T.I. Said He Goes To The Gynecologist With His Daughter Every Year To "Check Her Hymen"

[demmiblue]

The rapper added, "I will say, as of her 18th birthday, her hymen is still intact."



Rapper and actor T.I. said in a podcast interview that aired Tuesday that he goes with his 18-year-old daughter to the gynecologist every year to "check her hymen" and make sure it's "still intact."

In an interview with Nazanin Mandi and Nadia Moham on Ladies Like Us, T.I. talked about his parenting style, among other topics. When asked about whether he's had the "sex talk" with his daughters, he pointed to his approach with his eldest daughter, 18-year-old Deyjah Harris, who's in her first year of college.

"Not only have we had the conversation. We have yearly trips to the gynecologist to check her hymen," T.I. said. "Yes, I go with her."

He then mentioned that after her 16th birthday party, he "put a sticky note on the door: 'Gyno. Tomorrow. 9:30.'"

"So we’ll go and sit down and the doctor comes and talk, and the doctor’s maintaining a high level of professionalism," T.I. said. "He’s like, ‘You know, sir, I have to, in order to share information’ — I’m like, 'Deyjah, they want you to sign this so we can share information. Is there anything you would not want me to know? See, Doc? Ain't no problem.'"

https://www.buzzfeednews.com/article/clarissajanlim/ti-daughter-hymen-check-doctor?bftwnews&utm_term=4ldqpgc#4ldqpgc

(paging Dr. Gunter, Dr. Jen Gunter... this dude needs a verbal ass-kicking)

[mrs_p]

1. This is legal? Nt

[waddirum]

76. I think it is complete bullshit

No board certified physician would agree to perform such a procedure for the purpose of informing a parent. This may take place in other countries, but not in the U.S.

[riversedge]

103. wish we knew for sure if Physician is actually invading her needlessly? It

should be reported to an ethics Board for sure!

[Sanity Claws]

2. OMG

No privacy.
I wouldn't be surprised if the daughter runs away at 18 or stops contact with him when she is an adult.

[SharonAnn]

48. He thinks he owns her hymen? OMG!

[Aristus]

3. Asshole doesn't know that the hymen can be disrupted by something as simple

as sitting on a bicycle seat.

Dude needs to leave the 19th Century behind...

[demmiblue]

7. ...

T.I. also noted that he's was informed the hymen can be broken in ways other than through sexual penetration. "And so then they come and say, ‘Well, I just want you to know that there are other ways besides sex that the hymen can be broken like bike riding, athletics, horseback riding, and just other forms of athletic physical activity,'" he said. "So I say, ‘Look, Doc, she don’t ride no horses, she don’t ride no bike, she don’t play no sports. Just check the hymen, please, and give me back my results expeditiously.'"

[Aristus]

9. ARRRRRGH!

[3catwoman3]

72. "My results"?

MY???

I don’t think so, dad.

[MustLoveBeagles]

79. Mine was broken while horseback riding when I was 10 or 11

I didn't have sex until many years afterward. He'd probably still say I was a ho. Fuck this guy. Seriously. Creepy as fuck even if he's making this up.

[SummerSnow]

105. Ok, and what if she had sex with her boyfriend , what would he do? Go after the boyfriend ...

and hide her away? This is ridiculous. My question is why would a doctor go along with this and what does her mother say about this?

[lapfog_1]

4. WTF??? what is this the 13th century?

[demigoddess]

24. sure looks like it lately.

[Proud Liberal Dem]

5. Gross

[Kali]

6. fuck him

what a creepy asshole

[3catwoman3]

8. WTF??!!!

Bordering on abuse, here. Back off, dad.

I would be interested in knowing how many women he's bedded.

[Hekate]

65. Way over the border on psychological sexual abuse

[3catwoman3]

75. True enough.

Seeing as I have spent a 43 year career having to be diplomatic ALL the time, I am a master of understatement.

[smirkymonkey]

10. Ugh! How creepy!

[KG]

11. sounds like b.s.

[lpbk2713]

12. Weirdly and obsessively intrusive.

This runs the risk of making his daughter neurotic.

[demmiblue]

13. Since I evoked Dr. Gunter:

[WePurrsevere]

60. That was very interesting to watch...

I had the basics but learned a bit too.

[MissMillie]

14. If she's 18, she can demand that he not get that information

You know, by the time my son was 13 or 14, I would accompany him to the doctor, sit in w/ the doctor and him for just a few minutes so that I could ask questions, and then I'd leave the room.

I always felt that my son would get much better care from his physician if my son could talk openly w/ him/her.

