 cats that simply died of natural causes - 2 had apparent heart attacks and were found deceased, 1 died of old age at 19 years old, when we were going to take him to the vet the next day - he died in his bed with our children holding vigil and petting him with me through the last moments...but this was the hardest of them all because we had him for his entire life from kitten to the very end.
It also made me face the inevitable loss of our now 10-year, 65-lb. old dog (who is really starting to have mobility issues with hips and age). We think she may have another year or maybe even two if we're lucky, but a bad winter or a fall might change that in a heartbeat.
For us, our animals are extended parts of the family, and losing any of them leaves a void and a pain as real as if it had been any one of us. I won't pass judgment on anyone's decisions or choices in dealing with life and death, but I will say I can finally open the door again after taking a few minutes to focus on happier memories from each of the lost.
NRaleighLiberal
(61,857 posts) Moostache
(11,171 posts)Even going through these rough memories of the end, I wouldn't trade it for anything...the time spent with our lost pets was as precious to us as holiday get-togethers and dinners or milestone anniversaries...it helps me to focus on those happy memories and let them chase away my sad ones as if they were still here just running around the corner to get their favorite toy mouse!
for all those lost that are being remembered again today...
NRaleighLiberal
(61,857 posts)and Buddy, all giving us 14 wonderful years...they all were bathed in our tears as they went peacefully on their journeys.
The vet handled each situation with respect, kindness and grace.
Maraya1969
(23,495 posts)but it never seems to go that way in actuality.
I saw the look of fright in my little Emily's eyes the night I rushed her to the emergency vet. The vet told me she didn't think Emily would survive till morning so I picked her up and told the vet to help he go.
I've done this several times since I have always had dogs and sometimes cats. There is nothing to be afraid of. It is sad and horrible but I would never leave them. I think it may even help you with your own grief to be there at the end.
The Genealogist
(4,739 posts)This thread is heartbreaking for me, as it brought back the terrible day we had to put down our beloved Standard Poodle, Tony. He wasn't eating, and we took him in to find he had a fast growing cancer. He could have had painful surgery and maybe lived a few, miserable weeks longer. My partner and I were both there when he passed away. There was no way I'd have left that dog, who was nothing but love embodied, to die alone.
no_hypocrisy
(54,903 posts)It was the bravest thing I've ever had to do but I insisted that I be allowed to hold her while she slipped away. I knew that even though she received a shot to relax her, she needed to feel the warmth of my body, smell my scent, and hear my voice.
Postscript: The vet wouldn't let me leave her office until I could stop crying for 20 minutes.
Duppers
(28,469 posts)
oasis
(53,689 posts)for his age, but slowing down. I will heed your advice. 
rainin
(3,246 posts)12 years we were together. I was the last face she saw. I was loving her and had to ask if she was gone, because she seemed to still be looking right at me. I sobbed right there in the exam room. I don't know how the staff handles this grief day after day. I think my visit was hard for them. My grief was deep.
spooky3
(38,631 posts)CDerekGo
(507 posts)Woke me up just before 3am, June 25, panting quite loudly. I managed to get him on the bed with me, just in time for him to take three short gasps, kick his right front leg twice, and that was that. I sat with Bentley for quite awhile, petting on my little Co-Pilot. He was only 2 weeks away from his 14th Birthday. It was only when I realized that Bentley had also evacuated his bowels and bladder, that I knew I needed to strip the bedding before I would be able to do anything else until Bentley and I made our final trip to the Vet. Being in a strange town, I had to call local vet to see what door to use, to bring Bentley inside for Cremation Two days later, I retrieved Bentley's ashes, as well as a Paw Print that the Vet had created. It's quite strange not having a Westie in my life. I'm 58, and for the past 29 years, I've had a Westie 'plodding' along next to me. First it was Holly, who I stood right next to while they administered the drug to put her to sleep (almost 15) then Charlie (Rescue who only lasted 3 months) then Bentley. Now retired, it's tough call for me to make for another dog. I'm planning on selling my FL home and moving soon, maybe once relocated, I'll think about another Rescue. But, I'll ALWAYS be there for my next dog, all the way to the end. Because remember, for us, a dog is only part of our lives, for a dog, we're their WHOLE lives.
logosoco
(3,211 posts)and I find this to be very harshly judgemental and a bit not true. We always gave the owners a choice to be there or not and were very respectful of either choice. I can't say that I really remember any of the ones I held to be that frantic. They were old or sick and they were being held and talked to.
I would not feel comfortable going to a vet that took this stance. They first and foremost should be respectful of their clients. Many people are already in shock because of an emergency or they are so emotionally fraught to have had to come to the choice of putting the animal down. They are not in a place where they need to be feeling they are being judged.
That's my $.02
sinkingfeeling
(57,832 posts)them and whisper, "I love you" one last time.
barbtries
(31,307 posts)when my cat was dying I would have stayed with her. I was with her until she was unconscious, but declined to remain until her last breath. I feel bad about that now. i can only hope that she had already moved on at the point i left her.
as I petted her away into unconsciousness she purred and purred and I cried and cried. But when they asked me if I wanted to be there for the end, I said no. I was a coward.
my other cat made sure of it himself and died in my arms, very suddenly. But Lola had to be put down.
