How to take down a narcissist...

[Roland99]

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The Hoarse Whisperer
@HoarseWisperer
· Sep 25, 2019
Memo to House Dems:

The way to topple a narcissist’s syndicate isn’t to go after the narcissist or try to turn the capos against the boss.

The way to tear apart their protection is to break their enablers’ hypnotic focus on their leader and make them worry about their peers.
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The Hoarse Whisperer
@HoarseWisperer
Tactically:

Subpoena a flurry of low- and mid-level staffers across an array of departments.

Narcissists’ enablers worship the boss and believe the boss’ love protects them.

They don’t love or trust their peers. After all, they’re rivals for the boss’ love.

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Make the flying monkeys worry about each other and the whole glass house falls to the ground.

Subpoena subordinate staffers in the White House, State Department, DOJ. Subpoena aides to Mulvaney, Pence and Barr.

Serve them all at once.

Create the Prisoner’s Dilemma.

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The Hoarse Whisperer
@HoarseWisperer
Then start taking calls from their attorneys...

The key to defeating a narcissist is to step between the narcissist and their cult; break the hypnotic stare; and turn the cult’s attention away from the boss to themselves and others.

[Claritie Pixie]

1. Yes, totally agree! Go after his flying monkeys.

[Roland99]

2. More on the how and why. And Hoarse is right

I’ve seen it, too. Although the narcissist in that case wasn’t as severe as Twitler. But I did leave before the company went under.

https://threadreaderapp.com/thread/1177941941964754945.html?refreshed=yes

I know I’ve been beating the drum about the dynamics within a narcissist’s inner circle all week.

Those dynamics are important right now though... and they’re just so karmically delicious.

They’re worth savoring.

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As I’ve written about in the past, I worked for a severe narcissist like Trump.

He weaponized all the same tools Trump does: secrecy, fear, isolation of non-believers, banishing detractors.

It was extremely toxic but effective... until it wasn’t.

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A narcissist maintains sway over their inner circle in a number of ways.

One of them is by focusing each member of the flock on only the narcissist’s favor or disfavor.

They lull people into worrying only about where they stand with the narc.

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Favor and disfavor are the currencies of the narc realm.

Being favored by the narc equals power and safety. Being disfavored equals powerlessness and danger.

Most people just work to stay out of disfavor. They just toil to make sure it isn’t them on the shit list.


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There are always a few who covet more than just safety though.

Those people don’t just want to survive despite the toxicity; they want to profit from it. They want to gain power and standing.

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For a while, those people DO gain power - and they often do so by manipulating who else is in favor or disfavor.

While others are merely avoiding the danger of a narc’s disapproval, they’re using it as a tool to help themselves at others’ expense - and it works.

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When it all comes apart, that changes in a heartbeat.

Suddenly, the opportunists cannot weaponize the narc’s favor or disfavor because people are more worried about the real world problems of the entire thing falling down.

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Who cares if a narc hates you if the whole place is going up in flames?

That’s what breaks the spell.

The flock loses their hypnotic focus on the narcissist and suddenly begins to worry about themselves.

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And as the whole Titanic begins to worry about making it to the lifeboats, all of that anxiety and simmering resentment turns into a vengeance toward the former opportunists.

Some people merely don’t care if the once-powerful manipulators drown with the ship.

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Others though, they remember when they were put at risk for another’s advantage... and are ready for vengeance.

While everyone works for the same warden, it’s more like when prisoners overthrow the guards.

The biggest assholes are in for a really ugly time of it.

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I worked in an environment like that but had long fled by the time it came apart.

Even long after though, I was quite content to watch the few internal players who helped themselves at others’ expense finally get their due.

Others were out for revenge though.

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Internally, what was once a hypnotized army marching together in service of the narcissist just utterly fractures and descends into a poisonous chaos of retribution and desperate self-preservation.

It is a shockingly quick pendulum swing.

It just implodes in an instant.

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The Trump White House is there now.

Mark my words, every person who has done more than merely avoid disfavor is now in their colleagues’ crosshairs.

Some of their colleagues will merely let them drown. Others will heap bricks on their back.

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This is going to be wild to watch.

We won’t be able to keep pace with the leaks.

Trump charmed the snakes. Now he has lost his flute and is waist-deep in a snake pit - and so are his deputies.

This is how it all tumbles down.

And I’m going to enjoy every second.

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[Hermit-The-Prog]

6. can we get an AMEN?

Make all the little toadies want to cover their own asses.

Prisoner's dilemma for all.

[Cha]

3. Thanks for Hoarse, Roland!

[Iggo]

4. Good read. Good advice.

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5. K&R