And I trusted the doctor to alert me about problems when necessary.

[SoCalNative]

18. And then he'd probably say

if you live under my roof and I pay your insurance...

[Hekate]

66. She's a freshman in college. He can just cut off financial support if she refuses to knuckle under

He sounds like the type.

[redstatebluegirl]

107. I agree, I had a father who threatened to cut me off every time I did anything he didn' t like.

I ended up putting myself through school after he cut me off for not going to mass. Best decision I ever made.

[phleshdef]

16. Fucking creepy.

[Skidmore]

17. This jerk

has at least three children from "relationships" with women in addition to three children and a stepchild with his wife. This is the guy who doesn't think a woman should become president because women are emotional and may make rash decisions like set off a nuke when not thinking clearly.

I feel sorry for his daughters. How long does he plan on being this controlling.

[lettucebe]

19. Only way to check an intact hymen would be to break it

This is the dumbest thing I've ever seen, heard, or read. Simply sickening as well is the implication that he somehow is "present" for these exams? I have no words

[Quackers]

82. Umm no. That's not true.

Other than that, I agree with your post.

[Blue_true]

86. From what I understand, it breaks fairly easily.

If she sat spread legged on his shoulders as a little girl, or she did splits in gym class or some other physical activity, if she did leaps like track athletes do, if she played basketball or soccer, ect. It may be intact near the wall of her vagina, that part may survive until she has sex or something gets stuck up inside her (like if she masturbates or allow a person to stick something other than s penis inside her).

[riversedge]

104. That was my first thought. A tampon would do it also.

[Archae]

20. A guy this obsessed...

Any bets as to how many bastard kids *HE* sired?

[awesomerwb1]

21. Who?

[leftieNanner]

31. LOL

Perfect question!!

And I had the same one.

[Locrian]

22. how considerate of him....

I guess the chastity belts were a bit too much for him...



what a disgusting, creepy way to be a dad.

[classof56]

23. Perhaps he could have her wear a chastity belt,

and he could be the keeper of the key.

Lord, what a total idiot.

[SummerSnow]

106. He might do that. Scary thought.

[demmiblue]

25. His comments regarding Sec. Clinton:

In October 2015, T.I. received backlash when he was speaking on 2016 presidential candidate Hillary Clinton: "Not to be sexist but, I can’t vote for the leader of the free world to be a woman. Just because, every other position that exists, I think a woman could do well. But the president? It’s kinda like, I just know that women make rash decisions emotionally – they make very permanent, cemented decisions – and then later, it’s kind of like it didn’t happen, or they didn’t mean for it to happen. And I sure would hate to just set off a nuke. [Other leaders] will not be able to negotiate the right kinds of foreign policy; the world ain’t ready yet. I think you might be able to [get] the Loch Ness Monster elected before you could [get a woman]."[212][213] Following the reaction from social media, T.I. publicly apologized on Twitter.[214][215]

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/T.I.

[Wednesdays]

38. Yes, the entire history of war

proves that men never get emotional.

[get the red out]

44. Angela Merkel

has basically been the "leader of the free world" since the US abdicated it's position upon the election of Trump. I don't think this jerk thinks things through.

[IcyPeas]

52. this guy has had a variety of arrests

1994–2006: Drugs, weapons and assault
2007–2009: Weapons conviction
2010: 11 month sentence
2018: Public disorder arrest

(from the linked wikipedia page above)

[elias7]

62. Do you mean pubic disorder arrest?

And what does he do if her hymen is not intact?

[Hekate]

68. Beat the crap out of her would be my guess

[Blue_true]

87. Having a rap sheet is reguired for a rapper, except some female ones like Izy Azelia, who came

from a middleclass Australian family, and a few other female rappers. The dude from Canada that is a rabid Raptors fan may not have a rap sheet among male rappers, there are maybe a few more that don't, but most do.

[MustLoveBeagles]

84. Stupid sexist asshole.

[EveHammond13]

26. once she is 18 the doctor cannot legally disclose her health info, no matter the family relationship

[Hekate]

69. He says he makes her sign a release

[Wounded Bear]

27. Well that pegs the creep-o-meter...

I took my daughter to a gynecologist, too, because I believe in good health care and preventive medicine.

I don't recall asking about that, though.

[I_UndergroundPanther]

28. Controlling men in general

Need serious ass kickings and verbal evisceration,and total loss of narcissitic supply forever.
I hate controlling abusive men.
Like Nazis punch them.

[Ohiogal]

29. I can't even form words to respond to this.

[SWBTATTReg]

30. Sounds like some serious trust issues here between the two of them. Wouldn't blame the ...

daughter one bit if she finally told her dad to bug off.