Bradical79
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Vinca
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Roland99
(53,345 posts)Tore my heart
Ginger42
(59 posts)really, really hated going to the vet, but loved going for rides. So when the time came (cancer, 13 years old) we drove to the vet's office. Poor boy was worn out and just laid across my lap on his favorite blanket. Our kind vet came out to our truck to give him the injections so he could die on his blanket in my lap instead of having to be carried into a place he was afraid of. It was hell for me but so peaceful for Riley.
Collimator
(2,118 posts)It was the last intimate thing that we did together. It broke my heart, but I am glad that I was there for her, and for him, and for myself.
If my ex-husband had told me about it after the fact, it would have been worse. We had lunch afterwards and I hugged him goodbye and reminded him that I was the only other person who really understood what he was feeling.
We held her and told her over and over that she was a good girl as the vet injected her. The vet had to tell us when she was gone.
After I got back to where I was living, my housemate held me while I wailed like a banshee. Two days later, I was napping in my room and my eyes opened. I was aware of everything in the room around me--including my dog who was lying between my legs with her head on my stomach.
I am a borderline atheist and I try to avoid any supernatural thinking. But no one can tell that she didn't come back to say goodbye to me.
jeffreyi
(2,571 posts)I think they always come back. Has been my experience, anyway. Maybe the grieving brain playing tricks, but one way or another, they come back. And, in my opinion, the least we can do for our four legged friends is to be there for them to the very end. It's just part of the deal.
Doreen
(11,686 posts)I doubt it and if I did shame on me. The reason I say I do not think so is because there are parts of my life I can not remember due to an accident. I do know my Voodoo was put down without me because she was sick and by the time they were able to get to her she had been without her meds for to long. I was lying in Harborview in a coma. Gee, I have not thought of that for a long time and now I am crying. I am my animals person and security how could I ever knowingly leave them alone in their last moments here?
colorado_ufo
(6,251 posts)No matter how much the pain, no matter if it costs me my health or my tears.
Politicub
(12,328 posts)to sleep because she was doubled over with tears. She loved her dog more than anything but couldn’t bear to see the shot. He went very quickly.
When I read viral posts like this, that cast a blanket judgement across all pet owners, it makes me angry. The reason why it bothers me is that some pet owners will be tormented when they read it because it makes them feel as if they did something wrong. They can not go back in time and undo the moment.
Putting a pet down is heartbreaking. We all approach the ritual in different ways. Because someone wasn’t in the room at the moment of dying does not detract from the beautiful memories of the experiences that dogs and their masters had. And sometimes people aren’t thinking at those final moments. Their mourning is just as valid.
I know everyone’s heart is in the right place, but please think twice about sharing content like this. You may be subjecting people to unnecessary guilt, torment and suffering after an already heartbreaking decision.
onlyadream
(2,248 posts)This was horrible for us, and our poor dog... my dad couldn’t even drive home (he walked).
kimbutgar
(27,248 posts)When I came home my Dad told me the dog was not doing good. I saw the dog and called the vet to put the dog down. As soon as I put the phone down the dog lifted its paw and died right then and there. It waited for me to come home and die.
One of my cats we put down and my husband was holding it. The other died in my living on the couch where I usually sit. I hear you these animals wanted to be with those they love when they died. For a week after the cat died I swear I felt the cat while I was I the kitchen weaving around my leg like he used to do every night when I was cooking, hoping a piece of food would accidentally drop on the floor.
SharonClark
(10,497 posts)That should be part of their job.
Tommy_Carcetti
(44,497 posts)I was with my dog at the very end. It was both peaceful and yet traumatic all in the same. I don't really like talking about it.
BootinUp
(51,314 posts)MontanaMama
(24,721 posts)He was dying of renal failure and was clearly in distress. I didn’t think he could make it until Monday. We went to emergency vet and the on call dr. gave Louis a sedative and then the med that would stop his heart. I held Louis close to my chest the whole time. I would never let one of my beloveds take their last breath alone. It is my duty and my privilege as their companion to be there...as hard as it is.
RIP dear Louis.
spooky3
(38,631 posts)
CousinIT
(12,533 posts)I did not leave her alone. It broke my heart but I couldn't leave her there alone. I knelt down by the table where she was laying sedated in her soft bed from home and made sure she could see my face as I told her it's OK -- and to just to go sleep with me like she always does. And she did with me right there with her.
I have her ashes by my bed and miss her every day even though this has been years ago now.
GulfCoast66
(11,949 posts)So I was raised by families from Agricultural and farming backgrounds and spent much of my time on farms. Just never saw pets as family members, probably because so many animals were destined for death, as cruel as it sounds. Pets generally served a purpose like hunting, herding cattle or killing rats.
But, one iron clad law was that it was a sin to allow animals to suffer. Ever. Way too many family members have suffered and died from cancer, most likely because of the chemicals used on the farms. But they knew the score, accepted or not pain medication and generally made the most of their dying days. Animals don’t have that luxury. They are just scared. Anyway, in my mind a person that allows an animal to suffer until the end is doing it for themselves, not the poor animal.