[Hekate]

73. By his own words, these are control-freak issues on his part

Not trust issues between them

[3catwoman3]

77. Or bugger off, which would...

...be quite appropriate.

[treestar]

32. So truly disgusting

there are no words. And what if it is broken? Just how does he plan to react?

[Hekate]

70. Someone posted his rap sheet. Violently, would be my guess.

[MineralMan]

33. I can't even...WTAF?

[WhiskeyGrinder]

34. This is abuse, "virginity" is not a medical status and the gyno should tell him FOH.

[lunatica]

35. What a piece of shit

What will he do if she has sex? What a fucking stupid asshole. Meantime he is doing his best to jack up the creepy ick factor in her psyche.

[durablend]

36. Has he ever been seen at Trump rallies?

Sounds like he'd be right at home as Trump's "other black friend"

[Neema]

37. Was he a virgin past the age of 18? Something tells me he was not. Sexist and GROSS.

Ugh. Poor girl is going to have some issues.

[Blue_true]

88. He may have been. I was a virgin until I was 19 and I was popular with girls that I met in school.

Some guys and females simply don't get around to sex, for whatever reason.

[Neema]

97. He started rapping at a very young age and he wasn't rapping about saving himself

until marriage. Unless it was all a front, it's pretty doubtful.

Regardless, he does not have the right to violate his daughter's body that way. It's disgusting.

[Blue_true]

98. Your last point is on target.

I don't know whether he has a son. If he does have a son, is he pressing his son to remain a virgin? I doubt it.

Teen sex can be problematic, if I had kids, I would advise daughters and sons the same way. My advice would be to wait until they are older to start pairing off, the world is full of people, the chance is very high that they will meet a person later on who is far more impressive for them - that is why I would advise patience. But I believe that a daughter using birth control is not an issue, neither is a son using a condom.

[GoCubsGo]

39. I'm calling "bullshit" here.

This asshole talks a good game, but I have my doubts any of it is true, other than reminding his daughter that she has her annual check-up. I think he's probably full of shit. It all sounds too much like Trump's B.S. puffery. His "check the her hymen" shit sounds like embellishment of what's likely just a normal doctor's appointment.

[ecstatic]

56. Good point. I can't imagine a licensed physician going along

with this.

TI might mean well, but he's sending the wrong message to his daughter--that a man has a right to inspect and control her vagina. Not cool.

She'll probably have intimacy issues as well as a result of the Taliban-esque atmosphere her dad has created.

[GoCubsGo]

58. I'm not convinced that he talks to his daughter like this.

Or, that this atmosphere actually exists within his home. It strikes me as bullshitting his audience in some weird attempt to prove some macho, controlling image to them. It just strikes me as shit-stirring. He very well may be a control-freak asshole, who would love to be able to control his daughters like that. I just have my doubts that he's actually doing what he says he is doing.

[MustLoveBeagles]

80. I sincerely hope so for his daughter's sake

He's still a dirtbag though.

[Blue_true]

89. I tend to agree.

He likely talked to his daughter about the hazards of teen sex and she took his advice seriously. But he has to do the macho rapper thing and brag.

[TwilightZone]

96. He's publicly humiliating his daughter.

If he's just exaggerating it for attention, that makes it worse.

[PCIntern]

40. Fuck these assholes...creepy shitheads

Otherwise speechless

[sarisataka]

41. Um, eww...

No, just no

[IADEMO2004]

42. Has she ran away from home yet?

[JDC]

43. Maybe he should get her a chastity belt.

He can wear the key around his neck.

Creep

[Vinca]

45. That's seriously creepy.

[Iggo]

46. Don't kid yourself. He's talking about ownership.

[I_UndergroundPanther]

47. That is the problem

Entitled abusive nacissists always want to own people because they want control,but have no self control.

[irisblue]

49. At DrJenGunter and the twitter thread

Thread Reader App (@threadreaderapp) Tweeted:
@SilkOne Hello, you can read it here: Thread by @DrJenGunter: "This is horrible on so many levels. Let me educate you all about the hymen 1/12 The hymen is a left over collection of c […]" https://t.co/Z9A89Qr4lW
Enjoy 🤖

Link to tweet

[demmiblue]

53. Dr. Gunter is awesome!

I linked to the video she tweeted about somewhere above.

Go Dr. G!