So I am not real emotional about pet deaths. I am pragmatic enough to admit we have them for our benefit.
I totally understand those that see their pets as family members and sympathize 100%. No criticism at all. Most of my good Frodo. Just not the way I am.
That said, the idea of taking my wife’s cats to the vet to be put down is very distasteful me. They hate going anyway and remember, I think allowing animals to suffer is a sin. Having a stranger come in and poke them with a needle would be better, but they would still be terrified. Not doing that.
My solution? Several years ago I had a shoulder injury. Nothing too bad but when I filled the script the doctor gave me one of the powerful painkillers that are killing too many Americans. No way I’m taking that for a shoulder. But I knew then what I was going to do.
When our 18 year old cat is starting to suffer, and it not to far off now, she is quietly going to get one of those pills. Then the few others get taken back to the doctor(never flush them. The drug resides in the sewage). And if I did not have those pills I know vets who would give me a loaded syringe to do it myself. God knows I’ve given enough animals shots. It’s would not be easy, but taking care of animals is a big responsibility.
I know my experience and background might be an outlier to many on DU. But we all handle these things differently. I won’t criticize those who can not stand to be there. And I fully understand not many could do it themselves. I just think it is the most kind way.
Anyway, a rural guys(raised anyway) perspective.
And to the article. I can’t see not being there. It seems like the responsible thing to do. But I’m not judging.
exboyfil
(18,359 posts)gotten around her dropping her Huskie/Lab mix at the vet to be put to sleep without telling anyone. My girls grew up with that dog, and she was the best dog around them. She would go everywhere with us on our walks (I would strap her leash to the handle of my double walking stroller). I would have been honored to be with her at the end even if my in-laws were not.
I was with my three pets (Beagle and two cats) when they died. The cat which was very close to me actually died in my wife's arms on the way to the vet as I was driving. It had gotten sick for the last time while I was on a business trip, and I honestly felt that it waited for me. I loved that cat.
I will be with my English Shepard and Aussie/Sheltie mix when it is time. The English Shepard is 14, and I don't know how much time I have with him. He is my constant companion at home. He is still a great walker though even though not nearly as far as he used to go.
SoCalDem
(103,856 posts)Skunkie had congestive heart failure and they hospitalized him. He was so scared. I visited him daily, but at day 4, the vet said it's time. I held him over my shoulder like he loved to be held. The vet, used the IV port and as sick as he was Skunkie was purring in my arms until he wasn't.. He was 15, and was unable to walk even a few feet without having to stop & rest. I had to hold his head up for him to get a drink, and he lost all interest in food, so we knew it was time.
Tertullian
(75 posts)Makes a LOT of sense.
ooky
(10,922 posts)Buckeye_Democrat
(15,526 posts)... when I lived with them long ago, and the vet asked us to leave before giving them the injections. I wish that I would've stuck with them to the end. Both of them looked at me with "dog smiles" when I left, after I cried and said goodbye to them.
What was so interesting to me was that they both seemed to know that their suffering was about to end. My impression was that they were very relieved to be there, like they were thinking, "Thank God, I'm about to die!" Yet both dogs never really liked the vet's office during previous visits.
Edit: I just want to clarify that the two dogs were put to sleep at different periods of my childhood. It wasn't like we took the two dogs to a "two for the price of one lethal injection sale" at the vet's office or something.
nini
(16,830 posts)That one put my cat under. The second one was the one that put him to sleep for good. He said it is rare but sometimes there can be a reaction that is hard to watch. He said he didn't want my last memory of him to be worse than it had to be.
I left the room with him and the assistant talking to him and petting him. The last time my cat looked at me it was peaceful but tough.
This doctor was an amazing loving doctor.
Niagara
(11,849 posts)Her personality changed overnight. She would avoid interaction, growl when touched and would run away from her human family. There were days were she was her loving self and there were days that she acted like a total stranger.
She was diagnosed with Carcinoma and it had already spread to her organs. The vet explained that her quality of life would be awful and the dreaded appointment was scheduled.
I paid in advance for the procedure so that I wouldn't have to deal with it the day of the appointment. We were all in the room with her and she collapsed fairly quickly. We wrapped her in a baby blanket and took her home to bury her.
I had nightmares for months that I was the one that injected her and not the vet. One night I had another dream where I was in an abandoned house where she was waiting for me. In this dream she laid down on my chest and I was petting her. After this dream, the nightmares stopped.
R.I.P. my beautiful lovebucket
Tracer
(2,769 posts)My sweet 6 year old pup was dying of cancer (so effing young!!!) and it was time.
My daughter drove and I sat in the back seat holding and petting my darling girl so she wouldn't fall.
But at the vet's, after giving her some final, tearful strokes, I had to leave the room. I just couldn't stay.
My daughter stayed with her until the end.
radical noodle
(10,595 posts)So the animal doesn't have to be in a scary place. We did that with our cat.
Jake Stern
(3,146 posts)I was with my beloved cat Duke when he passed but not everybody has it in them to stay in the room when it happens and they shouldn't be shamed for it.
CrispyQ
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