[Initech]

50. Ewwwwwwwwwwwwww!!!!! Ew. Ew. Ew. Ew. Ew. Ew. Wait a minute. Ew.

[demmiblue]

51. NARAL's response:

This is SO incredibly disturbing. T.I. apparently goes to the OB/GYN with his 18-year old daughter to “check her hymen.” 🤢

“Virginity” is NOT a medical status⁠—and this is coercive.

Link to tweet

[underpants]

54. Who?

[doc03]

85. That was my thought who the f-- is T.I. and why should

I give a damn what he does.

[Demovictory9]

55. disgusting

[MoonRiver]

57. Poor girl

[The Genealogist]

59. I guess this happens until she is handed over to her new owner upon marriage

Even if this is just him BSing, it is incredibly disturbing.

[bluestarone]

61. He's abusing her!

Even mentioning this is so fucking sick! He's the type of asshole, that when his closet is opened, lots of dirty shit will be discovered!

[Blue_Tires]

63. 1. Isn't that you know, illegal?

2. Why would anyone be proud to admit to the world that they sexually repressed their daughter until the day she legally became a woman??

3. Are we even going to mention the brazen hypocrisy? I read in some other story that dude's (older) sons were openly sexually active in their teen years.

[Hekate]

64. Sexual abuse. Obsessively intrusive. Creepy. Stomach-turning. Unbelievable control-freak.

I hope she has no sisters, and I hope she finds the wherewithal to escape her *hole father's control soon and make a life for herself far away.

[milestogo]

67. I worked with a guy who thought he had a right to his daughter's business.

She was an 18 year old college freshman, and she was covered by her father's health insurance. His ex-wife took the daughter to a gyno before she went off to college.

Dad thought he had the right to know if his daughter was taking birth control pills since he was paying for it. Creeped me out.

[NCLefty]

71. Under His eye.

[Hekate]

74. *Exactly*

[LakeArenal]

78. What happens if the result is a "disturbed hymen"

She’s stoned? Shunned? Beaten? Just what?

[MustLoveBeagles]

83. I really hope he's lying about this

[PupCamo]

81. that's not creepy as fuck

[Runningdawg]

90. For all of you calling BS

My mother did this starting with my 13th BD. Every year. The Dr allowed it because he was part of the same religious cult. HIS story may be BS but I can guarantee you it's happening. And worse. Right now. In America.

[Demovictory9]

110. Ugh

[sdfernando]

91. I am sure that he is planning

On getting top dollar for her when he sells her into marriage.

Fucking nurse creep!

[catbyte]

92. Oh, yuck.

[Ferrets are Cool]

93. This is such fucking bullshit. Makes me want to puke. nt

FUCK YOU ASSHOLE. And you just made it worse by making it PUBLIC. You are fucking deplorable. GRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRR

[Jake Stern]

94. Can some DU medical professionals weigh in?

Even if she did sign a release it was clearly under duress. How can accepting it ever be considered ethical?

[Withywindle]

99. Not a medical professional but I've known some abuse counselors

What I have heard is that sometimes in situations like this, doctors will play along and tell the abusive controlling person (parent, spouse, partner) what they want to hear, and check in with the victim and try to get them help as much as possible in private. The reasoning is that if there is an open confrontation or a refusal, the abuser will likely take it out on the victim in a worse way later.

No way to know if that's what's going on here. It is just one possible explanation for the doctor's behavior.

[Blue Owl]

95. Dude needs a swift kick in the purity balls

n/t

[DFW]

100. Never heard of the guy

And now I am in no hurry.

[empedocles]

101. Power corrupts

[samnsara]

102. the gyno at 16?????? this guys sick..................

[demmiblue]

108. "That means that little thing you got, that little sex box you got is half mine,"

His possessiveness over the sexual activity of the women in his life does, however, extend to his wife Tiny, 44.

According to MadameNoir, in a recent episode of T.I.'s ExpediTIously podcast, he told Tiny that he was owed sex in their marriage contract.

'What’s yours is mine and what’s mine is yours. That means that little thing you got, that little sex box you got is half mine,' he said.

'So you pick which side you want, and that’s yours. The rest of it is mine. We can split it right down the middle of the… What do they call it? The, the, the, is it the, "Uvula"?'

He seems to have been referring to the vulva.

'What I’m saying is, it’s half mine. And my half is on the inside.'

https://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-7656539/Rapper-T-doctor-check-daughters-hymen-year-ensure-shes-virgin.html

[MuseRider]

109. Why didn't he just skip all the worry

and put a lock and key on it?

[Bayard]

111. Surprised he doesn't try to get into the exam room

Sounds like he is projecting his past onto her--do as I say, not as I've done.

Wonder if she does any dating at all?